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The Problematic of going out with friends in a monoheteronormative world.

Hmmkay, I’m pretty sure this has happened to everyone before.

If you’re one of those people that starts enquiring if there’s something more going on between 2 friends just because one is a boy and the other one a girl, please stop. Not only is it annoying, but your assumptions perpetuate harmful ideas such as: 

1. Two people of different genders can’t get along unless there’s some second intentions behind it,

2. That everyone is straigh, duh! Two girls getting along will always be best pals and best pals only, why would anyone think otherwise?

3. In case 2 people are actually flirting and looking for something more than friendship -  and they have other partner(s) - remember lots of people have healthy and happy polyamory/open relationships.

“Access to safe, affordable reproductive health care should be a right—not a privilege that we have to keep fighting for. Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg speaks to the challenges many women are facing: http://huff.to/1DW8MRk”

As seen on the Center for Reproductive Rights Facebook page

And we are ashamed for having desire in our culture. Women are shamed for having desire for anything — for food, for sex, for anything. We’re asked to only be the object for other people’s desire. There’s nothing that directing is about more than desire. It’s like, “I want to see this. I want to see it with this person. I want to change it. I want to change it again.” It’s like directing is female desire over and over again, and film is the capturing of human emotions and somehow men were able to swindle us into believing that that is their specialty. All they told us our whole life is we’re too emotional to do any real jobs, yet they’ve taken the most emotional job, which is art making about human emotions and said we’re not capable of it.
—  Jill Soloway on female filmmakers
Toxic masculinity =/= masculinity being inherently toxic

When we’re addressing toxic masculinity, we’re addressing a certain kind of masculinity that is toxic. We’re not saying that masculinity in all it’s shapes and forms is toxic and therefore bad. 

But the type of masculinity that feels entitled to women’s bodies? Toxic.

The type that becomes aggressive when women don’t respond to their messages, lest their ego be bruised? Toxic.

When they feel the need to exert their power and therefore become abusive/violent? Toxic.

Making fun of their bros who are expressing their emotions?? Toxic.

That’s toxic masculinity. 

theguardian.com
Barack Obama in Kenya: 'no excuse' for treating women as second-class citizens
‘Just because something is part of your past doesn’t make it right’, Obama saysin rousing Nairobi address that also offers insight into his African heritage
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“Barack Obama wrapped up his visit to Kenya on Sunday with a strong condemnation of female genital mutilation and other “bad traditions” that treat women as second-class citizens, in a speech that also a offered a poignant glimpse into his African heritage.

Obama earned vociferous applause from 4,500 Kenyans at a sports arena in the capital, Nairobi, by throwing down the gauntlet over the rights of women and girls. He gave short shrift to those in Africa who hide behind arguments defending tradition and culture against values they say are imposed by the west. Considering his heritage, it was a case he could make better than any previous US president.

“Every country and every culture has traditions that are unique and help make that country what it is, but just because something is part of your past doesn’t make it right; it doesn’t mean it defines your future,” Obama said, citing the recent debate in America over the Confederate flag.

“Around the world there is a tradition of oppressing women and treating them differently and not giving them the same opportunities, and husbands beating their wives, and children not being sent to school. Those are traditions. Treating women and girls as second-class citizens. Those are bad traditions. They need to change.”

An estimated 31 million girls of primary school age and 32 million girls of lower secondary school age were out of school in 2013, according to the United Nations. In sub-Saharan Africa, only two of 35 countries measured have gender parity, the lowest ratio in the world. More than one in four girls in Kenya is subjected to genital mutilation, which carries a risk of severe bleeding, problems urinating, infections, infertility and complications in childbirth.

Treating women and girls as second-class citizens. Those are bad traditions: they need to change

Obama said: “Treating women as second-class citizens is a bad tradition: it holds you back. There’s no excuse for sexual assault or domestic violence, there’s no reason that young girls should suffer genital mutilation, there’s no place in a civilised society for the early or forced marriage of children. These traditions may go back centuries; they have no place in the 21st century.”

The comment appeared to strike a nerve, triggering enthusiastic clapping and approving whistles.

Obama continued: “They are issues of right or wrong in any culture. But they are also issues of success and failure. Any nation that fails to educate its girls or employ its women and allow them to maximise their potential is doomed to fall behind the global economy. We’re in a sports centre: imagine if you have a team and don’t let half of the team play. That’s stupid. That makes no sense.” 

Read the full piece here

GO PRESIDENT OBAMA!

More President Obama posts on Profeminist

First off, as has been well stated by many Indigenous Feminists before us, the idea of gender equality did not come from the suffragettes or other so-called “foremothers” of feminist theory. It should also be recognized that although we are still struggling for this thing called “gender equality,” it is not actually a framed issue within the feminist realm, but a continuation of the larger tackling of colonialism. So this idea that women of colour all of a sudden realized “we are women,” and magically joined the feminist fight actually re-colonizes people for who gender equality and other “feminist” notions is a remembered history and current reality since before Columbus. The mainstream feminist movement is supposed to have started in the early 1900s with women fighting for the right to vote. However, these white women deliberately excluded the struggles of working class women of color and participated in the policy of forced sterilization for Aboriginal women and women with disabilities. Furthermore, the idea that we all need to subscribe to the same theoretical understandings of history is marginalizing. We all have our own truths and histories to live.
—   Erin Konsmo, Feminism FOR REAL: Deconstructing the Academic Industrial Complex of Feminism
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Ruth Bader Ginsburg Calls 'Choice' An Empty Concept For Poor Women
WASHINGTON -- Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg said the concept of "choice" is an ephemeral one for low-income women who live in states that pass laws limiting access to abortion, as they may

“Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg said the concept of “choice” is an ephemeral one for low-income women who live in states that pass laws limiting access to abortion, as they may not be able to afford to travel to a state with less onerous restrictions.

The lack of reproductive freedom is a remaining barrier to gender parity, the justice said at a Duke Law event Wednesday evening. Advocacy organizations and groups that fund abortions have pushed the idea that being “pro-choice” includes fighting to end the decades-old Hyde Amendment, which bans federal funds from going toward Medicaid coverage for abortion except in limited circumstances. One in four women on Medicaid who would have abortions if the Hyde Amendment didn’t exist instead carry an unwanted pregnancy to term because of the prohibitive cost of the procedure, the Guttmacher Institute notes.

The justice alluded to this new reality as Mississippi’s last clinic fights to remain open and providers battle restrictions that could close all but nine or 10 clinics in Texas:

“There’s a sorry situation in the United States, which is essentially that poor women don’t have choice. Women of means do. They will, always. Let’s assume Roe v. Wade were overruled and we were going back to each state for itself, well, any woman who could travel from her home state to a state that provides access to abortion, and those states never go back to old ways … So if you can afford a plane ticket, a train ticket or even a bus ticket you can control your own destiny but if you’re locked into your native state then maybe you can’t. That we have one law for women of means and another for poor women is not a satisfactory situation.”

Read the full piece here

More Ruth Bader Ginsburg posts on Profeminist

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