if you’re a man and you do any of the following,

you don’t get to call yourself one of the “good ones” or include yourself in the phrase “not all men”

  • watch porn
  • buy sex
  • use misogynist slurs
  • make sexist jokes
  • laugh at sexist jokes
  • speak over women on women’s issues
  • refuse to recognize the sex based oppression of women
  • sit there quietly while other men do those things

Girls are beautiful, magnificent, and amazing creatures, this is true, but we are also human.

We may have bushy eyebrows, blotchy skin, acne, eye-bags, under-eye circles, lots of hair on our limbs, lots of hair everywhere, not a lot of hair, short legs, wide waists, lots of fat, not enough fat, big builds, small builds, tall builds, short builds, frizzy hair, small breasts, big breasts, big ears, big noses, small eyes, long foreheads, wide foreheads, small foreheads, long arms, short arms, long torsos, small torsos, broad shoulders, narrow shoulders, lots of beauty marks, skin spots, under arm hair, dry skin, oily skin, etc. and we are all beautiful. 

We are not beautiful IN SPITE of these things, these are parts of our beautiful selves that should be appreciated just as much as the parts of us that society sees as beautiful.

I am tired of seeing girls compared to “fairies,” “angels,” “dolls,” whatever. We are not mythical creatures. We are not made of porcelain. We are human beings with flaws and “imperfections.”

You know what the most beautiful thing about us is? We have different sizes, shapes, faces, bodies, and we have so much variety. None of us are the same, and we should not strive to be the same because we are so beautiful as we are, different and exceptional and original. 

imaginarylock asked:

Hello, just wanted to get your opinion regarding male feminists; should they be called feminist allies or is "I'm a feminist" okay? (feel free to publish the answer openly if you wish, others might be wondering too). <3

Hello! Great question.

Here’s my short answer: It’s totally okay for men to say “I’m a feminist.”**
                                       (I wish more of them would!)

Here’s the long version:
Some women say that because feminism is a movement created by women, for women, men should stay out of the center and call themselves “feminist allies.” While I agree that men should serve in ally-centric roles (listening, supporting, not taking the lead), I have two problems with telling anyone whose ideals align with the movement that they cannot call themselves feminists:

1) Saying only women can call themselves feminists makes the movement exclusive and leaves trans folks out of the loop. Any non-ciswoman who identifies as nonbinary, agender, trans, etc. certainly deserves a place in feminism. (It IS about equality for ALL genders, and queer folks NEED support and solidarity because they face numerous sites of gender/sexuality-based oppression.) That’s the issue with the “by women, for women” argument; it’s trans-exclusive. And for the record, trans-men in particular often make great feminists because many of them understand what it’s like to be treated as women, even if they never truly identified as one.

2) The definition of a feminist is someone who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of all genders. Having that belief has nothing to do with your genitalia, your chromosomes, your gender, or anything else. Furthermore, by dictating who can be in the movement, we lose key supporters. And men can indeed help the fight for gender equality because their privileged identity means that their words are heard by dominant folks (other men) more clearly.

**That said, men who call themselves “feminists” should be aware of the fact that this claim does NOT absolve them of their gender privilege. They should take more ally-focused roles and avoid telling women how the movement should run. They should spend their time listening to and amplifying the voices of women, not overrunning their ideas to take the spotlight.

The Anderson Effect

feminismˈfɛmɪnɪz(ə)m/

noun

  1. the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.

Okay so first of all I would just like to say that as a feminist, I believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinions and as a believer of equal privilege and rights I respect the fact that we live in a world where one has freedom of speech, that’s absolutely fine. Even if those viewpoints and opinions happen to oppose all that I believe in and stand for, I accept that others have the right to stick by their own morals however that being said, I by no means have to agree with the actual opinions themselves.

I decided to write this post to discuss not only the positive elements of feminism, but to also point out the influential presence that Gillian Anderson has had within the industry, on a worldwide scale. Below is an article that outlines what The Scully Effect entails, it’s well worth a read so I suggest before continuing to read my post further, you should check it out. It basically sums up how due to Dana Scully’s introduction to mainstream television, it resulted in a lot of women becoming inspired by her strength and capabilities which resulted in them going into what once was perceived as male dominated environments such as law, science and education. Not only did Scully help primarily women in this way, but The X-Files as a whole redefined gender roles and broke away from preconceived stereotypes of masculinity and femininity. 

(An article which discusses The Scully Effect in more detail)

http://all-that-is-interesting.com/scully-effect

I completely understand that Dana Scully is not Gillian Anderson and vice versa, but here is where The Anderson Effect comes into play. If it wasn’t for Gillian’s portrayal and dedication to the show, Dana Scully would not have been the person that we know today. Yes of course the character was already written and yes I suppose anyone could have played her, but that being said if it had not been for Gillian’s personality and direction in which she took the role, would Dana Scully have been all that earnest and believable as the icon we know today? The answer, no. It was Gillian that brought her to life, aspects of her personality radiate within Scully’s persona and are the core reason as to why people from all around the world not only connect to Scully’s character and struggles in some way, but also feel empowered and inspired. Dana Scully also had a larger impact on television as we know it, many female characters that we see today are based on Chris Carter’s creation and Gillian’s portrayal, which is astounding when you think of how one woman helped to change the representation of women for a whole new generation of people and a completely new age of media.

Also I would like to bring up the issues of objectification, as I have read a lot of posts recently discussing how fans objectify her. First of all I would like to personally point out that although I believe that Gillian is physically very beautiful and attractive, as one would say. Her beauty happens to be internal as well as external. Her honesty and passion for the arts and social issues is what adds to the reasoning behind why most fans are captivated by her, it’s amazing to see a strong, independent woman succeed in not only doing what she loves but by using her platform to inspire others and to help those in need.

Here you can find the charities that Gillian openly supports; 

http://www.gilliananderson.ws/charities/

As we are still on the topic of ‘objectification’, I would just like to highlight that the majority of her fanbase do recognise that Gillian is a human being, we respect her decisions and understand that she has her flaws just as we all do, but in my eyes it as our imperfections as such that really define our souls and help us to grow and advance as people. I admire Gillian for who she is, not for who I want her to be or for who others believe she is but for her true authentic self and I can’t stress enough how much of a kind, classy and determined person I’ve become because of the self acceptance in which I underwent due to Gillian’s open declarations of her own past struggles and insecurities.

Feminism is equality. I believe that many people seem to forget that which is why the word has such negative connotations. The world needs feminism because sadly we still live in a world full of repression and inequality. Gender, race, background and religion are all factors that in today’s society determine the worth of a person and that really needs to change. I want everybody’s children to be able to embrace their true selves, to be proud of their authenticity, ethnicity and beliefs etc. without causing harm or hateful offence to others, just as others should reciprocate the behaviours and attitudes and help to bring us all into a more equal and diverse society. 

Don’t fight feminism, fight the injustice instead!

I hope I’ve gotten all my points across in a direct, respectful and truthful manner. If you guys know of any other (positive) articles which discuss any of the issues above, then please feel free to reblog and add them to the post!

Kind regards,

@danakmulders 

I was scrolling throughout Instagram and I saw a post that said “Black Lives Matter” and of course once you go into the comments , about ½ of them are going to be a bunch of people saying “ALL lives matter.” And someone commented this back and I think it gives a really good portrayal of what posts like this mean.

*white woman has mediocre feminism despite nothing standing in her way of being better*

well we can’t be radical at all times :) remember that feminism is about choice so if she wants to be shitty and racist then that’s actually really empowering to some?? *1000 gifsets of the feminist moment*

*WOC has pretty inclusive feminism despite already facing misogyny and racism from all sides*

ok but why hasn’t she brought world peace?? I mean she says that shes a feminist but she is not perfect so I don’t really know what to believe anymore….

I wish that we lived in a world where boys could make daisy chains, enjoy dancing, like pink, and have long hair. I wish boys could play with dolls and pick up books about fairies without having their mothers slap it out of their hands, saying “that’s a girls book, don’t look at that”. I wish we lived in a world where being a man didn’t mean your options were so limited as they are now.
—  gender roles suck #1