Your wedding photos are honestly so important to me. I've been fat my whole life and I was told growing up that no one would love me unless I lost weight. I always assumed I would be alone because no one would want to marry me. Now as an adult trying to accept my body and find love, seeing fat, happy, beautiful brides is so so so wonderful. Blessings on you and your spouse.
omg thank you and im so fucking glad that you liked them!
The day after my grandma met the man who now my husband she called to tell me how nice he was, and to lose weight so he wouldn’t leave me for someone thinner.
He didn’t. I weight more now than when we met (not a lot, but the point still stands). He likes to rest his head on my tummy, and poke my thunder thighs, and thinks I’m beautiful when i wake up in the morning and my curls are trying to devour the world. Which is amazing. He’s never tried to change me, he’s never fetishized me, and he’s never made me feel bad about my body. and I hope you find someone who does the same things for you.
Most importantly, I hope that you learn to love and accept yourself.
On days when I struggle with how I look (I call them “bad fat days” as opposed to “good fat days” where i feel fab), I get naked and stand in front of the mirror and find ten things I like about myself. Even if it’s just a freckle. You can’t repeat the same things if you’re feeling shitty the next day, you have to find ten more things. Even just one thing. Eventually, you’ll have to name everything, because you’ll like everything.
<3 <3 <3