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Fat Parenting 101: 7 Things to Know as a Fat Parent

“Parents of all sizes have to navigate how to teach their kids about bodies. But for us fat parents it can be even more challenging because we have to deal with internalized fatphobia as well as the fatphobia directed at us from the world (and sometimes our kids). These thoughts are things that have worked for me as I have navigated being a fat parent raising (hopefully) fat-positive kids. Feel free to ignore anything that doesn’t work for you. All families and kids are different and therefore what works for me may not work for you.” 

Check out the 10 things here.

[Feature Image: A photo of a few people at a market. The person on the right has their hair pulled back and is wearing a blue tank top. The person next to them is a child with short black hair, dark glasses and a green shirt. The person on the left has their dark hair pulled back and is wearing an orange striped shirt. The person facing the others has short dark hair and is wearing an orange plaid shirt. Their back is to the camera.They are standing in front of a table with potted plants, plastic bags and a scale on it. Source: Michigan Municipal League]

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Whenever I hear a  woman say that shes dieting or exercising, I really wanna give her a big hug and tell her that shes beautiful just the way she is. It’s sad that we live in a culture where women feel that unless they’re able to obtain some unrealistic, beauty standard created for the male gaze, then they’re worthless. Going to the gym or dieting won’t give you a perfect body. Having a body is what will give you a perfect body.

Any artist who only draws thin characters/people and refuses to draw larger bodies, needs to be reported for hate speech. Cause that’s literally what it is. Hate speech. It perpetrates the idea that only thinner bodies are beautiful and attractive. Thus, worthy of being drawn. An that can send a very bad message to those suffering from body issues. We as a society, have a  responsibility to make sure everyone feels safe and welcome.  

Fat is the new gay

Fat people are told they’re unhealthy.

Gay people are told they’re unhealthy.

Companies discriminate against fat people.

Companies discriminate against gay people.

Fat people are shamed and made fun of.

Gay people are shamed and made fun of.

Medical professional see fat people as disease.

Medical professional use to see gay people as diseases.

Fat people are bullied in schools.

Gay people are bullied in schools.

Fat people can be fired due to being fat.

Gay people can be fired due to being gay.

Gay people are told to change their lifestyle.

Fat people are told to change their lifestyle.

An yet society only acknowledges  the struggle that gays go through and sees them as an minority. :/

“If fat people just ate less calories, then they’d lose weight.”

Oh honey. Let me explain to you a little thing called set point. The set point is the theory that our bodies weight is predetermined at birth by outside factors. Such as our genetics and environment. When your body becomes accustom to a certain weight it will do everything in it’s power to stay at that weight. Like changing your hormone levels to increase appetite. Not everyone is meant to be a size 2, an that’s ok. Instead of us forcing others to conform to our social standards by shaming them, lets learn to embrace everyone’s differences and understand them.

Here’s a thought, America: If you really want people to be healthier (I’m not entirely convinced that you do, but that’s another article altogether), why don’t we treat the concept of getting healthy the way that getting healthy actually works? There is nothing that anyone is going to do or say that’s going to make fat people skinny tomorrow. Sorry. There is no magic commercial that’s going to shame people into becoming thin overnightโ€”just like there’s no housewife who discovered one weird trick to burning off belly fat. It’s just not going to happen. The real problem is much bigger, much harder to solve, and much less fun for people who get off on hating fat people.

The truth is that we live in a country where the system of food production is colossally fucked. There is a systematic campaign to trick people into eating garbage because garbage is cheap to produce. There are whole communities who either can’t afford or physically can’t access fresh, healthy ingredients. The “obesity epidemic” is not a “fat kids love Cheetos epidemic.” No fat people are up in arms when you criticize Kellogg’s for claiming that Frosted Flakes are “part of a nutritious breakfast.” No fat people get defensive when you make fun of that LUDICROUS Nutella commercial where the mom says she feeds her kids candy-spread for breakfast because it’s “wholesome nuts with a hint of cocoa” or whatever. Because those things? They are what’s known as ACTUAL PROBLEMS.

And you know what? Even if we managed to fix our insane food production and distribution system, there will still be fat people and that will be just fine. There have always been fat people. There are fat people like me, who hardly ever eat any processed foods. There are fat people with glandular issues. There are disabled fat people who would love to exercise but can’t. There are healthy fat people. And sure, there are fat people whoโ€”fuck itโ€”just really really like Cheetos. Guess what? Those people are allowed to exist too! There are a million different kinds of fat people in the world because FAT PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. And kids are people. And if your solution to this “problem” is telling already vulnerable fat kids that they’re an epidemic that’s ruining the world, then fuck you. Try harder.

"Being obese put your health at risk."

You know what else puts your health at risk? Aging. There are numerous studies showing that getting older increases your risk for heart disease, joint problems, stroke. Yet society doesn’t find it acceptable to shame and discriminate against old people on the bases of being concerned for their health. Concern trolls only want a reason to bully and harass larger people while trying to justify it as caring about someones health -_-