I don’t see this talked about often when people make headcanons about Autistic!Kobra, but I guarantee you that Kobra DOES hold the group back, in some ways, and that the others are well aware of that. Kobra does make things more difficult than they would usually be, sometimes. A lot of the time his presence does in fact make it harder for the group as a whole to function. But he has his strengths too, and is a human, and has a wonderful personality, and is loved. Still, I think it’s important to understand that while autism isn’t the end of the world for Kobra, it probably is frustrating for him, it probably causes him significant distress at times, and there are very likely times where he wishes he weren’t autistic.
And to go with that, I think is important to note is that Poison, Jet, and Ghoul also likely have times where they wish Kobra wasn’t autistic. And that’s ok. They don’t treat him any less for it, but they are frustrated that it is an obstacle they have to work around, and they also probably see that it frustrates Kobra. But even for entirely selfish reasons, its understandable, and realistic, for them to wish this, sometimes. Autism is a disability, and while it isn’t all negative, and doesn’t make a person any lesser, it is hard. Its hard for the person, and it can be hard for the people around them. So when Poison wishes Kobra wasn’t autistic, he’s not wishing for a different brother, not at all. He’s not wishing away Kobra’s autistic traits, he’s wishing away the difficulties that come with them– he’s wishing that Kobra had a more efficient way to communicate, that the group didn’t have to worry about texture sensitivities when buying food, that Kobra would at least pretend to be upset when others are because it makes them feel worse, even though they logically understand why he’s like that. And maybe, just maybe, Poison is wishing he could turn up the volume on the radio. Little things like that.
They’re ALL human, and no human is immune to negative thoughts or frustration. Poison loves his brother more than anything, and Jet and Ghoul love him too; but they have limits and they have buttons that can be pushed. At the end of the day, they all realise that while autism is a part of Kobra, and is not something they could change if they wanted to, they are allowed to be frustrated with what it means for them.
“I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough.” The Notebook (2004)
I’ve known you many years, but this is the first time you’ve asked for help. I can’t remember the last time you invited me for a cup of coffee. Even though my wife is godmother to your only child. But let’s be frank here. You never wanted my friendship. And you were afraid to be in my debt.
“I think probably the most delicious surprise for me was the humor, to begin to discover that aspect of his character was, I think, undoubtedly used, in a conscious sense for some purpose, to make some point. There are accounts of people that came to ask him a question of, to them, great importance, found themselves in his presence, got a handshake, a story, and were out of the room before they even realized it. That’s good politics, but, I also think it was
innately part of him. I think there was a very joyful element to that, actually.”– Daniel Day-Lewis on what he learned about Abraham Lincoln