Jessica Krammes Kirkland is not a celebrity. On her website, she self-identifies as “a mother of two young daughters” who is “a passionate advocate of education and empowerment for women and the idea of raising strong girls." On Thursday at 9:16 p.m., however, Kirkland’s public profile began to rise after she posted a long message on Facebook about Josh and Anna Duggar. In five days, the post has been liked more than 428,000 times and shared more than 235,000 times — upon reading the whole thing, it’s easy to see why.
“As a child, I was completely and utterly in love with the girl next door. I talked to my sister about it, and she said that I shouldn’t talk about it. That’s the standard Catholic thing: if you ignore it, it will go away. At the time, being gay was still considered a mental disease. I hated myself for not being normal. I ate a lot (as a comfort situation) and I was exasperated. I was cowering in the closet, terrified that someone would know my dirty little secret. I didn’t have Modern Family or Will and Grace. I thought I was the only one. It was difficult to accept that I was this person. But when I got my fake ID and went to my first gay bar, I felt like I was home. There was a big old monster dagger butch sitting at the bar who screamed at me, ‘Hey, baby butch, come here!’ Her name was Al, and she raised me. The media portrays butches as fat and stupid – we beat our wives, cause fights, and drive trucks. My entire life has been trying to put a positive spin on what it is to be butch. Butches do everything – we cook, we clean, and, of course, we take care of our femme. With the younger generation, there’s more feminism attached to what it means to be butch. At 57, I still do old-school stuff, like opening doors for my finance. But when I open a door for a woman, I’m not implying she’s weak. To me, it’s a matter of politeness and respect. I’ll a open a door for a man! When it gets down to brass tax, I think the point of feminism is to not be so influenced by what other people think. I don’t put up with shit with anyone and I never have.”
- Lea DeLeria in our new episode of the What’s Underneath Project. For her full story, watch her video!
I try to take a selfie every day. I do this because my goal every day is to be happier than the last, and I want to see how I change.
The weird thing is that, being transgender, I feel better about myself than I ever have. Not much changes for me personally anymore. But I also notice how the world still treats people like me. I am extremely lucky to get by with most people assuming I’m a cis woman, but I speak openly about my personal situation to try and change people’s perceptions.
Everyone reading this needs to understand. Trans people are EVERYWHERE and we all deserve respect. Tell someone they look good today. Spread love, not discrimination. I’ll do what I can and, if possible, you can try to help too. Help everyone know they’re allowed to love themselves because nothing in this world is more true than that. 💎
“I’m a proud fat woman. I haven’t always been, but I’ve learned to love myself. I used to say: I read Fat Is a Feminist Issue and, halfway through, I got bored and ate it. There’s so much bullshit around women and our weight. The things that come out of these women’s mouths. It freaks me out when I’m standing next to a woman, who is maybe 100 pounds soaking wet, talking about how fat she is. Men can weigh any fucking weight they want. They can be any weight they want and no one gives them shit about it. But it’s simple: fat is not ugly; in fact, it’s quite beautiful.” - Lea DeLaria in our new episode of the What’s underneath Project 💪💪💪
For Lea’s full story, watch her video!
18″ x 24″ high resolution poster based off of Jenny Holzer’s Survival Series: In a Dream You Saw a Way to Survive and You Were Full of Joy, 1998. As with all our posters, feel liberated to print out and wheatpaste at will!
One day you will wake up, you will see with clear sight all that has held you back; you will feel lighter because you finally accept who you are. You will shine with flawless beauty because your happiness comes from the purity of your heart and one day I hope you realise all of this, before it’s too late; because darling, if we spent our years nurturing the best of ourselves, heaven would be felt on earth.
“When you’re queer and you get home at the end of the day, and you walk into your apartment and you close the door, there’s a part of you that goes: Phew… made it. Nobody beat me up and nobody called me a dyke on the street – today was a good day.” - Lea DeLaria in this week’s What’s Underneath episode 💪🌈💪🌈💪🌈 For Lea’s full story, watch her video ❤️