Every ENFP wants to be organized and we’ve ready every generic “How To Be More Organized” article in the world. We know the drill: make a schedule, plan your week, yada yada. We give up after Day 1 so here’s some no-nonsense organisation tips for my ENFPs because we’ve got a HECTIC life and if we’re going to be lazy, we’re going to do it with swag 😎:
F*** perfection: ENFPs are perfectionists and that is the worst combo in the WORLD. we can’t be procrastinators and perfectionists. also, like my gal Hannah Montana said, nobody’s perfect. so the tip is: just get the job done. sometimes the key to success is showing up and doing something. need to do laundry? pick some stuff up you know you want to wear and throw it in. got homework? bullshit it. It beats re-wearing stinky clothes or getting an F. If you get your tasks done early, you’ll have more time to go back and fix it but at least you’ll have something to show
lists, lists, lists: yes, that seems like a generic advice but listen, you don’t have to do anything in the list. just making a list lets you know exactly what you gotta do. sometimes ENFP forget to see the trees in the forests. lists make you aware that your problems aren’t as many as you thought they were
make deadlines yo b*tch: are deadlines our only motivator? yes, YES so might as well master it. It’s okay to work before a deadline as long as you don’t think “aw man I wish I had more time, I could do a better job”. If it’ll take you three hours to write a good essay and the essay is due 11:59PM start at 8:45PM. You’ll write a good essay, you won’t feel guilty about procrastinating because you set a time for yourself to do it properly AND you’ll have all the adrenaline and motivation you need. if you have a project due soon, just get all the resources and count how much time it’ll take. Then give that right amount of time before the deadline. Voila, done!
quickly feel the guilt and move on: did you waste a lot of time? yes, yes you did. but that don’t beat the fact that it’s a new day and you still got stuff to do. let yourself bask in that self-hate and guilt. ignoring emotions never help. but after that move on, stop accusing past-self. what’s done is done. like the Egyptians say, with every new sunrise, it’s a rebirth and opportunity to start afresh.
Also known as an ambivert, an extroverted introvert is someone who exhibits qualities of both introversion and extroversion.
1. Their spot on the spectrum changes with their environment.
Your ambivert friend may be loud and gregarious around their family,
but quiet and thoughtful at the office. Seeing them in both situations
may feel like meeting two entirely different people.
2. Talking to strangers is fine – but don’t expect them to keep it to small talk.
Although an ambivert can hold up their end of a
about the weather will not be enough to engage them. Their social energy
limited enough that they won’t want to waste it on meaningless chatter.
They will likely push the conversation into deeper territory or bow out
3. They like to be alone – they don’t like to be lonely.
There is a big difference between the two. Choosing to sit at home
with a tub of ice cream and a book feels fantastic. Sitting at
home because nobody called them back feels sad and lame.
4. Getting them out of the house can be a challenge.
If you catch your friend on a highly introverted day, you may just be
better off leaving them at home. They might manage to be social, but they’ll
just be thinking about their books and their couch the whole time.
5. If they’re new, you can find them in the back of the room.
An introverted extrovert will approach new situations with cautious
excitement. If they know someone in the group, they will likely cling to
them a bit as they become comfortable. If they do not, they might waver on the
edge of the crowd, slowly getting used to the water rather than jumping
in all at once.
6. They’re selectively social.
They don’t mean to be snobs. They just have limited social energy and
prefer interacting one-on-one or in small groups. For this reason, they
can only afford to invest their social time and energy in those who they
feel truly connected to.
7. Making friends is easy. Keeping them is hard.
They like talking to people, but they value their alone-time, as well. This
can make maintaining a friendship tricky. If your ambivert friend makes
an effort to consistently invest time and energy in your friendship, be
glad. You are truly special to them.
8. Their social desires change with the breeze.
They might be desperate to hang out with you on Friday, but then not
answer your call on Saturday. They’re not mad at you. They’re just super
comfortable in bed watching films.
9. They can talk to you for hours.
If you manage to catch them in a one-on-one situation, an extroverted
introvert will just not shut up. Once their interest is engaged, there’s
no stopping them.
10. Listening is great too, though.
Sometimes they want to be a part of the action, but their social energy
levels are too low for them to contribute in a meaningful way. Listening
allows them to get to know you without burning up their social fuel. They also
know its value from their chattier moments when they are desperate for an
How did you discover mbti? Do you think that someone who I presumed is enfp would like to take the test?
I googled “personality tests” cuz I’m one of those self-obsessed hoes and it’s all about ME 💅. MBTI was the first link and I jumped down the rabbit hole
Good news is that ENFPs are self-obsessed hoes and it’s all about US 💅 so I highly doubt your ENFP would not want to take the test (we love finding out about ourselves) and even if she ain’t an ENFP, congratulations, one less idiot to worry about
INFJs are very intense individuals with a deep understanding of others. It is often said that INFJs have a penetrating stare in their eyes, and have the capacity to stare into your soul. Their ability to connect with others can be powerful and almost entrancing. INFJs have an often disarming way of looking at others that can make them feel understood on a deeper level. INFJs have a strong internal world, and because of this there is an intensity behind their eyes. They are complex and caring individuals, with an often warm and giving heart.
Behind the eyes of an ENFJ is compassion and caring. They have a strong sense of others and want to connect with them deeply. They are constantly giving and affectionate people, who just want to make others happy. ENFJs strive to understand people and make them feel comfortable. They enjoy connecting with others and often look at people with adoration and affection.
INFPs have very warm and open feeling to their eyes. They have this ability to draw others in, and have a strong sense of emotion emanating from them. INFPs are often sensitive and dreamy individuals, with an intense inner world. It is evident that there are a million thoughts behind the eyes of an INFP. They have a deep capacity for emotion, and love being able to express themselves. INFPs have almost a whirlpool around them that pulls people in. Often wide-eyes individuals, ready to absorb everything that the world has to offer.
ENFPs are very passionate and enthusiastic individuals with a hunger for life. There is an excitement and intensity behind the eyes of an ENFP. Their positive and intense personalities are often visible in the way they look at their surroundings. They are often absorbing their surroundings and attempting to take in everything that they can. ENFPs love exploring new possibilities and are excited by passion. There is something very dreamy about an ENFP, and their need to take in everything.
INTJs are very focused and often intense individuals, and that intensity shows in their eyes. They spend much of their time thinking and figuring out new ideas, which can translate to an intense stare. INTJs have what some people have called a “death stare”, which is merely from their intensely thoughtful minds. They enjoy thinking about the future, and have a very active inner mind. There is something focused and hungry about the eyes of an INTJ.
ENTJs are very driven and engaging individuals. There is something very powerful and sometimes overwhelming about the ENTJ. They have a hunger and drive to accomplish their goals that is prominent in their eyes. There is a mischief behind the ENTJ that is sometimes overlooked by others. It is true that ENTJs are intense and driven, but they are also fun and sometimes mischievous individuals. They are very fun to be around and have a way of drawing others in.
INTPs have a powerful intensity behind their stare, and often appear angry when they are in the process of deep thought. They spend a lot of time inside their minds, just thinking and exploring new possibilities and ideas. When an INTP is deep in thought sometimes people can be caught in the intensity of their glare. Their eyes can almost appear glazed over when they are in their thinking mode. Almost as if the INTP is somewhere else, because mentally they are.
ENTPs may intimidate others with their stare, because there is clearly a lot emanating from them. ENTPs are passionate individuals who enjoy excitement and love exploring new possibilities. Sometimes ENTPs become lost in their own thoughts, their minds clearly turning with new ideas. There is clearly a lot going on behind the eyes of an ENTP, which often keeps others intrigued. ENTPs enjoy taking in everything and attempting to acquire a deeper understanding of their surroundings.
ISTJs are often very comfortable with eye contact and do not become uneasy with it. They are often very focused individuals who have a clear path in front of them. They have a strong sense of duty and are loyal and dependable. Their strong sense of focus is often present in the eyes of the ISTJ. They have a desire to get the job done and nothing will stand in their way.
ESTJs are outgoing and driven individuals. They strive to get things done and have a strong sense of community. They want to provide for their family and are often willing to do whatever it takes to do so. There is often a sense of courage and strength behind the eyes of an ESTJ. They know what they must do to accomplish their goals are not fearful of doing so. ESTJs are strong individuals but often have a welcoming expression and easy.
ISFJs are often very warm and sometimes demure individuals. Their eyes may sometimes be avoidant of eye contact, but there is something welcoming and calming about them. ISFJs care very deeply about others and strive to make everyone around them happy. There is a warmth to them that is often hard to miss, and they will often do whatever it takes to put others at ease.
There is often a sense of enthusiasm and warmth behind the eyes of an ESFJ. ESFJs are rarely seen without a smile, and this often reaches their eyes. There is a happiness and a warmth to the ESFJs eyes, and an often powerful ability to connect to others. They strive to make others happy and have a strong sense of caring for others. They definitely put their close loved ones first, but ESFJs care very deeply about everyone.
ISTPs are often seen as having a very intense stare. ISTPs have a very active inner mind, and enjoy thinking about solutions to many different problems. They have a way of looking at something and instantly seeing how it works. Their powerful inner mind is often translated to a very intense stare that can be overwhelming to others.
ESTPs often have a very alluring look in their eyes. They have a hunger for life and enjoy excitement. They are very in touch with the physical world around them. This connection to their physical surroundings makes the ESTP often fascinating and charming individuals.
ISFPs are very perceptive and sensitive individuals, which often shows in their eyes. They have a warm and gentle soul, and are very caring. They are capable of picking up on their surroundings and often notice things that others miss. They are observant and very appreciative of the beauty that others often miss in the world.
ESFPs are extremely fun and joyful individuals. There is a playfulness and kindness behind their eyes that is often very hard to miss. They enjoy being around others and thrive on entertaining. There is a playful and enjoyable nature to the ESFP, that often is present in their eyes.
INFJ: The Unpleasantness ESTP:
Night brain ESFP: Going outside at night in italy INFP: Drawing-room anguish ESTJ: Sherry served too cold INTP: Too many novels ESFJ: Shawl insufficiency ISFJ:
Spent more than a month in London after growing up in Yorkshire
ENTP: Parents too happy ISTJ: General bummers ENFP:
Haven’t seen the sea in a long time
ISFP: Garden troubles
ENTJ: Spinal degeneration as a result of pride ISTP: Not enough pillows ENFJ:
Someone said “No” very loudly while they were in the room
I love people with quirks. People who wear the same sweatshirt every day or have distinct ways of moving their hands while they talk. Give me more people who do little things just because its who they are.
- in a constant loop between “you know what FUCK SOCIETY I WILL LIVE MY LIFE HOWEVER I WANT AND DO WHATEVER I WANT” and “i still lowkey want to please people around me and not cause too much conflict tho”
- that thing when an ESFP starts describing a situation and they play out all people in it and they do it SO GOOD and it’s SO FUNNY do they all do that
- at the centre of attention is where they will be
- somehow doesn’t exactly belong to any group but is considered a part of every group
- me: oh yesterday I’ve met /that person you have no chances of knowing/
ESFP: ooooOOOH I KNOW THEM
- is never home but somehow manages to sleep?????
- BEST LITERARY TASTES. If ENFP tells you to read that book you go read that book I’m telling you
- “and they told me to do it but you know it’s stupid so i’m not gonna do it”
- can be super annoyed by people they love, but remains loyal to their group
- angry with all their body, vivid gestures included. generally they are moving all the time.
- somehow pretty charismatic and it looks like they feel easy in a leader position
- life isn’t a competition EXCEPT FOR WHEN IT IS
- i know only one and they are the class president somehow??????
- “WHEN I SEE MY MOTHER CRY I’M READY TO KILL SOME FUCKERS RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW”
- i mean puns, ready to write to you at 3 AM just to proudly write a pun they’ve just come up with
- oh no you are sad??? it’s okay they will bake cookies or smh
- the more personal conversation gets the more “lmao” there is
- you can say when they feel happy to be around you and it’s just so adorable
- they are so smart & try to act like they aren’t & everyone can see they are smart anyway so you failed, entp
- entp: i’m going to try doing that new thing and it will be awesome and i will love it!
entp, later: it sucks
entp, even more later: NO YOU KNOW IT WAS COOL ALL ALONG
- *drinks awful juice for the first time* *eats awful meal for the first time* “ohhh it’s… pretty good!”
- really happy to be a part of some group but won’t say it out loud
- “and it was THEN when my Fe destroyed me!!”
- looks pretty egocentric & has the lowest self-esteem around
- “if I don’t like it I won’t do it, it’s just that easy”
- they are all attention whores (me too, infps)
- w r i t i n g
- SO LOYAL LIKE IF AN ISTP LIKES YOU THERE’S LIKE 0.000001% CHANCE THAT THEY WILL EVER LET YOU GO
- after reading this will probably try explaining to me why the math comparison was wrong and didn’t fit
- have such a hard time expressing their feelings
- if they like you and they can talk to you about their day they are so happy? just talk about what they were doing, really.
- “i feel bad? well i guess i will just bottle it up forever”
- can be rly rly quiet & needs a lot of alone time
- there’s objective logic everywhere just let me find it logic is my bitch
- they will be frustrated if you don’t make sense to them but they will try to understand - if not because they like you then at least for science reasons because “what is that wild creature and why do they act like that, i must observe”
- “sarcasm is the only way I speak”
- I LOVE
- when I start talking to an INTP the 7 hours long conversation is almost guaranteed
- they seem so genuinely interested in what you have to say and ask questions and stuff & what they say makes you genuinely interested as well because they have such an interesting knowledge on subjects you’ve never thought about
- “on the other side tho”
- on most subjects it’s really easy to convince them because they are always open to see the other side’s point of view
- usually remembers all you’ve told them but always asks if they remember correctly
- intp: OKAY I MADE UP MY MIND
intp, a day later: ON THE OTHER SIDE,
- “look at that dog!”
- mood swings
- so adorable just let me hug them all
- takes care of your shit since you’ve met them
- “NO YOU KNOW WHAT. I’M NOT DOING THIS SHIT FOR THEM THIS TIME. THEY WILL HAVE TO MANAGE IT ON THEIR OWN. I’M DONE HELPING THEM. *does this shit for them because of course they won’t manage it on their own so someone has to*”
- saves the world since they were born
- will try to help, joke about how they failed to help, beat themselves internally over how they failed to help
- OKAY TIME FOR ANOTHER SELF-DEPRACATING JOKE
- you: *starts feeling bad*
INFJ, a second later, out of nowhere: hey are you okay?
- MAKES PLANS. SO MANY PLANS. HOW CAN YOU MANAGE ALL THESE PLANS.
- “i’ve been planning on reading/watching it one day since 2004 but I haven’t found any time since then”
- “my Fe can tolerate your stupidity but my Ni-Ti is so done”
- always done with humanity
- *snarky commentary*
- “so usually when I wake up I have a strict plan of how this day is going to look like and it’s extremely pissing off when something doesn’t go according to that plan”
- ISTJ: *is doing homework for ten hours*
me: do you maybe want to—
ISTJ: NO I WON’T COPY OFF YOUR HOMEWORK I’M NOT WEAK
- somehow really wants to show you that you are important to them, even if they are awkward with feelings
- that smile they have when they talk about people they love doing stuff
- also that excited voice they have while doing so
- “I JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND. HOW CAN YOU JUST… NOT BE PREPARED.”
- their anger is so cold and so visible
- some values are not to be touched!
- really really REALLY cares about people they like
- is really sensitive for their loved ones’ pain and really awkward when trying to comfort them but boy do they try
- that person that will come back for you after the group wanders off and you are left behind
- INTJ, about really hard situations they’ve been through: “this wasn’t such a big deal tho, I mean eh, it’s over now”
- “HOW CAN PEOPLE BE SO STUPID I JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND”
- ignorance pisses them off even more than it pisses off other human beings
- it’s Monday and my INTJ dad calls me when I’m at school.
INTJ: hey, I have something important to tell you.
me: sure, what?
INTJ: could you pick up [your sister] from school-
INTJ: –on Friday?
- “you know I just… don’t like it when something doesn’t go according to my plan”
- will plan everything for the trip before you try helping
What makes them feel uncomfortable and frustrated:
ENFP: They love dreams, possibilities, ideas and alternatives. Trying new things and taking on new projects excites them. Therefore, having someone belittling their ideas can be very disheartening and frustrating for them.
ISFJ: They thrive on routine and knowing what to expect at any given time. They are excellent planners who enjoy knowing how their week is going to unfold. A sudden change in plans without warning is therefore going to make them feel frustrated and uncomfortable.
ESFJ: Trolling. People who make statements or jokes for the sake of getting a reaction, angry or otherwise, can infuriate them. They see this kind of verbal manipulation as just another form of bullying and conflicts with their belief in showing kindness and respect to others.
ENTJ: People trying to control them or telling them what to do. They are fiercely independent and like to be leaders and free thinkers. Usually they make better bosses than employees.
INTP: Someone demanding respect because of their status or position without having earned it. They don’t aim to be disrespectful, they just feel that respect and admiration need to be earned.
ISTP: Emotional overreactions. ISTPs keep their emotions on a tight leash, and are surprised when others don’t do the same. They don’t like it when people have outbursts that seem disproportionate to the problem and it can make them seriously question their respect for you.
ISTJ: Not following through on your word. They take promises rather serious. What’s so good about this is that the promise of an ISTJ often means something.
INTJ: Small talk or being constantly interrupted. Their Ni is what connects the dots of life and form insights into their goals, dreams and theories. Ni requires personal space and/or energy, therefore interruptions are frustrating.
INFP: They don’t like people who are insensitive and arrogant because of their Fi dom. They don’t like pretentious people or people who act as someone they’re not because of their Fi dom (Fi = everyone are equal/being true to yourself, be who you are, don’t fake anything).
ENTP: People who don’t take a stand in arguments. ENTPs usually likes to argue, but how can they argue if you’re trying to be all nice and diplomatic and refuse to take a stand?
ESTJ: Basically inconsistent people and unreliability. They do not think fondly of those who are late, lazy, don’t meet deadlines and so on. Neither do they hold much love in their hearts for those who give up without really trying.
ESTP: They like to fix problems, so people who rant and complain without wanting to find a solution frustrates them. ESTPs are great when you want a solution and not that great if you need emotional support.
INFJ: Condescension. Do not mistake their quiet, sensitive nature as a sign of weakness. They dislike being talked down to, patronized or condescended to.
ENFJ: They have a sixth sense for phony behavior and they can’t stand dishonesty. Their Fe percieves minor changes in body language that communicates dishonesty, so they often notice when you lie and they don’t like it.
ISFP: They are strong believers in being genuine and authentic. This makes them distance themselves from manipulation. Behavior used to manipulate or gain attention will irritate them.
ESFP: Making long term plans frustrates them. They want to think about now and let later deal with itself, they don’t know what they’re doing in two years- Having to plan it out right now is stressing them. To them, long term goals are less idealistic than short term goals.