Everyone says she is pious because she wears hijab or niqaab, he is pious because he wears thobe and has beard, but do we not know the piety and becoming pious starts not on our physical appearance but within our hearts?
I don’t know but it’s been a trend everywhere that somehow this thought discourages our brothers and sisters in Islam who doesn’t wear as pious clothes as others do.
Remember, not because you wear more modest clothes, you are in higher level, we all are struggling, we all are being tested in our own ways, the dawah should be given in the most sincere way, not on such a harsh and insulting way.
There’s so many things out there that show how hijab should be fashionable how thobe should be swag looking how this should be look cool, and us degrading or making these people doesn’t help, remembering giving dawah doesn’t give you instant change from someone, dawah is not a one day talk, it is a continuous job that every da'ee has to do and I mean every Muslim here.
ENCOURAGE. Not DISCOURAGE.
It is only when we think we are pious enough that we start to fall into sins as we start to degrade others and think that we are “more” pious than them, let me tell you a story about ‘Aishah Radiyallahu Anha.
After the death of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam, indeed the Sahabah Radiyallahu Anhum took 'ilm and advices from 'Aishah Radiyallahu Anha.
One day a man came to 'Aishah and asked her: “When will I know that I am pious?
She said: "When you realize that you are a sinner”.
He said: “And when will I realize I am a sinner?”
She replied: “When you think you are pious.” _____
Indeed, a brain that has no remembrance and mention of Allah Azza Wa Jall is easily tricked by Shaytaan.
Stop thinking you are pious because you are are able to do something that someone else couldn’t do [in regards to the deen].
Always remember that what these people you are giving dawah to are going through, you once went through it.
Every pious had a past and every sinner has a future. Always remember that.
You have to aim to be pious, put it in your heart, not on your brain. ______
And we pray that we learn from this story from 'Aishah Radiyallahu Anha, may we all find that lighting guidance from Allah Azza Wa Jall through humility and abundant dhikr. Amin
Without even realising, in our attempt to correct somebody’s mistakes or show them the correct way of doing something - we get carried away and come across a little harsh which can do more damage than we realise. Keep in mind to always be sensitive to the person you want to help, for the level they are at may have taken them an internal war to get to.. and to you it may seem like nothing.
Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه reported Allah’s Messenger ﷺ as saying:
Allah the Exalted and Majestic said:
Every act of the son of Adam is for him, except fasting. It is (exclusively) meant for Me and I (alone) will reward it. Fasting is a shield. When any one of you is fasting on a day, he should neither indulge in obscene language, nor raise the voice; or if anyone reviles him or tries to quarrel with him he should say: I am a person fasting. By Him, in Whose Hand is the life of Muhammad, the breath of the observer of fast is sweeter to Allah on the Day of judgement than the fragrance of musk. The one who fasts has two (occasions) of joy, one when he breaks the fast he is glad with the breaking of (the fast) and one when he meets his Lord he is glad with his fast.
[Sahih Muslim: Book 13, Hadith 212]