Eric made people dislike him,” says Devon Adams. “He made himself unlikable. He was mean, being violent. He would kick his car. People were scared of him. He would say mean things, cut people down. I think he had really low self-esteem.
This is one of the reasons that it’s important to explain to someone why what they said was hurtful or misinformed, and not to just yell at them and call them ____phobic. Not everyone knows what terms are okay and what aren’t, and not everything is said with malicious intent. It’s okay to be angry, but letting someone know the reason why you are and correcting them is also very important.