To Anyone who Thinks They're Falling Behind in Life (and aren’t good/creative/ect. enough)
“You don’t need more motivation. You don’t need to be inspired to action. You don’t need to read any more lists and posts about how you’re not doing enough.
But, honestly, here’s the thing that nobody really talks about when it comes to success and motivation and willpower and goals and productivity and all those little buzzwords that have come into popularity: you are as you are until you’re not. You change when you want to change. You put your ideas into action in the timing that is best. That’s just how it happens.
And what I think we all need more than anything is this: permission to be wherever the fuck we are when we’re there.
You’re not a robot. You can’t just conjure up motivation when you don’t have it. Sometimes you’re going through something. Sometimes life has happened. Life! Remember life? Yeah, it teaches you things and sometimes makes you go the long way around for your biggest lessons.
You don’t get to control everything. You can wake up at 5 a.m. every day until you’re tired and broken, but if the words or the painting or the ideas don’t want to come to fruition, they won’t. You can show up every day to your best intentions, but if it’s not the time, it’s just not the fucking time. You need to give yourself permission to be a human being.
Sometimes the novel is not ready to be written because you haven’t met the inspiration for your main character yet. Sometimes you need two more years of life experience before you can make your masterpiece into something that will feel real and true and raw to other people. Sometimes you’re not falling in love because whatever you need to know about yourself is only knowable through solitude. Sometimes you haven’t met your next collaborator. Sometimes your sadness encircles you because, one day, it will be the opus upon which you build your life. We all know this: Our experience cannot always be manipulated. Yet, we don’t act as though we know this truth. We try so hard to manipulate and control our lives, to make creativity into a game to win, to shortcut success because others say they have, to process emotions and uncertainty as if these are linear journeys.
You don’t get to game the system of your life. You just don’t. You don’t get to control every outcome and aspect as a way to never give in to the uncertainty and unpredictability of something that’s beyond what you understand. It’s the basis of presence: to show up as you are in this moment and let that be enough. Yet, we don’t act in a way that supports this lifestyle. We fill every minute with productivity tools and read 30-point lists on how to better drive out natural, human impulse. We often forget that we are as we are until we’re not. We are the same until we’re changed. We can move that a bit further by putting into place healthy habits and to show up to our lives in a way that fosters growth, but we can’t game timing. Timing is the one thing that we often forget to surrender to.
Things are dark until they’re not. Most of our unhappiness stems from the belief that our lives should be different than they are. We believe we have control — and our self-loathing and self-hatred comes from this idea that we should be able to change our circumstances, that we should be richer or hotter or better or happier. While self-responsibility is empowering, it can often lead to this resentment and bitterness that none of us need to be holding within us. We have to put in our best efforts and then give ourselves permission to let whatever happens to happen—and to not feel so directly and vulnerably tied to outcomes. Opportunities often don’t show up in the way we think they will.
You don’t need more motivation or inspiration to create the life you want. You need less shame around the idea that you’re not doing your best. You need to stop listening to people who are in vastly different life circumstances and life stages than you tell you that you’re just not doing or being enough. You need to let timing do what it needs to do. You need to see lessons where you see barriers. You need to understand that what’s right now becomes inspiration later. You need to see that wherever you are now is what becomes your identity later.
Sometimes we’re not yet the people we need to be in order to contain the desires we have. Sometimes we have to let ourselves evolve into the place where we can allow what we want to transpire. Let’s just say that whatever you want, you want it enough. So much so that you’re making yourself miserable in order to achieve it. What about chilling out? Maybe your motivation isn’t the problem, but that you keep pushing a boulder up a mountain that only grows in size the more you push. There’s a magic beyond us that works in ways we can’t understand. We can’t game it. We can’t 10-point list it. We can’t control it. We have to just let it be, to take a fucking step back for a moment, stop beating ourselves up into oblivion, and to let the cogs turn as they will. One day, this moment will make sense. Trust that. Give yourself permission to trust that.”
The approach of Halloween is the perfect time to check out some of the latest awesome optical illusions created by Japanese art student Hikaru Cho, aka Chooo-San (previously featured here). Chooo-San uses nothing but acrylic paint to transform herself and others into impossibly altered people, including cyborgs, animal/human hybrids, human dolls, and people who look like dreams come to life, with flowers faces or bodies disintegrating into a swam of butterflies.
Chooo-San’s analog creations are a response to the overuse of technology in artwork. “I guess I was a little sick of everyone making pictures with their computers,” she told Daily Mail, “and wanted to see how far I can go without those technologies such as Photoshop.”
Follow Chooo-San right here on Tumblr at @hikaruchoofficial to check out more of her outstanding artwork.
Have you heard someone say, “Oh, John – he’s so creative! I wish I
was creative like that.” It makes it sound as if creativity is a natural
skill or talent, like the ability to sing or paint. Other times people
say “I’m going to a seminar to learn how to be more creative.” That
makes it sound as if creativity is a skill that anyone can learn. So,
which is it? Well, kind of both and kind of neither.
Four Types of Creativity – Arne Dietrich (2004)
identifies 4 different types of creativity with corresponding different
brain activities. Think of it like a matrix:
Creativity can be either emotionally or cognitively based, and it can
also be spontaneous or deliberate. That gives you the four quadrants.
The Psychology Of Messy Rooms: The Most Creative People Flourish In Clutter
Do your parents, coworkers, dorm mates, or house mates complain about your messy work space? It’s strange at times, but the prevailing school of thought calls for order and organization in order to achieve success. Modern psychology is beginning to paint a different picture.
I have been thinking about these houses all day and I like @theconsultingdramaqueen and her theory, so I am going to expand it a bit.
A SLYTHERIN VALUES AMBITION BUT DEFINES THEMSELF BY
Wampus - What they have done and will do. What am I doing to achieve my ambitions?
Thunderbird - Who has inspired them and the dreams of others that have woven themselves into their ambitions.
Pukwudgie - How passionate they are about their ambitions. How intensely do I believe in my dream?
Horned Serpent - Their beliefs and their ideologies surrounding their ambition. Their knowledge gets them to their goal.
A HUFFLEPUFF VALUES LOYALTY AND HARD WORK BUT DEFINES THEMSELF BY
Wampus - How they show their loyalty. What are they working hard towards?
Thunderbird - The inspiration from their peers. How have other people inspired them?
Pukwudgie - The intensity of their loyalty and the passion behind their hard work. Why do you work hard?
Horned Serpent - Their beliefs and ideas behind their loyalty and hard work. Your mind drives your actions.
A RAVENCLAW VALUES CREATIVITY AND INTELLIGENCE BUT DEFINES THEMSELF BY
Wampus - What they have created and what they do with their intelligence.
Thunderbird - The creativity of others and how it has inspired you to be more creative.
Pukwudgie - The passion behind your creativity and how you feel about learning new things.
Horned Serpent - Their beliefs and their ideologies that manifest into more knowledge and learning
A GRYFFINDOR VALUES BRAVERY BUT DEFINES THEMSELF BY
Wampus - Their brave actions and what they have done to be brave and chivalrous.
Thunderbird - The inspiration acquired from their brave peers and the lessons they have learned from others about bravery
Pukwudgie - Their feelings and emotions behind the bravery, why they commit to bravery.
Horned Serpent - Their beliefs and how their mind shapes their actions of bravery.
People are trying to correlate the Hogwarts houses with the Ilvermorny houses but I think their is no correlation. They have their similarities but are ultimately different. Please comment your opinion :)
Today is a good day to catch up on the latest awesomely creative costumes created by budget-friendly cosplayer Anucha “Cha” Saengchart of Lowcostcosplay (previously featured here). Cha’s use of basic household objects, pieces of food, and forced perspective gets more impressive (and hilarious) with each new cosplay. He’s an awesome reminder that cosplay is for everyone.
Follow Lowcostcosplay on Facebook to keep up with Cha’s latest terrifically thrifty costumes, because who needs a rainbow wig when you can use a pack of rainbow straws instead: