My family says I look like a prisoner…then again they also say “you should look more feminine/wear dresses/more makeup”.
And while there are days for makeup and dresses, there are also days for jeans, shirts and no makeup.
And the moral of the story is, whatever you wear is great as long as it is to make you, not them happy
“Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Take the moment and make it perfect. Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.”
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Do your thing. Do it unapologetically. Don’t be discouraged by criticism. You probably already know what they’re going to say. Pay no mind to the fear of failure. It’s far more valuable than success. Take ownership, take chances, and have fun. And no matter what, don’t ever stop doing your thing.
hey everyone ! the title speaks for itself, this is a post on how to be more confident. (i will try not to make this personal but who knows)
i. have a playlist that makes you feel badass. this is the easiest tip i know. when you feel horrible, blast that badass playlist. feel the fire in your bones. lose yourself to the power in the music. i have a few playlists her e if you want to check them out for inspiration or whatnot.
ii. posture is everything. hold your head up high. this is so hard sometimes, i know, trust me. sometimes you want to curl in a ball and disappear. but if you want to look confident, want to be confident, you need to hold your head up and straighten your back and walk like you mean business.
iii. know yourself. know your flaws. know your strengths. know what your limitations. honestly, this is so hard for someone with a personality disorder or someone who is neurodivergent or anyone actually. but knowing what you can do, sitting down and thinking hard, is incredibly helpful.
iv. make a list of what you know you can do. you can breathe, you can blink, you can kill a man, it doesn’t matter what is on the list as long as you can do it. it can be hard or easy. it can be something everyone can do or only people of your culture can do or something only you know how to do. trust me, there is something you can do. now look at all the crap you can do ! look at you ! hell yeah you can do stuff !
v. now make a list of what you can’t do/ haven’t been able to do yet. maybe it’s riding a bike, maybe it’s scoring a 5 on your ap test, maybe it’s kissing that cute girl in your math class i don’t care. it can be something everyone can do or something no one can do or a small task or a hard task. highlight what you want to learn to do or want to do. how will you do it? if you ever end up doing the thing, move it onto the list of things you can do. woohoo ! you did something hell yeah ! be confident, look at you accomplishing stuff ! smile, babe.
vi. maybe make another list for your flaws, also highlighting what you want to change. strive to make those changes. you can become a good person, you can become a better person. people change. that’s okay. look at you improving as a person. high five !
vii. breathe. do it. in through your nose. out through your mouth. now go back to that point about posture. straighten your back, lift your head up, breathe again.
viii. fake it til you make it. confidence is not easy. pretend to be confident through my tips or someone elses or do whatever you want actually just pretend to be confident. keep on doing this everyday. you will become confident eventually trust me.
ix. treat yourself sometimes. working yourself until you pass out isn’t really a confidence booster. sometimes, you need to care for yourself. it will make you feel better. hell yeah your skin smells like cocoa butter ! hell yeah you look cute asf ! you are worth it. show yourself that sometimes, okay ?
I always stumble on my words and have to repeat myself when I talk too fast, because I’m trying to compress my question into as little space as possible. I need to learn how to talk slower and not be afraid to take up space.