so we all know the $225 night out post by now and all ire is rightfully deserved. dude is a Prick. Completely projecting his own irresponsible spending onto others under the assumption we all do that. right, cool.
But ignoring that, it also really points to a very fucked up relationship with alcohol thats excessively normalized imo? Like the average cocktail for upscale places around here is $8-12. Even if it were $15/cocktail (presuming he’s going to one of those really expensive clubs, which is how it sounds), that’s 10 cockatils in a night PLUS a “pre-drinks bottle”. I’m gonna be real generous and assume that’s being split with friends but even then, at an average of 16 shots per bottle (assuming they are measuring 1.5 oz per drink or shot), that’s around 2-4 drinks minimum (he and 3 friends up to he and 5 friends) before going out to have, again, 10 fucking cocktails. And I honestly feel like given how its phrased, the bottle isn’t really shared. That is around 14 drinks per night. Minimum. For references, experts consider more than 14 drinks per week to be “heavy drinking” or “at-risk behavior”.
I know this is an extreme example but honestly I know plenty of people for whom 10 drinks in a night is “taking it easy”. Like the idea of drinking before you drink (presumably to save money) is so normalized and I do it too (so I only spend like $30 out because i make delicious cocktails)! But like as I’ve recognized my own extremely at risk behavior and made changes, the more I’ve noticed just how utterly fucked up our society is about alcohol. And just thinking about those numbers is fucking me up. Like dude, you are likely an alcoholic and you need help, spending $150 on drinks is not just financially detrimental it points to a severe problem. A severe problem that a lot of folks have and may not recognize as incredibly serious, because its how everyone else around them drinks.
Idk ths isnt like a “dont go out, dont have fun, get help if you have a beer to unwind” post but its like….there is a lot of grey area in addicition and risk, and when you’re around enough people doing the same thing you are, it’s way harder to recognize. I grew up with a severe fifth-a-night alcoholic who refused treatment at every turn., and even with being really careful ( i dont drink as a solution to anger, stress, sadness, etc., and I have self imposed rules about drinking alone–which is Very Rare and pretty much only for baths) I didn’t have control over myself or my drinking for a really, really long time. And we would make jokes about it-it’s undergrad! we all do it!–but over the past few years it became evident I was developing issues, especially with stopping once I start. Like you don’t have to wait until rock bottom to start recognizing and treating a problem. Like when you have more “oh god what did I say and do, where are all these marks from?” mornings than “i had a great time and dont feel a massive pit of regret over what i might have said or done” it doesnt mean you defintiely have a problem but it does mean you might want to really think hard. I would often tell myself my excessive drinking was due to social anxiety, but as it turns out drinking past a certain point really exacerbated my anxieties and doubts, which made me react erractically. As I do more self reflection on my substance use, regrets from drunken nights feuled my party anxieties, and it was weird to try and break that cycle but as I go to less random house parties and spend more time around people that I am actively comfortable around, it’s really eased my urge to continue drinking well past my limit. I don’t think I was an alcoholic (or am, if you ascribe to the lifer philosophy), but I know I was heading in that direction,a dn I’m taking steps to mitigate damage. It’s all different for everyone! And this is a hell of a tangent, but idk just thinking about it a lot and that post really stirred up some Thoughts