Cisgender People


The Danish Girl’s intentions are good — but trans people deserve better

The trailer for The Danish Girl, released Tuesday, introduces the world to Lili Elbe and her wife, Gerda Wegener. Elbe was a transgender woman and one of the first recipients of transition-related surgeries. She’s played by Academy Award-winning actor Eddie Redmayne. Transgender people are not cisgender people in a dress.

I have learned that cisgender people don’t like it when you refuse to cater to them. They hate it when you criticize them or inform them that they’re being transphobic. They absolutely detest it and will resort to calling you slurs and still insist that they are not transphobic.

How to make an appreciation post for cishets

Step one: log out of tumblr

Step two: go on to any other website, or out into the real world

Step three: realize that the rest of the world centers around cisgender heterosexual people

Step four: reevaluate why you want to make a positivity post for people who will never be oppressed

Step five: hopefully by now the bees will have flown out of your asshole

For cisgender people who believe gender and sexuality is the same...

•Sexuality is who you love, Gender is how you identify (male or female).
•Sexual orientation and sexuality are the same.
•Gender is how you identify and Sex is what you’re labeled at birth.
•The “T” in lgbtq is there because the community represents and supports differences besides being straight or cis-gendered (cis is someone who’s gender and sex match where as trans is the opposite)
• The “T” in lgbtq is not there because it is a sexuality/orientation
•trans = what you are
•gay/straight/bi/pan = who you love
>In conclusion trans is neither a sexuality nor an orientation


This is what solidarity with black trans women looks like 

On Tuesday, a national day of action took place in more than 20 cities across the country calling for an end to the record number of black transgender women who’ve been killed in recent years. Organizers hope the movement will help cisgender people confront the ways that they’re complicit in transphobia.

let's get some things straight

1. reverse racism doesn’t exist. let me say that again: you can’t be racist towards white people !!!!! you can be rude towards white people, but there’s a difference between calling someone a cracker and deliberate racism.

2. the world is not composed entirely of cisgender people. additionally, cis, straight couples are NOT the only relationships that can produce children (cis lesbian x trans lesbian, trans man x trans woman, intersex woman x cis bisexual woman, etc. there are so many more). stop identity erasure. you look closed-minded as fuck.

3. heterophobia!!!! doesn’t!!!! exist!!!! once again, sure, you can be rude towards het couples, but last time i checked, i didn’t think you had to wait until a couple months ago to be able to get legally married.

4. asexuals are real people. bisexuals are real people. just because you find it “unfathomable” to not want to have sex or to be attracted to more than one gender doesn’t mean they just cease to exist.

5. for god’s sake, if you’re not black, don’t use the n word. it’s not that hard of a concept to grasp.

I'm sick and Tired of this

I hate that you guys made Tumblr a special place to hate on Straight, White and Cis people.

Let me tell you something!
I’m a female and I identify myself as it.
I’m bisexual, married to a woman, but it means I’m still 50% Straight.
I’m a mix of a lot of different races and that includes Caucasian.

It doesn’t makes sense to me that you guys want equality, but treat other people like shit just because they are not the same as you.

I literally did nothing to other genders, races, and sexualities. And I feel so attacked when I’m here.
All I read is bad, mean, offensive stuff toward Straight, Cis and White people.
You guys have no respect!!
And the funny thing is that you guys want to be respected, want to be accepted.
You all are so quick to hate on us.
If somebody doesn’t understand something instead of educate them you guys fucking bash them down.
Nobody can have a different opinion, views anymore around here.

You guys are starting to get people that are not homophobic, not racist to hate on you because they think you hate them. Like seriously I’m getting scared.
You guys are not sacred, stop this bullshit.

I know there are shitty people in every race, gender, and sexuality…
And that’s what you guys are aiming, but it is affecting people that there’s nothing to do with it.

So please stop!

“Down with cis”

What the fuck. I get it, you’re queer. You might be lesbian, bisexual, pan, gay, queer, trans, asexual, agendered, gender neutral, etc.

But bullying everyone else will not get you rights. It will not make queer people appear to be a normal part of society. Queers are already seen as weird. But you’re making them seem like assholes and hypocrites and neurotic people too. It will stunt the process of the fight for equal rights or completely stop it.

Cut it out, guys.

8/26/15 UPDATE: i know that down with cis was originally a meme but some people actually take is seriously hence the name of this post. but in general i see a lot of weird hatred for cis folks. 

personally i’m pansexual and i’ve always had weird issues with my gender, where i feel extremely uncomfortable with my feminine body shape, but i feel boring if i look dress in men’s clothes too (not that men look boring or anything, it’s just the men’s clothes in retail stores.. are boring and plain colors. lol). my gender weirdness probably arise from a past of molestation, never the less i’ve come to conclude the gender dysphoria is obviously in a way, a disorder. no no, not the bad kind of disorder! it’s just when the brain is uncomfortable with its body.. it’s not supposed to happen. i guess. 

furthermore i’m sorry if i offended you people. believe me, i want change too.

but we all must realize that change starts with ourselves. change yourself to be the kind of person you’d want to be, and then change the world, step by step. you can’t just say you hate homo/transphobia, and then just turn around and be a hypocritical asshole who hates on a general group of people (cis people) just because they are born cis?? 

does what i’m saying making ANY sense?

People were so kind and generous with their experience, but also so open,” says Redmayne. “Virtually all of the trans men and women I met would say, ‘Ask me anything.’ They know that need for cisgender people to be educated. I felt like, I’m being given this extraordinary experience of being able to play this woman, but with that comes this responsibility of not only educating myself but hopefully using that to educate [an audience]. Gosh, it’s delicate. And complicated.
—  Eddie Redmayne on playing Lili Elbe, OUT Magazine
Transgender Black Woman Murdered in Tampa, Tenth Trans Hate Killing of 2015; Where is the Cisgender Outrage?
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Image by Lexie Cannes State of Trans Tampa, Florida – The lifeless body of trans woman India Clarke (25) was found near a community center basketball court this week. Cause of death is unknown as of this writing, though her upper body bears signs of bludgeoning with a blunt instrument. Clarke is the 10th transgender person murdered this year, according to some sources. If the past experience of…

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This fucking site and this fucking writer in particular. Like, i want nothing to do with it anymore.

Yeah i was being sarcastic - i like to do that for effect because i sincerely feels it needs to hit home when a transphobic show is reviewed as ~sooo amazing~ by a cis lady. It’s irritating, and sarcasm is a great way to convey how irritating it is (and how thoughtless, on a beauty site aimed for women, to praise mostly cis gay men for their makeup skills while they drop the t word and have competitions called “female vs. she***e).

And her reply just makes me livid. She literally tried to say my point was less valid because of my sarcasm and me pointing out her usage of AAVE. 

May i present tone policing 101 and strawman.

You can all read what i wrote. I literally just pointed out she used AAVE. If it’s really nbd she can inform me she’s white-passing or something, i dunno. But there was literally 0 shaming in my post (in terms of using AAVE). And that last little dig at "tumblr” is so fucking pathetic. No, you know what, she’s gotta be white. She has to be. At least non-black. This shit is just WAY too defensive.

(And yes i am nb, and i am not in a position to reclaim the t word so i dont, but i am in a position where that word is very triggering for me, and i am personally off-put by that irritating show - so i felt the intense desire to say something.)

AND ON TOP OF ALL THAT, it just feels so fucking condescending.  Like, “ah yes, I, a cis person, agree that your point is oh so valid, I will give you credit for that, yes, me, the cis person, will concede that perhaps you have something there.”

okay but genderqueer nobby nobbs

and no one really finds out until nobby starts talking to some of the watchmen about the gender thing and ends up telling people it doesn’t matter, it’s a societal construct, innit

and the watch are a) surprised nobby knows what that means and b) not quite understanding but supportive of one of their own

course, not everyone has that support system, and nobby ends up dragging the rest of the watch into it after hate crimes against non cisgender/non hetero people actually end up being reported

and the watch are pissed, because cheri is bi and sam is demi and carrot isn’t sure what he is, but he knows it’s not right

soon angua’s threatening harassers and cheri’s making it clear to the ankh morpork grags that protecting abusers will have consequences and sam is living up to his reputation of endless pursuit

Petition to take down “sure to get a few laughs” transphobic Caitlyn Jenner costume is gaining steam

Good Job, World: The Caitlyn Jenner Halloween Costume Is Both Horrible & Lazy


To Spirit Halloween: We demand that you revoke your ideas and production of a Caitlyn Jenner costume for Halloween. With a reputation of sexist, racist, and culturally appropriative costumes, we are concerned that this costume will continue your oppressive tradition with a transphobic costume of Caitlyn Jenner. Yes, as your PR and marketing head Trisha Lombardo stated in an interview, Caitlyn Jenner is a hero and celebrated in modern day culture, but that doesn’t excuse the exploitation and transphobia you’ll be committing this Halloween. To make a costume out of a marginalized identity reduces that person and community to a stereotype for privileged people to abuse. In this case, if you follow through with production of a Caitlyn Jenner costume, cisgender people will purchase it to make fun of her and our community. At a time when trans women and GNC folx, especially black trans women, are being murdered at such a high rate, and homelessness, unemployment, and inaccessbility to healthcare run rampant in our community, making fun of one or all of us is utterly insensitive and deplorable.



Tumblr Logic:

If cisgendered people can ONLY play cisgendered characters, then transgendered people can ONLY play transgendered characters. 

That sure creates a lot of leeway for up and coming actors who are trans. Anyone should be able to play who they want to play. People who are trans shouldn’t be restricted to doing just transgendered roles, because that’s what your logic implies (basically if someone cis plays someone transgender that’s bad because someone trans ONLY has the ability to play someone trans.) 

I mean, that is pretty insulting because you’re basically insinuating that they’ll never have enough acting range to play someone unlike themselves. 

Someone, whether they be cis or trans, should be able to play whichever character they choose to play granted that they’re good at/for the role.