The extra burden usually taken on by women in heterosexual couples also includes “emotional labour”, such as keeping on top of a child’s progress at school, checking in with elderly relatives and organising social events, adding to the so-called “second shift” millions of women work, often without thanks or acknowledgement. Many would argue that the reason the divide has persisted so long is because it is unimportant – as long as you maintain a healthy, respectful relationship, you might ask, who cares who does the DIY or cleans the loo?
But the division of chores plays into myriad other problems, from the assumption that women are better suited to caring professions, to the patronising depiction of men as oafish and stupid in cleaning adverts, to the struggle for shared parental leave. Recently, it was even suggested that women’s shouldering of extra domestic work alongside full-time employment might be contributing to the slowing growth pace of female life expectancy!
While men believe they’re sharing household tasks equally with their wives, the women’s answers in the surveys countered that, no, actually, they’re the ones doing most of the work. Unfortunately for the guys, the women’s answers are backed up by time-use surveys, which track the minutiae of how Americans spend their days.
@chi-suki tfw u hear the garage door move the entire house and whatever you were doing or wherever u were at- u knew u at T-.30 seconds to get your most important chores done before mom walked into the door