Children-of-Desire

Let’s be real here -

Bitty graduates Samwell, moves in with Jack, and adopts like a dozen kids.

He doesn’t mean to. It’s not his plan. He’s going to get a job or something but he’s a carer. He can’t help it. While he’s looking for a job and working on building his CV he starts volunteering at a children’s home and it breaks his heart to leave all those kids there alone and he and Jack have so much love and so much space and there’s so much need and…

So, long story short, they start fostering. Just short term at first but then some longer term fostering arrangements. They come out, get married. Jack buys then a big house with his big NHL salary. They adopt one kid. Then another. They still foster. Bitty isn’t even pretending to look for jobs any more. He volunteers and he feeds and loves whatever kid comes through his door and Jack is just 100% along for the ride. At any given time there are between 4 and 6 kids in the Bittle-Zimmermann household. They adopt another. Always older children. Always children who are ‘less desireable’.

Jack gets the C. They start hosting rookies. They’re both old enough now that they look at these rookies and wonder if they were ever that young. The rookies all start off vaguely uncomfortable to see their Captain so besotted with Bitty and paternal to all these kids but they get over it. Half of the team jokingly calls Jack dad when he’s not listening.

Just, give me Jack and Bitty with a home full of love and kids and laughter and joy.

Why do we love?

Ah, romantic love; beautiful and intoxicating, heart-breaking and soul-crushing… often all at the same time! Why do we choose to put ourselves though its emotional wringer? Does love make our lives meaningful, or is it an escape from our loneliness and suffering?  Is love a disguise for our sexual desire, or a trick of biology to make us procreate? Is it all we need? Do we need it at all?

If romantic love has a purpose, neither science nor psychology has discovered it yet – but over the course of history, some of our most respected philosophers have put forward some intriguing theories.

1. Love makes us whole, again / Plato (427—347 BCE)

The ancient Greek philosopher Plato explored the idea that we love in order to become complete. In his Symposium, he wrote about a dinner party at which Aristophanes, a comic playwright, regales the guests with the following story. Humans were once creatures with four arms, four legs, and two faces.  One day they angered the gods, and Zeus sliced them all in two. Since then, every person has been missing half of him or herself.  Love is the longing to find a soul mate who will make us feel whole again… or at least that’s what Plato believed a drunken comedian would say at a party.

2. Love tricks us into having babies / Schopenhauer (1788-1860)

Much, much later, German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer maintained that love, based in sexual desire, was a “voluptuous illusion”.  He suggested that we love because our desires lead us to believe that another person will make us happy, but we are sorely mistaken.  Nature is tricking us into procreating and the loving fusion we seek is consummated in our children.  When our sexual desires are satisfied, we are thrown back into our tormented existences, and we succeed only in maintaining the species and perpetuating the cycle of human drudgery.  Sounds like somebody needs a hug.

3. Love is escape from our loneliness / Russell (1872-1970)

According to the Nobel Prize-winning British philosopher Bertrand Russell we love in order to quench our physical and psychological desires.  Humans are designed to procreate; but, without the ecstasy of passionate love, sex is unsatisfying.  Our fear of the cold, cruel world tempts us to build hard shells to protect and isolate ourselves.  Love’s delight, intimacy, and warmth helps us overcome our fear of the world, escape our lonely shells, and engage more abundantly in life.  Love enriches our whole being, making it the best thing in life.  

4. Love is a misleading affliction / Buddha (~6th- 4thC BCE)

Siddhartha Gautama. who became known as ‘the Buddha’, or ‘the enlightened one’, probably would have had some interesting arguments with Russell. Buddha proposed that we love because we are trying to satisfy our base desires.  Yet, our passionate cravings are defects, and attachments – even romantic love – are a great source of suffering.  Luckily, Buddha discovered the eight-fold path, a sort of program for extinguishing the fires of desire so that we can reach ‘nirvana’ – an enlightened state of peace, clarity, wisdom, and compassion.  

5. Love lets us reach beyond ourselves / Beauvoir (1908-86)

Let’s end on a slightly more positive note.  The French philosopher Simone de Beauvoir proposed that love is the desire to integrate with another and that it infuses our lives with meaning.  However, she was less concerned with why we love and more interested in how we can love better.  She saw that the problem with traditional romantic love is it can be so captivating that we are tempted to make it our only reason for being.  Yet, dependence on another to justify our existence easily leads to boredom and power games.  

To avoid this trap, Beauvoir advised loving authentically, which is more like a great friendship: lovers support each other in discovering themselves, reaching beyond themselves, and enriching their lives and the world, together.

Though we might never know why we fall in love, we can be certain that it’ll be an emotional rollercoaster ride.  It’s scary and exhilarating.  It makes us suffer and makes us soar.  Maybe we lose ourselves.  Maybe we find ourselves.  It might be heartbreaking or it might just be the best thing in life.  Will you dare to find out? 

From the TED-Ed Lesson Why do we love? A philosophical inquiry - Skye C. Cleary

Animation by Avi Ofer

The fact that a girl who wants to have her tubes tied has to go to counseling regarding her mental health is beyond fucked up. Seriously it’s the 21st century, not every woman desires to have children. Having no desire to have kids DOES NOT represent her mental health.

Transracial adoption first became a controversial issue in the early 1970s. A heated public debate occurred about the transmission of Afri­can American cultural identity to Black children adopted into White middle-class families. The central question in these debates was whether or not White parents were capable of teaching their children African American culture and history, and inculcating them with the skills necessary for Blacks to survive in the racially unequal United States. Con­cerns over the transmission of identity have shaped public opinion and social policies regarding racial matching between children and parents since the 1970s. Transracial adoption became a contentious public issue after the National Association of Black Social Workers (NABSW) released a position paper in 1972 stating their opposition to the practice, citing their concerns about racial identity and survival skills as the basis of their objections (NABSW 1972).

The Black social workers’ critique of the ways Black children were treated in the child welfare system was a contestation of state-sanctioned regulations determining which families African American children would become part of, and thus be socialized by. Their protests against transra­cial adoption were largely motivated by a concern for the futures of African American children and a desire to strengthen Black families, and were often politically grounded in Black nationalism. Policy changes re­flecting these concerns gradually occurred at the state, county, and agency levels. While standards varied in different regions, in most areas of the country adoption agencies became committed to the goal of racial matching whenever possible. Many states drew up regulations governing how long agencies could spend searching for same-race placements.


Transracial adoption receded from public debate later in the 1970s, and received very little media attention until the early 1990s when it once again became the subject of fierce public discussion. While argu­ments against this practice continued to focus on racial identity, the political context of the 1990s had changed. Whereas in the earlier debate attention was focused on the importance of racial matching between children and parents, in the current political climate the debate has led to new federal policies promoting “color-blind” adoptions by prohibiting the consideration of race in the adoptive placement of a child. The public discourse concerning this issue goes beyond the specificity of transracial adoptees’ lives. Indeed, this policy dialogue has implications for political struggles over teenage pregnancy, “ille­gitimacy,” and welfare reform.


While the current public dialogue is explicitly concerned with issues of race, the linkage of transracial adoption with welfare reform, tax credits to adoptive parents, and the termination of (birth) parental rights reveals a more implicit agenda focusing on women. In fact, the 1996 law was explicitly designed to combat “illegitimacy” among wel­fare recipients. In a political context dominated by proponents of tra­ditional “family values” as the solution to the supposed “breakdown of the family,” celebrations of adoption as a panacea to the “epidemic of illegitimacy” among “underclass” women and the misfortune of infertility among primarily middle-class heterosexual couples must be viewed critically. This political dialogue sounds disturbingly similar to early-twentieth-century eugenic prescriptions for strengthening the White race by limiting the reproductive capacities of “undesirables”— namely, Black women, immigrant women, “imbeciles,” and “im­moral” women. In the shifting political alliances and commitments of the 1990s and beyond, adoption has become a curious battleground on which the social meanings of race and identity, gender and family, work and poverty, culture and nation are being constructed, contested, and enforced.

—  Sandra Patton, Birthmarks: Transracial Adoption in Contemporary America (2000).

A House Stellium occurs in an individuals charts when four or more heavenly bodies are located in the same House, focusing all of their energy there. How your House Stellium is truly expressed depends on if you also have a Sign Stellium and your Sun Sign. Read more here.

First House - The House of Self - Aries
Your identity is your focus. You may find yourself focusing too much on yourself, your appearance, your needs. You feel so self conscious that it is emotionally disabling and you may find yourself swept up in others, bending to their will because you care more about how you look in the eyes of others than anything else. You express your insecurities by being loud, bold and brash - by overcompensating. You have little patience and self control. You need a partner to balance you out in life or work. On the other hand you are intuitive and know how to charm others. You are very good with physical communication and you will often say more through your body than your words.

Second House - The House of Possessions - Taurus
You can spend money very easily and may find yourself in financial trouble. You struggle to let go of anything, seeing the value in everything, and fear to go without. You will exhaust yourself by clinging to your possessions to the point where the stress causes illness. Learning to let go will be your greatest struggle in life. You can be possessive but also remarkably gregarious. You need security in life, whatever that may mean to you, but it usually is tied to the material world. You are grounded and support others. Those with this Stellium often are in touch with their body and will practice arts that involve movement.

Third House - The House of Mind - Gemini
Your mind is always going and you can get wrapped up in your thoughts. You struggle to relax and often shake and jitter because your mind is racing. You can think so much that you never even act. Easily becoming obsessed, you loose perspective and struggle to see things as they are whether it be about a book you are writing or the child you’re raising. You crave new experiences to learn from. You need others to communicate with at all times but you can often talk at people, not with, because you carry a message that needs to be let out. Often, those with this Stellium tell stories in some way: writing, painting, directing, etc because they have such a strong perspective or story that they simply need to share.

Fourth House - The House of Home - Cancer
Your home life may feel tumultuous because with a Fourth House Stellium it is easily upset by transits. You feel trapped in the past, reliving moments in your mind, unable to let go of old hurts and grudges but also those beautiful moments of triumph will feel as if they are your only ones and you’ll never feel anything more beautiful. You need to learn to focus on the present and look forward to the future because you have many great moments ahead of you. You need a home, a place to call your own. Your emotions may overwhelm you at times but reign them in and they will be your greatest gift. You often focus on family, even those who do not desire children or to marry will surround themselves with friends so close they are like siblings. You are a humanitarian in many ways and seek to help others or the environment.

Fifth House - The House of Creativity - Leo
Drama rules your life. You can create problems in your own head without realizing. Over the top is your thing whether you are a stay at home mom or on Broadway. Impersonal relationships often become personal in one way or another. You may be a little more immature than most, even innocent in ways. You often connect well with children and animals, having a bit of an instinct for parenting and caring. You always are creating and thinking, and you must express yourself and these ideas in one way or another. They are often fantastic artists.

Sixth House - The House of Health - Virgo
You can be a bit of a workaholic who never relaxes, a perfectionist who slaves over the smallest of tasks in hopes of perfecting it. You need to be in charge, you have to do things the right way and the only way is to do it yourself right? You can work so hard that you literally make yourself ill. You need to learn to delegate your workload. You often commit yourself to helping others and will do everything you can to help. You can also be terribly judgmental, even cruel. These individuals will often be doctors, nurses, or other public service types. You live to serve.

Seventh House - The House of Partnership - Libra
Those with this Stellium will either seek out a relationship no matter what the cost or flee from them. Dealing with others can be a struggle for you. It is hard for you to stay in a relationship or even dare to begin one or it is all too easy, a complete necessity. You are a bit of a loner or such a social butterfly that you know everyone there is to know. Indecisive in relationships, you feel lost and can’t decide what to do or what not to do despite your instincts, so you will often avoid them. Once you are in a relationship you may loose yourself completely to the other person, you put all of your energy into it and obsess over it. You may flee from relationships no matter what the cost. You are charming, fashionable, and social. Perception is your greatest gift.

Eighth House - The House of Sex - Scorpio
The Eighth House is the House of all things beyond our control, of life, death, and the occult. You may study the occult, psychology, medicine, and science in order to gain control over what is uncontrollable. You may have experienced many difficult situations early on in life and feel mature and or cynical due to them. You must be in control of your money and finances. You won’t let others touch your money and are the type to hide it in drawers and under loose floorboards, unsure about even putting it in the bank. You struggle to know when to let go, when things are not your fault even when they are beyond anyone’s control. You may feel detached from your sexuality or obsessed with sex.

Ninth House - The House of Discovery - Sagittarius
The mind is your home. You may be too stuck in your own head and struggle to accept reality. Learning is important to you, you are often philosophical, spiritual or religious though you may jump from one belief to another to another at the drop of a hat. You may be absolutely obsessed with your beliefs and try to force them on others. You are so caught up with studying life that you hardly ever live it. You are the type to always be curious and asking questions, never afraid or even aware of crossing the line of what’s too personal. You may be a little wacky but you’re a lot of fun and always kind. You are a teacher at heart and often will get a job teaching anywhere from preschool to college, even teaching through writing or counseling.

Tenth House - The House of Status - Capricorn
You often clash with authority figures in your life. Often there is a lot of tension between you and your parents, perhaps your father in particular. And you hate to work for anyone but yourself which leads to rebellion in the home and in schooling. You need to be your own boss and will seek a job that allows you to be. With that said, you are still a strong and solid person. You are ambitious, perhaps even cut-throat, and you cut to the chase in everything you do. You’re the type who gets the most work done with the least effort. You are probably a workaholic and never give yourself a break.

Eleventh House - The House of Community - Aquarius
You try to please everyone. You will be swallowed whole by the community, never your own person but always someone’s shadow. Herd mentality is your defining point. You throw yourself into group causes and societal issues. Even in one-on-one situations you may take on the qualities of the other. You may even feel empathic. On the plus side, you are the type who can be friends with honestly anyone and often are. You are often very aware of societal issues - even ones on the other side of the world. You may feel born too early or too late, like you are out of time, and you’re always very aware of this. You have very progressive ideas and stand behind them no matter what. You often work with people but need to do so on a smaller scale and focus on yourself.

Twelfth House - The House of Self-Undoing - Pisces
You have a need to work with others. You’re natural drive is to support others at all times and you will often loose yourself to this. You still need to take time to be alone but often don’t. You don’t ever seek the spotlight and for this reason will shrink away from even positive attention, even from the support that they need in return. You may be a little out of touch with reality naturally, a dreamy new-age type of person, so you can easily be caught up in religion and spirituality to the point of becoming a fanatic or becoming involved in dangerous situations. You may have almost preternatural insight verging on psychic. They often take on roles where they support others and are behind the scenes of things.

To learn more about your Stellium and Chart go here.
- Lavinia Amoun

There’s a list of reasons as long as my arm as to why a Rebecca pregnancy storyline would be terrible. I mean, on the surface it would be boring, lazy, predictable writing, and it’s a storyline that has been done 24884849491 times before across all soaps. Not to mention the fact that, with this couple and these two characters, it was simply not needed.

Of course, at this stage, nothing is confirmed. So while quite a few of us are preparing for the worst, of course I’m keeping my fingers and toes crossed that it won’t actually happen.

But if it does happen, here is the reason why I’d be most upset about it (aside from the reasons I stated at the start of this post!!!).

Robert cheating on Aaron just three weeks after they got married is hideous in the first place. It was horrible for bi representation and just horrible and unnecessary in the first place.

But I also think if Emmerdale do make Rebecca pregnant, this would also be completely awful for bi rep, and here’s why.

I really hope I can articulate what I want to say here, so I’m going to try my best. 

So we have Aaron who, from the start, has been pretty biphobic from time to time. Now, we could argue that his comments towards Robert now and then aren’t really about Robert being bi, but about Robert having form as a cheat combined with Aaron’s insecurities, but that’s another argument all together. There’s no denying that some of the things Aaron has said to Robert, on more than one occasion, aren’t okay, and definitely scream of biphobia.

Now, for the most part, I would say Aaron has tried to understand his partner. I think he was (is?) just…..uneducated?? I don’t know. I do think a lot of Aaron’s issues with Robert being bi is more about Aaron himself than Robert’s sexuality. But the bottom line is, for Aaron, he was so threatened by Rebecca. He was so scared that she could offer Robert something he couldn’t. (and this is another reason why I’m so pissed off that, of all the women in the village/world, Robert had to sleep with her.)

Okay I’m kinda getting off track a bit here. What I’m trying to say is, Aaron is only interested in men, and Robert is interested in men and women. BUT Aaron is the love of Robert’s life. He has never loved anybody the way he loves Aaron. I truly believe that they can be blissfully happy together for the rest of their lives. I honestly believe that Robert wouldn’t ever be tempted to stray, not by a man or a woman. I honestly believe that Aaron is enough, and we had months and many conversations where Robert really stressed that fact.

Two men, living happily ever after. They can get married, and do all of the things a male/female couple can do. They can even have children nowadays, through adoption or surrogacy!

HOWEVER.

They cannot make a baby, biologically, together. Of course any child they would raise together would be theirs equally, biological or not. It would still be their son or daughter if they adopted or had a surrogate. They would still be parents and the child would still be theirs in every way that truly matters. 

But the one thing Aaron can’t physically “give” Robert is a baby. He can give him love, marriage, sex, a home…..but he cannot physically bear Robert’s child. They cannot “make” a baby together.

And this is what fucking pisses me off.

Because if, IF Emmerdale DO go there…….it’s like them saying; 

“look, two men can be together, they can be in love and married and they can have everything…..BUT LOOK! they can’t make a baby together the traditional way! and oohh, one of the men happens to be bisexual…..he digs women too…..so let’s have him fuck a woman, get her pregnant, and have her give him the one thing his husband cannot. you need a man and a woman to make a baby!!1!! so let’s have them make a baby!!!!!!! and let’s have his insecure, paranoid husband’s fears justified!!! let’s “justify” his biphobia!! because being in love and married won’t be enough!!! not when there could be sperm and a womb and a man and a woman and a BABY!!!!”

It would be like a massive, giant FUCK YOU not only to Aaron, not only to any real life person in Aaron’s position, but for any bisexual who is in love with somebody of the same sex. Because it’s almost like saying “you can have so so much, but you can’t quite have everything, can you?” which is….fucking BULLSHIT because yES YOU CAN. You can still have children. You can still have a family. You can still be parents, even though you can’t just randomly have unprotected sex and make a baby - planned or not. You can still have everything that truly counts. With same sex couples it actually takes more effort to have children, which proves their desire and need to be parents, and the child is so appreciated at the end of it. 

But it’s like a big fat reminder that it can’t be easy for a same sex couple to have kids. Like, they can’t just decide one day they want a baby and then make love and make a baby. There are things they have to go through, steps that need to be taken (and I’m not being naive, I know that there are plenty of m/f couples who can’t naturally have children, I know that it isn’t easy for everyone to conceive and that’s not me saying that at ALL just in case anyone misinterprets what I’ve said. but bottom line is, two men or two women can’t have sex and make a baby. that’s the point I’m making) - it can be a really long process for a same sex couple to get a child.

So I feel like….to have these two characters; a bisexual character who has struggled with his sexuality for half his life, and a gay character who has been shown to not always understand bisexuality, to then have the bi character cheat and make a baby with somebody else is just……I think it’s so horrible, and nasty, and offensive.

And maybe I’m thinking about this too much, because kids are important to me. But I just find it horribly insensitive. I feel like it’s pushing the narrative that, in a relationship between a gay man and a bi man, the gay man will never be enough for his partner because he can’t give him a baby in the “traditional” way. And therefore it’s almost justifying the gay man’s insecurities about his partner’s sexuality to the viewer; making the viewer think “aww see, this is why he was worried. because look what a woman can give him that a man can’t.” (which….isn’t actually true, as I said above, because same sex couples can have kids)

I’ve always loved kids and enjoyed baby storylines and even enjoyed a good Who’s the Daddy? storyline, as cheap and cheesy as they can be.

But in a situation like this it just feels….nasty. Not cheap and cheerful, but cheap and nasty. I find it offensive to both characters. 

I don’t know if I’ve put my point across properly and I hope people understand what I’m trying to say. But it’s just something that leaves a nasty taste in my mouth, even just thinking about it. It’s probably the reason I hate most about the idea of this actually happening, because I find it deeply offensive. 

because, intentionally or not (and even if this does happen, I don’t believe Emmerdale would’ve actually meant to cause offence), I do believe it’s pushing the narrative that a same sex couple can never quite be complete, and that ultimately a man and woman are needed to make new life.

and I really really don’t like or agree with that. at all.

Normally I wouldn’t make this post, because it’s not exactly a-spec positivity. But given that there’s another trickle of “let’s accuse the mods of pedophilia” combined with “let’s try to guess the name of the mod” (all of which guesses are still wrong by the way) and I think that is particularly dangerous and manipulative, here it is anyway.

When I say that sometimes there are children who experience sexual desires, drives, and attractions, there are several things I’m not doing and only one thing I am doing. I am not saying “and therefore it is acceptable for them to engage in sexual relationships and behaviors”. I am not saying “and this is true of all children”. I am not saying “this is true of children at any and all ages”. And I am not saying “therefore it is acceptable for adults to consider children’s sexuality”.

The one and only thing I am saying is that there is no magic age at which a switch in a minor’s brain gets flipped and they suddenly find themselves sexually attracted to others or interested in their own sexuality. That minors who are going to experience those things may begin to during a pretty wide range of time. And because this is a normal part of kids growing up, that means that a child’s peers may discover, through interaction with children who have already begun to consider their own sexuality, that they AREN’T experiencing those things yet. Maybe they will and maybe they won’t. But the fact that their peers have begun to and they haven’t is often a discussion of feeling left out and disconnected within kids’ spaces. High school and even sometimes middle school can be tough for kids who don’t experience crushes or can’t figure out how to engage in conversations about classmates being cute or not.

But here’s the most important thing I want people to understand about that post I made that they keep having the nerve to call disgusting. When I made that post, I was specifically talking about myself as the child who experienced sexual desires and attractions at a young age. Some of them were “age appropriate” so to speak, but a lot of them weren’t. I did not engage with them around other children my age because I had already learned really quickly that my existence was (as so many of you have gleefully been calling it ever since I made that post) disgusting, predatory, and abusive. It was not the child abusers and sexual predators who were exposing my peers to violence and harm apparently, but myself. And because I internalized that message - the very concept of a child who understands themselves, personally, as having a definable sexuality is disgusting and therefore I, who embodies that, am disgusting too - I ended up exactly where people keep accusing me of causing others to end up. I was so disgusted by myself, so desperate to never let anyone see that I was a monster, that when one single person came along and said they understood and loved me anyway, that they were the only person who could look past my disgustingness and care about me, I believed them. And because the world seemed to agree that they would, as they said, be my only chance at love, I never stood up for myself over anything. The first few people who did this to me were my peers, my age. The next several were not.

This is why I made a post that said it was okay for kids to be asexual, allosexual, in between, neither. Because I grew up knowing I was, very much, a person with a definable allosexual sexuality. And I met hundreds in survivor groups as an adult who told me that same familiar story. Of learning of their sexuality too early, of being called disgusting and sick by friends and family, and of falling victim to people who claimed no one would ever love us if we left them. Because I heard stories from those survivors whose sexualities changed in response to their trauma. Whose trauma had been caused after someone found out they were already asexual. Whose trauma happened because they didn’t feel allowed to have or understand their sexuality and now they were afraid they never would.

So allow me to repeat myself.

Child-Me, your sexuality, however much people lied to you, was never the problem. The existence of your attractions, drives, and desires was to be gently learned, so that you could safely express them at an appropriate age, not ground down and repressed so as to be taken advantage of later. This is true for all others who were like you.

Child-Best-Friend, it was okay that you never understood what it was like to experience such drives and desires. You were loved in a million ways, as you are today, and you deserved support and understanding, not the vitriol of your peers, the mockery of your abusers, or the violence of your harm. You are whole and healthy and you will find affection and compassion and romance-free or romance-full love in many places. This is true for all others who were like you.

Child-Survivor, your uncertainty in yourself, whether or not you wanted the things your peers wanted, should never have been wielded against you like a weapon. You were so many good things, witty, loving, creative, and your value should have been allowed to lay there, not in how fast you figured out whether or not sexual relationships, attractions, or encounters meant anything to you. I know it may feel like that violence changes you. Maybe it did, maybe it didn’t, but you are still you and I still love you. This is true for all others who were like you.

To all children who hear their peers talk about sexuality and fear in their hearts that something is wrong with them for being unable to relate, whether because of asexuality, sexuality “too soon”, sexuality in “wrong directions”, whatever it is, it is part of you, and it is your normal. You will be okay. People will love you. And those who don’t, or who insist others won’t, are not worth your time. Whether you have found yourself fully yet or not, you deserve to be treated with respect and to not fear, in the way of children, that your life will be over if anyone learns the truth.

To all those who have decided that this message is somehow the “real problem”, the company you keep is violent and dangerous, and I remember your kind. You can’t threaten me into giving up on protecting your victims and I hope someday you realize how much you hurt yourselves by trying.

Pluto in the 5th House

Pluto is one of the most complex planets in astrology. It represents the emotional darkness within us, trauma, things we kept repressed, regeneration, empowerment, fear, transformation, rebirth. It has been labeled as a dark malefic planet, one capable of great damage and destruction since it’s discovery and use in modern astrology. Isabel Hickey describes Pluto as possessing a dual nature; “If he so chooses man can use the line of least resistance and bring himself destruction and misery. When dealing with this most powerful radiation with wisdom and reason, the Minerva aspect of Pluto is in evidence, and the end result is a big step forward for mankind.” Pluto operates on a soul level, the core of our being, and only functions on raw and true emotions. It is representative of the emotions and things we do not want to deal with, for they are too painful for us right now, is what we would say. Pluto hurts us first, bringing forth transformation within the self, and causes metaphorical death of the individual, a rebirth of the self, shedding anew into a being more powerful, wise, and experienced for the world again. In great contrast, the fifth house is the house ruled by Leo - the sign of self will, creativity, romance. The fifth house rules these as well; casual relationships, children, self expression, sex (not to be confused with the 8th house of [intimate] sex, for the fifth house is not intimate on such a soul level), romance, hobbies, interests, attraction, what brings us pleasure/happiness/joy. The fifth house is where we go when we’re enjoying ourselves and letting the self create, indulge in flings and be free.

Any planet in the fifth house is directly tied into the self expression of the chart holder. Some astrologers have compared it to that planet being conjunct the natal sun, because it is so tightly incorporated into the chart holder’s life. We bring our Self into everything we do, and the fifth house doesn’t work without the planet inside of it, it’s always being put to use. Pluto here adds a very magnetic twist to such a sunny house. Those with Pluto in the fifth house, darkness covering the light of the sun, an eclipse is formed. The seriousness of Pluto can overpower the desires of the fifth house; the chart holder may struggle by taking themselves and their loves too seriously, backfiring on themselves creating a struggle to even want to be creative at all. There can be compulsive and ritualistic tendencies when it comes to Pluto due to it’s obsessive nature. Pluto rules our repressed fears and hidden desires; there can be a fear of other’s taking credit for their own work/interests, or of those that are able to easily go after what they desire. There can be much up-tightness with this placement for the chart holder.

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“But what if you meet someone who wants children?”

This sentence is so problematic, but so, so often asked to a young woman who says she doesn’t want children. The insinuation behind this statement is that some hypothetical man’s feelings are more valid and important than a woman’s current, very real feelings. Well, so what if they did meet someone who wanted children? Why are his desires to be a father more important than a woman’s not to? Hyperthetical mens’ feelings are more important than a woman’s real ones. If the burden of parenthood was more fairly balanced in today’s society, it might make sense.

But it’s not. Women have to go through pregnancy (including numerous possible heath, emotional and financial issues) before the child is even born, so why is it still ultimately what is more important to the male?

A woman is also told repeatedly that she will change her mind. She can’t possibly know for sure that she won’t one day wake up and want to be a mother. Because, after all, isn’t that what we’re all here for? Yes we may go through the motions of a career and our young feminist years, but ultimately we all really want to get married and have babies! Anyone who tells you otherwise will change her mind. That or she’ll meet the right man who will want babies, and thus, her purpose on the earth will be served.

The Journey - Part Nine

Hey guys, as promised here goes an update. Thank you @jia911 for the always fast and efficient proofreading and @bluebelle18 for the amazing help with the dialogue transcription from the eps.

Previous chapters are HERE.

Timeline for Part 9:

This chapter explores the events of 11x11, when Amelia is clearly affected by what’s happening to Jackson, Avery and their baby, how Owen notices she is not doing well and the in betweens of their amazing scene at the hospital chapel; It also includes the events of 11x12 (yaaa the part we were all waiting for), when they flirt in such an adorkable way and it leads to… well you know how this ends :) won’t spoil it any more. Let’s get to it!


The Journey – Part Nine

Owen ran back and forth in the ER, trying to get the place running smoothly in April’s absence. He knew that day was going to be especially hard. Even though people didn’t address it directly, they knew about Kepner and Avery’s unborn child’s condition and it felt like everyone was walking around on eggshells, unsure of what to say or do.

The moment he heard Amelia Shepherd thoughtfully suggesting the others to just give them privacy, instead of getting distracted and going back to work like everyone else did, Owen was left intrigued. People were too absorbed with their own problems and tasks to notice it, but the shadow of sadness behind the blue of Amelia’s eyes was immediately spotted by him.

As their coworkers scattered around, Owen quickly hurried his pace to catch up with her.

“Uh, Shepherd, you said you wanted to go over Dr. Herman’s tumor plan.” He reminded her of their encounter that morning. Even though they hadn’t seen each other much for the past few days, Amelia had made sure to keep him informed of her surgical plan. “You want to get lunch?” Owen asked, eager to spend more time with her. Not only did he notice she’d been distant from him ever since the day he’d almost kissed the woman in the skills lab, Amelia also looked sad and he hated to see it.

“Oh, uh… I can’t. I got to push it.”

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“On World Refugee Day, we reflect on the courage of those who have fled and the compassion of those who welcome them.” – United Nations Secretary-General António Guterres.

“I’ve met so many who have lost so much – but they never lose their dreams for their children or their desire to better our world. They ask for little in return – only our support in their time of greatest need.”

On World Refugee Day and every day, tell the world you stand #withrefugees!

📷: +UNHCR, the UN Refugee Agency / Sara Farid

Twins

@drew-winchester here’s the fic I promise, hope you like it!

Perry couldn’t believe her ears, had she heard correctly or had she been mistaken? The little elf wrapped her arms around her belly and looked to the medic.

“Y-You’re sure?” She asked.

The human woman, who had hair like the sun and eyes like the sea, nodded with a smile. “Yes, twins. I cannot tell you yet what they will be, but you are indeed carrying twins…”

Perry pouted and pressed her nose into the book, oh what was she to do? She had been told the news nearly a week ago yet she couldn’t quite grasp that it was actually happening. She was actually having children with the love of her life. With a defeated whimper she pressed her entire face into the book. How was she to tell Khadgar?

Khadgar, Archmage and leader of the Kirin Tor, sweet Khadgar who had been her friend and lover since their teenage years. Eighteen years had passed since she last saw him, since he disappeared into the dark portal with his friends Alleria and Turalyon. When he came back he looked visibly older, no longer the young brown haired boy she once knew. Now he was a man, a human of forty-six years with hair white as snow, hair like her own.

She thought of their reunion, of how a simple “hello” turned into tears and “I missed you”s. How he had been hesitant to look her in the eye because he feared he wasn’t the same person she’d fallen in love with. “Are you not?” She had asked. “Let me see, hm, right.Your hair is white, like mine! And that is a scruffy face. But, oh, look at that. Those eyes, they are just the same- oh! And that smile too.” The mage pulled her in for a gentle kiss which led them to make up for their lost time.

Perry squirmed on her tree branch and ran every possible scenario through her head. Khadgar would be delighted to have children right? That was something all humans wanted. Unlike elves who once lived forever they had no reason to reproduce…but humans didn’t live forever. Would he still desire children this late in his life?

Her ears twitched at the sound of grass crunching beneath a set of boots, the sound stopped at the base of the tree. A familiar voice urged her to peer over the side of the branch and into the eyes of her lover.

“Ah, I knew I would find you here.” The mage smiled. “This was your favorite place to sneak away to when we were young.”

With a smile to match his the elf leapt from the tree and into his arms, the mage laughed and spun her around, he held her close like he used to. In a single moment the present time melted away to reveal the past, Perry giggled at the memory of the first time she pounced the mage. He hadn’t expected her to leap from her tree, he barely caught her before falling flat on his back.

“Khadgar!” The elf smiled and kissed his nose. “I’m pregnant!”

Khadgar felt as though he’d been hit with a frostbolt, his eyes widened and a smile slowly crept onto his face. One of his hands fell from her hair and to her had a slight bump but was still relatively flat.

“Do you know what it will be?” He asked

Perry shook her head, “We’ll find out what they will be the next time I see the medic.”

“They…?” Khadgar breathed. “Twins?”

Perry nodded and Khadgar scooped her up and held her tight, Perry squealed happily and kicked her legs.

When he put her down the mage kept his arms around her and his face buried in the crook of her neck, she felt tears.

“Are those happy tears?” She whispered, stroking his back.

He nodded and fell silent for a moment,“I thought of you every day that passed, every moment of every day for eighteen years. I missed you so much and now…”

He lifted his head and met his gaze, “And now we’re together and have a family…I missed you Khadgar. I thought of you every day.”

The two joined in a kiss and Khadgar sat with Perry under the tree where they talked about names and where to raise them…

Nine months later Perry strolled the streets of Dalaran with one of her children strapped to her back and the other in her arms, she’d given birth to a boy and a girl. Both half elven with their mother’s pointed ears and glowing silver eyes and their fathers nose and skin tone. Perry waited at the steps of the Violet Citadel for her lover who was in the middle of a meeting with the council.

Once the meeting was over he flew down the stairs and swept up his lover and children. The family laughed together and Perry shared another kiss with her mage.

anonymous asked:

Hiii G! Can you rec me some Zarry fics? I adore you!

ooi babe! alright so ……………… here’s my favorites one

By @this-onegoes  (she’s my favourite)

Wash You Away

 Harry has been able to see ghosts since he was ten years old, and no one can know his secret

Slide 

An AU about being a father, having faith, and growing up

On Your Feet 

 AU where Zayn and Harry meet again, six years after they ended up crumbling 

Don’t Make It Bad

oneshot kidfic day-in-the-life AU, so sweet it’ll make your teeth ache

Be Still 

a murder mystery AU ON HOLD/HIATUS  (the one who i’m currently reading)

Others:


Throw Your Heart To Me : 

 Harry stumbles upon a very popular camboy and finds himself asking for a private show. And that’s just the start of the story.

Now or Never: 

  They’ve gone two years without saying a word to each other.

So used (to being used)

or the au where harry is a solo artist and feels like something is missing from his life despite the fame. zayn’s a cross dressing prostitute that sometimes goes by the name veronica and thinks the world’s too big for him. when they meet, it’s a landslide.

Nothing’s Fair In Love And War : 

 Rival witches au.

Keep The Car Running:  

AU where Harry’s a male escort and Zayn’s a professional footballer

Da Mi Basia Mille 

“An idea comes to Harry then, a brilliant, brilliant idea, the best idea he’s ever had, other than the time he thought he should grow his hair out. “New plan. I’m going to kiss you every day until you start thinking you should be kissed every day.”

Flower Power

15 year old Harry gets lost at a festival and meets biker!Zayn, who is all too happy to take care of him…

Kryptonite:  

Harry has wet dreams and Zayn indulges them.

The world has its shine:  

A series of drabbles, focusing on random days in the life of Zayn, Harry and their children.

Undisclosed Desires

Or, the one where Zayn is a journalist in a Horror & Thriller Convention, Harry is a mysterious guest and people die.

Ever Since New York

2 years after Zayn left the band, New York.

Zayn has been living there for some time, and guess who’s currently there for his first ever solo performance?

check my inefficient fic rec tag to more  and here’s some blogs to follow @zarryficlibrary@zarryficexchange@zarryfiction

anonymous asked:

Do you think maybe doing a LI companions learning that the Inquisitor loves children and wants like eight or some other ridiculous number one day?

Cassandra: Huffs and gives the Inquisitor a stern glance. “I hope you’re not expecting me to bear them, then.” She doesn’t mind the idea of having children, but Maker…that would hurt. She would definitely consider adopting, however, but perhaps not that many…

Blackwall: Is initially surprised, and obviously quite intimidated. But after the initial shock wears off, he is rather touched by the idea. He has the image of his Inquisitor and him together in a house by a lake or small village with many children running around them. He would definitely be open to the idea, and would be happy to have as many children as his Inquisitor desires, once everything is done.

Sera: Is also a bit shocked, but then grins and gets rather excited by the idea. “We’ll make our own little crew, yeah? Train ‘em up right and good, and send ‘em sneakin’ into some noble’s place to filch their privates, ha!” She would like the idea of having heaps of children around, having one big family so that nobody would ever be lonely.

Iron Bull: Chuckles at the thought, but is strangely charmed by it. “You really want that many, kadan? I’m on board if you are.” To him, it is natural, after all. A Tamassran would take care of multiple children, he remembered the joys of growing up with many other children, so of course he’d want that, too. 

Dorian: Laughs immediately. “Oh, amatus, one would think that after this Inquisition business, you’d want to live a quiet, peaceful life! Always one to defy expectations, aren’t you?” He would be a bit unsure of having so many children, as he has his own insecurities about his ability to be a good parent, but when he sees his amatus playing with a child, those doubts vanish and he is convinced that it is a wonderful idea. 

Josephine: Has to fan herself with her hand for a moment. “Oh…oh my, that’s quite a lot, isn’t it? Are you sure you want that many? It will be a lot of work…” She does some research immediately, and tries to question various parents she sees in Skyhold about the stresses of a large family. She would take some time to come around to the idea, as it is quite intimidating, but she would eventually fall in love with the thought of having so many children with her Inquisitor. 

Cullen: His eyes widen. “You want how many?” He sighs, and pinches the bridge of his nose. “Maker…” The thought naturally intimidates him, as he always thought that his family had been large enough, let alone having eight children. Once he had a little bit more experience with children, and after the Inquisition business was settling down, he would be much more open to the idea, and would find himself imagining it quite often. He’s been a commander, and he knows that he could handle it. 

Solas: No. No. In no world would he want that many children. Even if there wasn’t the tiny, teensy issue of him wanting to take down all of Thedas, he would still never be comfortable with being responsible for so many children. One or two is the most he could extend himself to, but not so many. But he would let his vhenan know this gently, and tries to ignore the niggling thought in the back of his mind telling him that there will never be any children, let alone eight. 

Pluto in houses 4 - 12

Pluto in the fourth house

At the deepest roots of their life Pluto will be cleansing and transforming in the sphere of family relations and sense of belonging. The fourth house is closely connected with our deepest self, psychological roots and feeling of protection. 

Those born with Pluto in the 4th house may have experienced something dramatic in the family home, and whatever it was it can sometimes make them feel isolated and rootless. Perhaps there was much that was hidden or secret in their childhood, and this has changed them indefinitely.

According to modern astrology the fourth house rules the father, and everything we inherit from our immediate family. Pluto in the 4th house can show early intimidation, and the father may appear threatening to the child, even if his behavior has unwarranted this powerful reaction. On the other hand, the father may have had a profound affect on the individual growing up, and his absence leaves psychological wounds. Another possibility is that he had difficulty in expressing his emotions, suffered from deep depression, and so when he erupted the violence of his reactions frighten a young child. The father may have been over-demanding, over-controlling, over-protective or jealous.

The 4th house can also signify the death of one of the parents, or actual abandonment. Sometimes the death of a family member has effected the child deeply. The parents may have been struggling to come to terms with a significant loss. The family may have broken up, lost its home, suffered bankruptcy, etc. Pluto in the 4th house is deeply private and secretive about their home life. One of the best outlets for this placement is to “dig up” the family history, and explore old secrets. The complexes and traumas formed in early childhood, if unresolved, often seethe below the level of conscious awareness, and the individual carries a hefty weight of grief and resentment over old hurts 

The individual might want to cut off their feelings altogether, it may feel as if something dangerous underneath threatens to overwhelm them. Pluto in the 4th house represents heavy emotional baggage, which must be explored and healed. There may have even been something considered taboo about their roots and parentage, and the family might have been persecuted in the past. A parents paranoia, obsessive behavior or depressive moods, may have permeated the environment.This can all affect how you feel about family and living at home.

When Pluto is placed in the house of the home, they may want to relocate, emigrate, utterly reinvent where they are living, or build a new place to live. This will usually happen when they feel they have outgrown phase of their life.Sometimes forces beyond their control part them with their past, but they will discover a renewed sense of belonging and transform in the process. Pluto in the 4th house may be involved with tearing down old homes and rebuilding them. The home might have been badly damaged and in need of repair. The situation often forces them to tap into their inner resources.

Pluto in the fifth house

With Pluto in the 5th house there is a powerful urge to express creativity, and art may be pursued with obsessive passion. Artwork and hobbies are expressed with drama, intensity and even heaviness. Creative gifts may be out of the ordinary and have a profound effect on others. Those with Pluto here have strong creative forces in whatever they do, and they want to do it to the fullest, they get totally, passionately and even obsessively involved.

However, these people may have to confront psychological blocks and  re-examine early childhood and see what type of encouragement was received and how others responded to their taste for drama. The labour of creating something can be a long and painful process until they face whatever complexes are rooted in the 5th house. Still, their desire for personal recognition is compelling, and if they do not achieve personal success they may try to force their children  to fulfill their desires for them.

Pluto in the 5th house is over-protective of loved ones and children, and they share a deep and loving bond. Sometimes there is over-possessiveness and smothering. The birth of a child can completely transform their life. The eldest child may undergo a crisis of some kind, or their personality is strongly Plutonian. Astrologer Sue Tompkins says:

A deep desire to have children can be indicated with this placement, which can also sometimes be indicative of miscarriages and abortions if other factors in the horoscope concur. Occasionally it equates with putting a child up for adoption.

 Love affairs are often consuming and emotionally exhausting and they may become obsessed, fixated and jealous of a lover. Pluto in the 5th house is popularly known amongst astrologers as the “fatal attraction” position, and it sometimes indicates a secret or hidden affair. The individual may fall in love with someone who is passionate, jealous, domineering or emotionally turbulent. Pluto here is not likely to take the affairs of the heart lightly and each romance is seen as some kind of fate. Pluto in the 5th house may also indicate a hidden need for love, flattery and attention.

They can act as natural leaders and pioneers, and objectively understand how to guide individual development and actualization of those they touch. The other day I was watching several children play. They were all four and five year olds. At one point an eighteen month old baby wandered by these children. This little girl had a tremendously powerful aura. All the four and five year old children stopped what they were doing and began to follow her. Mesmerized they simply fell in line with this child. After watching this scene I asked the mother for her birth data. As it turned out, the little one had Pluto conjunct Saturn in the 5th house. This intrinsic leadership capacity created an almost Pied-Piper - like effect upon the four and five year olds even though she was only eighteen months old. Jeff Green

There is often a burning desire within to create and sexuality can be intense. A powerful sense of self-importance may be present, alternatively they hide their creativity and sense of specialness. Sometimes art is created in reaction to a trauma, conflict and upheaval. The creative self-expression is used as a healing tool.

Pluto in the sixth house

Those with Pluto in the 6th house can have an obsession with routine and ritual. The 6th house rules over our day-to-day routine of life. The 6th house also describes how we get along with our co-workers and the people we are serving and who serve us. People with this placement of Pluto may possibly have power-struggles in the place of work, and sometimes the individual gives the impression of being threatening, intimidating and hostile to other people. 

Instead those at work bully or threaten this person, and betrayal, treachery, jealousy, bitchiness and intrigue is not uncommon. This position of Pluto does not react well to criticism at work and they can also be ruthless with others on the job. Alternatively, they may be over-zealous in their work practices, powerful and efficient in routine and executing the job the right-way. Pluto can transform work conditions, lifestyle and routine, and the individual has tremendous organizational capability, excelling at  precision work.

These people can be a dynamo at work and have laser-like focus on what needs to be done within a schedule. Pluto in the 6th house desires and ensures that the job gets done right and they are passionate in the workplace, no one is more loyal, committed and dedicated to service. Furthermore, there is also a need to make sweeping changes in the office, factory or workshop.

In some cases the work is Plutonian by nature: Psychology, healing, detective, investigation, research, mortician and so forth. In addition, there is also the tendency towards obsession with work and some individuals function like workaholics. Pluto here may be over-consumed with the minor details and tend to over-analyse problems to death. 

The work-life may go through cycles of change and they may stay in a job for years, until fate pushes them in a completely new direction. Sometimes there can be losses at work, or conditions beyond their control. Losing a job can have a serious psychological impact. Pluto here is invested, driven and compulsive in their work. Wherever Pluto is placed is where the individual may have to face a life and death struggle, and so crisis at work, health troubles or pet matters may be areas of concern.

Persons with Pluto in the 6th house can explore the functions of the mind and body in all-encompassing depth, complexity and penetration. This placement can indicate the eruption of health problems, and therefore the whole diet, regime and lifestyle will need an over-haul. The body needs to get rid of bodily toxins and poisons. For example, Demi Moore has Pluto in the 6th house and this woman is into dangerous detox diets and exercise. Pluto in 6th house diets are severe, and the body survives on minute quantities of food. Sometimes there are major control issues with the body. The person tries various rebuilding techniques, and there often a tremendous amount of effort put into self-improvement.

Pluto in the seventh house

Those with Pluto in the 7th housewill find that partnerships are the catalyst or agents for personal transformation and change. It is the area of relationships that plunge them into deep emotional complexes, testing the depth of their unions, and building and rebuilding contacts with others.

Wherever Pluto is placed in the chart is where we are emotionally wounded, and so when Pluto is placed in the 7th house it is our dealing with others where we find eruptions, blow ups and upheaval. Any problems with a partner will tend to simmer and seethe under the surface, and since Pluto is the planet of extremes, these people are learning to relate in a balanced and cooperative way.

The issue of who holds the power in the relationship is brought into sharp focus, and this may require a complete breakdown and rebuilding of the relationship. Pluto here can indicate power struggles with business partners or those involved in joint projects. The person can also form alliances with powerful people, and these individuals often have a tremendous impact on their future.

Relationships will never stay the same and they encounter people with enormous emotion, passion and vulnerability. Often these people believe that they have met their soul mate and that he or she has known this person in former lives. According to past life astrologers the individual has chosen to empower themselves in relationships this lifetime by overcoming the same emotionally abusive relationships that controlled them in a previous life.

The person may feel haunted by all past relationships and so resentment, guilt and feelings of persecution at the hands of others needs to be healed. Empowering themselves in relationships is the key to understanding their evolutionary development. Many people with Pluto in the 7th house are here to empower others and make very good counsellors, healers and agents for change.

The proclivity for destruction exists in the area of relating and Pluto stirs deep feelings in this house. The potential for treachery, betrayal, secrecy, jealousy, abuse and severe trust issues in relationships may threaten the strength of any bond. The people they get involved with will often mirror back the shadowy parts of themselves that have not been allowed full consciousness.

Pluto here can have difficulty trusting a partner and feeling safe in a union, and these people are working on exposing all issues within the relationship and healing them. There can be divorce or the loss of a partner through death, and it can become the single obsession of their lives. Similarly, they may fear the loss of a partner and attempt to control and dominate the relationship. There can be difficulty in letting go of a partner, and their own destiny is so tightly wound with him or her that to lose them would feel like a death.

Some Pluto in 7th house people have helped a partner through a terminal condition, depression or mental illness and there is usually a fated feeling about relationships. The partner is sometimes emotionally troubled and involved in criminal and underground activities. Conversely, the partner has a Plutonian vocation, and perhaps they work in the police force, psychology, or healing practices.

Pluto in the eighth house

Those with Pluto in the 8th house possess the power to drastically change the lives of others. Pluto is placed in a very powerful and dominant position, but when its natural energies are obstructed it can lead to a build-up of repressed desires, which burst through consciousness, and all hell breaks loose.

Many astrologers believe that when Pluto is placed in the 8th house of the horoscope the individual will experience at least one major life change. Pluto can plunge the native into the intensity of the underworld through a connection with profound issues such as sex, death, power and survival.

With all planets in the 8th house the individual needs to seek empowerment, which refers to the acquisition of power rather than wielding it over others. Additionally, ignoring such powerful intense desires will leave the soul feeling powerless, frightened and overwhelmed. 

Partnerships may involve power-struggles, physical or emotional violence or the breaking of taboos. Some have a propensity for troubled relationships, and it involves long-drawn out conflict over inheritance, sex, business deals and divorce settlements. Relationships can be damaged as a result, and we can recognize this pattern in many couples with silent stand-offs, withdrawal, ambivalence, distrust, anger, blame and an emotional tug of war.

When a relationship has a power-struggle brewing underneath, and the two people begin to test the waters (8th), each partner sheds their inhibitions and lets their real self-emerge. Pluto in the 8th house describes this exchange of intensity and pronounces the desire to transform relationships, and so intense engagement doesn’t have to threaten a relationship, it can help it grow, develop and heal.

The problems arising in the present are often fuelled by the unconscious, and the 8th house represents our psychic inheritance. The family demons may include: death, abuse, emotional manipulation, nasty parental divorce, violence, suicide or mental illness. According to Jungian astrology many 8th house people are born to be the “curse breaker” of the family. Indeed, if the individual can wield such power, they can also bring profound healing. They have a talent for transforming, and their strong will power often equates with an all or nothing attitude.

Pluto in the 8th house can have a compulsive fascination with death and some have an unconscious death wish. Eighth house people are intensely probing and are often interested in dark subjects like the occult, psychology and unsolved mysteries. Inner growth may be a lifelong interest. Pluto here may also have strong psychic powers, and this placement gives the individual added insights.

Pluto here also indicates research ability and the person is willing to dig deep and they may also possess a secretive nature. Issues of life and death may consume them, and the individual  may be able to assist those who are emotionally or mentally disturbed.

Pluto in the ninth house

Those with Pluto in the 9th house may go through a philosophical overhaul and dramatic crisis in life come as a result of belief systems. They may be fascinated with alchemy, archaeology, pre-history, magic, or the occult. This is also an excellent placement for anyone involved in psychology, research and things of an investigative nature. The image of God is characterised by deep, personal experience of transformation. The individual holds the belief that knowledge is power, and they are keen on studying, and there is a feeling that one must root out this knowledge for themselves. 


Pluto will tear everything apart until it finds the hidden meaning. Higher education may have a profound impact on the individual for one reason or another, and they could dramatically switch courses. They are often insatiable to find answers to some of life’s bigger questions, and need to understand the laws and patterns which govern life. Pluto in the 9th house desperately needs to find some meaning in their lives, it’s as if their very survival depends on understanding the world at large. 

Much will depend upon the nature of the ideology they adopt, and at the extreme level they may be a religious fanatic, or a revolutionary attempting to force their worldview on others. Similarly they may also feel persecuted for what they believe, and philosophies are torn down and restructured. Some feel betrayed by the belief system they have followed, and the collapse and deep loss of faith can be overwhelming. The way the individual views and perceives life will undergo major adjustments, and they might even have to face some form of prejudice – either from groups or mainstream society. 

There is an intensive struggle for the deeper truths in life, and travelling to places may involve some kind of trauma, crisis or death. Moreover the individual may feel dramatically transformed while travelling and experiencing different cultures. Pluto’s position in the 9th house brings feelings of rootlessness so that the view of life or religion has to be looked for elsewhere. The search for a new vision may become obsessive, and for some there is a deep dislike of hypocrisy. The higher mind goes through periodic purges and at certain points in their lives they follow a course of study, religion or philosophy with conviction. 

Pluto in the 9th house wants to discover the meaning of the universe, and they can be adept at understanding the deeper aspects of education, teaching and travelling. The 9th house is also related to the higher courts and legal battles are long drawn out and painful. Sometimes there are even some disputes with the in-laws. There will be times in their lives that they passionately crusade something they deem noble and important. The individual can be instrumental in bringing about change in areas of higher learning, religion, or other studies, and radically alter their own perspective in the process.

Pluto in the tenth house

Those with Pluto in the 10th house have their compulsive nature focused on worldly ambitions, and expression of authority. They are likely to find themselves in positions of power and there is an insatiable drive towards success. The individual has a strong striving for impact and influence in society, and may be completely obsessed with their calling in life. They can become consumed by their career and their need for professional success is always intensified.

Pluto here has tremendous determination and great organisation skills. Some work in Plutonian areas like psychology, mining, healing, investigating, or business, but usually one deals with the issue of power, and sometimes the individual seeks to expose the establishment, and this placement can indicate a troubling relationship with authority figures. Those with Pluto in the 10th house may face humiliating experiences at the hands of those in power. Sometimes there is a distrust of those in authority, and Pluto in the 10th house needs to periodically tear down structures and rebuild them. In some cases this may mean leaving an established career, and embarking on a radically different one. They may be subject to career upheavals, public disgrace, have their reputation destroyed, or see the destruction of their career. 

The individual may face forced redundancy, complete takeover, or witness a business collapsing. Sometimes they can no longer tolerate their career and don’t feel as if they are passionately engaged anymore. However, even in all of these cases the person has the ability to regenerate their career and vocation, pick up the pieces and start all over again.

Negatively the shadowy side of Pluto may enter their career and the individual may be ruthless, manipulative, secretive and underhanded in business. However, for most people they are challenged to learn how to use the right amount of assertiveness to avoid power-struggles when they reach the top. Pluto’s position in any of the houses shows the use and abuse of power, and when Pluto is in the 10th house they are very sensitive to the issue of control.

Pluto in this position may have grown up with a dominant parent, and viewed them as oppressive or controlling. Whatever the case, the parent wields an enormous amount of power in the family. Similarly they may view them as dark, possessive and threatening. In reality the parent may not be this way at all, and she may have struggled successfully with some crisis or trauma, but the individual may feel sensitive and vulnerable in their presence. Sometimes it can mean the death of parent or early emotional problems.

Pluto in the 10th house may be responsible for transforming society and tearing down old systems that have become outworn and out-dated. The individual also lets nothing stand in the way of their ambition, and they want to remake and change the world in some significant way.

Pluto in the eleventh house 
Those with Pluto in the 11th house may find intense emotional experiences through groups, friendships, and society at large. The death or loss of friends can affect these people deeply. A crisis of some kind could lead these individuals to take up a cause, and fight for social change in some area.

The individual may wish to transform society to knock it down and rebuild it from scratch. These people can display extraordinary passion towards groups of people, social ideals and movements. The forming of any of these alliances creates profound and life-altering change in the individual. People they acquaint with are the catalysts for growth.

The individuals they meet have an affect on the life for a very long time. It may not be easy to shake off the experiences he or she has with groups, friends and alliances. They may form life-changing relationships, but they are also likely to be fuelled with drama at times. Some of these people feel very uncomfortable in group situations, and they can become paranoid in crowds of people. The individual is quite aware of the darker thoughts and feelings of any group.

Those with Pluto here might find themselves resentful, jealous and mistrustful of friends. The need to control and dominate a group may also be a problem, and they find themselves feeling disturbed, isolated and deeply impacted within social networks of people. The Pluto in 11th house soul also feels that these activities can become demanding and overwhelming on his or her life.

Wherever Pluto is placed there is always that feeling that fate, destiny or karma is at work. With Pluto in the 11th house a compulsive relationship with a friend and the extremes of emotion experienced with this person could be one theme repeating in their life. Those with Pluto here will fight tooth and nail for friends.  Some friendships may prove difficult and they may cause problems through sexual tensions, violence abuse, blackmail and dangerous power struggles.

A mistrust of others often develops, but with Pluto we first view the dark side of a situation and so come across some unethical predicaments. The feeling of powerlessness and helplessness with deep-reaching transformations is another possibility and this usually happens through groups, charities and memberships involving large organizations.

This placement is often associated with replacing one group of associates with another, so that they form a whole new group. It can also bring bring deep, rewarding and powerfully loyal relationships, and the individual may be interested in scientific or humanitarian pursuits, and the repression of freedom could be a powerful issue raised.

Pluto in the twelfth house

Those with Pluto in the 12th house have a deep interest in secrets, the unconscious, and anything mysterious. Psychoanalysis, investigating dreams and other methods of uncovering mysteries are interesting to them. They may be exceptionally perceptive intuitively or psychically.

Stephen Arroyo: Astrology Karma and Transformation points out that the twelfth house reveals influences beyond our conscious control. Planets here symbolize forces which often overwhelm us.

Therefore the individual born with Pluto in the twelfth house sphere has the challenge of not feeling overwhelmed by the collective shadow of suffering, sadness and grief. Pluto in the 12th house has unfathomable and complex emotional guilt and feelings of persecution, and it is not unlikely for this individual to take on the role of family scapegoat. Frequently there is a dark history of abuse, brutality, or violence, and the individual senses that there is something shadowy lurking in the background.

Pluto is working on transforming the collective shadow, and the task is to bring those repressed parts that are weak and undeveloped into full awareness so that they are faced and integrated into the personality. Blocked energy in the unconscious can be released through therapy, self-analysis and dream-work. The depths of the subconscious are explored, and there may be a powerful urge to study psychology or another avenue that explores the unconscious realms of the human psyche.

Pluto in the 12th house possesses a psychic sensitivity to the hidden lives of others. Sue Tompkins says this placement is like a psychic refuse bin, and they absorb the negativity around them; all the unexpressed grief and fears that others conceal behind a happy face. Problematic areas relating to the 12th house are unseen health problems, addictions, excessive escapism, and an overwhelming feeling of powerlessness.

Pluto is sensitive to what is dark and destructive in society. Self-destructive, suicidal, paranoid and destructive fantasies leave the individual feeling helpless and unable to prevent something bad from happening. Yet, this is also a frequent placement in the charts of those who work in mental health, crisis situations, counselling, and crime prevention. 

There is a deep need to do something for humanity that will benefit others and themselves. Pluto in the 12th house possesses a deep reservoir of healing power, regenerative ability, capability and strength in the face of unimaginable terror. The person can go through sustained periods of inner growth and periodic transformations and personal crisis are experienced liberally throughout their lifetime.

Common characteristics of Pluto in the twelfth house include: being deeply private, not what they seem as interpreted in other’s eyes, deeply sensitive; taking things to heart; being amazingly shy at a core level; being ultra-emotional; although you may not know it, they can be extremely giving in a silent way; having many deep and unresolved fears, and aura of dreaminess, and powerful dreams or never any dreams because of exhaustion; being naturally psychic. By Jeff Green

source: http://theastrologyplace.blogspot.nl/

anonymous asked:

Hello, in the post you reblogged recently about how to recognize anti-autism organizations one of the posters mentioned behaviour analysis as a form of child abuse. What is it? Is it (primarily) a dehumanization tactic like the literal meaning of the words may imply or is it something different? Thanks in advance -anonymous a.

Behavior analysis is also known as Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) which is a form of therapy used on autistic children. The goal of ABA is to make an autistic child “indistinguishable from peers”, i.e. force them to fake being neurotypical which is detrimental to the child. This is achieved through a method of rewards and aversives, in other words rewarding children for desired behavior and punishing them for unwanted behaviors. Often the unwanted behaviors are not harmful to the child (like stimming), but being forced to stop these behaviors is. The forms of aversives used vary from place to place but have included withholding food, Tabasco sauce on the tongue, and much worse. For more information about ABA therapy from people who speak about this far better than I do, check out these posts.