Are You A Narcissist A Codependent-or-Both?
Are You A Narcissist or A Codependent-or-Both?
Ever wonder if you were a narcissist? If so, you’re not a narcissist :)
Very often times codependents can be just as aggressive as they can be passive. When ‘nice’ codependents have had enough of being pushed around, sometimes they lash out and can sound like tyrants. The key is however, they don’t leave the relationships that are causing them distress.
If you are codependent, chances are you have been both very kind, very passive, and also nasty, condescending, passive aggressive, and withholding. One of the most popular weapons of a codependent is the silent treatment. A codependent will do everything you expect them to do, but watch out! When they get tired, or sick, or have had just about enough of being pushed around, they can lash out and sound very much like a narcissist.
It is important to remember that codependents bark but don’t bite. They complain but rarely if ever set boundaries. They are caught on ferris wheels of emotions, and do not know how to get off. They simply do not have the data they need in their minds to stop the insanity.
When we are dedicated to recovery, we learn to seek the middle ground. We strive towards finding inner harmony, and learn to be extremely protective of our personal vibrations. We realize that no one can really effect our vibrations unless we give others the right to.
Children of narcissistic parents, who are now suffering with codependency symptoms, may be struggling to learn how to love themselves after narcissistic abuse. Narcissists tend to attract people pleasers, or codependent personalities. Because codependents are eager to please, because they seek outside validation, they are easy targets for narcissistic lovers, and friends.
It is not easy to learn how to love yourself after narcissistic abuse, but with the right codependency recovery tools it is possible. It is even possible to find love after codependency.