anonymous asked:

I don't know if it's just me but I get really pissed off when some anti calls Snape "Snivellus" in a post. Mosti posts I read warily and some ridiculous stuff (girl Harry) just makes me roll my eyes but I get instinctively angry when anyone calls him, even in the text.

If you read a story where one character is bullied and called a horrible name, and your reaction is not revulsion, but to adopt and use that horrible name yourself…

…well, that says an awful lot about you.

Confession #2,583

I have fibromyalgia and have what people consider “odd symptoms” and basically say since they aren’t the normal ones I don’t have it. Well, I’m sorry, but, yes I do. I’ve been dealing with symptoms for 10 years and was finally diagnosed in November 2016. Whether I have the normal symptoms or not, I was given a diagnosis. And if I have to find legitimate websites about my fibromyalgia symptoms to prove they are a symptom, then I will, if it gets you to stop bullying me and putting me down. Why can’t you be mature and believe me?

A Reminder

I know that I don’t post a lot of text post on here. Although, today I’m going to make an exception. I just wanted to make sure each and every one of you knows that you are an exceptional person and being unique is what makes you truly special in life. Being unique means you are mature and well adapted enough to take charge and pave a path for yourself that nobody has ever taken before, or choosing to go down a path that is less traveled. However, because you have found it in yourself to become a leader and take charge of yourself and your journey you are accepting all the trials and tribulations that come with it. Unfortunately, this means you are bound to run into people who will try to create obstacles or provoke you into getting off your chosen path. This can be from name calling to bullying/harassment but don’t let that bother or deter you. Do you know why? because you are stronger than them. You have managed to get this far with being bumped, bruised, and covered in the blood, sweat, and tears of what is required to pave your path. The path designed and created by you and for you, and I know you know that this journey wasn’t easy or pretty, you had to fight it tooth and nail for it. Although your path isn’t complete and it still might not be perfect it can still have flaws take pride and comfort in yourself that you have made and are still able to keep pushing till you reach your goals. As for the people who try to steer of your path. They are completely irrelivant and they do this to you because they havent found the path that they are looking for along with lacking the maturity to even start to find their own way and become indepent. Sadly, these types of people will always exist and find a way into way into you path to tear you down and blind you from your truth and your way. Just always remeber that they are not helping you in your day to day strugles,helping you stay alive, or helping your pave your path. Since these are the things that sustain you and keep you moving and they arent apart of it proves the worthlesness of giving them the time of day. Just keep moving till you reach your happy ending keeping those who push you and help you succeed. Remeber your strength is in your uniqness and dont let anyone tear you down.

anonymous asked:

Do you think Snape's classroom behaviour was abusive? I've seen this word get thrown around a lot lately, and while he definitely bullied them, I'm unsure whether it crosses the line into abusive.

I think the problem is terminology, really.

In my experience, bullying and abusing are two distinct words - however, I accept that, particularly in American English, bullying now comes under the umbrella term of abusive behaviour.  The difficulty for me, is that in British English, abusive has slightly different connotations.  Bullying can be part of abusive behaviour - but if you were to say:

X bullied me.  X is a bully.

it has very different connotations to:

X abuses me.  X is an abuser.

…and I think that’s what causes a lot of Snape fans to be left staring at the screen going, “Wait, he didn’t abuse them.”

The other complexity is that everyone has different levels of acceptance of classroom behaviour.  I appreciate that just because I read Potter and went, “Yeah, whatever, I had worse teachers - his bark is worse than his bite,” - that doesn’t invalidate other people who had a different reaction.

…but I do think that Snape is of his time and should be judged as such.  When I read stories set in the 1930s and characters are caned by teachers for misbehaviour, I didn’t think, “They were abusive!” - although their actions certainly were physical abuse.  I accepted the era that I was reading, and that the teachers were behaving in the way they were expected to.

Importantly, Snape as we see him is a teacher between 1991 and 1998.  Speaking as someone who was at school in the UK during these years, his behaviour was not outrageous.  I realise that might be difficult for some people to accept, but it’s the truth - UK schools in the 90s were very different to how they are now, and are incredibly different from schools in other countries both now and two decades ago.  

To me, the outcry in response to his actions shows that the person arguing has not taken into account the wider context.  And that’s the key answer:  Snape’s behaviour is accepted by the rest of the teachers, and the Headmaster, and the Ministry - so even if you read it now and think, “Well, that’s not on,” - it was regarded as acceptable within the universe, and he should be judged accordingly.

But yes, although I understand the logic, to me, the terminology doesn’t fit.  You’ll notice that although James and Sirius et al mercilessly bullied Severus, I don’t refer to them as abusers; same difference.

[Ao3] I Got My Ion You

Title: I Got My Ion You
Author: bronzegyu
Pairing(s): Meanie, side!verkwan
Status: Ongoing
Length: Chaptered
Rating: PG
Genre/AU: High School AU, Romance, Comedy, Fluff, Angst
Warnings: bullying

Summary: Group work is tough. Especially if you’re Jeon Wonwoo, an uptight Valedictorian, and your lab partner is a 6 foot tall hot (literally) mess otherwise known as Kim Mingyu.

To make things worse Wonwoo finds himself stuck in the middle of a clique he doesn’t really like with the new kid Vernon. Will Wonwoo ditch his friends and his set out plan in the middle of his senior year for the clumsy and mysterious art kid Mingyu or will he end up doing something he regrets?

Admin’s Thoughts: Y’all should check out this meanie fic it was actually written by one of the admins! watch out for that slow burn tho

Listen.

It’s not okay to have your child be scared of you. That isn’t respect. That’s control. 

It’s not okay to have your child obey you at all times in order for you to love them. That isn’t high standards. That’s manipulation.

It’s not okay to force your child become what you wanted to become. That isn’t wanting the best for them. That’s living vicariously through them.

It’s not okay to take away your child’s basic needs as a punishment. That isn’t teaching them. That’s hindering them. 

It’s not okay to dictate your child’s sexuality or gender. That isn’t normalizing them. That’s repressing them.

It’s not okay to berate your child’s appearance or intelligence for being what you think is sub-par. That isn’t toughening them. That’s bullying them.

It’s not okay to take out your stress on your child. That isn’t parenting. That is abusing.

It’s completely okay to distance yourself from your parents. That’s not unloving. That, sometimes, is self care.

(Dear mom and dad, please don’t kill me over this permanent choice. I want you to hear me out.)

Today, I am coming out with something that only few of you know. I am ready to have a conversation about my mental illness.

Last year, I was diagnosed with depression. And in all honesty, I believe it was a problem for quite a while before that, but I think it just got worse to the point of hardly functioning.

So today, I got this tattoo. I feel that my leg was the best place for the meaning behind it. When everyone else sees it, they see “I’m fine,” but from my viewpoint, it reads “save me.” To me, it means that others see this person that seems okay, but, in reality, is not okay at all. It reminds me that people who may appear happy, may be at battle with themselves.

To me, depression is the days that I feel sad for no reason.
Depression is the mornings that I don’t feel capable of getting out of bed.
Depression is the sleeping too much, or sleeping too little.
Depression is the homework that I never completed, simply because I didn’t feel like I was capable.
Depression is the break downs I have over absolutely nothing.
Depression is the eating too much, or eating too little.
Depression is the nights I begin to cry because I feel so overwhelmed, even though everything is going right.
Depression is the 50 pounds I carry in my chest at all times.
Depression is the need to constantly be distracted (being on social media, playing video games, watching movies or shows, or working all the time) because I can’t trust myself with my thoughts for longer than 3 minutes.
Depression is the friendships that have suffered because of my inability to function.
Depression is the hurtful thoughts and actions I have towards myself.
Depression is the tears I have because I don’t know why I feel so worthless, when I know I should feel happy.

This is one of the most difficult things to open up about because it’s extremely hard for me to feel vulnerable…but this needs to be talked about. Mental illness is serious, but so shamed in our society. We care so much for our physical health, but hardly a thing about our mental state. And that is seriously messed up. Mental illness is not a choice and will likely hit everyone at some point in their life. If it’s such a huge issue, why aren’t we having this conversation about it?

That’s why I got this tattoo; they are great conversation starters. This forces me to talk about my own struggle, and why the awareness of it is important. You’d be surprised by how many people YOU know that struggle with depression, anxiety, or other mental illness. I may only be one person, but one can save another…and that’s all I could really ask for.

Maybe this is part of why I am so interested in psychology. I want to help people who feel the way I have—and still do—because it’s hell. And I don’t wish that upon anyone.

“I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that.”
—Robin Williams

**Also, THANK YOU to the ones who have helped me in this battle. I would not be where I am without you.**

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Hilarious and sad at the same time.

Bart called them out on their dumb, cliched lines. And how stupid they ultimately were.

Then you realize these three depraved kids simply can’t understand that a nice normal loving mom like Marge does buy pyjamas for her 10 year old son. Obviously she does. It’s why they’re so stunned. They have no concept of that. 

(We were told more than once Nelson, at least, was neglected by his mother.)

Bart is incredibly lucky compared to those three.

One of the deepest, darkest moments of the show, IMO.

so this is basically what i think about the school systems policies on bullying… when i was in like middle school there was this girl who was mentally ill and poor, and she was relentlessly bullied by pretty much all the kids in my school and one day she sat at the only spot open at a lunch table to eat and every kid at the table got up and left, and so like I yelled at them for being fucking assholes because … it was.. obviously fucked up?

and you know what the teacher who saw this did… they rewarded me for doing the literal bare minimum. I got like some voucher for food you could buy at the school instead of getting regular school lunch. 

they didn’t reprimand the students who were being fucking assholes and they literally never asked the girl if she was okay or talked to her about it or tried to stop the bullying themselves, as they stood there the entire time this happened.

They rewarded me … who had absolutely nothing to lose, and was not harmed by any of the actions.

From what I’ve seen in school the teachers literally don’t care about the victims of bullying, they simply want to act like they do lmao. In my experience everything they do to stop bullying is performative, nothing more.

I’d even go as far as to say some teachers actively engage in, and encourage, bullying. Lets be honest, it’s been said before, people are bullied typically because they’re members of marginalized groups, and the fastest way for a teacher to become liked by the majority of their students is to pick on the kids they already know the other students hate.

Teachers absolutely have something to lose when defending marginalized children, and they’d rather appeal to those students who aren’t marginalized because it makes their job easier when the majority of their students like and respect them.

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These Muslim kids are only in elementary school — and in the classroom, they’re called terrorists.

  • Since President Donald Trump was elected, civil rights groups have noticed an uptick in schoolchildren quoting the president’s own words to bully their peers.
  • Forty-two percent of Muslim families reported their children had experiences with anti-Muslim bullying, according to a 2017 study from the Institute for Social Policy and Understanding.
  • One in four of these reported incidents came from teachers or other school officials.
  • Mic interviewed four Muslim schoolchildren in New York to hear about their experiences in the classroom: Moheeb, 11, Shahrazad, 8, Enan, 10, and Saif, 11. 
  • These Muslim kids don’t know much about Trump other than the fact he’s the president of the United States and wants to ban Muslims. 
  • This doesn’t bode well for Shahrazad and her family in war-torn Yemen.
  • “I have family in Yemen,” Shahrazad said. “[They] can’t come if Donald Trump makes another ban. When I pray, I ask God to help America and Yemen.” Read more (6/14/17)

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This is kind of personal to me because i was made to feel ashamed for being autistic but there’s nothing to be ashamed of and people need to stop mocking those with autism when they have no clue what autism is. People with it have nothing to feel bad about x