A funny (but too true) look at the difference between coming out as gay versus coming out as bisexual. 

Check out what School Library Journal had to say about this bisexual book!

Gr 10 Up. Tanner’s family moved from California to Provo, Utah, almost two years ago. They are one of the very few non-Mormon families in town, with a mother who left the Mormon church in college and a nonpracticing Jewish father. Although Tanner’s family is exuberantly supportive of his bisexuality, they all agree it’s safest to keep it to himself in the ultra-conservative town. With only one semester until graduation, Tanner plans to keep his head down and escape unscathed. Then Sebastian Brothers walks into his life. Sebastian is mentoring the school’s legendary novel writing seminar, after having his own class novel bought for publication. Tanner is in lust at first sight, but Sebastian is the son of the Mormon bishop. As Sebastian begins to return Tanner’s flirtation, questions arise about how far he’s willing to push his faith and how satisfied Tanner can be in the shadows. The duo writing team (Christina Hobbs & Lauren Billings) brings an impressively balanced approach to writing about the conflict between sexuality and strict religion. Members of the Mormon church are not painted as one-dimensional villains, but as multifaceted individuals with merits and faults. Sebastian is a devoted Mormon even as he struggles to justify his attraction to the same sex. Occasionally, the major characters are too effortlessly talented and popular, with their flaws only emerging when narratively convenient. Regardless, the teenagers are modern and relatable and the plot is emotionally engaging without becoming dark. VERDICT A thoughtful variation on the traditional high school LGBTQ+ romance

Check out my new kicks. :-)

The colors might not show up correctly on all monitors, but these are some Converse All Stars in the bi-colors: Pink, Blue, and Purple. They were custom ordered–you might say “bispoke”–for me by my fantastic wife (Fierce Ally ™) and given to me as one of the best surprise Christmas presents I’ve ever gotten. I’ve had to resist the urge to wear them everywhere, with everything. (They’re not suitable for the weather this time of year in Boston, nor for every outfit or occasion.) But I’m wearing them as much as I can.

Including to the SuperCuts the other day, where the stylist noticed them and in the middle of the full store, said to me, “Oh, those are awesome. What do the colors mean?”

I had a split second to decide if I was going to “out” myself to an entire store full of strangers.

I went for it. “Oh, they’re the bisexual colors. I’m bisexual, and my wife got me these as a Christmas present.”

The stylist said, “That’s fantastic. They’re great.” The dude in the chair across from me swiveled around saying, “You have bisexual sneakers? I have to see them….” and seemed totally chill as well as admiring of them. A few other people within earshot just chuckled. Only one, who had been looking at them and listening, was noticeably silent and suddenly found her magazine very interesting.

My heart was racing. These little moments, unexpected, when we need to claim our identities in public, in front of strangers, still throw me more than anything else. But I figured if I was going to wear these shoes, well….I’d better be willing to walk the walk. And I was happy to do it looking so cool.

Love and Appreciation

To Bi Men that are out and proud

To Bi Men that aren’t out but wish they could be

To Bi Men that aren’t out and will never come out

To Bi Men dating/married to a woman

To Bi Men dating/married to a man

To Bi Men dating/married to a nb person

To Bi Trans Men

To Bi/NB Men

To Bi Men just now realizing they’re Bi

To Bi Men that think it’s too late to explore their sexuality

We love you and your community is here for you

Where are the bisexual men

It seems everything I see about accepting bisexuals and educating people on biphobia is all about bisexual girls. No wonder people think men can’t be bisexual, no one is talking about their existence, and I don’t mean just “bisexual men are valid” posts. Let’s get some bisexual men representation out there


These last few months have been a struggle but I’ve always found time to laugh and smile, even if it was at myself. Happy Blackout, y'all! ✊🏿🏳️‍🌈