I️ am lucky to have a great dad. It gave me the belief from an early age that men are good, and will do what is right. That they will champion, and even protect, the women they care about…just as I️ would protect any man I️ love.
That belief system crashing down around me this year has been a pretty significant disappointment. I️ have had to deal with a situation over the last several months where a man with significant power over my career has made me very uncomfortable.
I️ was crying while watching CBS this morning - not only over the new allegations against Charlie Rose, but a panel they were featuring where women were speaking candidly about how widespread these issues are. How this pervasive behavior affects confidence and self-worth and just how oblivious men are to women dealing with this on a daily basis. It’s overwhelming to think that almost every woman I️ know has a story.
I️ had an honest conversation with my partner tonight about how disappointed I️ am with my situation. These men that I️ trust, respect, and even love - when I️ came to them for help and advice, first they laughed and then when they saw things firsthand chose not to say anything to their equal. It’s devastating. As much as it may be something I️ should handle myself, I️ would have felt so supported if a man who is this guy’s equivalent in the workplace would have intervened. Not that women need any more responsibility at the moment, but I️ felt better telling my partner that we need the good guys to step up. We need them to leave the good old boys club and do what is right instead of just being content in not doing “wrong.”
It is also my belief that women make the world go round, but it wouldn’t hurt to have some friends with us.