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—  arin hanson, by way of four (?) runs through the crytype-ifier

I don’t even know how to caption this. This still hits me so hard every time. Not just the emotion, but the message behind this is so important. She was with him because she didn’t think any one else would ever love her, and now she decides that loving herself is enough. She chooses to love herself, instead of being loved by someone who didn’t deserve her. Love yourself, so no one has to. It’s the most important thing.

not that i still watch glee, but:

i heard a few weeks back that dot-marie jones’ character on glee, Coach Beiste, had recently been rewritten as a trans man for the show’s last season. after 4 years of playing a strong, tomboy-ish, very masculine cis woman who identified with womanhood and identified as straight, jones is now going to play a trans man (presumably gay) – which has also been a convenient excuse to write glee’s black trans girl character out of the show.

this development makes me really angry as a butch woman and as a feminist. Jones was quoted in People, saying: “I just didn’t want to let down the girls who are straight and tomboys that my character represented the last four seasons…But I got the script and I was, like, ‘Oh my God. This is amazing.’ ”

the problem is that this does let down girls and women who do not fit the stereotypical definition of womanhood or who don’t conform to the norm of compulsory femininity. coach beiste was an island of representation, especially for straight masc women who are frequently assumed to be gay because they don’t fit the boxes laid out for women. now that representation has been turned into something else, which has the potential to leave these girls and women confused about who they are and leaves them with no real media representation.

as a masculine woman, i often - so often - feel out of place, othered by my non-performance of femininity, by the ways i perform masculinity, and by what feel like my failures to ever achieve a masculine ideal. i share little with many feminine women with regard to social performance, but i cannot deny what i share with them in our identities, our attitudes, and often our experiences as well.

i have felt pressure to transition; i question my gender all the time and have felt a pull towards immersing myself in masculinity and coming out as a man if only to reduce my cognitive dissonance and others’ inability to put me in a box. i am made to feel like what i am cannot be what a woman is, even though i live as proof to the contrary.

when a person like coach beiste identifies as a woman, that helps to expand our definition of what women are, who they are, and from a feminist perspective helps to distance women from heteropatriarchal ideas of what they can and must be. same when someone like myself identifies as a woman.

part of why i think coach beiste’s coming out and transition are harmful is that glee is reneging on all of the mind-expanding work the character did as a straight masculine woman, who loved being a woman and loved being attracted to men. i know that many trans people do not come out or are not safe enough to come out until late in life, and that does not in any way invalidate their experiences. i know that many are resolutely and often self-destructively or defensively attached to their assigned genders at birth, and that this is a common cover-up for people who have yet to come to terms with their identities. but i think glee is doing this for ratings and PC brownie points, and in the process they are conveying that no matter what coach beiste said in the past about loving being a woman, that doesn’t make any sense and is forgotten in his coming out as trans; they make a mockery of coach beiste’s experience as a masc woman and stand to harm gender non-conforming women – and really all women – by tossing out beiste’s womanhood so cavalierly.

characters who would have been a better choice for another trans character than coach beiste:


basically anyone else

So we just finished 3.07 (I Kissed A Girl) in my Glee re-watch with my kids (watching for the first time)..Random thoughts I’m having…

1. The Beiste story in seasons 2/3 about her being tough on the outside but a soft girl on the inside/wanting to be treated like a girl/feeling like a girl is very stark and clear and makes this character’s ultimate trans story feel very forced. I remembered that when Glee was airing season 6 and I wrote about it (I think) but on re-watch it annoys me even more. 

Not the right character to do that story with imho.

2. Yeah, the Finn centrality in Santana’s coming out is problematic (oooh the tumblr word). I didn’t ‘feel’ it as much on first watch but I do now. Unfortunately, the problematic-ness would be GREATLY reduced by leaving in the Santana “I’m gay” scene in the gym that was cut  (such a bad cut, oy) but still the whole straight white guy explaining to Santana who she is and why coming out is the cure is pretty awful. The weird thing is that Glee/Santana seems to realize this and calls him out several times in the ep…but ultimately thanks him instead of the gym scene. I don’t know, man. 

3. Yet again there is brutal/horrific unintentional 4th wall break with Puck and his line about girl on girl vs lady on lady and I almost choked. 

4. Kurt and Blaine still have that legendary chemistry thus far. 

That’s it for now.

Can we stop asserting the idea that all trans guys are tomboys/super masuculaine/androgynous  before they transitioned? 

Like I would rather be in shipwreck then exercise, my wardrobe used to be like 90% sundresses, and I had tits that rivaled pam adersons. 

But guess what? none of that makes me less of a guy. And none of that stuff means that you wont get to place in your life where the rest of the worlds sees as guy too.

stop casting butch women as trans men 2015


“Don’t push me Karofsky! You forced my boy Kurt out of here and juvie or no, you’re already number one on my list to go all death star on.”

My Glee: Moments I (still) like (1/?)

Because I got asked: do you still like anything about glee, or do you just hate the show?

And I said that I like Kurt and then I was thinking about what else I like so I started a new series because I actually like many things about glee. (And yes, I can make gifs, I’m just a lazy person)

honestly y’all are a little harsh on glee

like sure I skip some scenes that I don’t feel like dealing with, but the only truly terrible things that I’ve come up against was maybe half of season 5, how they just completely fucking dropped all the new gen characters, and the puzzling coach beiste storyline
Dueling Duets - GleefulDarrenCrissFan - Glee [Archive of Our Own]
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
By Organization for Transformative Works

Chapters: 1/1
Fandom: Glee
Rating: Teen And Up Audiences
Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings
Relationships: Blaine Anderson/Kurt Hummel
Characters: Kurt Hummel, Blaine Anderson, Rachel Berry, Finn Hudson, Noah Puckerman, Santana Lopez, Sue Sylvester, Brittany S. Pierce, Artie Abrams, Carmen Tibideaux, Jesse St. James, Quinn Fabray, Sam Evans, Mercedes Jones, Kitty Wilde, Sebastian Smythe, Jake Puckerman, Marley Rose, Ryder Lynn, Will Schuester, Emma Pillsbury, Coach Beiste

“You want to have a duel?” The New Directions never existed. Follow around Kurt, Blaine, and the rest of the New Directions as they face one another to become America’s hottest new Duo. The catch. They also have to face cut-throat judges and an executive named Sue. Heavy on Klaine. So who will be American’s newest singing Duo? Come along for the adventure.