BeNeVoLeNcE

anonymous asked:

what do you think is the most important thing for someone aiming to be a paladin? if the most scattered, fickle, and commitmentphobic person wanted to be a paladin, what would they need to know? they just want to be inspiring and a force for good, to put their own natural radiance to good use. how do they commit to the code?

Find the right code or cause, the one that that despite their many characteristics that normally compel them to flee are quiet, silenced by you hen you’ve finally found your rock to stand on.

This is a job that needs conviction, something even the least of Paladins have. Being a force for good requires being a “force” after all. You need to find the strength to be solid. You are not Neitsche rejecting all paths, or Tolstoy accepting them all. You’re Joan of Arc, and you’ve chosen a singular path to carve through like a thunderbolt. Benevolence isn’t enough when you’re unable to stick your to guns, or press forward in a consistent direction. 

How do you learn that strength? Little by little, facing challenge and after challenge and adhering to the convictions and virtues you’ve sworn to, and as time goes by, you’ll find that things get easier, as the temptation to lose focus is weakened by practice and commitment. 

You want to be a paladin? Act like one, believe like one, live your life like one, and one day you’ll be so good at it that it won’t be an act.

I would consider myself an optimist but once nihilism takes its turn with you it leaves a stain so while i genuinely believe in an impulse in the human spirit that trends most of us towards the benevolent, i really can’t say it matters one way or the other. In the grand scheme of things, time being a flat circle… we all dead, my guy.

crinklybrownleaves said: Sorry, meant to ask this: when you talk about Frank’s debt, do you mean what he owes to the bookie? Cos that’s in 4.4. Or is there something about his debt in 4.3? Also, his gambling problem is hardly mentioned again in series 4. Did it just conveniently go away? Just another plot device? 

ahh sorry! Yeah it would be 4.4 aye. I just kind of only know episodes by actual names rather then their number lol. I guess I don’t have that problem with 4.3 after all lmao.

a desperate and sad attempt to give Frank character traits other then Not-Lawson i would guess. Make him more palatable? another opportunity to remind the audience that blake is a benevolent omnipotent man unlike any other? 

anonymous asked:

No matter how Shonda wants it to sound or how close they might be she did not GIVE Sara any break. Sara's contract was over. When she finished 12 she did not need favors or special treatment or anything else from Shonda. Her obligation was done and she was free to do as she pleased. And she did. Shonda wasn't some benevolent person. It wasn't ever her call.

See anon, this is EXACTLY why I think Sara is returning to Grey’s. I think Sara has a signed contract to return. Otherwise, I truly do not think Shonda would repeatedly use this type of language. She has NEVER used similar language to describe any other actor’s exit and possible return. 

The fact she takes credit for giving Sara time off suggests that she had the power to say no. The only way she’d have the power to say no is if she has a signed contract. 

I also think it’ll be interesting to see if Sara appears on Jane the Virgin. I can’t imagine Sara turning this down under normal circumstances. Unless…she can’t because she is formally tied to ABC.

I’m really honestly convinced that charities and nonprofits who work with marginalized populations are staffed mostly by people who have literally never once stopped to consider the actual human beings they’re supposedly trying to help, like as people, with lives beyond being a prop to demonstrate pious benevolence.

It’s always so creepy when they’re really obvious about it. I’m literally so creeped out right now.

so, last night my coworker was telling me about her nightmare of a mother-in-law. one story that made me think was that when she and her would-be husband were first dating, her FMIL looked at her facebook profile, noticed that she had no religion listed. FMIL’s response to this?

she texted her son and asked “how do you feel about the fact that your girlfriend won’t be going to heaven with you?”

i just don’t know how people live like this? it’s so smug and just… probably not what any benevolent deity has in mind for its followers?

staches-and-sabres  asked:

"My compassion spreads hope" please! :D

My Poor Sad King! A legendary elven monarch whose reign was marked by unprecedented justice, mercy, and wisdom, but not enough to prevent his eventual overthrow and brutal execution. His radical policy of including peasants and humans in his court stemmed from his fundamental belief that everyone should participate in the governing of their country, and under his benevolent rule, the rights of his citizens flourished. He was a symbol of hope for the downtrodden and the outcast, and when he died, it was said that Justice itself died with him.

From this meme!

shout-out to the benevolent muscle men from mob psycho 100

when mob joined the body-building club, it felt like his presence there was gonna be a punchline, but the benevolent muscle men took him in with open (burly) arms. they’ve never made fun of him nor bullied him nor teased him for being so physically weak… they’ve always treated him as an equal and looked out for him and protected him and cheer him on as he grows… they don’t even pick on the nerds in their equipment classroom. thank you, benevolent muscle men. thank you for your kindness, patience, and sportsmanship.

I don’t know if I will be a published author someday, let alone a published author of a blockbuster decade-defining cultural pillar but jesus, I hope I have more grace about it than jk rowling

BENEVOLENCE

[noun]

1. desire to do good to others; goodwill; charitableness. 

2. an act of kindness; a charitable gift. 

3. English History:a forced contribution to the sovereign.

Etymology: from Middle English < Latin benevolentia, from benevolēns, “kindhearted”, from bene-, “well, good” + vol-, “wish, will”.

[Emily Balivet - Guanyin Goddess of Compassion]

so I’ve always sort of liked the idea that within the communion of saints there the Heavy Hitters, the Career Saints who are invoked widely and in situations of grave need—I’m talking your Catherines and Francises and Theresas, the Twelve Disciples and Michael; the Big Time Major League saints who intercede on behalf of so many, and so are always in conversation with the divine, case managers for the sick and dying and hurting and faithful of the world.

but that also means that there’s a bunch of saints hanging around who are just—minor holy women, lesser martyrs, incidental virgins, doctors of the church who never managed to find a publisher. They’re not prayed to very often, and rarely called on to manage the difficult cases; they have a lot of free time.

so what do you do, if you’re a saint with some free time on your hands? You answer all the not-quite-prayers, the “jesus, don’t turn red don’t turn red’ muttered by cab drivers and the “christ, can you just try it to see this from my point of view?” spat out by a furious girlfriend and all the “oh god please let me make this meeting in time” “please don’t let me fail” “I’m so tired I hope I can get home”

or maybe I just like the idea that every time you mutter “god, let me be okay” there’s some girl killed in 9th century for refusing to marry who falls into step beside you—and though no book or chronicle or living person remembers her name, she squints up at you and says with holy authority, “yeah, you’re going to be fine.”

The idea that women have some sort of “power” over (straight/bi) men by virtue of their “sex appeal” is such a common idea that it shows up in my life almost daily, like when my mom suggests that I should use it to get men to help me with things or when a guy messes up what he’s doing because he’s looking at me or in films and music and whatever.

The thing is, when someone has *real* power over you, you don’t have control. I can’t force men to stop seeing me as a bitch if I speak up for my needs or as a pathetic damsel if I don’t. I can’t force them to give women equal representation in government and business and STEM. I certainly can’t force them to stop harassing and assaulting us. That’s because they have power over me and all other women, especially women of color.

Whatever power I have over white men is illusory. They *can* choose not to look at me. They can choose to focus on what they were doing and it’s a dangerous lie that they can’t. They can choose not to give me the larger drink for free. But they don’t choose that, because it’s fun to look at me and it’s fun to flirt a little and give me the thing for free “because your smile is so beautiful.”

Women get sold this idea that they have this “power,” this ability to “control” and “tempt” and “destroy” men, because it’s a distraction from noticing the actual power that we don’t have. Indeed, who needs equal wages for equal work or political representation or the freedom to live without fear of rape when we can make some dude crash his bike into a pole because he was staring at us?

Women and street harassment.

By Gwen Sharp, PhD

Yesterday I was walking to a convenience store when a guy shouted at me that I looked really pretty. I ignored him. He yelled again and walked up to me. I gave him that tight, uncomfortable half-smile-with-no-eye-contact women sometimes use to try to acknowledge random male attention just enough so maybe the guy will feel like he’s gotten the reaction he is entitled to, in the hopes that he’ll then lose interest and go away.

He did go away, but only to get in a car with this friends and then drive slowly next to me, yelling “compliments” about how pretty I looked and trying to get me to look at them. And when I continued to ignore them, they finally yelled “bitch!” and drove off, a situation I’m sure many of our readers have experienced — the reaction you get when you dare to not be just pleased as punch that some men are following you on the street, helpfully going out of their way to openly approve of your performance of femininity, thus letting you know that you are a worthwhile human being.

And today I opened an email from Susan C. with a link to this cartoon over at Ampersand that nicely sums up this oft-played-out scenario. Thanks, Susan!

Cross-posted at Jezebel.

Gwen Sharp is an associate professor of sociology at Nevada State College. You can follow her on Twitter at @gwensharpnv.