I'm a bisexual guy dating a gay guy and I recently told him I'm bi (I only recently discovered it myself. I very strongly lean toward men). Now he says he needs time to think about our relationship because he's afraid I'll leave him for a woman. He says a woman can offer me things he can't. How do I reassure him that I have no intention of doing that?
From what I’ve witnessed, this fear is one that seems to crop up a lot in relationships where one person is monosexual and the other is not. And part of it can stem from a lack of understanding of how bisexuality works. Because so many people define sexual identity based on behavior, many people erroneously believe that bisexuality can only exist or be valid if and when a person regularly has sexual experiences with multiple genders. As we all know, while the two are often correlated, sexual identity and sexual behavior are two different things. As we all know, many people under the Bi+ umbrella are fully capable of engaging in loving, fulfilling, committed relationships. The only thing that our identity changes is the pool of potential partners. Sure, some Bi+ prefer polyamory, but so do many gay and straight people.
That said, while this specific fear tends to exist in mono/bi+ relationships, similar sentiments can also exist in monosexual relationships. That is, it’s not uncommon for people in any relationship to feel threatened by the idea of being replaced by someone who’s more attractive/appealing/whatever. People tend to fall prey to this kind of thinking whenever they’re grappling with feelings of insecurity. When our own imperfections dominate our self-image, it can be difficult to comprehend why anyone would want to be with us in the first place. And while there’s certainly isn’t any thing wrong with having moments of insecurity, it’s important not to let it dominate our relationships. Insecurity can rob us of our ability to trust and be intimate, two very important ingredients to any successful relationship.
The bad news is that your options in this situation are limited. In fact, there’s not really anything you yourself will be able to do to completely fix the situation, since you can’t really control how people experience their emotions. The only tools you really have to improve the situation are honesty, communication, understanding, and patience. Do your best to communicate that your identity does not have any bearing on your ability to remain faithful and fulfilled in your relationship. Do your best to listen to your partner and all their concerns and fears, try to be as understanding as possible, and try to make sure they feel like they’re being heard and understood. One of the best ways to foster trust is to create an environment of honesty, open communication, open-mindedness, and patience. Each partner is going to have their own issues they need to work on, and that’s okay. And if you guys are able to help each other grow and improve, then it can end up bringing you closer together in the long run. That’s certainly what happened with Will and me, and I hope that’s what happens for you!
Stiles wasn’t moving when Lydia told him to run. Stiles would have stood there with Lydia while she screamed– probably would have died– if Parrish hadn’t gotten there.
Aka Stiles had to be physically removed from Lydia’s presence because there was no fucking way he was going to run and leave her in that hellhole, even if he was literally staring his death in the face.
All this talk about how people in the GFFA communicate with each other, and especially in remote places, how there’s the equivalent of HAM radio and now I’m thinking.
Luke and Biggs, staying up way too late to talk to each other across the distance between their homes over the radio, like 70s kids with walkie-talkies, really. It’s too dangerous to sneak out (although of course, they both sometimes do, because they’re reckless boys), but they can talk endlessly, and do, about where they’re going to go and what they’re doing to do when they finally get off this planet.
Sometimes Luke gets in trouble for sleeping too late the next day or being too tired to do his chores, but it’s completely worth it, because he ends up smiling all day.
After Biggs leaves, Luke ends up getting a lot more sleep, but he’s not happy about it.
Scrape the bottom of your brain Pack it in and take a breath and fuck the pain again Pass the past into the trash And let the future get the greens and let the good times last again
Wait for me to fill this up and watch you slide Wait for me to fill this up and watch you slip into the grip of the grim reefer Just let him slip into a new reverb He won’t let you leave without his herb Because he loves you and he doesnt wanna see you hurt
He’s watching you He’s watching you slide He’s watching you He’s watching you slide
If you’re not familiar with the character, you may have many
questions, such as “why does this movie feel like Inception?” or “Doctor WHO?” Stephen is one of the world’s best neurosurgeons. He is brilliant and attractive, but do not let his looks fool you. Strange is a rather selfish man, caring only about himself. Oh, and his meticulous hands. But everything changes in one car accident. Although he lives, his hands suffer from shattered bones and damaged nerves. He hears rumors about the Ancient One, who supposedly can cure anything. Strange sets out on a journey and finds himself at a temple. When he arrives, he doesn’t take the Ancient One seriously. When he tries to leave, he couldn’t because he’s marooned by a snowstorm. Wonder who did that… Definitely not the Ancient One! She has no intention of simply fixing his hands. She sees his selfishness, but also some good, so decides to train him. Forget martial arts; her disciples harness energy through magic. Where do I sign up!? Anyway, Strange will need those powers if he’s facing a guy with creepy eye makeup. With buildings falling left and right, needless to say, Strange has work cut out for him. Doctor Strange comes out this November on the fourth. Don’t miss it!
He made you feel so happy, but he made you feel happiest when he would wake up and find you missing from the space next to him and call out “come back to bed, love.” There is something incredible about knowing someone is missing your presence. The fact of knowing that they want you there because something seems to be incomplete when you are away. You always would walk back in the room, and find him lying there, sheets barely covering his hips. Your smile covering half your face as you slide into the bed, that always seems to be burning with warmth from him and the passion you two always share. You cuddle up next to him and remember the times you have shared in that exact spot laughing, talking, and kissing. He is so much more than a person and you know that if he ever leaves, you will miss him because a part of you will go missing too.
Chris leaned against the wall of the pub once outside, and tried to tell himself he wasn’t in a bad mood. He was a little hurt, that’s all. Confused maybe. But NOT brooding. He didn’t brood.
Sighing, he ran a hand over his face and kicked an empty beer bottle out of the way. Fantastic job, Chris! Simply wonderful!
Storming off like that, Donna would most likely be hurt by his behaviour. He wanted to feel a small sense of triumph because he managed to leave first, but it was overpowered by the sense of loss spreading through him slowly.
It was just a little flirtin’, get a grip! His internal monologue did nothing to help his mood and he was about to push himself away from the wall and stomp off towards home when the door of the pub opened again.
There she was, looking positively miserable. Surely, him leaving didn’t affect her that much? A small part of him hoped that she would come out after him, but she didn’t look like she was in any condition to run after him at the moment.
Donna looked pale, and a bit disoriented, unsteady on her feet… She didn’t drink that much, so it wasn’t the alcohol, Chris was sure of that. He was about to call out to her and ask if she was alright, but he stopped. His company might not be welcome right now…
The ginger sinking down on the bench, looking like she was about to cry sealed the deal however and he hurried over, and sat down beside her, laying a hand softly on her shoulder.
Yesterday, Tony and I had a very subtle conversation about our future, which includes staying here for two more years so I can finish college and grad school and so he can finish both of his degrees, and then we’re going to travel the world together, maybe join the Peace Corps? Maybe teach internationally for awhile? And then return to Massachusetts or somewhere like that to settle down and find long-term jobs. I was stressing hard about this for a while because I thought he was leaving next year without me, but he’s been strongly implying that he wants me to be with him, and I couldn’t be happier. I really feel like I’ve found my person. I want to spend the rest of my life with this man, exploring the world and having incredible life experiences and I’m so excited to see what our future holds.
Unfortunately,this happened.I’m going to miss you with all my heart,I couldn’t be more grateful for everything you’ve done to this club.Just wanna let you now that you gonna be missed here a LOT because you are EL ÚNICO.
Translated the Sourin scene from High☆Speed Free! Starting Days movie where Sousuke’s heart breaks after Rin tells him he’s leaving for Iwatobi. Do you like pain because this scene hurts so good lol. (Video source credit to albatrossmuffinfor the raw)~
“Obviously something happened to her when she destroyed and killed that monster and we don’t know where she went. Hopper is left with this guilt because he sold her out. We wanted to leave it sort of mysterious exactly what he knows… Have there been sightings in the woods or is he hoping she’s out there or has he already made contact with her? We don’t answer any of that, but we like the idea of potentially putting her and Hopper together.” - Ross Duffer
lily loves it when james runs his hands through his hair. like, she “hates” it and it “annoys” her but really as she gets to know him better it becomes endearing and cute and she likes to imagine his hair is soft and beautiful and basically she loves his hair and the first time she runs her hand through it when they’re making out she basically dies (there’s a reall cute burdge drawing of this and i cry)
lily’s mom loves james. like she meets him for some reason before he and lily get together when lily “hates” him but not really because she’s just in denial of her feelings and he leaves like the best impression and she’s always like ”lily, dear, when is that james boy coming around again?” and it irks lily to no end because what the hell they aren’t even dating damn potter
sirius is really apprehensive of lily when she and james first start becoming friends in seventh year because she has the power to break james’ heart but they get talking and become really fast friends and tbh spend a lot of time laughing about james being an idiot and it annoys james but also it makes him so happy because here are two of the people he loves the most in the world and they like each other
lily basically lives in james’ clothes even before they start dating. like, one night in the common room they were working on head’s duties together and she was cold and he gave her his favorite jumper to wear and she fell asleep in it and just never really ended up giving it back and he forgets about it until one day she comes down to breakfast in it and he does a doubletake and nudges sirius because “oh my god padfoot look lily’s wearing my clothes” and she just blushes a little bit but it’s so comfortable and it smells like him (which is a smell she likes very much even if she won’t admit it) and as the year goes on she slowly gets more of his clothes and by the time they’re dating half of her wardrobe is just his shirts and jumpers and scarves and he loves it
she loves watching him play quidditch. for one, he gets this passionate look in his eye and he gets so into it and he looks so in his element but also he’s always hyped up on adrenaline at the end of a particularly good math and he kisses her with a little more fervor and she loves it
he’s always eating off her plate. “i’m a growing teenage boy, lil!” “okay but that was my last carrot” and she pretends that it’s annoying but really she loves it and he would never actually take any food that he knows she loves and their friends just kind of laugh because this habit starts before they’re even dating and lily and james just kind of brush it off as a “oh it’s just a friend thing”
in fact, they’re basically dating before they even start dating and the only ones who don’t realize it are them. like he puts his arm around her shoulders when they’re just standing or walking through the hallways. she’ll drape her legs across him when they’re sitting on the couch. they laugh and have inside jokes. he buys her butterbeer at hogsmeade. they study in the library together. one day they’re sitting on the couch and his head is on her lap and she’s playing with his hair and reading a book and he kind of looks at her and says “you know, evans, some would consider this a girlfriend and boyfriend kind of position to be in” and she cocks her head at him and smiles a little but inside her heart is going a million beats a minute and she says “yeah, i suppose they would” and he pauses a second and licks his lips and says “go out with me?” and she laughs and leans down and places a little kiss on his lips and says “do you even have to ask?” and then they makeout on the couch
he never gets over the habit of callling her “evans”, not even when they’re married, and she always laughs and corrects him and says “it’s potter now” and a huge smile erupts across her face and one mirroring it appears on his. little does she know he does it on purpose, just so she’ll correct him and he can see her that happy
he loves buying her things, and sometimes he’ll just get her something for the hell of it and she’ll ask “why?” and he just shrugs and says “it reminded me of you”
their wedding is in the summer time and it’s small but beautiful and there’re flowers everywhere and laughing and firewhiskey and dancing and it’s almost like a ray of sunshine in dark times and when they dance their first dance, mcgonagall cries
so i was looking at the suicide squad tracklist and thinking about how harley and joker are apparently estranged when squad picks up for reasons unknown. then i came up with a theory.
these scores come directly after each other according the tracklist. everybody’s assuming “this bird is baked” is a reference to jason todd’s death in a warehouse explosion in the comics. this leds me to think of two possible scenarios as to why harley might be estranged from the joker when the movie begins: 1) harley helped kill jason, but is feeling guilty and remorseful about it unlike joker, therefore she wants to separate herself from that level of evil or 2) joker crossed a line by killing jason todd, a child, something harley doesn’t agree with if she’s like her comic book counterpart who was sympathetic towards children and animals. again, she leaves the joker because of what he’s done.