literally every single time I mention how awful rich people are, my mom invariably goes “hhey it’s alot more complicated than u Think,, u shouldn’t hate on all rich people just because they have money”’ like thanks for the input mom but that Will Not Stop me from hating capitalism
You don’t have to sympathize with a
character for it to be necessarily a good character nor do they have to be a morally
good person for you to like them as a character. Instead good characters are
characters you can cognitively empathize with - understand why they do the
things they do.
You can still like a movie/show/book with
characters who are complete dregs on society because the writers or actors
portray the character in a way where you recognize their humanity (as there are
people out there who share traits with those types of characters). That doesn’t
mean you’re problematic or condone any of their actions.
I feel like a good number of people on here don’t know how to distinguish between having empathy (not emotional) and sympathy for a character like that.
“People dislike the fact that ks portrays an abusive gay “relationship” but as a lesbian, I think that people should know that same-sex relationships can be abusive too. A lot of people think that it’s all happy gay times, but there are awful people of all sexualities and people should be aware of the mistreatment some gay people receive from their partners.” - Anonymous
Quick report on Kubo and Yamamoto’s attendance to Concomics Guadalajara. I was in line for 9 hours plus two more for their short Q&A and am objectively dying, sorry for typos
ETA: When I wrote this it didn’t occur to me that it would get hundreds of reblogs before I ever got to fix it, now my half-deceased incompetent typing will live on forever *sobs*
I arrived at 6:30 am and there were already people in line jeeesus (lots were coming to see a youtuber though)
Gonna spare you the deets on the awful people in my surroundings thank @yuurinikiforov cos I screamed at her for hours
ETA: I just realized this sounds like it was Ally making me scream but in fact i tumblr-screamed at her to prevent from unleashing my frustrations on the gross fujos that surrounded me. Thank Ally because she got to read all that nervous-wreck garbage and y’all get to be spared
I had a two-day ticket so I was allowed in half an hour earlier and if not for that, I probably would’ve missed on the autograph line. They had space for 50 people (plus 200ish that had bought the express pass which was super expensive). I was #45. It took less than three minutes since getting inside for all 50 spots to be taken
(this was the line after three minutes. I was too lazy to take pics of it later, but it got to be around 5 times this at some point.)
ETA: According to Con staff, since the lines were very well organized, they actually got to sign quite a bit more people than the originally allotted 50. The Queens are so kind.
No photos, video or sound recording of The Queens allowed, except for this one taken by Con staff. They were giving away those postcards for the filthy casuals people who didn’t bring any official merch for the sign
i’m mostly kidding about the filthy casual thing bc I hate fandom elitism but there were a lot of people bringing FANART PRINTS and I wanted to gut them
Kubo would quick sketch a character of your choice. I chose Victor bc I love how she draws his huge heart mouth
I was able to tell Sayokan how grateful I am from the bottom of my heart and that I’m looking forward to the movie and she said thank you and that they’re workinng hard. I died. ETA: I wanted to say so much more but I was so nervous my Japanese came out really garbled and we didn’t have much time. And I didn’t get to say anything to Kubo because I didn’t want to distract her from drawing ;—;
Sayokan has a beautiful smile and I love her
ETA: She also had an aura like Meryl Streep in Devil Wears Prada, twenty years younger: A STRONG woman who takes no prisoners and is fabulous af. I love her with all my soul.
After the autographs, The Queens had a short stage appearance
There was a cosplay contest and the winners would get to sit in the front row for The Queens’ presentation. I didn’t take any pics but the standout for me apart from a flood of gorgeous girls doing Eros Yuuri, was a pair of girls doing Lilia and Yakov. The announcer clearly didn’t watch the show and botched Lilia’s last name, but the cosplayer had the attitude 100% on point.
Something I hate is people who say Yurio stressing the u, it sounds so wrong and a lot of people today were doing it and driving me mad
The stage was packed af
Kubo drew quick sketch of Victor while she and Sayo answered a couple of questions. They will post the video later today
Audience Questions logistics wasn’t very well prepared and even Kubo asked how it was gonna work. I was embarrassed for the lack of planning. In the end those that were lucky to be close to the stage got to ask the questions. Lia was praying for no stupid questions pls.
Q&A (translation partially mine partially from the interpreter)
1. What were your expectations about Mexico and have those expectations changed now
Kubo: I haven’t gone sightseeing yet but it’s my first time in Mexico and I didn’t expect so many people. [The people/audience] feels four or five times warmer than japan (make of that what you may, Japanese people say that about us a lot) Sayokan didn’t answer
2. Dumb question that has already been answerred in interviews about whether Yurio was planned to win from the start. As we know, yes, pretty sure both of them have said it before.
Sayokan added that his character development wasn’t completely planned though, and he evolved a lot during writing.
3. Which word do you think of when you thibk of Yuuri and Victor
Sayokan: Love (愛)
Kubo: She didn’t talk to the mic and people were still screaming about
so Ididn’t hear what she said but the interpreter said she said Friendship. My queens get your story sraight pls
HUGELY IMPORTANT ETA: Other people that were there have confirmed that Kubo gave a long answer that included 断ち切れない絆 “an unbreakable bond” and didn’t say anything about friendship. There was a telephone game going on because there was a JP-ENG interpreter and then an ENG-SPA interpreter and I don’t know how or why the latter got “friendship” but please take this into account, I don’t want people to hate on Kubo because I wasn’t close enough to hear her answer and the Spanish interpreter botched it.
Not important ETA: A girl close to me was yelling “Victuri” like she hoped they’d answer that and I was facepalming hard
Kubo also asked (in Japanese) if anyone understood Japanese, it wasn’t translated and a good dozen of hands shot up. She was surprised. Some folks screamed abd she said 落ち着け. One or two continued screaming so obviously they didn’t understand Japanese lol
4. Stupid question about whether they plan to develop Otabek and Yurio’s relationship.
Sayokan said they hadn’t fully decided on how everything’s gonna end in the movie so can’t say yet but look forward to the bonus on V6 (the interpreter said V3 and I wanted to gut him). Hoes I like Otayuri but stop trying to shove it on The queens’ faces pls
5. Do you have plans for a special chapter about the Lady skaters?
Sayokan said it’s definitely something they’d love to do but right now their focus is on the boys abnd finishing their story. Best answer for me tbh besides Sayokan’s 愛 cos I wanna see Mila skate soooo bad.
ETA: Forgot to mention this but a lot of people were chanting “Boda! Boda!” (wedding). Kubo asked what it was that people were chanting and the interpreter told them. Someoene else is reporting that Sayokan chuckled. There were two tall dudes in front of me so my vision was very obstructed and can’t confirm, but neither said anything out loud in response to it
Sayokan threw some gifts at the audience but My Queen is no pitcher and I was too far back so didn’t get anything *sobs*. Some were prints or maybe postcards but no idea of what exactly.
And that’s it! Theyll be signing more autographs and have another stage appearancw tomorrow but I can’t stay so someone else will have to report it whilst I die.
TL;DR I love them and my calebdar looks even more beautiful and I never thought that was possible and I’ll cry about this day for the rest of my life.
Is being an emt traumatic? Like one must see so many awful accidents. Do people get flashbacks, nightmares or PTSD? If so how would someone minimalize these?
Hey there nonny! I’m going to talk about EMS in general and then
Yes, EMS workers suffer rather ridiculous rates of PTSD, though it’s worth noting that not all EMS employees have it. PTSD development isn’t my area of expertise – talk to @scriptshrink and particularly @scripttraumasurvivors about that one. But I’ll share my thoughts and observations from 10 years in the service:
PTSD is a significant issue in EMS. I’m fortunate enough not to have it, but the job scars us all in different ways. Dead kids, horrendous accidents and more. That said, a lot of it is in how you see things. For me, I think what increases my resilience is that I understand that I’m there to help. The awful thing that happened has happened – not my fault. But I can help, or at least try to help, or give someone the dignity of a sheet over their body. It’s an emergency, but it’s not my emergency. And the sense of being able to dosomething really helps.
PTSD is a problem, but it isn’t as big of an issue as burnout in our community. Compassion fatigue is a real thing. The job can be shockingly abusive to those attempting to work it.
PTSD is real and people get it. EMS has a particularly macho culture, with phrases like “suck it up, buttercup” getting thrown around a LOT. So once someone starts to struggle, they can run into significant problems trying to get support from their group.
What’s interesting is this: one on one, we do pretty well. My friend Kelly Grayson calls this his Nachos And Beer therapy: take the coworker out, one on one, and talk, and eat nachos, and drink beer, and try to come to terms with what they’ve experienced.
Also, if you can, send a little money their way. Code Green Campaign is literally trying to get us to call a metaphorical code on our mental health, because responders commit suicide in pretty drastic numbers.
It’s changing, but the culture around mental illness in EMS has been “repress, repress, it’s for the best.”
That said, my personal mental health issues don’t stem from work so much as they do from my natural disposition: I get depressed easily and often, and I’ve battled suicidal ideation from the time I was 6 years old. EMS isn’t responsible for that. In fact, it’s helped give me a sense of purpose and a sense that I get to do positive things in the world, that my contributions (and therefor my life) matter.
A terrible form of validation, but it helps me.
As for character construction, you’re dealing with a group of characters that have Seen Some Shit™. Consider some coping mechanisms, like:
Swearing loudly and often
Very, very, very dark humor. I have been such a filter for you guys, you would not believe.
Lots of drinking, dancing, and partying, in order to “feel alive”
Talking things out quietly in corners
Partners making each other playlists to brighten their days
Finding someone outside of work to talk to in order to ground your character
One other note: things seem to actually get slightly better as medics progress in their careers. That’s not saying us old-timers are jaded fucks (though some are), but rather, we have a different perspective. We see things less personally. We trade the crushing weight of individual tragedies for the crushing weight of The Broken System and our years of clawing at the walls being unable to change it. As I said, it’s burnout, not PTSD (for a great many of us; your characters’ mileage may vary).
Not because the show is getting “worse”, those are twisted lies if you see the show from a critical standpoint and ignore things like hiatuses… (ton of the “new” problems have always been there/its based on character flaws)
It’s because the fandom is mistreating it, casual viewers are mistreating it, the channel is mistreating it, and the media always mistreated it.
People who is interested have no fucking clue of when we are having new episodes, the main tags are a battlefield, the crew’s posts are filled with rudeness, theres no re-runs, the merchandise in things like plushies looks awful and people is forcing themselves to leave the show/the fandom so they don’t have to deal with any of this anymore…
And honestly? it scares me to death… I really can’t lose this…
let’s take a stand against autism speaks. don’t light it up blue, let’s do red instead! please support autistic people, take a stand, show your support and let’s fight with them. they deserve our support against such an awful organization!
Thank you @joeynihil for letting me use the Cody gif :D
Summery: Brett goes out of his way to make you blush or shy but he goes too far.
“Brett’s coming?” You asked when your friend finished
listing off the people she’d invited.
“It’s a party to celebrate the team winning all their games
so far… why wouldn’t I invite Brett?” She asked, glancing at you in the mirror
as she put her makeup on, frowning when she looked over the jeans and t-shirt
you were wearing.
“Well… because he’s kind of a jerk.” You mumbled, playing
with your fingers as you scuffed your feet on the foot of her bed.
It hasn’t even been 24 hours and I’ve already seen a crappy anon (on someone else’s blog) trying to perpetuate ableist myths and comprehensions about autism. Unsurprisingly I am annoyed, but the event has inspired me to write a post highlighting certain trends that certain ableist allistics (non-autistic people) love to pull on this month.
First of all calling this month “Autism Awareness Month” which is not the term that most actually autistic people would prefer this month to be called “Autism Acceptance Month”. The message of “awareness” brings to mind Autism $peaks and other organizations that perpetuate ableist attitudes towards those on the autistic spectrum
Second of all the insistence that autism isn’t “fun”. This is something that allistic (non-autistic) use when they see people “romanticize” autism. When autistic people celebrate being themselves and being autistic it makes allistic people uncomfortable and they want to stop it (the same way homophobes are not happy with LGBTQ+ people embracing their identities and being happy with themselves). They will also say that autism is a struggle or a burden, when in reality majority of struggles that autistic people face is less because they are autistic and more because they encounter overt and covert ableism from allistic people in society
(which is not to say that we do not have our own struggles, but rather that we need to examine and discuss autism from the perspective of autistic people as opposed to allistic perspectives)
Next is the insistence on the family. Allistics cannot not shut up about how autism “affects” the family. They talk about how autistic people are burdens or challenges on the family and vilify how “stressful” autistic members of the family supposedly are to their allistic relatives. Not only is this extremely damaging to autistic people’s self-esteems, it also creates a narrative where autistic people are burdens not to be empathized with; instead empathy should go to the allistic people. This is a disgusting and ableist tactic that Autism $peaks and those who are not on the spectrum, and is commonly used to justify any harm committed towards autistic people by their families and care-takers
Finally keep your eyes peeled for anti-vaxxers, people who call or compare autism to a “epidemic” or “disease”, puzzle-piece imagery, and any “Light it Up Blue” events.
There are more awful things that allistic people try to pull, be it in April or other months, so please be critical of what you read this month especially if it was written by an allistic person. Instead, please listen to actually autistic people; our voices are not just important this month they are essential.
Thank you for your time, I hope this was informative