I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me.
I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate I decide not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping, I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who doesn’t deserve my patience.
You should raise your children to be confident, yes, but you also need to teach them that no matter how confident they are they should never be arrogant or bully another human because they are not as confident as them.
Insecure people have to make excuses and put others down to feel confident. Confidence isn’t walking into a room with your nose in the air, and thinking you are better than everyone else, it’s walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone in the first place.
Your own sins should distract you enough from focusing on the faults of others.
Stay conscious of your flaws.. the greatest men who lived done more for Islam than you and I could imagine, yet they still saw their sins higher than mountains and always felt like they could do more in terms of their good deeds. So take lesson and remember it’s healthy to realise what you do not know, and what you still can and need to do.
“If you see that one of you has slipped, correct him, pray for him and do not help shaytaan against him (by insulting him)” - Umar ibn Al Khattab