Bi problems:

When you’re taking a survey and you get a question asking if you’re A) heterosexual, or B) homosexual, and you’re just stuck there like um neither???

fifth harmony looking very upset once they were told that they couldn’t meet the rest of their fans, who had received meet and greet wristbands, because they had ran out of time. These girls give everything to their fans and should not have to sneak off (like Ally did) to meet their fans, who paid for meet and greets. No one can ever say they don’t care.

*walks in late*

Oh. Right. Bi Visibility Day was yesterday. 

It feels a bit like the start of a self-help meeting to make a post saying “Hi, my name is Jez and I’m a bisexual.” But I am. So is my fiance.

In a lot of ways, I wish days like this had been more widely recognized and talked about when I was younger. Maybe then I would have come to terms with my own identity a lot sooner. Hell, the moment everything started to “click” for me was when I was in college and went to a presentation hosted in my dorm. Sitting a few feet away from a woman who was open about her bisexuality, who talked about feeling ashamed at first, who discussed the initial years of confusion, the pressure to choose one and deny the other, and messages of rejection from those around her - it’s like a light went off. The very first step on that journey of self-acceptance for me began with something as simple as listening to a woman who was comfortable telling a room full of people that she was bisexual. 

Fast forward to now, and you can see entire communities online where people are making the same kind of public proclamation in digital form. While I’ve reached an age where I am comfortable and confident about who and what I am, I’m reassured by the thought that maybe events like this will help someone else who needs that kind of support and validation that they don’t often see. To know that they are not alone, that they don’t have anything to be ashamed of, and they shouldn’t feel like they need to deny a part of who they are and who they love.

So, much love to my fellow bisexuals. To those who are out. To those who are in the closet. To those who cringe whenever someone jokes that the person they are currently dating has “cured” them. To anyone who identifies with an identity that “doesn’t exist,” who are told they’re “just selfish” or “confused” because of the nature of their feelings. 

I love you. And a lot of people out there do too. 

It's that time again...

You are 21. And I happen to have deep thoughts at night sometimes too. This is one of the many that I KNOW Megan has read. WEEELL. Firstly congratulations on being 21 even though in my mind you’re still 18 and you live in Nashville not LA. But that’s besides the point. You have accomplished SO MUCH in just one year. Like when you kept saying “2013 is our year” I seriously had no idea how far it was going to go. New songs, new music videos, also new relationships I see (hint Megan). We macers literally don’t miss anything. After that one tour got cancelled back in January I thought I would never have the chance to see you until you sold out the Verizon center here in DC but boy was I wrong. You guys went on your OWN HEADLINING TOUR. Like you had an opening act. You weren’t playing the opening act. You had a band and VIP tickets for people to MEET you. YOU. It truly was the best experience of my life and I’m so glad I got to meet you, I’m sure there will be many more times from now on. You guys were and are featured at Macy’s in the American rag section, I point it out every time I go. 3 days ago marks a year from when you sang at the Macy’s parade. We thought that was big but we had no idea what was coming. I’m so proud of what you’ve done this year and I can’t thank you enough for being such amazing, sweet and just straight up normal but famous role models. It’s short but sweet. Once a macer always a macer.