AlhamdulilAh

If you’re going through difficulties, hardship in life and being patient isn’t easy, I advise you to read the Tafsir of Surah Yusuf. You will find many many valuable lessons. Your perception of life and difficulties will change. You will realise the things you’re doing wrong, you will learn how to make change to your life for good. You will understand the wisdom of Allah’s plan. You will realise His love. You will know whatever He has planned for you is the best even if it means delaying the response of your dua.

He’s probably delaying the response not because He is upset with you but maybe because your heart fully does not depend or trust Him yet. He wants you to learn to have trust in Him before He answers you so this trust in Him will always be your biggest strength and support.

Learning this Surah just changed my mind about hardship. I’m the most impatient person I know and now I’m sat here saying Alhamdulilah, Ya Allah, you are in charge of my affairs and I trust You so answer my dua whenever you know it is best for me.

Read the Surah & it’s Tafsir and you will find comfort and reassurance your heart needs.

I swear these emotions make us human so embrace your sadness as much as you do your happiness. Contentment is found in that embrace. It’s not about a particular feeling. Feelings don’t define you unless you let them. Be happy, be confused, be upset. Just make sure you keep moving. Life doesn’t afford you the time to stay stagnant. Your emotions are destinations and they can be beautiful places to visit. Just like in your travels, you couldn’t appreciate one place without seeing another. Take your time, take in your surroundings, appreciate them, and just keep going.

Say Alhamdulilah for living it once more..
Say Alhamdulilah for another Ramadan
to search and find your cure..
Say Alhamdulilah cause there are some
who are sick and cannot fast..
Say Alhamdulilah cause there are others
with no food even after Maghrib
has passed..
—  Be Like a Traveler, from “O Blessed Month..Ramadan Mubarak!” (YouTube Link)
When despair
takes root in your chest,
when you feel the weight of your sins
in every step,
when your life seems like a mess
and you reflect on this test
feeling far behind the rest,
so low in spirit– 
what a better moment
to turn to Allah Azza Wajjal, the All-Hearing,
speaking sincerely from the soul, God-fearing,
allowing your tears to clean your intentions,
to purify your heart with attention to your Rabb,
as though washing in Wudhu,
for He knows the pain you go through…
He knows your quiet moments,
your deepest emotions,
wanting to stay firm on your devotion
as well as the obstacles
that make you feel broken, but only
are a part of growing, part of His plan
set in motion despite feeling so frozen..
—  Belikeatraveler, from “Turn To Allah (SWT)”
My Journey to self belief.

Today was the day I thought would never come. My confirmation for graduation came through Alhamdulilah. One lesson that is stuck with me is never stop believing in yourself and what Allah will bless you with. The Pakistani society here where I live and my own family in Pakistan have always looked down upon my family (due to my dad’s mental illness and inability to work because of it). They looked at my family and were like look at these pathetic loosers who are guaranteed to fail. We didn’t fail.

Our path if you actually look at it was destined to fail, mentally ill dad, working mother and three reliant children. Against all odds we came through. Pakistani society where I live completed avoided us because of the condition of my father. 

Girls my age treated me like an outcast and from a “lower background” and refused to acknowledge and even look at me. And back home in Pakistan my mothers in laws blamed her for my dad’s illness. When we used to visit, they would look us smugly. 

Being a young child being ostracized  by society was demoralizing to my self esteem. I stopped believing in myself, kids my age will tell me that I was dumb, I was not pretty enough, my family didn’t live in a big enough house and we didn’t have a car at our house. It used to hurt to an indescribable level.  

But one day I realized just because others don’t believe in you doesn’t mean you stop believing in yourself and Allah. People have an EXTREMELY small mindset, they only see what’s in front of them. If they see that your family is poor, they won’ see the talent that Allah has given you an amazing IQ to study and become successful, they don’t see how hard your parents struggle ends meet abd they don’t see your internal struggle. Society doesn’t see your mum on her knees praying to God for a better life. All they see is what meets the eye, POOR, UNFORTUNATE, LOWER CLASS, LOOSER.  They don’t have the knowledge and power of Allah to see what is bestowed on you or will be bestowed upon you. 

Have self confidence, trust, and strong belief in Allah. Never give up hope. People will always label into you category and make you think you can never get out of it. No one believed that I would be able to graduate and have a job. My work colleagues, school mates, high school friends and extended  family all gave me looks of sympathy “oh look that poor girl, she doesn’t have a job, or degree or father to support her”. 

LISTEN UP. People can feel sorry for you as much as they want. DON’T FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF. HAVE FULL BELIEF IN THE ABILITIES THAT ALLAH HAS GIVEN, AND HAVE FULL BELIEF IN ALLAH TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE AND BLESS YOU WITH YOUR HEARTS DESIRE. 

Society will never believe in you. Society will look down on you and feel sorry for you and categorize you. PEOPLE DON’T SEE WHAT YOUR CAPABLE OF, AND IF THEY SEE YOUR POTENTIAL AND TALENT THEY WILL TRY TO DEGRADE YOU AND PUT YOU DOWN BECAUSE THEY ARE THREATENED BY YOU. 

KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING. BE SELF CONFIDENT IN YOUR ABILITIES DON’T LISTEN TO OTHERS SMALL MIND SET. PEOPLE GIVE YOU TOO MANY LIMITS BASED ON YOUR LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES THAT THEY SEE. DON’T GIVE YOURSELF LIMITS, WITH ALLAH THERE ARE NO LIMITS ALLAH IS WITH YOU AND YOU CAN DO ANYTHING. 

Society predicted and categorized me into a sad girl with no job and no degree. THAT’S WHAT THEIR BELIEF OF ME WAS. BUT MY BELIEF IN MYSELF WAS STRONGER. I SAW AN INDEPENDENT EDUCATED YOUNG WOMEN. AND THAT’S WHAT I BECAME. 

Become what you want, not what society says you will become. 

This reminds of our beautiful Prophet (pbuh), if we look back he was an uneducated, poor orphan man. If society looked at him today he would be a so called destined to be a looser (astigfurallah). 

He ended up being the most influential men in history, leading the strongest religion in the world. BECAUSE HE BELIEVED IN HIMSELF AND IN ALLAH. Don’t let others words poison your heart against your dreams. Become what you are destined for by trusting Allah. 

I asked my Lord for strength and He gave me hardships. I asked Him for a good life and He gave me opportunities. I asked Him for contentment and He gave me a love for solitude. I asked Him to make me a better person and He surrounded me with beautiful people who remind of Him. When I think about it, He’s given me everything I’ve ever asked of Him and more, though it was never in the form I expected it to be in. And during these last few nights ya Rabb, please write khair for me, through whatever it is You know will build me into the person I’m supposed to be. 

Be grateful to Allaah For Favouring You With The Sunnah

Ibnul Qayyim (رحمه الله) stated:

‘I entered upon one of our companions and there was a matter that happened with him which caused him to cry. So, I asked him about it and he said: “I remembered that which Allaah has bestowed upon me of favour from the Sunnah, knowing it, being free from the doubts of the people and their false principles, being given success to have clear intellect and sound natural disposition towards that which the Messenger came with.

So, thinking about that made me happy until it caused me to cry.’
{Source: Madaarij as-Sâlikeen, 3/127}

Just a little tip for a great reward:

When you’re getting ready and you put your hijab on. Stop there for a second to say Bismillah before putting it on. Make a firm intention “O Allah, I am putting this hijab on for Your pleasure, I am obeying You as You have commanded me in the Quran to do so, please cover me with Your mercy throughout the day and night. For each and every second this hijab stays on, please reward me with a reward that lasts as long as Your Kingship lasts and my Lord, Your Kingship is such that it will never cease or come to an end whereas everything You have created will come to an end. Forgive me for the shortcomings in me and the sins I commit. The way you protect me in this world, protect me in this hereafter too. Just the way I seek Your pleasure in this world, give me the pleasure of seeing Your face in the hereafter”.

With this, you will earn a great reward for obeying Allah, for every second you wear that hijab, you earn a reward. So imagine wearing it for 12 hours a day, how great would your reward be in the hereafter? It will earn Allah’s pleasure, you will be in His protection and it will increase your love for Him In Sha Allah.

Salah is like a mirror,
reflecting the state of your heart
as you speak to your Lord.
Are you distracted?
Are your words pure?
Be honest with yourself, 
what do you
see?