I used to be married to a woman. Before that I had had a relationship with a man. I then had another relationship with a woman, and I since then have had relationships with men. I still would define myself as bisexual partly because that’s how I feel but also because I think it’s important to — I think sexuality in this country especially is seen as a very black and white thing, and I think we should encourage the gray. You know?
I don’t go around in my life thinking, “Oh, my God, I’m going to have to have sex with a woman soon because I said I was bisexual!” … It’s like saying you’re straight or you’re gay — it’s just what you are, and whatever you’re doing in your life it runs obviously parallel, but it’s kind of secondary to how you are inside. That’s how I’ve always felt, and I still do, even though I’m very happily married to a really amazing man and wish to be so for the rest of my life.
This quote is a great reminder of how easy it is to erase people who are bisexual or pansexual and in long term relationships. Two of the most lovely bisexual ladies I know both experience this: one is bisexual, married to a woman, and has kids–most assume she’s lesbian because she hasn’t dated men since college, but she’s confident in her bisexuality. The other just got married not long ago to a man and is a proud bisexual advocate–but finds explaining that her husband hasn’t ‘turned her straight’ really, really annoying (he finds it just as annoying).
“I decided the only way to overcome this was to do what I’ve always done with things that scare me: Dive right into the centre of the fear, smother myself in it, understand it, control it, beat it and then enjoy
it.”~ Alan Cumming
Okay but can we talk about representation at the Tonys this year?!
- Openly bisexual host Alan Cumming
- Women won for lighting design of a play and a musical and costume design of a musical
- The Tony for leading actor in a play went to a character with autism and that play won the Tony
- A woman won for best direction and another for scenic design for Curious Incident
- A pair of women won for best book and score of a musical (and a musical with a lesbian protagonist at that)
- An Asian woman won for featured actress in a musical
- Fun Home won best musical and whose characters include multiple queer characters including one played by a child
I’m just really happy okay. REPRESENTATION MATTERS. Also Kelli O'Hara finally won a Tony.
“It’s unusual for young actresses to get such completeness in a role. Sally is vulnerable, tragic, funny, unlikable, heartbreaking. And then she gets whacked across the face with an epiphany.” Stone adds, “I don’t think I’ve ever been so truly obsessed with a character or a story. I can’t believe this is actually happening!” - Emma Stone Fulfills a Childhood Dream as Cabaret’s Latest Sally Bowles