So let me explain the situation and why I deleted…
Most people saw @yoonbum-indrag ‘s post explaining the situation but some things got lost in context. So there was a post talking about hitting or spanking kids and I just put my two cents in it. I told a story on the post about how my nephew kept hitting me with a phone after I told him to stop several times and because he wasn’t listening to me i slaped him on the hand to as a form of discipline. After that I had people sending me hate, calling me a cunt and just calling me out of my name so that already put me on edge espcially when OP blocked me from the post so I couldnt respond to said people. It was annoying but it didnt bother me THAT much.Then….thats when our-blades-are-sharp jumped in and made everything worse. Because I don’t have screenshots ill just quote them directly: “You hurt an infant for nothing but your own sick satisfaction. You assaulted a two year old to let out your frustration, that’s it. Do yourself a favor and stay away from him.” This is the line that pushed me over the edge and made me delete. She saud other things but this was the main thing I had a problem with. She assumed that the reason I smacked my nephew on the hand was because I was angry and I wanted to take my anger out on him (I already apologized to her because when she said that I thought she meant “satisfy myself sexually” but that wasnt the case, still bad nonetheless. Even with that one misunderstanding sh’e still saying I assaulted a minor family member and was gaining satisfaction from it.). On top of that she called a slap on the hand “assault”. The reason why it got to me was because I was abused by a person for that same reason. I’ve been abused throughout my childhood just because my parent wanted to let out anger. I would get physically and emotionally abused because my parent would have bad days at work and for her to compare THAT to smacking a kid on the hand to teach him that doing bad things have consequneces…..it just broke me. One of my biggest fears is to be like my abuser and now I had someone calling me one because of a slap on the hand so I deleted. I couldn’t take it even though I knew it was trivial and not true.
Her main issue with me hitting him was that he’s two and she thinks he doesnt know the difference between right and wrong and what and what not to do. She thinks that him throwing the phone at me was a game and that he thought the phone was a ball. That’s not the case. My nephew KNEW what he was doing. He knows the difference between a phone and a ball and he knows what “stop” and “no” means. When someone else is acting up he’ll tell them HIMSELF to stop so he knows. Plus im around him all the time I know him better then a random stranger on the internet.
I explained all of this to her in this post (x)
This was her horrible ass response (x)
She’s still saying that what I did was assault and even when I told her to not call it assault/abuse she ignored it and made some witty ass response. She ignored half of what I said about him knowing right from wrong and just said “He’s two!” as if that changes anything.
I love my nephew and I would never hurt him just to take out anger or for my own “sick satisfaction.” What I did wasnt assault either.
Anyways im glad to say im back.
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