As far as the debate about “A for Allies” goes.. I want to talk about something that’s been on my mind for a while. I haven’t seen it brought up, but I really want to: as an older lesbian who’s hoping to start a family with my girlfriend in the next few years, I’ve also come to believe that it’s important that the A be for allies to include and protect the children of LGBT people. When she and I do have a child, they might be straight and cis, but it doesn’t mean they won’t be affected by their mothers’ inability to get married, or legally co-parent. It doesn’t mean that they won’t be potential targets for homophobic bullying or discrimination by virtue of having two mothers and no father, or that they won’t feel the knock-on effects of the discrimination that we face as lesbians. I feel so endlessly frustrated that aces think that when we say “a for allies” we mean “sympathetic straight = queer” when it’s so much more complicated than that.