80s teen flick

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Periodically, I get messages from women who are straight and visibly non-compliant with gender norms, struggling to make sense of themselves from outside of a “trans” paradigm. Generally, these women are looking for representation, ways to understand themselves and their experiences, and assurance that they are not the only one in the world–because the women they most relate to tend to be lesbians, and there are some important differences in our experiences. I haven’t seen this film, but based on what I can gather of the theme, it seems like it might be of interest to straight women of this kind of experience.

It is apparently about an Albanian girl who becomes a Sworn Virgin in order to live the way she wants to–asserting what are considered to be male prerogatives in terms of her social freedoms, including her work and dress. Later, as young adult, she leaves her village for the city and ends up reconsidering her life and chafing against parts of the bargain she has made.

I haven’t seen it, so I can’t promise that this won’t involve her suddenly using a bunch of makeup and wearing dresses to “be a real woman” (like a version of the typical 80s teen flick “tomboy finally grows up to be a Lady” trope) but I sure hope it doesn’t go that route. At any rate, you might want to check this out. 

I read a review that said it juxtaposed her story with her sister’s story, and it seems like it could be an interesting portrayal of the double bind kind of pressure that “gender” puts on all girls.