7 Moments when ‘Buffy the Vampire Slayer’ Saved Me
1. “Seize the moment, ‘cause tomorrow you might be dead.” - Welcome to the Hellmouth, 1x1
2. “Bottom line is, even if you see them coming, you’re not ready for the big moments. No one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does. So, what are we, helpless? Puppets? Nah. The big moments are gonna come, you can’t help that. It’s what you do afterwards that counts. That’s when you find out who you are.” - Becoming Part 1, 2x21
3. “Strong is fighting! It’s hard, and it’s painful, and it’s every day. It’s what we have to do.” - Amends, 3x10
4. “You have to be strong … the hardest thing in this world is to live in it. Be brave. Live.” - The Gift, 5x22
5. “Life’s not a song. Life isn’t bliss, life is just this. It’s living. You’ll get along. The pain that you feel can only heal by living. You have to go on living. So one of us is living.” - Once More, With Feeling, 6x7
They’ll never know how tough it is … to be the one who isn’t Chosen, to live so near the spotlight and never step in it. But I know. I see more than anybody realizes because nobody’s watching me. I saw you last night, and I see you working here today. You’re not special; you’re extraordinary” - Potential, 7x12
7. “When it’s something that really matters, they fight. I mean, they’re lame morons for fighting. But they do. They never… They never quit. And so I guess I will keep fighting, too.” - Chosen, 7x22
What if you could have that power…now? In every generation one slayer is born…because a bunch of men who died thousands of years ago made up that rule. They were powerful men. This woman is more powerful than all of them combined. So I say we change the rule. I say my power…should be our power. Tomorrow, Willow will use the essence of the scythe to change our destiny. From now on, every girl in the world who might be a slayer… will be a slayer. Every girl who could have the power…will have the power. Can stand up…will stand up. Slayers, every one of us. Make your choice. Are you ready to be strong?
why the interruption of the 4x01 proposal is actually a GOOD thing
I’m going to share what may be an unpopular opinion, but
it’s something I’ve been thinking about for awhile now.
When I first saw Oliver put that ring on top of that
soufflé, I had the same initial reaction as everyone else: I squealed loudly,
bounced up and down on my bed, and marveled at how sappy and cheesy and
ridiculously in love Oliver Queen was.
But once I came down from that high – once I stopped to
really think about it – I realized that this proposal wasn’t coming out of a
place of love for Felicity, so much as it was coming out of Oliver’s desire to
run far and fast from a life he no longer wanted. Once I calmed down, I forced
myself to look at this situation objectively, and I found the idea of Oliver
proposing to be less of a romantic gesture and more of a move made out of
Before you start throwing rotten fruit, please hear me out.
There is NO DOUBT in my mind that Oliver Queen is head over heels in love with
Felicity Smoak. Nor is there any doubt in my mind that she loves him in return,
or that he really does want to marry her, or that she wants to marry him. I firmly believe all of that to be true.
But let’s look at this objectively.
Oliver didn’t just go on an extended vacation with Felicity:
he fucking RAN, and he ran FAST. In five months time they’ve traveled the
world, moved far away from their family and friends (and in Felicity’s case her job), settled down intheir
own house…and now Oliver’s ready to propose to her.
Oliver’s ready to propose in just five months, and all I can think is “this is so FAST!”…but then it
hit me that that’s the point. Oliver
is rushing this proposal…and he’s doing it on purpose. Proposing to Felicity is
Oliver’s way of clinging tighter to the life he’s built with her: his life without the Arrow. Settling
down with her, proposing to her, getting married to her, it all distances him
farther and farther from the Arrow, and from his old life…and from that old version of himself that he hates and that he no
longer wants to be. The faster he settles down, the faster he can put that
part of his life behind him…and the
faster he can run from it.
Yes, the season opens with Oliver running TO Felicity, and
it makes me so fucking happy I could scream (and believe me, I have). But in a
way, this season is still opening
with Oliver running FROM something. This time, he’s running from the Arrow,
from a life he no longer wants…and he’s running from himself.
I think it’s a good thing Laurel and Thea interrupt Oliver’s proposal,
because if he hadproposed to her that night…I honestly don’t
think she would have said “yes.” Not because she doesn’t love him, or because
she doesn’t want to spend the rest of her life with him…but because she knows they’re not ready.
First of all, she knows that Oliver’s still running, and she
knows that they won’t truly be ready to spend their lives as one until Oliver’s
comfortable with himself; until he’s finally stopped running. Second (if the interviews/spoilers
are to be believed), as much as Felicity loves Oliver and loves being with him,
she’s getting itchy feet, because part of her misses the life they left
behind…and I think that part of her NEEDS it. I also think she needs BOTH jobs
– her day job AND her night job. If she says “yes” to Oliver now, a part of her
will never feel fulfilled, and she respects herself too much to settle down
when she’s not comfortable with herself, either.
To borrow a brilliant analogy from “Buffy: the Vampire
Slayer,” Oliver and Felicity are still cookie dough, and they aren’t done baking.
Buffy (7x22 “Chosen”): I’m cookie dough. I’m
not done baking. I’m not finished becoming…whoever the hell it is I’m gonna
turn out to be. I make it through this, and the next thing, and the next thing,
and maybe one day, I turn around and realize I’m ready. I’m cookies. And then,
you know, if I want someone to eat m - or enjoy warm, delicious, cookie me - then
that’s fine. That’ll be then. When I’m done.
Finally, and perhaps most importantly, I think she knows,
deep down inside, that life as the Arrow will come calling again, and she knows
that Oliver will answer the call because
that’s who he is. How else do we explain that Felicity already has a new
suit ready and waiting for Oliver at the end of the premiere? She KNOWS Oliver
will turn to the suit again – she knows Oliver will return to that life –
because she knows that as long as his friends and his family and his city need
him, he’ll be there for them…because he’sa hero, and that’s what heroes do.
Long story short, as much as Oliver loves Felicity, there is
more to this attempted proposal than meets the eye, and I think the interruption is a
blessing in disguise. I don’t see a proposal happening until the season finale, or perhaps even the mid-season finale. But the premiere is definitely too soon in my mind. As much as they love each other, I just don’t think they’re ready.