My first “The Real INFP” (click here for a link to that) post really touched alot of people in special ways and i have been getting alot of requests to do another. So here it is; part two!
In the last part i talked about how INFPs have an unfair “pure, sugary sweet, nice” stereotype. Are there those INFPs? Yeah, they’re called type 2 INFPs. That’s a valid thing. They are about 10% of INFPs. Type 2s want to love and be loved, they offer help, support and assistance in the hopes that they will be held in high regard because of it. This type of INFP is likely to have a smiley and calm expression. They are more likely to be open and sweet than the average INFP.
I accidentally invalidated this sort of INFP in the last part, so i sincerely apologize. The point of the post was to validate INFPs who struggle with a certain stereotype and i ended up ignoring like 10% of all INFPs. My bad. So let’s kind of be a little more varied. There are 5 enneagrams associated with the INFP. 4, 9, 6, 5 and 2. Of these types, 2 fits the general INFP stereotype the most. This is not to say that if you are a happy, open, and sweet INFP you must be a 2, because you could just be very developed. However, it is very strange that we define INFP by the most pleasant creme of the crop. If you define INFPs by their pleasant sweetness you will find that only about 35%-ish percent of INFPs will meet your description. Being on tumblr and seeing “every type posts” people usually pin INFPs as being scared, fumbling, adorable, sweet, and non-confrontational. 2s and 9s might fit that description. At least to some extent. However putting 9s into that category is iffy, as their motivation is much different than that of the 2. 9s are more focused on acceptance, non-confrontation, and suppression of anger. They may simply be placating you rather than being cute. 9s more often will try to do what they feel like others want them to do in order to wiggle out of any kind of consequence of disagreeing. So, non confrontational? Check. Type 2s act lovable on purpose. They use flattery and gifts in order to get people to adore them. They could definitely be considered sweet and adorable. Check.
However, let’s remember; this is a minority. 4s and 6s are not like this. This is >60% of INFPs. 4s and 6s care much more about being authentic and guarded. They’re intense. They’re confrontational. They have strong opinions. They’re not social butterflies.
4s are an violent tempest of emotion contained in an ornate jar. They want to be understood they NEED to be understood. They want someone to look at them, they want someone to see them. They want to be singularly loved. They are likely to avoid all labels because they don’t want to be loved categorically. They have emotions they sometimes can’t contain. They can become very obstinate and aggressive to being ignored or misunderstood. If you have shown that you don’t understand or seem to not be able to, they may become vengeful or disrespectful. If most of the people in their lives can’t see them, understand them, and love them singularly, they may become volatile and depressed. A perfect storm of enigma and estrangement. Even at their best, 4s have a certain disrespect for the common. The vast majority of people might find a type 4 INFP abrasive, because a type 4 INFP naturally doesn’t want to be lumped in with the vast majority of people and will resist liberally. Even a beautiful storm is destructive.
Type 6s are skeptics, they are not trusting. They can be described as scared but thats only part of the truth. They are loyalists and investigators. The Type 6 INFP is, perhaps, the most intuitive form of INFP. This kind of INFP is half philosopher, half scaredy cat. They are more rational and intelligent than average, but less artistic and emotional. They are guarded, very guarded, likely to see kindness as a trap and extravagant emotion as threatening. They are contained and analytical. This type of INFP is also often very insecure, often becoming socially counterphobic (regardless of if they are a c6 or cp6) and lashing out because of their insecurity. Like the 4, the 6 maybe become counterculture out of fear of authority. distrust of authority. This is the type of INFP is the most likely to argue based on the perceived self-evident legitimacy of their own opinions. They might be extremely loyal to certain music, art, people, ideas, philosophies and opinions and push back hard and abrasively against opposition. They might tell you they don’t want to listen to you music or insult your taste in movies to feed their own opinions.
So tell me, how does this fit with that sweet, adorable dopey INFP stereotype? It doesn’t. And the NTs can laugh and the STs can snicker but we’re all 3 dimensional. MBTI has no relation to intelligence, cuteness, or niceness. If anyone ever tries to tell you you’re not an INFP because you’re cold, guarded or less than sweet don’t question yourself. Don’t let them get to you. Its amazing how some people can treat something like this, which is meant to add dimensions of complexity to people, with such two dimensional thinking. Since the posting of “The Real INFP” I have read the reblogs and replies. People telling stories about people telling them they aren’t an INFP because they aren’t cuddly. It’s ridiculous. Is any type cuddly? Is every type cuddly? Hey, ESTPs, don’t you wanna have sensitive cuddle sometimes? Hey, INTPs aren’t there some days when you walk around with a smile? Hey ENTJs, aren’t you sweet and adorable sometimes? Hey ISFJs, ever have a bad day when everyone is on your bad side?
We always forget that this is all about cognitive functions and general temperament. Myself included, sometimes my thinking gets a little linear. We all do this, and it’s a trap we all fall into. We keep treating MBTI as a collection of stereotypes that prove our misconceptions with pseudoscience. You can say “INFPs are all moody, #2deep4u pithy babies” or “INFPs are sweet and shy little cuddly bears” and you would be equally as wrong. Whenever you treat MBTI and enneagram as little stereotypes you defeat the whole purpose. MBTI observation should be based on the extrapolation of the meaning and affect cognitive functions have on behavior and personality. Enneagram is about fears, traumas and motivations and should be treated as wounds and damage people carry, to be thoughtfully considered, not paraded around as a flag of uniqueness.
This is logic, reason and categorization, folks. It’s an observational science. Be sensible or get out. This knowledge should be used to fight our biases not enable them. It should be used to increase our understanding, not validate misunderstanding. INFPs should never have to question their identity because NTs consider intelligence their domain. (and vice versa, NTs should have to question their identity over having robust emotions) Feisty INFPs should be able to be true to themselves without everyone questioning who they really are. Whenever someone doesn’t make perfect sense to us we shouldn’t seek to redefine them, but instead to better understand our definitions and their limitations. You shouldn’t question the validity of their self-concept, but rather seek a newfound understanding and respect.
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4 Tbsp. Thyme Simple Syrup (½ Cup of Sugar, ½ Cup of Water, bring to a boil, remove from heat, add thyme sprigs, stir, and let cool. Chill until ready to use.)
1 Bottle of Prosecco or your favorite bubbly
Peel and chop 2 plums.
Muddle the plums with the thyme simple syrup and lemon juice until all of the plum juices have been released. (You can also muddle right in the glass if you prefer to have bits of fruit in your cocktail!)
Shake with ice in a cocktail shaker.
Pour over crushed ice evenly between two glasses.
Top off with prosecco and garnish with extra plum slices and thyme sprigs.
Apple has just released iOS 9.3.5, it may seem like a very small and unnecessary update because it’s only about 41 MB, but appearances can be deceptive.
It fixes very dangerous exploit found in older versions of iOS 9.3 like 9.3.4 or 9.3.3, which allowed hackers to have full control over your iPhone by installing malware. If they do, they will have access to all of your files, they can enable camera on your device without You even notice. It’s spread by links send in iMessage or Texts from Unknowns senders.
If you’re jailbroken on iOS 9.3.3 only way to stay save is not opening links form Unknown, once You click it there is no way to stop it.
My sickness continued on all day yesterday even after taking Diclegis. I ate crackers and drank water every time I woke up to go to the bathroom last night and again this morning. I’m hoping for the best today. I pray I don’t have another day like yesterday 😩
like do people honestly walk into their workplaces and think “how can i do the least amount of work possible?” are there people who think they deserve to get paid to wear a uniform and talk about nothing work related to other people who are wearing that uniform?
This beautiful beastie is a Daimler DB 18 Coupé by Hooper built for His Majesty King George VI and Queen Elizabeth. It had the 2.2 litre 6 cylinder engine with a 4 speed pre selector gearbox. Much against the King’s wishes ,a radio was fitted in the car. It had a power hood, electrically operated windows with ivory switches, a cigar lighter for the King and a vanity mirror for the Queen . Lovely.