Am I pretty enough? Am I skinny enough? Do I wear the right clothes? Do I say the right things? Are my shoes okay? Do they match my outfit? Does my hair look okay? Am I okay? One thing that I found most common in people that have reached out to me is confidence, where is it? What is it? What is this idea of self-assurance and where can I get it? Many of us struggle with confidence issues every single day. We have these impossible standards we think we need to live up to: “Am I skinny enough? Am I pretty enough? Am I saying the right things? Am I hanging out with the correct people?” And I have one question: who cares? People ask me “Where can I find self-confidence? How can I build myself up?” You can do this and you can find this, by caring about one thing: yourself. We find confidence when we stop caring about what other people think. Society and people in general have given each other such high expectations in any aspect of life, in our love life, in our appearance, in our jobs, school expectations, grades, starting out young… My most common question is how do I find confidence. You find it when you find yourself, and that is one thing that I’m certain about. And it does not come easy, but it does come. We live in a world where “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” but that’s not true, scars may heal but words are constantly hurting. We’re constantly replaying these words over and over: “you’re fat, you’re ugly, you’re not worth it”; and there’s nobody to tell us these aren’t true. All we see is a missed guided representation, a reflection of these words, and I’m here to tell you, male, female, thirteen, eighty seven, to be confident and find yourself, find your own self-worth, find your own definition of who you are. Because when you find out who you are, that’s what matters, not what other people think about you. It may be hard, when you’re constantly being torn out, day after day, and people are telling you it’s just words. You have to be strong, you have to realise that the only way you’re gonna find confidence is if you just don’t care what people think about you because who cares? The only thing you should care about is yourself. Care enough to think that you are worth it and you are confident, because you are attractive enough, you are worth enough. Confidence is not for the pretty, confidence is not for the talented, the rich, the popular, confidence is for you. Be confident in who you are, ‘cause you only have one life to live, you are only given one chance, one opportunity to be one person and that is yourself. Don’t let what anybody thinks of you tear you down, be confident in what you do, do it for you and not for anybody else, and then you will find confidence, I promise you this. Love yourself. Whatever life has thrown at you, just know you can come back from it and smile. Confidence is what you make it, confidence is who you are. You have to believe you are worth it, because you are. If you’re not smiling, you’re doing it wrong.