4x04: the heart of the matter

“He couldn’t tell that this was one of those occasions a man never forgets: a small cicatrice had been made on the memory, a wound that would ache whenever certain things combined–the taste of gin at mid-day, the smell of flowers under a balcony, the clang of corrugated iron, an ugly bird flopping from perch to perch.”

Graham Greene, from The Heart of the Matter (Viking Press, 1981)

Don Henley
The Heart of the Matter

Don Henley – The Heart of the Matter

You know, sometimes, when things have just gone so wrong for so long, I like to remember that Don Henley once existed and I blast “The Heart of the Matter” and get down, loudly singing out some all-time lyrics: THE MORE I KNOW, THE LESS I UNDERSTAND / ALL THE THINGS I THOUGHT I KNEW, I’M LEARNING AGAIN

BEEN TRYIN’ TO GET DOWN!! TO THE HEART OF THE MATTERRRR!!!!

yeaaaahhhhh

The Heart of the Matter
India.Arie
The Heart of the Matter

I’ve been learning to live without you now
But I miss you sometimes
The more I know, the less I understand
All the things I thought I knew, I’m learning them again
I’ve been tryin’ to get down to the Heart of the Matter
But my will gets weak
And my thoughts seem to scatter
But I think it’s about forgiveness
Forgiveness
Even if, even if you don’t love me anymore

Almost brings me to tears how beautiful this song is in every single way. 

He couldn’t tell that this was one of those occasions a man never forgets: a small cicatrice had been made on the memory, a wound that would ache whenever certain things combined - the taste of gin at mid-day, the smell of flowers under a balcony, the clang of corrugated iron, an ugly bird flopping from perch to perch.
—  Graham Greene (The Heart of the Matter)
They had been corrupted by money, and he had been corrupted by sentiment. Sentiment was the more dangerous, because you couldn’t name its price. A man open to bribes was to be relied upon below a certain figure, but sentiment might uncoil in the heart at a name, a photograph, even a smell remembered.
—  Graham Greene - The Heart of the Matter
Forgive and forget. That’s what they say. It’s good advice, but it’s not very practical. When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back. When someone wrongs us, we want to be right. Without forgiveness old scores never settle. Old wounds never heal, and the most we can hope for is that someday we’ll be lucky enough to forget.
—  Meredith Grey (Narration), “The Heart Of The Matter”, Grey’s Anatomy