4 day work weeks

anonymous asked:

what happened to the job that you were apparently busy with when you got kicked out of a group that you were barely active in?

I’m working today. Funnily enough. Some people don’t always talk about work?? like work isn’t all consuming. But when i’m working 3 days in a row, I won’t quite be active anywhere. This week my days were separated. I only work 4 a week so.

An All-Inclusive Guide to Making Your First Year in Practice Not Suck As Much As Wayfaring’s

Hi there, just curious if you’d share what things you were looking for in your first job vs what things you value now, now that you’ve been working out there on your own. Anything that must be in the contract that wasn’t there before (or vice versa)? Tips for future graduating residents?

Yaaaaasssss so many advices. So many things. This ask has been in my inbox for months because I have too many things to say about it and I can’t seem to organize it properly. 

Let’s break it down into 3 sections: 1) What I thought I wanted 2) What I needed and didn’t know to ask/look for 3) What I want now. Here goes.

What I thought I wanted:

  • big dolla$$$
  • super sweet signing bonus
  • moving allowance
  • loan repayment assistance
  • regular 40 hour work schedule
  • nice patients
  • independence / autonomy in decisionmaking
  • ability to practice the way I was trained - with up to date guidelines and procedures and equipment


What I wanted and didn’t know to ask for:

  • Supportive colleagues - In your first year of practice out of residency you lose every ounce of confidence that you gained as a senior resident. You question minor decisions and are constantly afraid of killing people or being sued. It is extra hard to practice in a new town when your partners in practice are not supportive. Sometimes you need someone to lay a fresh set of eyes on a wonky EKG or a weird rash, you know? I didn’t have that option. It made me study harder and somewhat be more cautious and definitely more creative in my practice. But having a colleague to commiserate with at the end of the day or to consult on difficult cases would have been really nice. You don’t have to be BFFs with your colleagues, but they have to be people you can agree/get along with and trust to take care of your patients in your absence.
  • Friends - This sounds obvious, but I moved to a new town that literally has no people anywhere close to my age. Even having one person I knew and could confide in would have been wonderful. One person to go to a movie with or watch a football game with would have been a sanity saver for me. Find a place where you can find other people like you. 
  • A reasonable amount of time off - I got less time off in my first job than I did as a resident. That was unacceptable to me. This would be fine if my practice didn’t act like they were going to go bankrupt if I took an unpaid day or even a half day to go to the doctor, but they did. You need a place where you can take one week off every 3-4 months if possible, even if all that time isn’t paid. Medicine is such a stressful job. Make sure they’re giving you rest time.
  • A non-toxic work environment - I knew going into my job that I was replacing a workaholic and that I was joining a workaholic. What I didn’t realize was that I was also expected to be a workaholic and anything less than killing myself was seen as laziness. Pay attention to the culture at your new job. Ask the docs what they do for fun or to relax and more importantly when the last time was they did that thing. If they don’t have any answers, they’re too busy. 
  • Diversity. This may just be me, but I went into family medicine because I get bored easily. I need variety of patient types and disease types and socioeconomic groups and everything else. I realized quickly in my practice that most of my patients were privately insured elderly white people. As in, the most boring demographic for Wayfaring
  • A Balanced schedule. I figured that when I joined a practice that had been established for 30 years that the workflow kinks would have been worked out and it would run like a well oiled machine. In reality I would have 8 physicals a day and 5 of my most complicated patients in hospital follow ups back to back, all scheduled for just 15 minutes. There has to be balance in the schedule. You have to be able to take a little extra time here and make it up elsewhere. 


What I want now: 

  • fair dolla$$$. In actuality, what’s fair is actually considerably more than what I was making in my first job. I was grossly underpaid, particularly considering this being a rural area where nobody wants to work (typically those jobs are paid much higher). It’s not about the bottom dollar value for me. It’s about compensating me in a way that is comparable to my peers. 
  • Colleagues who can be both friends and mentors. See above. 
  • Good benefits. Two years of no dental or vision sucks when your most expensive problems are dental and vision related. Life insurance and retirement plans aren’t something most 30 year olds think of, but they’re really important, and I didn’t have those to start with. 
  • A flexible schedule. The whole world doesn’t need to fall apart if I need to switch my regular day off or if I need a half day to go to the doctor. 
  • Administrative time. Preferably a full week day, but a half day is great too. I’m happy working 4 10 or 12 hour days a week to have one week day off to catch up on work I’m behind on or get my hair cut and get my taxes done and see my psychiatrist, you know?
  • Knowledgeable and helpful staff. I need staff who don’t perpetuate old wives’ tales and notions like “you need a zpack for that cold”. I need to work with people who will ask if they don’t understand something rather than just make something up and who can help me educate my patients. I need folks who are prompt and who can anticipate some needs. 
  • To not be responsible for other peoples’ paychecks. In private practice, if I take time off or scale back, the practice loses money and thus our staff lose hours or money too. The staff in my first job were horribly underpaid and I don’t like the idea of the entire burden of the practice’s finances hanging on my shoulders. Sign me up for that hospital-owned practice, please.
  • To not have to turn patients away based on payer source. This is a national problem and is definitely not limited to my first job. But my first job wouldn’t let me take Medicaid patients at all. It made it completely impossible for me to build any sort of pediatric or OB practice in our town. I don’t like the idea of turning away a patient because their type of insurance doesn’t pay as well. I want to just treat patients and not have to worry about their payments. Hello, single payer healthcare system. Get on it! Obviously I will still have to worry about whether my patient can afford their meds or whether their insurance will cover their meds, but I won’t have to pick and choose what patients I accept based on their payer source. 
  • To deliver quality, up to date care. To work with people who will back up my evidence-based decisions and not practice based on feelings and patient satisfaction. To work with people who will encourage me to learn more and do new things. 

There you have it folks. A lil summary of what I want, what you might want, and what I’ve learned in these first (almost) 2 years of practice. Here’s to better future jobs for us all!

“How To Study.”

A tale told by a physics student. I am really bad at studying. Which explains my somewhat average grades. But i know how to study effectively and realistically have success with studying. Nobody ever teaches you HOW  to study, they just tell you to study. So here is how i do it (most of the time)

There are two ways of going at it.

  • Stress studying. (studying for exams just the day before and putting as much information in your head as possible just to forget everything right before the exam)
  • Actual studying. (taking the time you have and study at least 4 hours a day 3 work days a week, and actually get the success that you deserve)

Stress studying

It’s bad for you, your health, and a big cause of bee colony collapse disorder (Don’t ask why). Realistically you’re gonna pass your exams  1 out of 3 or 4 times, and it is just not worth it. It doesn’t just reflect on your grades but also on your work ethic. (which is real bad for your future)

Actual studying

What you need is:

  • Time.
  • Studying utensils (quality notebooks and good pens).
  • A clean and tidy Studying environment.
  • Discipline.

Time - It’s really simple, plan 4 hours a day of studying 3 work days a week. Don’t be like “But dude! When will i have time for my personal stuff?” seriously. A typical day has 24 hours, If you go to sleep at midnight and wake up at 7 or 8 (that’s 7-8 hours of sleep) you have 17-18 hours left to your day.

4 hours of that is just 23%, taking in account you’d do it at least 3 work days a week it would be just 7% (and a little more) of your precious workday time. So it’s worth it. Totally worth it. Don’t ruin your work ethic just because you want to spent 7% more time on tumblr.

Studying Utensils - I cannot stress enough how important good notebooks and good pens and stuff are. I suffered a lot from this, i wouldn’t take notes, and write down stuff because of how awful it looked on cheap paper with bic pens (no offense bic, your lighters are awesome tho).  

It’s not cheap tho, but at least buy good notebooks with that metal round thingy holding it (i.d.k the name of it in English). And go Black instead of Blue, Black pens all the way. Use sharpies instead of the usual stuff, or at least gel ink pens, the smoother it goes the better, and blue pens are an abomination, every knowledgeable person in the past ages has written in black. Oh, and fineliners.

A clean and tidy Studying environment - You have a desk? Yes? Good. Throw everything you have on it to the ground (except you laptop, you wouldn’t drop a baby, would you?). Get a desk lamp, no matter how bright your room is, you need a concentrated stream of light allowing the photons reflecting from the ink on your books to transfer the information successfully to your brain, and desk lamps boost concentration. Make that a working environment, only use that desk when you’re studying (no exceptions) and once you do that, every time you sit by your desk you will automatically start to work.

Discipline - You want to be full on motivated :D ??? Well f*** you cause that’s not happening >:D

Discipline is what you’re looking for. Full on military stuff, just like back in good old communism. Discipline guarantees you success, motivation leads to incoherent success which includes utterly common instances of failure.

I mean look at the definitions:

Mo·ti·va·tionˌ

mōdəˈvāSH(ə)n/ - noun

  1. the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.
  2. the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.

Will you rely on luck and willingness or reason? No, luck and willingness pass, they are not consistent and for every reason there are at least 10 excuses. Don’t be a silly excuse for your failed academic success.

Dis·ci·pline

ˈdisəplən/ - noun

  1. The practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience[1].
  2. A branch of knowledge, typically one studied in higher education.

[1] - The only punishment you’ll receive is academic failure, and not reaching your true, deserving recognition for your true intelligence and social worth just because of laziness caused by day to day stress is punishment enough, i think.

Discipline yourself, push yourself. Don’t wait for something so relative, so passing as motivation. If you’re gonna do something, STAND THE f*** UP AND DO IT.

Just remember RWSR.

  • Read
  • Write
  • Study
  • Repeat

Cheers,

-Rudescience

TAZ Lady Week, Day 4: Canon Divergence

What if Julia worked for the Raven Queen and she was the one sent to collect Lucas’ soul? It would!!! Have been so good!! Julia, who absolutely understands what Lucas and Maureen have done now that she is standing in front of her husband again, Julia who absolutely shares Magnus’ sense of honor and duty and has to make the agonizing decision to do her job anyway!!! I’m crying

3

And everyone and everything I embrace

Is gonna be in pain, such a pain

But never never never without grace

‘Cause every single pain and every tear

Will make you grow

And one day you might embrace me back also

[x]

My Fitness Shit

Alright so a LOT of people have asked me what I do to at the gym what my diet is what should you should do as a beginner etc etc. 

My Program
For my program I am currently working out 4 to 5 times a week. Each day that I go I focus on a different muscle group: Push (Chest/Triceps), Pull (Back/Biceps), and Leg day. I also focus on a power lift, which can be: Bench Press, Deadlift, Overhead Press, or Squats. Along with a power lift I do accessory movements to complement it. Sometimes i’ll add in a few ab workouts but I don’t focus on that and i’ll say why in a sec.

Examples of my workout plans:
Push Day: Bench Press, Overhead Press, DB (Dumbell) Incline Press, DB Shoulder Press, Pec (Pectoral) Deck, Dip Machine, Side Lateral Raises, Overhead Tricep Extension, Rope Tricep Extensions, Cable Crossover, etc.

Pull Day: Deadlifts, DB Row, TBar Row, Seated Cable Rows, DB Curl, Rope Hammer Curl, Face Pulls, Lateral Pull Down, Reverse Pec Deck, etc.

Leg Day: Squats, Sumo Deadlift, Calf Raises, Leg Curls, Leg Extensions, Seated Leg Press, Hip Abduction, Hip Adduction. 

The usual amount of sets and reps is 3 sets of 15 reps for each of these workouts, HOWEVER, sometimes I will lower the amount of reps and increase the number of sets I’m doing if its a heavy day, meaning I will be lifting heavier weights because yay I am want to be stronger. 
Most likely this all sounds very scary and complicated but don’t worry! If you don’t know what these are just google them and if it looks fun to you then do it :)

My Diet
So my goal is to become lean, which is basically try to remove my fat as much as possible without losing too much muscle. To do this I need to keep track of what I eat. On the nutrition label of every food there is 3 macronutrients: Fats, Carbs, and Protein. This is important because I need to keep track of this if I want to lose fat. Right now I am eating about 600 calories below my BMI (Basal Metabolic Index) which is basically the amount of calories you need to go about your day. Google your BMI to find out how much you need :) I am eating 1600 calories a day AND I am trying to eat my weight in protein. Now I NEED TO DO THIS TO MAINTAIN MY MUSCLE MASS. Right now I weight around 130 lbs so I try to eat at LEAST 130 grams of protein. I am also limiting my fat intake to around 50g. I HIGHLY recommend you download the MyFitnessPal App!!! It makes it 10x easier to track what you eat!
So in short I am eating 1600 calories, ~130g of protein, ~200g of carbs, and <50g of fat
Now these numbers are dependent on your OWN weight, so if you want to find a good plan you gotta do some math okay? But yeah this is all I can think about at the moment. Good luck to everyone with their gains!

FMA Villains Week - Day 4: Reunion.
Couldn’t work on anything “big” so here we go with this doodle I would like to one day finish. |D Unfortunately I had other stuff to do during the day, so I ended up doodling this very last minute, I hope I’m still on time for the fourth day… OTL
A big thanks goes to my cousin, who gave me this idea. This is what would happen if the Homunculi lived like an average and happy family. We need to see mooooreeee Homunculi interaction *dies*

100 Reasons to Study:

I never expected this “reasons to study” thing to get so many submissions, and as it takes me so long to post them all, I decided to do a bulk post of some so here they are:

(If I haven’t included a url, it was submitted by an anon).

  1. To prove people that “bad” students can become excellent students too.
  2. To expand your knowledge of the world.
  3. To look back on your success in ten years time. (Submitted byadxlastudies)
  4. To not let my mental illness define my grades. (Submitted bymusicandmaths)
  5. I study because I am privileged enough to have the opportunity. I study because I have no one getting in my way telling me I can’t. I study because I want to do some real good in this world. I study because I live in a country where being female has no significant disadvantage; and so, I take this opportunity so that I may make future opportunities for those who don’t have them. (Submitted by crimson-voltaire)
  6. My reason for studying is how I’ll get to where I want to be in my life which is successful, comfortable, and happy.
  7. I study to make my mum happy and proud.
  8. I study to prove my anxiety wrong!
  9. I study because I want to save lives.
  10. I study because my grandpa, orphaned during WWII when he was 8, worked 4 days a week in a mine to learn for 2 days. He’s retired after 40 years of working in diplomacy, for the last 5 years as an ambassador. He’s my role model. And I love him so much.
  11. I study because my primary school teacher from when I was 6 replied “Well who would think that?” when my mother informed her I was going to university. I study so I can tell her “Why would you not think that?”
  12. I study because I want to give myself the best future I possibly can as a black woman. (Submitted by n-marlzz)
  13. I study because my dreams are improbable. But not impossible. I will achieve them. (Submitted by redheadbecool)
  14. I study because even though I can’t imagine having a future, I want one. (Submitted by stxdys)
  15. I study so that I can be surrounded by the right people at school, at home, at work, and on Tumblr. You can only walk the path that you choose for yourself, so choose wisely. Pave your path with bricks, not straw.
  16. I study because last year I was in a mental hospital for young people and I discovered that I want my death to mean something.
  17. I study because diseases have haunted my family for long enough, and cancer deserves to be taken down once for all.
  18. I study because my father left school at age 13 to work to provide for his family and he has been working ridiculously hard ever since so I can have an education.
  19. I study to be self reliant and to get more answers. The concept of being independent is attractive to me, and if i study hard enough, i will be able to live freely without relying on my parents. The thought of getting answers is a huge satisfaction.
  20. I study because I told my ex, “Watch me go to Harvard”. So oops.
  21. Because I want to have a well paying job which means I can eventually travel the world one day.
  22. I study because I love to be productive really just in love with the feeling of it being noon and already have gotten everything done that I needed for that day. (Submitted by revision-babe)
  23. I want and I like to study because I believe that we as humans have the responsibility of maintain and grow the knowledge people developed in the past. How could we waist all those efforts to try know this wonderful world a little better?  (Submitted by mochilunar-universe​)
  24. I study because my Dad went through a lot of work to get to this country so that I could have a good life and a good education, and I’m not going to waste all his good efforts and take him and my education for granted.
  25. Because I believe I can do it and I won’t let their words stop me. (Submitted by truly-written-by-me)
  26. I study for my own sense of achievement! I’m also really motivated by my boyfriend who is very clever and works really hard. I want to get a first in my masters this year and I will!  (Submitted by @orchidbeam)
  27. I study for Nicki Minaj, she would be proud of me, and all the other women in the world. I hope that my degree will put me in the position to make a better world for all my sisters out there and the little ones.
  28. I study because my family isn’t as rich as our family friends, and other families always make fun about what my dad does for a living. I want to change that and make sure the only thing others talk about is how amazing we turned out and what a good career I’m going into.
  29. I study to make my parent’s hardships (moving to America, to provide a better life for my siblings and I) worth it.
  30. My reason to study is to show myself and everyone I am stronger than my mental illness and to prove everyone who said it would stop me from getting anywhere wrong.
  31. I study so I can change the world for the better.
  32. I study because I want to help my family, to fulfil my dreams and save lives.
  33. To be a champion.
  34. I want to study in order to prove myself and people that being dyslexic and dysorthographic doesn’t mean being stupid.  (Submitted bybritannicusmyfav)
  35. I love to learn,and I want to know about all the things I missed because of school system. (Submitted by @seshet)
  36. I study because I want to be the first sibling to go straight into uni without transferring from a community college.
  37. I want to study so that I can transfer out from a community college to a really good university so that people won’t think the decision I made to go to community college was bad. Also to make my DAD super proud!
  38. I study because I want to be the best version of myself.
  39. I study to make those who have taken care of me proud, to show them they did a good job. I also study for myself, to prove that I can fulfil my goals and that everyone who has ever made fun of me just pushed me forward instead of putting the boot in. Getting a good job to live with my boyfriend would be a great plus! We all need motivation, and what’s better to motivate oneself than dreams to fulfil! Here are mine. (~Submitted bystudy-littleidlegirl)
  40. I study because I never want to stop learning about myself and the world we live in.
  41. I study so I’m educated enough to take down the haters in an articulate way so I feel accomplished when leaving the situation.
  42. I study to ensure that when I’m actively in politics, only weak minded people will be able to scorn me due to my ethnic background or religion (or something stupid along those lines) instead of the immaculate policies and work I am carrying out.
  43. I study to become successful in my future and because I have a passion for learning. (Submitted by baklavugh)
  44. I study because I don’t have anything else to do. I guess it keeps me so busy that I don’t have time to think how lonely I am.
  45. Because it makes me happy to see my hard work paid off and also ensures a better future than I would have if I didn’t study well. (Submitted by h4rshitaa)
  46. I study to be able to pursue the career I want. For the thrill of knowledge, the security of understanding. For the way it shapes how I interpret the world. I study not because it is something I must do, but because it is something that is a part of who I am.  (Submitted by @audesapare)
  47. I study to improve my mind so I can understand deeply the things people thought I was not capable of understanding. I study so I can live the most fulfilled life possible. I take every second of this life as a chance to learn and improve myself.
  48. Because I’m going to prove girls are useful for more then just looks and a sex object.
  49. I study to open doors of opportunity. I study to improve my and others lives. I study to feel good when I go to sleep. I study to feel confident with my ability. I study to prove to myself what I can do.
  50. Because I want to show to my child that everything needed effort and passion. Also I want to show how important knowledge is, as a mom and as a housewife. (Submitted by studymamapartiallyhousewife)
  51. I study because it makes me happy to know I am in control of my future.
  52. I study because I am curious.
  53. So that I won’t have to struggle like my parents are financially.  (Submitted by study-sugar)
  54. I study because I want my single mother who has worked so hard for my education to live a better life when she’s older. I want her to look at me in the future, sitting in my office in a law firm and telling herself “it was all worth it”.
  55. FOR NICKI MINAJ. I WILL GO TO A HIGHER EDUCATION FOR YOU.
  56. I study so that I can be proud of the person that I am.
  57. I study because I want independence. After my bachelor’s degree I plan to be able to continue into further study such as an MA and support myself. I am an only child which has always led my family to be over protective and education will always be my way in holding my own in the world.
  58. I study so I can have the freedom to leave where I am now and actually be happy for a change. Without studying I wouldn’t be able to get the job nor satisfaction in life I know I deserve.
  59. I study because it’s the one thing I can decide for myself.
  60. I study because knowledge is power and I never want to feel inferior to anyone or have any regrets. I don’t want anything to hold me back from achieving my dreams. (Submitted by shreestudies)
  61. I study so I’m not so nervous for tests. Also to improve myself and my learning.
  62. I study because I have a huge thirst for knowledge. I love to learn and allow that to change me as a person for the better. I love being able to understand the world around me and contribute my opinions that have been developed from what I’ve learned. (Submitted bymymindssecretpalace)
  63. I want to be a successful person in life. I can use my intelligence to help those in need. Besides, people won’t belittle or pick on my appearance! ✌
  64. I study because I want to help others and make people aware that how important it is to be literate. (Submitted by anashiv)
  65. I study to show that I have potential. I study to show my learning disabilities and adhd is not me. I study because I want to grow. I study to be the person I know I can be, the person I know I am.
  66. I’m so tired of not passing my tests, of feeling like I don’t know the material. I have testing anxiety which prevents me from doing well. I want to study enough that I feel so comfortable with the material and the anxiety goes away. I want to study so I can begin feeling proud of myself and all my accomplishments.
  67. To help those struggling with different mental illnesses and help them see a better light.
  68. Because I want to build that building.
  69. I study because I want to prove all my male teachers and friends, that not only boys are learning the best, and if I want to, I can beat them all!
  70. I want to study to make my parents proud after all the sacrifices they made for me and to succeed so my family and I can live a better life.
  71. I study because I love to learn new things. (Submitted by ki-soonal)
  72. I study to find a solution to stop the passing on of the genes for hereditary diseases. As in to reduce risk of young children being diagnosed with hereditary diseases.
  73. To get that dream job and slay everyone who said it was too difficult for me.
  74. Because education is awesome.
  75. So I can change the world.
  76. To give my mom and dad the life they deserve! (Submitted by samiya-malik)
  77. Because everything is a competition and I must be best. (Submitted by letustudy)
  78. To prove to myself and others that I can do anything I set my mind to. (Submitted by studiousstudying)
  79. So when you are taking a test/exam your anxiety and stress levels are lower. (Submitted by introvertedturtlequeen)
  80. I study because I want to know I’ve earned everything I achieve.
  81. The biggest reason I study is that all of my friends are incredibly smart and when I was younger I wanted to prove to them that I could keep up, but now that I’ve decided that I don’t need to compete, I study just because it makes me feel good. (Submitted by queen-elbow)
  82. I study because the world is an interesting place, and I want to know it as deeply as possible. (Submitted by matchamonstr)
  83. I study because I am so sick and tired of seeing my mom struggle, all because she didn’t have a good education. I don’t want to wake up to a job I absolutely dread, and be paid minimum wage. I want to say “thanks mom, I can take care of you now.”
  84. I study to grow big enough to reach my high hopes. (Submitted by seriousstudygirl)
  85. To see the look on my mum and dad’s face when they see my results. (Submitted by seizethesaturday)
  86. I study because I love to crush my enemies. I like to see the looks on their faces when they see me succeed. (Submitted by dirtylaundry-emptystyrofoam)
  87. I study because I feel the need to prove to the world that I am more than a child prodigy that burnt out one day. I need to prove to myself that I’m just as good, if not better than I used to be. That I’ve got places to go and people to prove wrong.
  88. I study because I love to teach and I want to know everything that I can so that I can more clearly convey things to others, and to be able to make connections across topics to make things personal and interesting to them. (Submitted by the-homework-fandom)
  89. My dream as a little girl was “to be the most smartest person ever” and I still don’t know what else to do. (Submitted by polaroceanographer)
  90. To create room for the real me in the future.
  91. My reason for studying is so I can get into the university I want, and not have to travel away to one. (Submitted by iggythedragonslayer)
  92. To get a well paid job so my children can have the best possible life.
  93. My reason to study is to prove to my parents and myself that I can achieve my goals without the help of others. My reason to study is to gain valuable knowledge, NOT just for a grade.  (Submitted by barbstudies)
  94. To prove to myself that I am strong and can reach my goals. (Submitted by scared-robot
  95. I study so I have a chance of getting into the United States Air Force academy… 
  96. I study so I am offered to meet interesting people that are also studying the same field as I am. (Submitted by ghostsname)
  97. I’ll study so I can live relaxed as a cat in Hokkaido.
  98. *Shia LaBoeuf voice* JUST DO IT
  99. So I can prove myself that I am, indeed, intelligent and not just some bimbo with a hollow head. (Submitted by study-guerassimovna)
  100. Because learning new things and having a more informed view of the world is beautiful. (Submitted by studism)
Are you Daddy’s lady fwiend? Pt.3

Calumxreader

Word count: 1,700+

Warnings: Some bad words but that’s it.

part 1    part 2 

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When I got to my apartment, I felt drained.

I couldn’t help but feel as if Calum being upset was my fault.  He might have regretted me meeting kaiden.

He probably didn’t want me to be a mom with him, he just said he did so Kaiden wouldn’t be upset anymore.

I let my bag fall on to the couch and went into my rom. Ready to sleep for eternity.

I put on some sweatpants and a shirt and got under the covers, plugging in my hone to charge. As I Laid back on the bed closing my eyes, I heard my phone ring. Turning over, I reached for it, seeing that it was calum calling I sat up and answered.

“Hey,” I bit my lip, not sure of why he was calling since he didn’t even say bye to me when I left.

“I love you princess” His voice was groggy, tired, and it seemed as if he had been crying. Nonetheless, hearing those words made me smile and made my stomach fill up with butterflies, no, Dinosaurs, made my stomach fill up with dinosaurs having a party.

“I love you too” I played with my hands, closing my eyes, still fearing what he would say next.

“I-I’m sorry, for acting like a douche when you left. Just know that I love you and I’m so fucking thankful for having you in my life. Thank you for being so good to me, and now to Kaiden. I Love you.” You heard him sniffle, and got worried.

“Cal? Why are you crying? What’s wrong?” I got up and started pacing.

“I-I’m okay princess, don’t worry about me.” He sniffled once more and hung up the phone.

I called him back but he wasn’t answering.

I kept trying, leaving him voice mails, until he texted me.

Squishy Cal <3: Go to sleep. I’m okay

While vague, his answer did calm me down. I knew Calum wouldn’t hide something from me. If he said he was okay, and that was it.

He wouldn’t keep anything from me.

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CPOV:

This couldn’t be happening.

I was running late. Like really late.

And today I had to open the shop earlier, because I had appointments all day. Weirdly enough, Mndays were quite the popular day to get tattoos, that’s why my schedule was so full today. I had a guy in at 7:30 to get inked.

It was currently 7:45.

To top it off, my mom couldn’t watch Kaiden today.

I had no idea what to do.

I grabbed my phone, deciding that I would take Ky with me with work, when I hear the text message notification. I ignored it, I didn’t have the time to socialize right now.

I put Kaiden in his car seat, got behind the wheel and drove the shop.

“Jet Black Heart” was the second most important thing I’ve ever done. The first one being Kaiden of course. I had always wanted to be a tattoo artist, so while I was in high school, I worked my butt of trying to get enough money to someday open my own shop.

My parents gave me the best graduation present, they bought me a place where I could put my shop. It was quite big actually, and it needed a lot of work, but luckily it was all aesthetic work so I could do it at my own pace. For 4 years I worked 4 days a week at a restaurant, as a waiter. Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays were spent as an apprentice Kyle Harris, who had taught me everything I knew about design, technique and tattoos in general.

Finally, at age 22, Jet Black Heart was born.

It felt fucking great.

When I parked my car behind the shop, I got Kaiden and put on my sunglasses. I walked inside from the back door, carrying Kaiden on my hip, and saw that the guy I was meant to tattoo at 7:30, was waiting outside, leaning on a Porsche.

I scoffed, I hated tattooing rich kids.

I opened the door, and mumbled a come in to him. He took off his sun glasses and walked in.

“It’s eight o’clock,” he crossed his arms over his chest.

“I’m aware.” I put Kaiden down and motioned for him to go into the room where I chilled when there was no one here. He looked up at me.

“I’m hungry daddy” Crap!  I didn’t make breakfast!

This day couldn’t get worse.

“I’ll get you something in a little bit yeah? Just go into the TV room and wait there.” I ruffled his hair and looked up at the guy, who was holding in his laughter.

“What’s so funny mate?” I asked as I looked at the agenda, looking to see if he had given me a design.

“You got a kid?” He looked amused,

I stared at him, contemplating whether or not I should answer him “Yes,” even if he was a douche, I couldn’t be rude to a client.

He chuckled. “There’s this thing called condoms dude. It doesn’t feel the same but it saves you from taking care of that” He pointed to the room where Kaiden had gone in.

I rolled my eyes. “Yeah, your dad should’ve used one of those.”  I grabbed my phone and plugged it in to charge. I saw that y/n was the person that had texted me.

My love <3: Good morning babe :)

“What did you just say to me?!” I ignored him and answered Y/n.

Squishy Cal <3:  HI baby,are you busy?

I hoped she wasn’t working early today.

I found the design I had previously made for the guy, Jungkook apparently, and told him to go into the tattooing room to the left. He clenched his jaw, but did as I said anyways.

My love <3: Not right now, why?

Squishy Cal <3: Can you come over to the shop? I didn’t have time to make breakfast, and I’ve kaiden here with me, hungry.

My love <3: I’ll be there in 15. Is McDonald’s okay?

Squishy Cal <3: It’s perfect.

Squishy Cal <3: Thank you princess <3

I went in the TV room and saw that Kaiden was watching cartoon. “Y/n will bring food in a little bit bud”. He looked up.

“Mommy?”  I nodded and he smiled. He leaned back on the black couch and kept watching TV.

I went into the tattooing room and washed my hands and put on a new pair of rubber gloves. I checked that I had my machines ready and grabbed a new needle. I stood in front of douche guy and opened the needle in front of him. He just looked at me while I sterilized the needle.

“Take off your shirt,” I told him, since in my agenda it said that he wanted a back piece.

“You’re not gay, are you?” He took off his shirt and waited for my reaction. He was buff, but nothing compared to me of course.

I smirked. “I’m not. And If I was, I wouldn’t be interested. So don’t worry” I cleaned his back and laid the stencil on him. “There,” I moved aside so he could look at the stencil placement on the wall-length mirror. “Is it okay there?”

He nods, no wanting to speak, apparently. Once he lays on the seat I start tattooing him, carefully following the lines of the stencil on his skin. He wanted an Aztec type of design, and while it looked complex, to was actually quite easy to do.

About 20 minutes in, I hear the door open. “I’ll be right there, just give me a minute!” I wiped off the guy’s skin, ready to get up and see who it was who had just walked in.

“Take you time, I’ll be with kaiden.” I heard Y/n’s voice and took a deep breath. I didn’t know if I was ready to see her, after last night.

I saw the guy turn is head, trying to get a glimpse of y/n and I chuckled and moved his head to rest against the seat. “Stop moving.”

“You’re very demanding.” He closed his eyes. “Was that your wife?”

Without thinking too much about it I answered him. “Yes.”

He chuckled, “Take care of that one. She’s good in bed.”

I stopped my movements and stared at the smirk growing on his face. “What did you say?”

“I said she’s good in bed.” He kept smirking. “Or on the couch, against the wall, on the floo-“

“How the fuck would you know?!” I had put the machine down and was having a hard time not beating the daylights out of him.

“Well, I was her first.” He cracked a devilish grin.

I stared, not believing him. I knew this! Y/n had told me that she lost her virginity to a guy named Joe. He was just trying to rile me up.

I took a deep breath and took the machine in my hand again. I kept working despite the thought swirling in my head.

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After about an hour, I was done and I could finally stop any contact with douche guy. I cleaned the tattoo one last time and started cleaning the equipment and disposing of the needed as he looked at his ink on the mirror.

“Looks good man” He said as he grabbed his shirt and started to put it on but I stopped him.

“I have to bandage it first” He groaned and I rolled my eyes. He did however, let me do my job.

After giving him the instructions on how to take care of his fresh tattoo, I walked over to the cash register and charged him. He gave me his card and I swiped it. Giving it back, I looked behind me and saw that y/n was cleaning the TV room.

“Leave that alone, I’ll do it later” I gave douche guy his receipt and smiled when I saw Y/n approach me. I wrapped my arms around her and kiss her forehead. “Thanks for feeding my kid” I chuckled.

Our kid” She smiled and leaned her head on my shoulder, she looked ahead and stiffened.

I saw douche guy smirk. “y/n”

“J-Jungkook?”

That’s Jungkook right there  ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑

He’s from a Kpop band called “BTS”

ALSO: i’m not a tattoo artist, therefore all of the tattoo info in this chapter is based on what I saw on the show Ink Master and or through google.

Thank you so much for the feedback I’ve been getting!

Hope you like it, if you want part 4, just request it :).

The first person that requests part 4, will get an itty bitty spoiler ;) Only if it’s off-anon.

-Nat.

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By Organization for Transformative Works

For KuroDai Week 2017, Day 4: Blind Date/Shotgun Wedding 


Daichi never should have agreed to this. He doesn’t even like dating. It’s awkward and contrived, and restaurants like this one, with waiters who are better dressed than he’s ever been, are specifically designed to make people like him—people who are most at home in the park, or the gym—feel like giant imposters.

He jabs the button on his phone a little harder than necessary and pulls up his text conversation with his best friend, who is also the cause of his current discomfort.

Daichi: suga wtf…this place is way too fancy
Daichi: and he’s not here yet

Suga: it’s not fancy, they just don’t serve happy meals 
Suga: and i told you you were leaving too early

Daichi: is he this kind of person? why would you set me up with someone who likes places like this?

Suga: i chose the place, you shit, because the food is excellent
Suga: please stop complaining and have a little faith in me

Keep reading

My First Affair

I used to work at a small PR firm in Florida. We had 5 employees and our office was this old converted 6 bedroom, 2 story house. The office had 3 full bathrooms wither showers which made it convenient to go running before or after work, shower, and change.

I convinced my boss to start training for a 15k race. He was hesitant at first, but I told him I’d train with him and make sure he was ready. Well, we started running 3-4 days a week after work. After running, we’d go inside and I’d head to the upstairs bathroom and shower. He had his own full bath attached to his office on the main floor.

Well, after 5-6 weeks we started flirting a little and we had a little playful sexual banter. One night, after a 7 miler, we got back and I went upstairs and hopped in the shower. 2 minutes later, I heard the door creek open and Brian calmly undressed, and stepped in directly behind me, pressing his cock against my ass and started massaging my breasts.

He wasted no time with light foreplay and put one hand on the top of my back and bent me over and started fucking me in the shower. Before he came, I tried pulling out, but he just kept burying himself inside of me. I turned around and told him i wasn’t on birth control and he said “good.” And proceeded to cum inside of me.

We had sex 3 more times that night before I went home to my husband. That night changed my life and started an affair lasting a year. It got me hooked on unprotected, unabashed, bareback sex.

Issues.

Author- Roni I.

Warning: 18+ SMUT!

Paring: Cole SprousexReader

Words:980

Request: none

A/N: I’m a starving artist, just hear to entertain.


Being with a famous Actor wasn’t easy. I love Cole with all my heart, but lately he’s been showing his fans more love then he does with me. Cole and I were at this nice bar for Riverdale getting a second season party. Of course, some fans were allowed in, and I was once again stuck talking to Camila and Lili. Which I don’t mind at all, but I just got him back from going over to Europe for his photo shoot. I swear that boy is always doing something, I guess he does since he has two jobs, and I’m over here just working for the casting department for the show, 4 days a week.

“Hello.! Earth to Y/N” Camila said waving her hand in my face. “Huh, sorry. Drink must have hit me harder than I thought” trying to shrug off the fact I was staring Cole down as he was talking to two girls. They were defiantly getting a little touchy and Cole didn’t seem to notice. “Y/N you haven’t touch your drink?” KJ said I looked at the three of them, and then at my, like he said untouched drink. I grabbed it, then gulped it down, slamming it down on the table I got up. “Anyone want to dance?” I say swaying my hips a little walking back towards the dance floor. Lili and Camila smile and joined me on the dance floor soon KJ joined in. I grabbed KJ’s hands pulling him towards me a little, and place his on my hips as we rocked together as the song picked up. Lili and Camila dancing right next to us, then I felt someone grab my arm roughly, yanking me away from KJ. “Hey!” I yelled ready to swing to the person then coming face to face with a very pissed off Cole. “Ay, Cole..” KJ started to say, but Cole rushed us away ignoring him. “Cole what the fuck is wrong with you?” I say pulling my arm from his grasp as we headed out side. “You think I was going to let MY girlfriend keep grinding on KJ, like a horny school girl?” he yelled then waved a cab to pull over for us to get in. I was baffled that he thought I was having a “moment” with KJ. “Oh, and having fans touch all over you is okay? Well Fuck you!” I yell back then we both got in the cab and we didn’t speak for the rest of the ride home. I got out the car as Cole paid the driver, as I waited for him at the door he walked up, and wrapped his arms around me. “Look, I know you did that to make me jealous, and I also know that I haven’t been that much of a boyfriend these past few weeks” He said snuggling his head into my neck, lightly kissing my weak spot. I gasp, as I felt his tongue lick a strip to my spot behind my ear and then he bit my lobe. I groaned then pushed him off me “don’t think you’re getting off easy, Mr.Sprouse” I say then took the keys from his hand, and opened the door.

“Really? I’m trying to love you, and you push me away?” Cole said pissy again. I rolled my eyes “Yeah because fucking doesn’t solve everything!” I yelled frustrated with him. “Who said I wanted to Fuck?!” He said raising his voice as well then grabbed me and we were face to face. “I want to make love to you” He breathed out then smashed his lips on mine in a hungry kiss. I completely melted, that was the first time someone has ever said those words to me, and I was completely baffled by it. Cole cupped my face in his soft hands, looking into my eyes with so much love and affection “Y/N..” he whispered. “I love you” I said then kissed him. We fought for dominance, but Cole eventually won, as we landed on the couch with him on top. His hands tugging at my dress “Off” he mumbled in the kiss, breaking from each other so I could slide out my dress, while he started removing his cloths. Cole pulled me up, and picked me up bridal style making me laugh has he clumsy made his way to our bedroom. He laid me down genteelly, then got a condom out the bedside table, and pulled his briefs down. I bit my lip as I watched him roll it on his long, thick, length as I started to unhook my bra and then slipped my panties off. He settled in between my thighs lining himself at my wet entrance “God, you look so beautiful” He said as he slowly slid in. “Mmm, Fuck baby” I cursed nails digging into his shoulders as he thrusted slowly, and deep. I bit his neck signaling to him I wanted him to move faster, but he didn’t he just hiked my left leg up his hips more and thrusted deeper if possible. “Oh fuck!” I moaned loudly, Cole let out soft grunts as he kept thrusting in me. I could feel that knot forming in my stomach I was so close. “Cole!” I moaned “I know, me too baby, me too..FUCK!” He moaned out then started to thrust faster as we both came prolonging our orgasm. Then he pulled out and laid next to me, both of us out of breath, panting like crazy. “Wow, I can honestly say I haven’t cum that hard ever!” I laughed a little shaky still from the best orgasm I’ve ever had. “Won’t be your last either” Cole said winking at me then getting up to throw the condom away. I smiled up at him and then he laid back don next to me giving me a passionate kiss.

anonymous asked:

How do you deal with negative people when the main detractor is your wife? I workout 5/6 days a week, walk/run 4 early mornings before work, work a physical job and run around with my 3 young boys! My overweight wife is always telling me I'm gonna burn out and I'm gonna be dead by 40! Any tips to get her to lift(dead against it) and how to get her off my back?

Try to understand what she likes to do. She probably doesn’t like lifting, but she might be into a sport. Then you can motivate her by exercising with her.

Dealing with negative people is very common. Parents, friends, relatives will tell you “It’s not healthy”, “you will burnout” – get used to it. She doesn’t understand your lifestyle and it’s fine. You can’t blame her for it.

If you found the right work/life balance, do what you have to do in silence. If she’s closed minded about fitness, don’t try to convince her. Find what sport she likes, exercise with her and I’m sure she will have a better understanding why you’re doing all this.

Hope this helps!

More motivation:

http://www.gymaholic.co/

The Loneliness of Motherhood

Motherhood, for me, has been a more positive experience than negative. A lot of the fears that would make my heart race at night have not come to fruition (resenting the baby, hating my life, etc.), and for that I am grateful. I never would have thought I would enjoy being a mom as much as I do. I never fully understood why moms would be sad when their babies starting growing, because to me, having a baby looked completely awful and I used think if/when I ever had one, I would thankfully skip over all that so I wouldn’t have to take care of a helpless baby. Horrible, I know, but now that I have Sydney, I try my best to soak in her “babyness” because she will never be this small again.

Anyway, as much as I have enjoyed this experience, a lot of my days are filled with a sense of loneliness and boredom. Communication with a baby is mostly one-sided, so I often feel “alone” even though I’m not. It’s weird because without a baby, even though I only worked 3-4 days a week, I never felt alone on my days off and actually relished in my solitude.

But it’s different with baby for some reason. Maybe because instead of vegging out and watching my DVRed shows all day, I am rotating Sydney through various activities all day: Feed, play, floor time, nap, repeat. It’s a never-ending cycle that becomes old quite quickly, even for her. It’s tough keeping a baby content and happy 24/7.

I find this struggle slowly pulling me towards a potential episode of depression, particularly when I am over-tired because I had yet another night battling with Sydney’s sleep habits.

I find myself “living for the weekends” so I have my husband around, just so I can feel less alone. I dread Mondays because I can feel anxiety in the back of my brain, instilling fear and doubt of my ability to get through another day alone with this little person. And yet, every day I get through it will little problem and I wonder “what was I so afraid of?”

And lastly, I used to be a homebody, not even wanting to get up to go to the store because it was “too much effort.” Now I jump at the chance, just to break up the monotony and spend time with Sydney that doesn’t include a laughing, light-up monkey or minnie mouse rattle or baby piano that plays The Itsy Bitsy Spider on repeat.

So as much as I love being a mom and wish Sydney could stay this age forever, I can’t wait for when we are passed this transition phase of “too old to be held and sleep all day, too young to crawl and be more independent.”

And to other moms, if you feel similar, know that you are not alone, and that despite the struggles, you are doing your absolute best.

xoxo

anonymous asked:

Can u talk about capricorns

ya i can bc the luv of my lil life is a cap and they’re a real fuckin trip. no offense to the capricorn i love, not all of my capricorn knowledge applies to him by any means. 

as earth signs they are not the stereotypical taurus type of “earthy,” but they are grounded as hell. pisceans get a rep for being the oldest souls of the zodiac but i disagree, i think anyone who knows a cap would agree that they are quintessential old souls. and i think anyone who knows a cap would say they are definitively hard nuts to crack. their fellow earth signs, taureans and virgos, are both similar, but i think capricorns are by far the most closed off emotionally. they know a lot about a little and a little about a lot, but they’re so set in their ways that their minds can be surprisingly and frustratingly closed to new ideas, and romantically speaking, they can come off as cold because they’re not into the mushy stuff, but deep down they are very hopeless romantics with very strong feelings about love, soul mates, how relationships should work, and what they seek in a partner. if they have a strong relationship with u, regardless of its nature, they will show you love in ways u may not recognize, but it is love nonetheless. they will teach u, laugh with u, remember things about u, bail u out when ur truly up shit creek, speak highly of u when they choose to speak of u (they tend to lean towards a more “off the grid,” mind your own business type of personal life) but they love who they love and they love in the way they know how to.

caps have the strongest work ethic of any sun sign, to a fault. earth signs are bottles and capricorns close the lid of their proverbial bottle tightly, rarely opening it, usually letting it burst from all of the pressure. if you know how a taurus holds grudges, then you’ll know this is saying a lot - they hold on to things in ways that even taureans think are excessive. their blow-ups are truly epic, getting under their skin is not at all advisable, because if you get caught in the crosshairs of an angry capricorn you’re up against whatever they’re pissed off about PLUS years and years of grudges and stewing in ways they’ve been wronged and a bad day at work last week and something you said 4 years ago that hurt them or made them angry. they are not to be fucked with, but holy shit they’re loyal, until they’re not and never will be again - an earth sign is on your team and will even put up with a lot of shit but once they’re really gone, so long. they’re logical and easily frustrated by emotion (their own or another persons), they’re worldly, street smart, they can come off as mature because of how they present themselves but they’re just as goofy and young-at-heart as anyone else in the right circumstances. and imo they have the strongest sister sign relationship with their cancer sister sign. absolute polar opposites, but an amazing match if they are aligned correctly. like yin and yang sometimes, if they can find that perfect balance in how differently they operate.