Heyo! So if you’ve been wondering why I’ve been inactive, and am probably going to be inactive, is because I’ve been working/planning an animatic, and haven’t had that much free time. Anyhoo, I won’t post for a while, but you might as well see why? It’s not done yet, but it will be, maybe soon.
Chapters: 4/16 Fandom: Emmerdale Rating: Explicit Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings Relationships: Aaron Dingle/Robert Sugden Characters: Aaron Dingle, Robert Sugden, Chrissie Sugden, Lawrence White Additional Tags: robron - Freeform, Football, Angst, Chrobert, Robron AU Summary:
Robron AU. Aaron becomes the first Premier League footballer to come out to the press, days after Robert is appointed as the new manager for the same team. Robert is engaged to the club owner’s daughter Chrissie, but for how long can he ignore his feelings for his new top goal scorer?
A healthy relationship while having BPD doesn’t mean you never have incidents or meltdowns or splitting or lash out.
That means having complete control over your BPD. While having a lot of control is important, complete control is fucking impossible. It’d be like requiring me to not have any fibromyalgia symptoms that could hurt or disrupt my partner in order to have a healthy relationship. It’s not possible.
What DOES determine a healthy relationship is how you communicate and do damage control and take responsibility and be accountable and LISTEN and ask questions.
I tell my partners when my brain is being an asshole.
“Hey, I keep thinking you’re stupid for this. I don’t actually believe this, or feel this way, but I’m BPD splitting. I thought u should know. It’s not u, don’t worry. I’m sorry if I get impatient or split or lash out. Let me know if anything bothers you, okay?”
It’s not that you never split, you never say stupid shit or hurt each other or lash out or fight (even if it’s just because your brain wants a fight). It’s that you accomodate that and account for it with communication. It’s hard to learn and no one teaches you it. But you can do it.
And that’s literally ANY relationship, whether someone in it is sick, or not. Almost always, relationships get hurt and fuck up and heal, just like the people in them. Like everyone.
Healthy relationships don’t require being healthy.
Guys, I’m not going to lie. I just listened to this in my car and started to cry.
Call me an exhausted emotional mess due to barely any sleep these past few days, I don’t care. It all just hit me.
Because here’s the thing. I’m not crying because I might see a S4 of Girl Meets World (although that’s amazing). I’m crying because we, as a society, as a country, as a human race, have been through so bloody much the past year. 2016 was a nearly impossible time that we all barely survived. We faced countless tragedies, so many acts of hate and cruelty… and now we are gearing up to deal with one of the most unqualified and terrifying Presidents in history.
It just looked so bleak- everything, all of it. And to see this show, this little Disney show, inspire this much hope and light and faith in this many people. It’s astounding. To see something make all different walks of life feel so passionate about something, that they instantly bound together, all around the WORLD just to fight for this TV series. It doesn’t just show how wonderful the program is, it shows how wonderful this fandom is, and how much of an ability we still have to be incredible as human beings.
We still have the ability to love, to care, to hope, to aspire, to fight, to believe, and to use our voices to truly make a difference. In a time where it seems like the little guy has no power at all, we are proving that we can still move mountains.
That’s so amazing to me. And unbelievably beautiful. And I am so proud to stand with all of you powerful and inspiring people while we continue to push for what’s right. For what we deserve. For what the people of Girl Meets World deserve, after working so hard to create something we could believe in.
We’re taking on the world and we’re winning. And that’s everything.
❤ so much love, to each and every one of you. You have truly moved me, and I can only hope one day I can create a series of stories that sparks this much beauty from its fans.
Have you ever as an INFP sat or laid in bed and though of all the people you have ever been hurtful to in the past? Or what our definition of “hurtful” is? Like all the people you wish you could just say sorry to? Even if they don’t know or have forgotten, you just want to say sorry for causing any sort of pain? I get that from time to time, wishing I could take back things that I said when I was younger that I shouldn’t have. And though the person may not even remember or know that I was avoiding them or remember what I said and all but forgot and are friends with me currently, I never will forget and so I want to write them an apology card, “Sorry for that thing I said on that Tuesday in October of 2009.” weird yes, making myself more stressed yes, but hey I’m and INFP, professional over thinker and certified over-feeler lol
1. She isn’t naturally shy, but she tends to be shy initially because being forthcoming hasn’t always worked in the past. When she starts to behave around you the way she acts around her closest friends, she’s letting you in emotionally.
2. She might not reach out to make plans, because she doesn’t want to be shut down or rejected, especially early on. Instead, she’ll respond by making sure you know how much she appreciates you taking initiative, and will be open to trying new things when you propose them.
3. She stopped herself from just blowing you off. She’s trying. Trying to believe that you aren’t just anyone. Trying to believe your first move won’t be to hurt her.
4. She wants to love blindly, but she can’t because before you met her, she learned exactly what can happen when you wholeheartedly put all your faith in one person: They can leave. But her belief in that big, unattainable love exists and if she’s giving you a chance it means you have qualities she thinks could fit with hers. She wouldn’t bother otherwise.
5. She’ll ask you too many questions. It’s partially because she wants to get to know you and partially a defense mechanism – if you’re talking about yourself it saves her talking about her own life, which she’s not sure she’s ready for yet.
6. She will be overly protective of her family life. When someone has difficulty trusting, remember that it might not be the result of an ex. It could be her family life that left her with fear of abandonment, which is often revealed if that’s a subject she strays from.
7. She’ll find excuses to touch you because she associates touch with comfort and wants you to feel at ease with her. Women with trust issues will go above and beyond to make you feel secure, because they don’t want to make anyone feel insecurities they’ve dealt with.
8. She’ll make sure you know her identifying qualities by showing you what she likes outside the realm of romance and dating. While she might not be ready to talk about old relationships, she’ll want to show your more of herself than just restaurant preferences and affinity for certain movies, or dessert.
9. She’ll consider making plans with you in the future – but not too far in advance. If she’s really interested, she’ll say yes to concert tickets, or an event a few weeks or a month down the road. But if it’s still new, making plans 6 months from now is too much. Don’t invite her to your brother’s wedding just yet.
10. She’ll talk about the future in generalizations – not so she doesn’t freak you out, so she doesn’t freak herself out.
11. If she calls you out on something that bothered her, she’s beginning to trust you. She’d typically brush it off, ignore it, or phase you out if you did something to upset her. But if she’s willing to explain how you made her feel in a specific instance, she thinks you’re worth keeping around.
12. If she doesn’t demand commitment from you right away, it doesn’t mean she’s not interested in that eventually. She takes commitment seriously and doesn’t want to rush. Fear of rejection means biding your time before putting yourself in a vulnerable position.
13. She’ll be over protective of you around her friends, even before you realize she cared about you. She knows how it feels to have someone else not stick up for her, and doesn’t ever want you to feel that way.
14. The more she likes you, the higher her expectations will be. (But if she sees how hard you try, she’s also more apt to be forgiving.)
15. She will appear to not need you and it’s through no fault of your own. She doesn’t want to appear to rely on anyone but herself because people who are hesitant to trust don’t want to openly admit that they need anyone else to be happy.
16. You’ll know she’s going for longevity if she opens up to you about why she has trouble trusting people in the first place. She won’t lay it out for you, but she’ll give you pieces from her past relationships, or share a small bit of the story about who hurt her. She’ll want you to understand where she’s coming from, and she’ll want to understand anything that hurt you too.
Maya Kachroo- Levine, 16 Ways Women Who Have Difficulty Trusting Show They Care About You