Taking care of your mind and body is important especially when you expect men to drop thousands of dollars on you every month for the pleasure of your company! Personally before even thinking about becoming a sugar baby this year, I’ve been taking care of myself for years because appearance is very important in my line of work. Keep in mind that I’m in my late 20s so some stuff you might not even need at this point since most of you are in your late teens or early 20s. Enjoy those years haha well I can’t complain, I have a baby face ;) So here is a list of things I’ve done or I will be starting this year that keeps me looking good and feeling awesome plus it makes for a hot SB:
Manicure + pedicure - I do them professionally in a salon every 3weeks.
Laser hair removal - I’m doing my whole bikini and underarms right now and will start my legs in the next year..shaving is a pain and too much work..laser is painful especially the whole bikini but worth it!
Removing stretch marks - I will do laser for that when I move to LA because those stupid marks on my butt are a pain in the ass for my confidence sometimes..I have awesome 34DD natural breasts but my ass needs some perfecting to be at the same level lol
Removing cellulite - I just finished a 10 weeks treatment with the Velashape 2 in a beauty clinic for my thighs and butt..I think it helped although I only had a low amount of cellulite and it’s still not perfect or all gone..I think I was expecting too much of a VS model’s perfect ass haha drinking water, exercising and eating healthy plus putting firming body cream (I use an expensive one from my clinic with 10% caffeine) everyday helps plus I’ll need to do maintenance treatments every year to maintain the results.
Removing spider veins on legs - I started treatments this year, it helps but spider veins are a recurring issue for women especially with age so I will have to do maintenance treatments every year but it’s very good that I started young even if I didn’t have a lot but the ones behind my knees were bothering me a lot. I have very white skin so my veins show easily haha I need to tan more!
Dermabrasion - I started dermabrasion aka removing dead skin on your face this year..I used to have bad acnee when I was young but now my skin is much better although I still get occasional pimples and don’t have perfect skin without makeup.
Acnee creams recommended by my dermatologist that I apply every day or 2 days - I mostly only have some redness and occasional pimples but the products help for that and to make my pores less visible.
Laser eye surgery - I wear contacts and I’m thinking of doing the laser surgery but I’m not sure since lots of people have horror stories so I’m still thinking about it but being free of glasses and contacts would be awesome..I’m just scared of surgeries and try to avoid them as much as possible.
Spray Tan - I don’t want skin cancer so I prefer spray tan when I need to have a nice tan although the maintenance is a pain in the butt..I sometimes do tanning creams at home since I’m pretty good at applying it but that’s annoying to maintain also.
Gym membership - I started going to the gym finally this year although I have always had a pretty athletic body but since I like to eat wtv I want and I’m getting older lol I need to watch out!!
Personal trainer for the gym - I’m going to get one soon so I can learn what to do to target the issues I want to work on plus it’s good to have someone to motivate you since I’m lazy lol
Martial arts or self defense classes - Personally I do martial arts because it’s for my line of work but also because I love to kick ass. I took some self defense classes years ago and it was amazing..I think every woman should do that especially sex workers and SBs..I actually need to brush up on those moves especially the ones when your assailant is on top of you.
Hair and eyelash extensions - I need to get new hair extensions because the hair dresser messed them up when she cut them although I basically never wear them lol too lazy to put them on every time so I’ll look into other options soon and get a SD to pay for it and for eyelash extensions. Never tried that and want to see how it will look and feel.
Makeup and hair tutorials or classes - I started watching more videos on youtube to learn more tricks especially with hair since I suck but I’m getting a lot better..I might get a future SD to pay a hairstylist to show me 5-10 ways to do my hair haha.
Good hair products and makeup - Start investing in good products that don’t ruin your hair and face..When you can it’s good to invest in more expensive products when they are better quality and less chemicals.
Keeping your body soft like a baby’s skin - I put cream every night on my body to keep my body all smooth and soft plus to keep my boobs, stomach, thighs and ass all firm..better to start young!
Facial creams - Very important to keep your face moisturized plus eye cream is always good to start young..those SDs want a baby face not a face ruined by sun and age.
Drinking lots of water - You need minimum 2 liters of water everyday..I basically only drink water..no coffee or soft drinks but juices on occasion and I do love wine when I go out.
Eating healthy - I need to be more disciplined for that because I like to eat wtv I want although I do eat vegetables and fruits everyday.
Be happy and confident - Keep yourself healthy mentally..those men pay for no drama..I actually tried hypnotherapy by curiosity this year..only did 4 sessions to work on my self-esteem and confidence and it was pretty interesting to realize how I bring myself down sometimes.
Teeth are very important! Having a nice smile attracts people including SDs! - Keep your teeth clean and white..I do my teeth cleaning every 9 months now (instead of 12) plus I bought a whitening kit made for me from my dentist to use at home although my teeth are pretty white already. I had braces when I was young so I have perfect teeth..I wear my night retainer occasionally to keep them straight and perfect.
Massages and acupuncture - I did both this year and need to start doing massages every 2 weeks for my back lol I’ll get a SD to pay for that!
Investing in a new wardrobe - Dressing the part is important and you need something to wear for all those awesome dates you will be going on! Get a SD or POT to take you shopping and choose classic pieces that you will be able to mix and match and pull off multiple outfits with. If you don’t have anyone to pay for it, take some of your money and start buying some nice pieces or even just adding an accessory to your outfit might make the difference. You don’t have to buy expensive brands (wait for a SD to do that for you), until then buy pieces that are good quality and in solid neutral colors. Go for classy not trashy!
Reading more about current events, finances and how to invest money but also some of those self help books. Be aware of what is going on in the world. - I need to start doing this more because I personally don’t follow the news or politics (too depressing) plus I want to learn how to manage my money. It’s always good to be able to hold a conversation with a SD especially if you go to events with him! You want to be the whole package of looks, brains and personality!!
Learning new skills is important in my opinion plus it keeps you busy and SDs will be impressed by your hobbies, interests and skills. - Personally I love reading, cooking (I want to take some classes to get even better), dancing (I took a lot of different dance classes but I want to learn the waltz and other more conservative dances for black tie events), learning new languages (I speak multiple languages and it always impresses people especially in the US for some reason), etc.. With my line of work, I like to acquire new skills as often as I can so I can add them to my CV and stand out..plus it’s fun!
Ok so I’m going to stop here because this post is freaking long lol I’ll add more if I think about something else but just remember that you are selling a product which is yourself and you need to stand out!Being a SB is not just about looking pretty..you have to be interesting too! I see a lot of SD’s profiles that mention personality and not just looks. So take care of yourself mentally and physically :) You got to invest in yourself (the product) to make money..that’s how marketing and business work and it’s the same with sugar dating! Pay your bills and then use some of that allowance on bettering yourself to catch an even bigger fish (or whale lol)!! Go get them girls! xoxo
3weeks on T. mum thinks my face has changed shape & my shoulders are broader ! i think my voice is changing a lil. was not feeling confident at all as i’ve been getting misgendered a lot lately but i’m startin to feel it now :•) (hence why i turned myself into a gif lol)
Out of the Asriel x Frisk x Chara trio which pair do you ship the most and why?
I like Frisk and Chara (Charisk). Most of the depictions about them were saving each other (in their own ways) and supporting each other. I’m a sucker for those kinds of things, especially when a “good character tries to save the troubled character”. There’s this potential character development for both sides for that.
had proposed to me while we were celebrating our 7th year
anniversary. We were in America for one of Martys matches. On a free
day we visited a restaurant near our hotel at a small beach. I didn’t
expect him to propose to me, so I wasn’t dissapointed when he didn’t
say anything during our dinner. After that we went star gazing,
walking at the shore. It was a clear night and we could even see some
shopting stars. It was magical, like a scene in a movie. And it got
even better when Marty began to ramble about everything he loved
about me. I was a bit startled when he got down on his knee until I
understood what was going on.
then a modest simple ring with a beautiful saphir adorned my hand.
This was 3months ago. Wedding plans were already made. Marty had
insisted on a summer wedding in the same year. He reasonded that
6months were enough time to plan a wedding and he didn’t want to wait
longer than necessary. I didn’t say anything against it, in my mind
we would marry in a small private round, nothing fancy. So I
Weeks have flew by and I started to lose hope. Every
time in the night of the week when it was time for my little trip I would hope,
or more like pray to end up back in Kihyun’s dorm. Week after week and nothing.
There were new idols, but by now most of them I have
already visited. But they always gave me a new name, completely oblivious of
our previous encounters. That’s why I have to find Kihyun again. He’s the key
to my salvation. I was pretty sure it all ends with him, and that’s why I was
only waiting to meet him again. And that’s why my disappointment only grew
every time I would see face that didn’t belong to him.
Second month was just about to be finished, and
Kihyun was nowhere to be found. And I was stuck in this state, or condition,
even more, how I referred to it, a curse.
I get ready
for bed, put on my pj’s, and just as I get comfortable I yawn and here I am. As
the week was rather exhausting, I don’t even have the strength to open my eyes.
I should just pretend I’m asleep and skip all the unnecessary chit-chat.
“Here’s the water you asked
Fuck this, I
didn’t ask for any water. First thing I think to myself.
There goes my plan to pretend I’m sleeping.
“It’s ice cold, just like you like it Y/N”
the voice is even louder now, and I assume he’s standing next to the bed.
me by my name. Or even better, he
called me by my name.
I carefully open my eyes, afraid it will not be him,
even after all this time of waiting. But there he is, his small face
overlooking me, while long strands of jet black hair poke in his eyes. He looks
even more handsome than I remember him. His skin glowing brighter than the last
time, his features even manlier, his words even sweeter.
Oh shit, I
should have washed my hair! My lazy ass, I can’t believe it.
I curse myself in silence as I watch Kihyun still patiently standing above my
bed, with glass of water in his hands. Sudden wave of heat streams down my body
and I take the glass from him, cooling myself with icy liquid.
“You feel better now?” Kihyun’s sweet voice
shakes me back to reality. Or whatever these moments could be called.
“Yeah.. I was… for a moment” I can’t
even get the full sentence out of me. You
idiot, there are way more important things to think about than if I washed my
hair?! I continue to scream at myself while Kihyun watches in silence.
What was that
all about?! I have to break my ass from this and my first thought was that? Why
do I care? Or even more, why would Kihyun care? I
continue my inner dialogue, unaware that the handsome boy is still next to my
“Hey, do you remember the last t- I suddenly
stop midsentence, gasping for air, as if someone punched me hard in the chest.
Kihyun panically drops down to edge of the bed, picking me up by the shoulders
and vigorously shaking me.
"Y/N! Are you okay Y/N? Is something hurting
you?” the sheer panic can be seen in his eyes, and for a moment, the
burning pain in my lungs disappears. All I see is him, and all I feel is
Kihyun supports my body with his left hand under my
back, while he brings his right hand to my face and gently caresses my cheek.
In that moment I can finally fill my lungs with air, and with deep breath I
calm my trembling body.
“We are going to the hospital
immediately!” Kihyun almost commands, and while his voice is stern, his
touch against my body is so soft and fragile, full of care and concern.
“No, please. I’m okay, I just need to
rest.” I try to convince him, and after 20 okays, Kihyun finally gives in.
“Okay, but you will drink the tea I prepare for
you. And I won’t be leaving your side tonight” he says leaving for
After probably not more than 10 minutes, but what it
felt like forever to me, Kihyun comes back with hot tea and wet towel.
“What’s that for?” I point towards the
towel in one of his hands.
“It will help you relax and fall asleep.” Kihyun
pins me down the mattress and puts the towel over my forehead. Light smell of
lavender enters my nose and relaxes me almost immediately.
I have to try and ask him about our previous
encounter again. At first I hesitate, afraid that I will be stopped by this
invisible force again. I try to tell myself I’m crazy and there isn’t anything
like that, but the burning pain in my throat tells me contrary.
“Is it better now?” Kihyun is crunched
next to my bed, lovingly petting my hair away from my face.
I can feel my heart picking up the speed and beating
loud and fast. For a moment I’m hesitant, thinking of letting this whole
“investigation” and just enjoying this moment and Kihyun’s touch. But
I have to end this what started as an enjoyment but ended as a burden.
I try to start and speak up, ask Kihyun or do
anything to make him remember my last visit but it feels like I’m paralyzed. This won’t do. Soon I’m going to fall asleep
and I’ll lose my chance I repeat in my head ready to cry of despair.
“You see it’s working, you have finally calmed down”
Kihyun softly says as he notices that my eyelids have gotten heavier.
“There’s something I need to talk to you
about” I collect all my force to bring this sentence out of me feeling
heavier by every passing moment.
“We’ll talk about this tomorrow. You just have
to sleep now, don’t worry about it Y/N” Kihyun’s hand went from my hair
down my arm, his fingertips gently grazing my biceps up and down, motion so
repetitive it works like a hypnosis on me.
“But I told you last time how I…” and
there it cuts off, my body heavy, sinking into a black, deep void.
“Are you going to start again about whole that
"I feel lonely thing?” Kihyun rather annoyingly asks.
I almost squeal from happiness, but it
only echoes in the empty, dark place I’m constantly falling deeper in.
“I can’t believe you can say you actually feel
like that Y/N.”
Is it… do I
hear disappointment in his voice? But why? What kind of imaginary
“friendship” do I have with him?
By now I’m asleep. Or at least my body from the
outside is, while I’m looking at Kihyun somewhere from below, detached from
myself with my soul floating around.
Kihyun moves his hand to my face, caresses my cheek
with back of his hand, then gets up and leaves the room.
So this is how
it ends. Or moreover, how it continues. I failed. I failed to get myself out of
this and I’m doomed to this state for who knows how much more.
Once I’ve accepted defeat and gave up, everything
turns black and I have really fallen asleep.
Loud thud startles me from my sleep, making me open
my eyes in surprise.
Is it the
neighbors above me? Has someone broke into my house?
“Uups sorry Y/N, I was really trying to get
down as quietly as possible, but you see, I missed the last step on the ladder
and just” light browned boy that’s clearly younger than me, even though
his voice is husky and deep, stops mid-sentence.
“Y/N noona, are you okay? Pleaseee don’t tell
Kihyun hyung I woke you up. He’s going to be really pissed.”
Blank stare. The tall boy stares back at me, but his
eyes move quickly in panic, contrary to my completely expressionless.
At that moment someone enters the room and breaks
deep voiced boy’s stare from mine.
“Hyung I really didn’t mean to… It was either
jump down or break my leg” he says apologetically but I could swear I hear
playfulness in his voice. Person who entered doesn’t say anything so the younger
one exits without any other explanation.
He squats next to the lower bed and my mouth hangs
open from shock.
My eyes fly to the window. It’s morning, a new day.
I turn them back to the person in front of me and he’s still there, lovingly
smiling at me.
It’s him without a doubt.
It’s also a new day without a doubt.
And I’m still in his dorm, even the morning after.
How is this
possible? I have never woken up in their place?
My mind is now running, thinking of all the possibilities and scenarios,
looking for a logical explanation. But starting from the beginning, nothing of
this was ever logical, so I really don’t know how to explain this.
Hello ly. For the past few months, i went back to school, quit smoking and drinking. I also broke up with my boyfriend 3weeks ago. i feel really isolated. I have trouble talking to people without alcohol, and i barely see my friends now that i don't party with them anymore. Being on my own is okay i guess, i love what im doing and actively choose to spend time doing it instead of hanging around, but i wish i was more open to people, less anxious of judgement. Can you help ?
I can certainly point you in the right direction.
All of this begins and ends with your mind.
Anxiety and judgment are plagues with which most people have grown accustomed to living. Instead of uprooting the causes of anxiety and judgment, they find coping mechanisms.
The kind and combination of coping mechanisms are different for everyone. You seem to have found alcohol as an effective coping mechanism.
Most coping mechanisms aren’t sustainable for a happy and healthy future, not to mention a happy and healthy present. Alcohol has added health risks on top of the mental challenges it enables. It is good you have quit using substances while you get this stuff sorted out.
Ways to Avoid Feeling Judged:
Know yourself.We fear judgment because we are afraid to be told something about ourselves that we don’t already know. Or we are afraid to have certain fears confirmed.
If we do not know ourselves then the judgments of others will be more overwhelming. You will look to other people to tell you who you are.
Do not judge others.Judgment is a mental habit. It is useful for inanimate things, like comparing cars. It is not useful for regarding living phenomena such as humans.
Judgment is a reductive mental process that breaks things down into parts and then assigns values those parts. Humans are not machines; humans are more than the sum of their parts. Therefore by judging people, you kill their living humanism by perceiving them the way you would a machine. It is objectification.
Do not rely on labels.Following on the subject of judgment is labeling. Often we label ourselves and we label each other according to judgments. These labels create a kind of prison. We tend to restrict our activity and perception according to our labels.
The problem, like judgment, is that it is a two way street. If you rely on some self-appointed or other-appointed labels as a form of identity, then other less desirable labels may offend or hurt you. They might cause you suffering.
To be free from labels means to take none of them seriously as being solid or real. This doesn’t mean you will never be labeled but it means the labels will no longer sink into your mind and heart, creating limits. Instead, the labels will be these temporary superficial things that fail to trouble you.
How to actualize all of these? Daily meditation and mindfulness practice. Such practices will help to overthrow the habits of your mind and grant you freedoms you forgot were possible.
Socializing with others can be draining and anxious when we are afraid. We are afraid of how we might appear, of what we might discover about ourselves, or of how we might embarrass ourselves. But if we find peace and clarity in self-knowledge within ourselves, there is no trouble.
Then there is nothing to be gained and nothing to be lost through socializing. It’s just like fingerpainting with friends or strangers. No one cares about the outcome; you’re just there to enjoy yourself.
Two books that may be of help to you are The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and Tantra: The Supreme Understanding by Osho.
3 words is all it takes, really. 3 simple words can change everything, anything. Whether it be a certain relationship with another. Where you live, who you meet. Basically in general, words may change your life. But sometimes, it’s not necessarily words or actions, it can simply be the presence of someone. That someone??
A/N: Omg. Its been a month and pt 4 is this short. LOL. Im sorrrrrrry School is hard but luckily thanksgiving break is approaching soon so that will hopefully give me time to write quicker. In the meantime, Enjoy! <3
Weeks have passed before the incident and Yugyeom sat in his room, tapping his foot on the ground while blankly staring out the window.
“She’s way better”
“She’s not you.”
Why is he so stupid? Who was he to treat you like that? He didn’t want you to suffer, you did nothing wrong. It should’ve been him, he thought. It should’ve been him to suffer like this. He should’ve been the one who would feel this pain, because he could take it. He can withstand the problems thrown at as long as he knew that you were ok.
A groan escaped his lips as he thought about his dumb mistakes in the past. Suddenly, a ding followed by a vibration disturbed the silence. Hopping to his feet, Yugyeom dashed across the room, expecting a text from you, but his face fell when he read the contact number. It was the last person he wanted to get a text from. He sighed, opening his phone to skim over the text.
Soyoung:Did you tell her yet?
He froze, peering down on his phone to reread the text again before replying
.Yugyeom: Yes, now can you leave me and her alone?
Soyoung: Not until she’s completely gone.
Yugyeom felt like a slave, working for an evil person who’s willing to destroy lives to get what they want. Soyoung met Yugyeom in his first year of high school. You and him were awfully close at the time and you were some sort of barrier to Soyoung, stopping her to get to Yugyeom. As time flew by and everyone graduated, she found the perfect timing to dive in and take a stand, finally attempting to get closer to Yugyeom. But of course, school, or anything really, couldn’t stop you two from being away from each other. Yugyeom would reject Soyoung for you, saying something like “I’m studying with Y/n” or “Y/n needs me right now.”
Oh how she despised you. She found it hilarious yet odd how someone so handsome and perfect could be best friends with someone who was, as she described it, “revolting”. Day after day, Soyoung would observe your actions toward the young boy, especially the small details, finally coming to a conclusion:
You were in love with him.
She knew from the moment you stepped in the room and your frown flipped from it’s position when you saw his face, waiting for you. That couldn’t stop Soyoung, instead, she turned the problem into an advantage. Maybe, just maybe, if she could convince Yugyeom into doing something absolutely horrible to you, you may leave him, leaving a huge gap for Soyoung to slide right in and take the chance.
When she heard about the situation going on between you and Yugyeom, Soyoung jumped to her feet, not wasting any time. Yugyeom set his phone down, running over to his closet and slipping anything on. He kept running over to the lobbies of his quarters and passed by the majority of his members, who were confounded by his activities,in any case, he couldn’t have cared less. All he pondered about was you.
Recalling that you were with Jungkook, Yugyeom dashed to his quarters, avoiding honking cars and befuddled individuals. He got to the entryway thumping irately while winded. At the point when the entryway opened he anticipated that would see your common delightful face yet rather it was Jungkook, who’s face turned red once he saw who was emerging the doorway.
“Leave.” Jungkook murmured, teeth gritting. Yugyeom continued to stand still, not sure what happened to Jungkook. “W-what? , Kook, I have to see Y/n, this is no time for play.”
“You believe I’m playing right now Yugyeom? If you don’t mind, go. Y/n truly wouldn’t like to see you.” Just as Jungkook was a couple of inches of closing the door, Yugyeom immediately halted it with his foot.
“No. This is really important and I know she is in there. Is there any valid reason why you won’t let me talk with her?” He developed increasingly desperate by the second, his heart beating, however Jungkook once again, refused. “You wanna know why, Yugyeom? You hurt her. You hurt her to such an extent. Even though I couldn’t see what occurred between you two in the practice room, just observing her fouled up expression is now enough. She’s awful Yugyeom. She’s been getting less rest, she’s not eating, she’s not her happy, unsteady self. For hell’s sake, she even remains in the room for who how long? This is all a because of you. So kindly help me out and take off. Do this for my purpose and hers.”
Yugyeom stepped back, unsure of his words. Were you that hurt? Were you healthy? He ran his fingers through his hair as he stumbled over the sidewalk. Stupid, stupid, stupid, he kept repeating. How stupid he must be. At last surrendering, Yugyeom pivoted and strolled back to his quarters, mind humming with unanswered questions. He wanted to apologize. He didn’t want to lose his so-called friendship with you. Heck, he wanted to confess to you as well, yet he knew its perils. If Yugyeom says a word about his feelings towards you, Soyoung will find a way to wreck Y/n, and that is the exact opposite thing he wants to happen.
A couple of days later, Yugyeom remained locked up his dorm, either sleeping or pretending to sleep. His members would check up on him from time to time, however he wasn’t in the mind-set to answer.
“Gyeomie.” He heard Mark’s stern voice go into the room. The kid wrapped himself in a sleeping burrito, protecting himself against the older member. “Go away~” He murmured, irritated. He felt hands snatch the sides of his shoulders and lifted him up and sitting him straight. Yugyeom regularly didn’t tune in to his hyungs, particularly Jinyoung, however Mark knew how to break him, and the thought intimidated Yugyeom.
“You have to see her.”
“Hyung, I told you already, I can’t. She hates me. I bet bet you by now she’s out with some better looking person, not even having the time to think about me.”
"That is a lie. You know her. All of us do. She loves you. And only you.”
Yugyeom slammed into the cushions followed by a muffled shout.
“Its confusing hyung. I want to confess to her, however Soyoung will figure out how to hurt her. I can’t do anything, whichever way she will get hurt. I’m such an awful friend aren’t I? I’m supposed to be beside her, comforting her but she wouldn’t even look at me.” A tear slipped down his cheek. He wanted to see you, he wanted to let you know everything. You had the right to know everything. He wanted to warn you about Soyoung. He just didn’t know how.
Y/N and Cody are in the bullet club and he is forced to stay with her
while she is hurt.. One night she takes out some wine and orders a
pizza. He is so mad he has to stay home that he won’t talk to her so
she ends up blowing up at him, does he explain that he has feelings
for her and it scares him? The two begin to cuddle during pizza and
watching tv. (imply some smut)
were streching in the gorilla, thoughts already on the match you were
supposed to have in some minutes.
Y/N! Do you have a minute?” you turned around to see Cody jog up
to you. An ever smug smile on his face.
really, my music hits any second. Something important?” Cody
visibly gulped, suddenly not so confident anymore.
No, forget it. It’s not that urgent.” Cody let his gaze fall to
the floor. A bit weird for his normally cocky demeanor. You let it
slide, not interpreting anything into it.
you chuckled. Your theme hit and you got ready for your entrance but
a firm hand grasped your writst making you turn around agian. You
looked at Cody with a questioning look. He squirmed under your gaze,
struggling with his words.
be carful out there, ok?” Cody slyly smiled at you.
do my best, Rhodes.” you giggled content and patted his cheek
before you dissapeared behind the curtain.