3 type curls

Confession

It’s ridiculous that women with type 4 curls are looked down upon or accused of “self hating” when they use products to reduce frizz and enhance and define their natural curls/coils but women with type 3 curls never get criticized for using the same products- gels and oils and curl definers. Type 4 and type 3 girls both use those products for the same reason- reduce frizz = reduced tangles = defined curls. But type 4 girls get accused of “manipulating their hair” and not embracing their curls???

anonymous asked:

What are some good curly hair products?

the products that work best on your hair sometimes depends on your ‘hair type’ like if you have looser (aka type 3) curls, or tighter (type 4) coils.

But the products that i would recommend are:

Shea moisture coconut and hibiscus line- these products are good for curly hair, the shampoo isn’t harsh so you don’t get that horrible dried out feeling that sometimes comes after shampooing.

Shea butter (raw): this stuff is amazing. I’m not sure about type 3 hair (because it’s quite oily and thick) but i’ve tried it and although the smell isn’t very nice, you can mix in some essential oils of your choice. 

kinky curly products: i’m yet to try this brand but a lot of people love their products and reviews are mostly positive. I really wanna try the knot today.

Mixed chicks: the brand may be geared towards 'mixed chicks’ but it definitely is not exclusively for mixed people. The products are kind of expensive but people of all curly hair types seem to like them.

eco styler gel: this is popular in the natural hair community. some people are not very big fans of gel; but others find it useful for laying down edges, etc.

those are all i can think of atm; hope this helped :)

C: Why do people give girls with type 4 curls grief for doing the same thing girls with type 3 curls do to their hair? No one gives girls with type 3 curls problems when they do twist outs or use oils and gels and creams to define or add shine to their hair. But if a girl with type 4 curls does it, they get accused of “masking” their hair and “manipulating” it. Wtf? You can’t define curls if you don’t have curls. Type 4 curls ARE curls! Let us define our curls w/o accusing us of “self-hate,” damn.

Type 3 and type 4 girls are curly haired girls: If you put curl definers in type 1 hair the hair will remain limp. Wanna know why? Because type 1 hair is not curly. Wanna know why type 4 hair responds to curl definers and moisture? Because our hair follicles are s-shaped/z-shaped aka curls/coils. You can’t make your hair be something it’s not. Type 4 are curls therefore respond to curl products. That simple. 💁🏽

Confession

I’ve noticed that black men flirt with me less and less when I wear my natural hair compared to when I’m wearing weave or wigs. My hair is long and it’s 4a/4b and I’ve seen black men chase after lighter girls with short type 3 curls than me, a brownskin with coils. Same with my mom. Her 4a hair is way past her butt and when she wears it natural guys don’t talk to her as much as they do when she wears weave. It doesn’t rlly bother me but it says a lot about black men and their views on hair type.

Confession

I’m an insecure hypocrite and that is something I cannot deny. I preach black pride, black beauty, and self love yet I can’t even emulate those things for myself. I often find myself uncomfortable with my blackness; I cannot see the beauty in my own wide nose and type 4 hair. Growing up I always begged my mom for a nose job and when she stopped relaxing my hair I began wearing wigs, weaves, and braids religiously; basically anything that would hide my natural hair from the world. Today all these things still continue and as much as I just want to love myself and be content with my blackness, something holds me back. I’m so fucking sick of wearing fake hair everyday, but I honestly feel hideous with my natural hair. I feel masculine, plain, and ugly; today was wash day for me and I looked in the mirror while picking the knots out of my hair and I honestly just wanted to cry. I felt like I didn’t look like myself even though I was looking at myself in my true natural state. My sister has been urging me to wear my natural hair for a few days, but I just can’t. I don’t even know how to do my hair and it’s at an awkward length. I’m an overly self conscious person and it terrifies me to think of all the stares and judgements I’d get from people. I’ve just found comfort in wearing weaves/wigs all these years and basically conforming to so called beauty standards. It takes a certain amount of confidence to wear natural hair, but I don’t have that. It doesn’t help when you constantly hear black men and even your own mother knock down women with natural hair and call it ugly. Black girls hair isn’t really praised unless they have 22 inch virgin Brazilian weave or natural type 3 loose springy curls. I’m just tired of not being able to truly be myself because I feel like I need to make other people feel comfortable with my appearance. 😞

C: I noticed girls with looser curls – particularly type 3 curls, are usually the first to angrily or rudely comment “not all black girls have Afro hair” or say “I don’t need weave I have thick curly hair xD” or say “curly girls rock” and by “curly girls” they mean girls with super loose big curls. They’re not really inclusive of girls with type 4 curls, and tend to be annoyed when included with type 4 curls. It’s so odd to me. Why do they do that.

Confession

I’ve noticed that black men flirt with me less and less when I wear my natural hair compared to when I’m wearing weave or wigs. My hair is long and it’s 4a/4b and I’ve seen black men chase after lighter girls with short type 3 curls than me, a brownskin with coils. Same with my mom. Her 4a hair is way past her butt and when she wears it natural guys don’t talk to her as much as they do when she wears weave. It doesn’t rlly bother me but it says a lot about black men and their views on hair type.