Littlefinger was no threat to anyone. A clever, smiling, genial man, everyone’s friend, always able to find whatever gold the king or the Hand required, and yet of undistinguished birth, one step up from hedge knight, he was not a man to fear.
What could you eliminate that would help you reach your dream life?
Here’s a truth for your Friday from one of my heroes @cylcollective : the best place to start losing weight is dead weight. The greatest predictor for personal and professional success comes from our ability to eliminate the non essential.
You cannot create time. Whether you’re Warren Buffet or a high school student, we all have exactly 24 hours a day.
This is why change can feel impossible. Most weight loss programs are focused on practices to add in order to lose weight: what foods to eat, juices to drink and exercises to do. We’re trying to add to an already jam packed life.
Your life is like a plate: if you want to make room for vegetables, you’ll have to get rid of the French Fries.
In my first 365 days, I went to the gym over 275 times. I ate food I prepared personally 90% of the time. These new practices could not have happened without eliminating other practices like reducing television, eliminating video games, eliminating toxic and non value relationships and seeing my time as valuable.
I started my 250 pound weight loss journey by removing 1 practice a week for three weeks. I found energy and strength and mk most importantly room for new things.
It is knowing that you have less of a chance of waking up tomorrow than most people.
It is knowing that you will have to have injections for the rest of your life.
It is having days where you feel like shit because your blood sugar will not come down.
It is waking up at 2am, having your blood sugar be 54, and having to scarf down 10 packs of fruit snacks, gummies, juice, until you can stop shaking, until it no longer feels like every cell in your body is dying.
It is knowing that it is your cells dying from lack of glucose.
it is knowing that you can’t do anything with your BG about 250, because you will start killing your already dying cells.
It is not having anyone take your illness seriously.
It is having people say “Well just lose some weight.” or “Just diet” or “Just eat better”
It is knowing that none of those things will make your illness go away.
It is having to stay home from skiing, fencing, swimming, running, doing, because your blood is off.
It is having calluses on you fingers, bruises on your arms, legs, stomach back.
It is having your favorite injection site, favorite finger, favorite gummy.
It is being a connoisseur of candy.
It is knowing how many carbs you need to get your BG up.
It is ignoring that number and eating carbs until you finally stop shaking.
It is having your blood shoot up 30 minutes later because you ignored your number.
It is being a roller-coaster of blood sugars.
It is having a piece of technology that is attached to you keeping you alive.
It is having that technology fall out of your pocket, catch on a door, and pull on the site where you have a cannula stuck in you.
It is weight gain from your insulin.
It is carb counting.
It is having shitty thyroids, kidneys, liver, reproductive organs, because your body attacked itself.
It is having PCOS because your hormones and chemical balance is shit.
It is having days where you just want to be done with having to fight to be alive all the time.
It is not healing because your cells are either starving or drowning in glucose almost all the time.
It is a disgusting taste in your mouth when your blood is high.
I am from Scotland and have been living in the US since Christmas day 2013. In 2011 I met my wife when I was working in London. She is from Houston, Texas and was sent over to work for the London office of our company. We got married in 2012 and due to the company we work for closing down, we move back over to Austin, Texas where she was living for 20 years before London. With her being from Texas you can imagine that some of her family are extremely conservative. Which I frankly don’t care if they are or not. However, doesn’t matter if you are a Conservative, liberal, socialist if you are a cunt then you can go fuck yourself.
We are sitting in the living room watching TV after an amazing thanksgiving dinner. Someone mentioned the whole new open carry law starting this new year in Texas. Being from Scotland where guns are a no no they ask me “what do you think of that law, uberhaqer. Being from a place with no guns” “It’s kinda foreign to me. Not sure how I would react seeing a holstered gun in plain view. Honestly think I would feel uncomfortable and unsafe but that is just my upbringing”. Which I think is fair enough to say.
My wife’s aunt turns to me and comes out with. “Well that’s because you are from a socialist country. You also have a queen that rules you people. You are not citizens. You are a subject. If you were allowed guns you would be a citizen”. She then proceeds to tell me that the Syrian refugees coming over its bad and she needs to protect herself from them.
Fast forward an hour and she is pretty drunk. We are about to head back home. I thank everyone for the great meal and she turns and says “too bad you are not going back to your own country”. I don’t say anything at all. I did not want to stoop to get level…then. Since then she has apologized. Via text. I reply saying “no problem. Dont worry about it”
So. We go to Houston for Christmas. She is there. We exchange gifts. I hand her an envelope. She opens it and as I expected, she loses her fucking mind. Throws the piece of paper on the ground and storms out.
My mother in law picks up the paper and reads. “A donation of $250 had been made to unicef usa for the Syrian Child Refugees by Uberhaqer on behalf of Aunts Name” I just say “I thought, judging by the pro life sticker on her car, she would appreciate that…my bad”
Sit down and swig my whiskey. Rest of the evening was awkward. What a bawbag she is.
“If I am the main character of my own story… you’re
going to have some chapters that are rough weather. And that’s great
because it makes for a great story. You just have to know that you’re
going to come out better on the other side of that storm - whatever it
may be. And you’re gonna come out of it wiser than when you started.”
I have decided that upon reaching 4,500 followers I’ll host a giveaway. I am currently at 4,250 followers!
want to start buying the prizes now, so that I have enough money to do so. That being said, I’d love to purchase my items from small witchy businesses, so if you own/can recommend one I’ll be eternally grateful.
I’ve been thinking of a way to explain to straight white men how life works for them, without invoking the dreaded word “privilege,” to which they react like vampires being fed a garlic tart at high noon. It’s not that the word “privilege” is incorrect, it’s that it’s not their word. When confronted with “privilege,” they fiddle with the word itself, and haul out the dictionaries and find every possible way to talk about the word but not any of the things the word signifies.
So, the challenge: how to get across the ideas bound up in the word “privilege,” in a way that your average straight white man will get, without freaking out about it?
Being a white guy who likes women, here’s how I would do it:
Dudes. Imagine life here in the US — or indeed, pretty much anywhere in the Western world — is a massive role playing game, like World of Warcraft except appallingly mundane, where most quests involve the acquisition of money, cell phones and donuts, although not always at the same time. Let’s call it The Real World. You have installed The Real World on your computer and are about to start playing, but first you go to the settings tab to bind your keys, fiddle with your defaults, and choose the difficulty setting for the game. Got it?
Okay: In the role playing game known as The Real World, “Straight White Male” is the lowest difficulty setting there is.
This means that the default behaviors for almost all the non-player characters in the game are easier on you than they would be otherwise. The default barriers for completions of quests are lower. Your leveling-up thresholds come more quickly. You automatically gain entry to some parts of the map that others have to work for. The game is easier to play, automatically, and when you need help, by default it’s easier to get.
Now, once you’ve selected the “Straight White Male” difficulty setting, you still have to create a character, and how many points you get to start — and how they are apportioned — will make a difference. Initially the computer will tell you how many points you get and how they are divided up. If you start with 25 points, and your dump stat is wealth, well, then you may be kind of screwed. If you start with 250 points and your dump stat is charisma, well, then you’re probably fine. Be aware the computer makes it difficult to start with more than 30 points; people on higher difficulty settings generally start with even fewer than that.
As the game progresses, your goal is to gain points, apportion them wisely, and level up. If you start with fewer points and fewer of them in critical stat categories, or choose poorly regarding the skills you decide to level up on, then the game will still be difficult for you. But because you’re playing on the “Straight White Male” setting, gaining points and leveling up will still by default be easier, all other things being equal, than for another player using a higher difficulty setting.
Likewise, it’s certainly possible someone playing at a higher difficulty setting is progressing more quickly than you are, because they had more points initially given to them by the computer and/or their highest stats are wealth, intelligence and constitution and/or simply because they play the game better than you do. It doesn’t change the fact you are still playing on the lowest difficulty setting.
You can lose playing on the lowest difficulty setting. The lowest difficulty setting is still the easiest setting to win on. The player who plays on the “Gay Minority Female” setting? Hardcore.
And maybe at this point you say, hey, I like a challenge, I want to change my difficulty setting! Well, here’s the thing: In The Real World, you don’t unlock any rewards or receive any benefit for playing on higher difficulty settings. The game is just harder, and potentially a lot less fun. And you say, okay, but what if I want to replay the game later on a higher difficulty setting, just to see what it’s like? Well, here’s the other thing about The Real World: You only get to play it once. So why make it more difficult than it has to be? Your goal is to win the game, not make it difficult.
Oh, and one other thing. Remember when I said that you could choose your difficulty setting in The Real World? Well, I lied. In fact, the computer chooses the difficulty setting for you. You don’t get a choice; you just get what gets given to you at the start of the game, and then you have to deal with it.
So that’s “Straight White Male” for you in The Real World (and also, in the real world): The lowest difficulty setting there is. All things being equal, and even when they are not, if the computer — or life — assigns you the “Straight White Male” difficulty setting, then brother, you’ve caught a break.