22 december 1955

58 Years…

It would be if they were still alive… I always swore I didn’t want to get married - or if I did - I did not want a marriage like theirs… Everyone looks so happy in this photograph. But my mother shared with me the reason she insisted on being married before Christmas. I have no idea why she felt it necessary to tell me this story…

Basically, mum married dad to make another man jealous. Yes, that is what my mum told me… And I believe her. There was another man in the picture, so to say… And mum expected that he would show up at the church and stop the wedding. Obviously, he did not. So, mum was “stuck” with dad. There was no “The Graduate” ending to this story…

My dad so dearly loved my mum… Almost obsessively so. As she told me, she came to love him - especially once they had a family together. I still hate the fact that she did not reciprocate his love equally. I am pretty sure she truly never realised how much she did really love him until he died. She had to live with that regret for her remaining years. It was very sad. Almost tragic.

But they had spark and fire between them… As I think we learn, our parents are just human beings, with flaws of their own. We remove them from that parental pedestal and learn to accept them as they are… Just like us… Not perfect. I came to terms with this years ago. Although, I still never came to understand why my mother shared her “motives” for marrying my father with me. Always seemed quite inappropriate.

Anyroad… Yes, today would be their wedding anniversary. And, no, I was not insistent on marrying The Silverback before Christmas! Our wedding day falls so close to theirs by chance. We were ensuring we would not run into any new INS laws during the following year. Very different reasons, indeed!

I’m really missing them lately… A lot. As I’ve preciously noted, I really miss them arguing at this time of the year… Both were very strong-willed, very opinionated, very stubborn… Arguments were bound to break out. I can hear them in my head… Going back and forth… And it’s just funny. It was even funny at the time. OK, sometimes, it would get a bit too heated… But I still miss it. And them… Happy Anniversary, Mum and Dad…