21&under

Anti starter pack checklist (feel free to add)

✅ “you’re disgusting if you like this”
✅ “sweetie :)”
✅ under 21
✅ doesn’t know how to use blacklist
✅ “this is wrong and obviously im smarter than u so i have to tell u why ur wrong, ugh”
✅ “i dont care that youre a survivor”
✅ “relive your traumatic experience by telling everyone online or you arent valid”
✅ “kill yourself”
✅ “get hit by a truck”
✅ everyone is a racist
✅ everyone is a pedophile
✅ fiction = reality
✅ :)
✅ ;)

Tips for young trans boys going on HRT [From two dudes already going through it]

Ok so since not everyone is actually fortunate enough to go through an actual Gender Service, I’m going to write some Will and Probably Won’t things that come with going on T. For ref, I’ve been on T a year and my bf has been on for two. Let’s start;

Won’t:

You’ll wake up one day and sound like Morgan Freeman. 

Will:

Going on T will deepen your voice. 

For some people it may happen quite suddenly, for others gradually. Most likely you’ll sound like you have a bad cold for a while and then it’ll even out and be different. If you like to sing, be aware of voice cracks and suddenly being unable to sing as high as you used to. Some guys get lucky and still retain singing prowess, but be aware there’s a high chance you won’t. 

Each person’s vocal change is different. My voice cracked literally after the first injection, whilst my bf had to wait a while for changes. Don’t be worried if it appears your voice isn’t changing and be aware it may not go incredibly deep. It will probably be more noticeable to others than you and eventually it’ll feel like your normal voice. Your pets will recognise your voice, they will always come to know you. 

Won’t:

Face shape will change drastically to become more masculine.

Will:

After a while on T, you may experience some change in face and body shape. 

A lot of trans boys I know seem to believe they’ll wake up one day and just have the perfect masc face. Everyone is different, I can’t stress this enough. You may experience a huge change in the face, you may experience almost nothing. My bf always had a very round ‘moon’ face and his cheeks have started to slim down but his facial shape is more or less the same. As for myself I’ve not noticed anything too considerable yet. 

The same goes for the broadening of the shoulders. If you’re very slender to begin with, you’re probably never going to be Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, but you might experience some changes. Again, don’t be disheartened, everyone is different. 

Won’t:

The fat in your breasts will break down from going on T and make you look a lot more flat, if your chest is small you may not even have to wear a binder.

Will:

If you have A cups, then maybe the breakdown that happens with T will mean you don’t have to bind. However, the breakdown from T alone is very small unless you’re on it for years. Also be aware that a lot of the fat in your body in general is going to start focusing on your stomach. It’ll become easier to gain muscle once on T, but if you don’t exercise, the weight you lose from other areas will go to your stomach. But also, muscle weighs more than fat, remember that. You may drop clothing sizes, which can be a pain if you’re already quite small and have trouble finding masc clothes to fit you, trust me I know. 

Also a note on binders: Do not use bandages or cheap binders. Do not. Binders can cause damage after prolonged use when you’re using a proper binder nevermind anything else. Bandages are made to contract and not let in moisture, they are not good for being tight around the chest! Cheap binders are also usually not breathable and will hurt more than they should! It could cost a lot, but forking out for a proper binder from places like lesloveboat is really going to be worth it. There is the sports bra method if you can’t get a binder because you’re not Out yet and couldn’t justify getting a binder to your parents etc but even then it’s not as safe as a proper binder.

Any binder shouldn’t be worn for longer than recommended, and will most likely rub especially when the T starts to make you sweat more. There’s also going to be an increase in acne on the chest around where the binder fits. If your chest ever really starts to hurt, find somewhere to take the binder off. I don’t care where you are, if you’re getting huge chest pains, take the damn thing off. If you damage yourself the chance of being able to get surgery reduces drastically, not to mention a whole lot of health problems you don’t want to deal with. It’s harsh, but it’s a lot better for you. Get a binder in the next size up and try again.

Won’t:

My periods will stop immediately and I’ll never have them again.

Will:

Eventually your periods will stop, though you may spot occasionally whilst you still have the necessary organs.

Though everyone is different, don’t be disheartened if you still have a period or two after starting T, you’ll stop eventually. You could also go a while without a period and then spot before stopping again. If the spotting continues for a while, or if you start to experience severe cramping, go and see a doctor

Won’t:

I’m going to get angry and aggressive a lot when on T!

Will:

Your emotions will be doing a whole lot of different things. Your may get angry, and you may also find your sex drive increases. You might also get upset more often or at things that never upset you before, or aren’t necessarily sad. I cried listening to that Chick Chick song, it’s ridiculous. It won’t last forever, be patient with yourself, there’s nothing wrong with you it’s basically just puberty (again).

Last things - 

Hair growth all depends on the person, the face being the last place that will probably grow hair and even then you’ll probably only have a tiny fluff for a long time, unless you’re lucky. My bf is experiencing hair in places now that I started growing extremely quickly right away. It could be to do with my having dark hair and him being a redhead tbh. But you will grow hair, all over. All over. Be prepared for that. You will get hair in places you never had much if any hair before. I have hair on my chest now. Not a whole lot but it’s there. The stomach is another hotspot for hair growth on T.

You will get acne, you will start to stink, sweat more and you may get growing pains. Look up Male Puberty, seriously, it’ll give you a good idea of some of the stuff that will start happening to you. Until your hormones calm down, your acne will not ultimately improve even with skincare. If you’re under 21, you might grow a little and the pains will be considerable. I gained like maybe an inch so I’m still short af but that’s something.

Your clit will start to get bigger. I know talking about the female genitalia we have is a big dysphoria bomb for a lot of us, but you need to read this. Your clit will get bigger, maybe considerably, maybe so much that the lips won’t hide it any more (if they ever did). It will rub against your underwear and/or your packer. For me it’s just mildly irritating, though for my bf it actually hurts (stings) him. It will be really sensitive either way. Be aware of that. 

Some people you don’t see every day or aren’t very close to may not recognise you when considerable changes occur. Use this to your advantage! Reintroduce yourself! 

If you self-inject, be prepared to mess up. There will be pain, swelling and bruising. If you have a nurse to inject you (like we do) there’s a change that they too might occasionally catch a nerve and you may bruise. Do not inject directly into a vein.

It’s perfectly fine to cry because of growing pains, pain from rubbing etc. You can be a man and still cry and complain but at least be aware of what to expect. 

Most changes will be so gradual that you’ll never look in the mirror and see a stranger, it’ll be like this was always the way you were.

If you do however, start to become really distressed by the changes or start to see nothing but a stranger in the mirror, please reconsider whether HRT is the right thing for you. The last thing you want is to be stuck with changes that are actually distressing you. It’s ok if you thought you wanted/needed this but then realised you didn’t/don’t. 

Last (gosh this was long). Every guy is different. Some changes come fast, some don’t. Some may be huge changes and some only small. Don’t compare yourself to other trans guys especially your own friends/loved ones. Every guy is different, be proud of your changes as they come and don’t let anyone bring you down just because those changes aren’t ~*significant*~  to them.

a shelter from oblivion (we will be in history)

[so this is a new years gift for @turnandchasethewind​ bc i shes my best pal but also bc we are sluts for teen vogue & the new 21 under 21 issue is SO LIT so heres some ridiculous fun queer fluff for u: 

lexa & clarke are both activists featured in 21 under 21. they might fall in love a little.]

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a shelter from oblivion (we will be in history)

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queers are intimately familiar with the costs of being queer—that, as much as anything, makes us queer. the question really is not whether feelings such as grief, regret, and despair have a place in transformative politics; nor is it how to cultivate hope in the face of despair. rather, the question that faces us is how to make a future enough that even the most reluctant among us might want to live there.

—heather love, feeling backward: loss and the politics of queer history

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you know a lot about lexa woods: a queer, trans activist who argued legislature when she was 15, started a non profit for lgbtq+ youth and legal aid in brooklyn when she was 16, spoke at the women’s march in new york, is now 19 and a sophomore at harvard studying political science and queer theory. also, notably—because you admire her and also because, honestly, she’s hot as hell—has walked the past two fashion weeks in both paris and new york and is the new face of mac. 

so, whatever. you know a lot.

you’d expected her to be intense, which she is, and professional, which she definitely is, letting like five people in front of her in line at craft services during your shoot and sitting down for her interview after literally shutting off her iphone, smiling gently, and leaning forward like those next twenty minutes were the most important of her life.

what you hadn’t expected, though, is how she’s funny, and kind of silly, even, and actually honest to god giggled at a stupid joke you made when you were talking to her after you finished your interview. 

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anonymous asked:

What's the deal with 21:21 ?

What’s the deal with-

WHAT’S THE DEAL WITH

oh dear sweet anon

let me take you down season 3 symbolism lane

do you remember this iconic clip?

Well the title of this clip waasssss - you guessed it

What does 21:21 mean?

a couple things -

firstly 21 is an angel number which symbolises that your ideas and beliefs are becoming a reality and that changes are coming into your life. - I think this could be the thing that made Even go “are you serious? we’re going” when Isak told him this time because….to him it was practically a sign that he needs to make his dreams become a reality right now with Isak….

Second - in the bible (which was a major theme in Isak’s season because of his mothers messages and connection to religion) genesis 21:21 is literally The Birth of Isaac. i am not kidding

you would also be aware that water itself is a symbol of birth… so many of us believe that the use of 21:21 and Isak and Even having their first kiss underwater is symbolising that Isak is being roborn. He is finally becoming the person he was always too afraid to be. The real Isak has just been born the moment he leaves with Even at 21:21 and kisses him under water.

The thing that makes this interpretation super obvious in this clip is the fact that Even is literally dressed as god lol.

and then of course the reveal that

ISAK WAS LITERALLY BORN AT 21:21

so yeah rebirth of Isak alright.

and then finally

21:21 doesn’t just mean something significant for Isak…or for Even it means something special and important to the both of them. Together

which is why when Isak posted this on the 21st of May 2017

we all died, because this was a reminder from Isak that it is 21:21 right now in this universe….and guess what? Him and Even are together. Right now at 21:21 the Isak and Even lying together in each others arms in this universe are together and safe and happy and loved.

the fact that his background is very universy further emphasises this.

they are together and happy in this universe at 21:21 and Isak wanted to share it because dear god isn’t it beautiful?

#OMGCP @ FLAME CON 
Tables 20 & 21
August 19th & 20th, Sat & Sun

Hey, y'all! Check, Please will be at Flame Con in Brooklyn, NY this weekend at Tables 20 & 21! Doors open at noon each day and you should totally drop by to grab awesome merch!  Not only will I have Check Please: Year One & Year Two, I’ll have Huddles!, keychains, sticker sheets, posters, SMH patches and pie pins!

Flame Con is New York City’s Queer Comic Con and features creators and celebrities from ALL over LGBTQ geek fandom. If you didn’t know Sunday is YOUTH DAY and all attendees under 21 attend Flame Con for FREE. (Woot woot ALL AGES!) So even more reason to stop by! 

(★Reblogs help spread the word!) See y’all there!

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Paladin Cocktails #1

I expect to do a few variations on this sort of post as alternate ideas are presented or folk recommend modifications to the recipes. These are all alcoholic and therefore not intended for fans under 21. There is one in the works for some of our alien characters as well.

These are strong drinks because that’s how mod likes her drinks. Please feel welcome to tag @vldquizsnacks​ or submit pics to us if you make these and take pictures!

Detailed cocktail recipes under the cut!

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Teen Vegans

It boggles my mind how anyone would support anyone under 21 to go being vegetarian or vegan. Its so ridiculously bad for a growing body, I have had close friends get seriously sick due to lack of protein and muscle. Please, please don’t go vegan or vegetarian of you are still growing.

“i wish there were more non-bar lgbt spaces”

me, nodding: ok, good, alcoholism is a big problem in our community, plus not everyone drinks + under 21s can have a hard time finding places to meet

“…bc the lgbt community is so ~sexual~/gay bars are Dirty/it’s gross :(/it’s acephobic/they’re harmful to children”

me, recoiling: bad fucking content,

The Types As Strange U.S. Laws

Some of these are laws they would break, others they would enforce. It kind of varies from type to type.

INTP - It is illegal to manufacture imitation cocaine. (Arizona)

INTJ - Any marriage where either of the parties is an idiot or lunatic is null and void. (Rhode Island)

INFJ - One could land in hail for up to a year for making a false promise. (Louisiana)

INFP - While it is legal to shoot bears, waking a bear for the purpose of taking a photograph is prohibited. (Alaska)

ENFP - You may not sing in the bathtub. (Pennsylvania)

ENFJ - It is illegal for a man to give his sweetheart a box of candy weighing less than fifty pounds. (Idaho)

ENTJ - Junk dealers may not take any business transactions with any drunk person. (Wyoming)

ENTP - It is illegal to use profanity in front of a dead body which lies in a funeral home or in a coroners office. (Georgia)

ESTP - It is illegal to fish with a bow and arrow. (Kentucky)

ESTJ - It is illegal to mistreat anything of great importance. (Ohio)

ESFJ - Those under 21 can drink legally, but they must be enrolled in a culinary program to do so. (Illinois)

ESFP - It is illegal to sleep naked. (Minnesota)

ISFP - One may not mutilate a rock in a state park. (Colorado)

ISTP - You may not run machinery on Sundays. (New Hampshire)

ISTJ - All males 18 to 50 years old must work six days a year on public roads. (Indiana)

ISFJ - Drivers must yield to pedestrians who are standing on the sidewalk. (Oregon)

Patater Week - Day 3

Feb. 8 - Fake Dating/Secret (?) Relationship - (2K)

“I don’t care, it’s not weird, I’m going to sit on you,” Jeff says, shifting all 200 pounds of his body onto Kent’s lap.

“I wish you wouldn’t,” Kent tells him.

“That’s pretty gay,” an Aces teammate says from where he is sitting on the ground, demolishing his bowl of popcorn that he stole from Kent’s cabinets, even though Kent had specifically told him to not touch his cabinets. “And I have a boyfriend.”

“Shut up, I’m so scared, I’m so fucking scared,” Jeff says, burying his face in Kent’s neck. “Did they make it out of the hallway?”

“I don’t know, why don’t you watch the movie?” Kent says through his teeth as he shoves Jeff off to the side, which is rather difficult considering that Jeff is insistent that he turn into a human-sized suction cup for the occasion. “Seriously, could you let go? I can’t breathe.”

“Why did you pick a scary movie if you’re afraid of them, Jeff?” a rookie asks. He’s lounging on the carpet, his head using Patrick’s lap as a pillow as he scrolls down his phone.

“I’m not scared,” Jeff says, then curses as the woman in the TV screen turns a corner in her hallway and the music grows more ominous. “This is for a team bonding exercise for the rookies.”

“Which you hosted. At my place,” Kent says flatly. “Without consulting me.”

“You’re the captain,” Jeff says. “It should be at your place.”

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Where to Freestyle if You Aren’t 21 (or you want to go some place that isn’t a bar)

When I wrote The New Money Girls (that free book I keep telling you to read-the link’s at the bottom of this little post) and its sequel Never Too Much (out THIS MONDAY January 15), I realized something: they spend a lot of time in restaurants eating and drinking. It makes sense. O’Shea, one of the main characters, managed her SD/BF restaurant and all four women love to drink. 


While that’s something they love, it’s not something every one loves, can afford to do, or can do legally. What if you hate drinking, are on the wagon, or are under 21? What options do you have? What if you’re just sick and fucking tired of free styling at bars? 


I’ve got news for you. It’s both good and bad but I know you can handle it. Bars, lounges, and restaurants are some of the best places to freestyle because they are environments that encourage it. They are places where it is expected to strike up conversations with strangers. BUT they aren’t the only places. Check out this list of ideas if you’re looking for other places to freestyle.


1. Restaurants. I know. I said we were going to look at other places but I want to point something out: bars card you no matter what. In most cases, before they let you in the door. Restaurants card you only if you order alcohol. There is no law that says you cannot sit at the bar of a restaurant and order dinner. No one will card you. No one will tell you to leave. You can even order a cute mock tail and if a man approaches you bat your eyelashes and say you’re just not drinking tonight. 


2. The high end version of the places where you already hang out. Love to sit in Starbucks on your laptop or with a book? Good for you and you can absolutely still meet a man there. But check out that local, hip coffee shop surrounded by high-rise office buildings. Check out the boutique cafe that imports its own coffee and makes great breakfasts. Check out the juice bar by the high end gym. Like to sit in the library? Go to the library at the best university in your area. Make sure you tell me thank you when you start dating that pre-law, pre-med, MBA, med, or law student. 


3. Places that show expensive art. Start going to art galleries. My best friend went to one. Just to see what they were hanging on the walls and was utterly captivated by a piece. A man noticed her staring at it and struck up a conversation with her. He’s making plans to fly her to his city. She’s making plans to empty his wallet. 


4. Go to museums. Spend $30-$100 and become a member of those museums. They’ll have special events and give you free tickets. You know who else will have tickets? Their biggest donors and friends. You’ll become more cultured and you’ll get to free style. Sounds like a win-win to me.


5. Conferences. Okay. This one is about restaurants, too. Conferences, especially big ones, draw in thousands of different types of men. What makes them special? Normally, they don’t send their bottom rung employee to the conference or if they do, they don’t send him alone. Someone with some power at that small but mighty business is going to go to. He’s going to connect with others in his field. They’re all going to decide they don’t want to hang out at the hotel bar and go out. You’ll be waiting for them. You’ll know where to meet them because you’ll be able to pinpoint the types of places these people like to go. If it’s a sports conference look for places that are higher end with great craft beers and approachable food. White collar gathering of lawyers, business execs, real estate developers etc? Look at the pictures of the restaurants. They’ll flock to places that stroke their ego and make them feel powerful. The restaurants with dark, masculine interiors and impressive wine and whiskey lists will be crawling with them. Google “conferences in [your city] and start plotting.


6. Volunteer. Men that make a certain amount of money are usually involved in some type of charitable activity. Volunteering for a charity helps give you a sense of purpose and generosity but also an opportunity to meet board members. Check out organizations like Volunteers Untapped that try to attract young professionals if you’re trying to go the spoiled GF route with men closer to your age. 


7. Meetups! Check out the meet ups for professionals. Don’t have to join them but if you see that a large group of lawyers are going to be having a happy hour or hanging out in a certain place, why wouldn’t you drop by?
8. Galas and fundraisers. These events are expensive but are hands down one of my favorite ways to meet men. You might shell out $400 for a ticket (get VIP so that you have access to all areas of the part) but you’ll spend the evening hobnobbing with the wealthy and well dressed. It’s worth it. Always.

What do you think, best friend? Was this a good list to get you started? Did I miss something critical or your favorite place to freestyle? Let me know! And if you haven’t read The New Money Girls yet here’s the link to get your FREE copy:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0774B1MTS

anonymous asked:

Emily I’m still bitter about the att event :( ugh I know it’s mostly Taylor nation’s or att’s fault but I still can’t help but be upset seeing so many people disappointed (I’m under 18 so I wouldn’t have been invited anyway lel)

lets blame Taylor Nation, I already don’t trust their shady asses. They either need to actually enforce their “you only meet taylor once” rule or scrap it all together. I’m sad when I see people get turned away. 

Omg yes they had a competition in Australia but I couldn’t enter because I’m a few months under 21 :/ 

emily’s sleepover night! come chat with me about anything and everything

THINGS SHAWN MENDES ACHIEVED IN 2017

1. Won a Juno award
2. Began and completed his highly successful Illuminate World Tour
3. Released There’s Nothing Holdin’ Me Back, the third single from Illuminate, which peaked at number 6 on the Billboard Hot 100
4. Performed for 80,000 people at Wembley Stadium
5. Helped the victims of the Mexico Earthquake and managed to raise more than 180,000 dollars for the victims
6. Performed for more than 100,000 people in Brazil
7. Performed at the VMAs
8. Performed at the EMAs
9. Won 4 awards at the EMAs
10. Won his first AMA
11. Performed at the AMAs
12. Released his own fragrance
13. Became the ambassador for Armani’s Smart watch and walked the ramp for the first time
14. Played two sold out shows at the O2 arena in London
15. Played two sold out shows at the Air Canada Center in his hometown in Toronto
16. Became legal to drink in his home country
17. Got his second tattoo
18. Got his third, fourth, and fifth tattoo
19. Released new merchandise
20. Number 1 on the 21 under 21 list
21. Number 9 on the Billboard Artists of The Year list
22. Treat You better became his first music video to reach 1 billion views
23. Released a video for TNHMB
24. Performed at the YouTube FanFest in Tokyo
25. Performed at New Year’s Rockin’ Eve
26. Met a kangaroo
27. Was the first performance for the reboot of the popular series, MTV Unplugged
28. Released a live album for the same
29. Appeared with Rory Kramer for an episode of Dare To Live
30. Started working on his third album
31. Performed with Ed Sheeran and John Mayer
32. Performed at BBC Radio 1 Big Weekend
33. Bought his own condo and moved out of his parents’ house

2017 was truly Shawn’s year, and I hope he has an amazing 2018.
Let me know if I missed something, I’ll add it in