20 things i love

20 things I learned at 20

1. You can have only one best friend and that best friend can only be you. Because you may come across a dozen lovely people but the only one who can keep the ‘forever’ promise is you.

2. Family is the most important. This is the only love that is truly unconditional and absolutely pure. They love you when you’re 5 and when you’re 18. They love you in your failure and your success. Their love doesn’t increase because it’s already at its maximum right from the beginning, it’s already infinite.

3. Cocktails and aerated drinks may soothe your taste buds but tea soothes your entire body. It’s warm and calming and well, healthy.

4. Your first kiss means nothing if it’s not with the right person. And the right person doesn’t mean your soulmate or someone who will never break your heart but someone who in that moment loves you as much as you love them.

5. You’ve written over 350 exams and you’ve got a perfect score in some and scored miserably in others but do you remember your 9th grade math score? Do you even remember 9th grade math? Education is so important but not the stress and competitive grading that comes along with it. If you get a low score or even fail, not much will happen – you will get a retest. But if you get ill – mentally or physically, it will have undesired long term effects.

6. In 8th grade your school psychologist told you that you’re one of the few people who walk in life with open arms loving and helping everyone, not because you haven’t bled but because you know you will heal and have the strength to do so. At that point you laughed at her but now, years later you’re loving, accepting and helping in spite of having both, actual and metaphorical scars.
You’re kind and admitting that doesn’t make you conceited.

7. Goodbyes don’t always have to be dramatic. Writing an 800 words message won’t make it hurt any less than an 8 words one. Closure usually has not much to do with the ones who wronged you but with taking your time in dealing with all the stages of grief. Some stage like anger may take only a month but acceptance may take years and that’s okay.

8. Jealousy is a basic human trait. They can be the closest to you and yet envy your happiness and life. Envy is something you too experience and you can be happy for them and be sad for yourself at the same time because so bitter it is to view happiness from someone else’s eyes. You aren’t a horrible human being if you feel like there are better shades of green your grass could be.

9. Read at your own desire and pace.
You don’t have to read particular books to qualify as a bibliophile or read a specific number of books to be a bookworm either. Read what truly interests you and take your time because reading was never a task, don’t make it one now.

10. Money is important. Money can’t buy love but it can buy happiness. But not blood money. Money honestly earned through hard work. That kind of money is good, that kind of money is required. You have a certain standard of living and if you want to maintain that after your parents stop financing you, you must make sure to earn the same. It doesn’t make you a snob or a spoiled brat, it only makes you a human aware of your wants, many of which have turned into needs by now.

11. There are somethings you just never grow out of like bubbles and glitter and your mother’s hot chocolate and hugs. Those are the kind of things that make life bearable when adulting gets too hard. Those are the little things that matter the most.

12. You cry. A lot.
But you don’t cry in front of people for their pity. You don’t cry to manipulate situations. You cry because you accept the pain. You cry because you don’t reject or lock away your emotions. You cry because your mental, emotional and physical self are in sync and that’s healthy. That’s so lovely.

13. Bake cakes. They don’t have to look pretty as long as they taste delicious. Paint canvases. They don’t have to be a master piece as long as all the paint in your hands and face and jeans makes you feel complete. Write more. It doesn’t have to a novel or even be posted online as long as it lets you breathe a little lighter and smile wider.

14. Go for walks alone, sit on the beach without your headphones, look up at the sky without a lover, buy flowers for yourself. Nature is legit free (for the most part). And it’s the richest thing that the world has. Le it bring you peace, let it help you survive.

15. Make home feel home. Sometimes you won’t have your family to make it home. Sometimes you will have to make it home by putting a part of yourself and that means investing the time, energy and money in making it feel yours, in making it feel right. It may not be your ‘dream house’, it may just be a tiny room but it’s yours. Your surroundings play a major role in affecting your mood and vibe.

16. Energy is real.
You may not know much about Science beyond 10th grade but you do know this, e=mc ² which means everything is energy, you are energy and there is positive and negative energy and you can feel it and you experience it in every person you meet, every place you visit, every room you step inside. You can and you must choose to surround yourself with positive energy. What you attract, you do get; what you attract you become.

17. Spend time with yourself. It’s some of the best time you will have. You need to unwind, you need it to re-energize, you need it to focus and you need it for peace. You can go to a cafe by yourself, write, read, meditate, talk to yourself out loud, dance in your underwear, cook and just be.


18. Take care of yourself- no one else can, no one else will. Drink loads of water, there’s a reason why more than half your body is made up of water. Sleep well because staying up all night isn’t something to be proud of, it’s stupid. Don’t skip breakfast because skipping breakfast makes you crave fatty foods for the rest of the day. Stay healthy not because you want to look a certain way but because you want to feel strong and energetic and have an active mind, body and heart. Staying healthy emotionally and mentally is just as important. So let those who want to go, go and never say yes to something your gut wants to scream ‘NO’ to.

19. Love yourself. If you don’t love yourself you will look for other people to love you. If you don’t accept yourself, you will keep seeking other people’s validation and the moment they withdraw it or walk away, you will crumble. And you don’t want to crumble. You want to enjoy the one person’s company you have to live with forever – yourself. Work on being a person you’d love to spend your life with because let’s face it, you don’t have a choice. It’s a long term investment and the only one that will never fail you.

20. In Shakespeare’s words, “To thine own self be true”. In order to love yourself, knowing yourself is very important. And knowing yourself doesn’t mean the adjectives that people use for you or what your zodiac sign says about you. It means what you know in your heart to be your truth.

One more for good luck?

21. You laughed and thought it was very witty when you came across the quote, ‘Don’t take life too seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyway.’
but god. Can it be any truer? Most things you’re stressing over now won’t even matter 3 years from now. But good days will turn into heart-warming memories that will stay with you even 2 decades later.
Happiness and success are two different things but remember, they aren’t mutually exclusive. At least they don’t have to be.

—  creatingnikki 
20 things i love about you

1. the way your eyes light up when you smile
2. the stupid but funny jokes you make
3. the look on your face when you talk about something you are passionate about
4. the way you draw
5. how beautiful you look when the sun shines on your face
6. the way you always make me smile
7. how you accept me for who i am
8. when you’re telling stories
9. how puffy your cheeks are
10. the colour of your eyes
11. how weird you can get
12. your laugh
13. how you always put me in a good mood
14. how cute you can be
15. your hair
16. you make me feel like i’m worth something
17. your cheesy jokes
18. we can be silly together
19. how we both get along so well
20. the way you inspire me with your thoughts and emotions

- school is fucking important. pay attention and do the work, it’s so worth it.

- friends come and go, it’s gonna happen. sometimes it’s your fault, and sometimes it’s not. you’ve just gotta understand that everything happens for a reason.

- your parents might be annoying, but they really do have your best interests in mind. you should try listening to them once in awhile, you really might learn something.

- if a boy doesn’t try, he genuinely doesn’t care. wait for the guy who would do anything to be your everything.

- your body is your body. you’re stuck with it, so make the most of it. if you wanna wear makeup, wear makeup. go on youtube and watch tutorials, it’ll get you somewhere. if you don’t wanna wear makeup, don’t fucking wear makeup. you look great either way.

- you’re gonna get your heart broken. a lot. by friends, family, and boys. every heart break is a lesson.

- when one door closes, another one opens. i promise.

-  if you want a change, you have to be the change

- live your life for yourself..because it’s yours. focus on what makes you happy at the end of the day, because that’s whats most important. that you are happy.

—  things i wish i realized before i turned 20

I remember when I was fourteen, sipping on a mixture of liqueurs from various different cupboards from various different houses, sitting on some decaying swing set, with a friend I no longer call friend, a un-friend I no longer can see in front of me, but she was a mirror of me, but only draining, never gave anything.

Sitting on these swings we discussed life and love, things we knew nothing about, but we talked and compared and discussed. Reciting poems about it, like at school, but not as strictly. She always got the words wrong but I didn’t mind. When she finished I said that I didn’t believe in love, to spite her, I think. Although I had not at the time, ever been in love, so maybe I was speaking the truth. Her eyes already puffy from a story about a boy, she would say, don’t say that! Love is a beautiful thing!

I am 20 now, so it seems, it is written on the birthday card in front of me. And I mumble to myself, I don’t believe in love. And I look around, he’s not here, the whisky boy, but my family is. I say thank you, for the cake, for the presents, and I feel tears in my eyes. And in that moment I feel love, it is true, but most of the time love escapes me. Oh, how misery loves me. It’s like a prayer, but only just.

—  1000 years ago but my mum says it was only a day - Knight

Just imagine if you could reread your favorite manga as many times as you wanted but it still had the same magical effects as it did the first time through

okay but i’m so glad that rowlet literally just rides around and sleeps in ash’s bag like almost 24/7 and just pops out as necessary for plot like for one thing how cute is that for another thing it literally fits in there perfectly so where the fuck does ash even keep his school supplies or his camping supplies or literally anything. “sorry professor kukui i don’t have my homework rowlet hekkin crushed it ? ?? “ i’m sorry ash that excuse probaly don’t fly when you live in the teacher’s loft i guess

i could go on a tangent on how wonderful this is because it totally fits into the whole thing alola has about people and pokemon sharing space together as equals as friends as living mates as partners everything and it’s a fun new spin on the whole “pokemon pops out of pokeball because it wants to do things ha ha ha! brick joke” that’s been a thing since the beginning of the anime 20 years ago

but mostly i love it because ash can just be like “SUMMON BORB”

and there it is

I truly hope that you find your person, and I hope that it feels like coming home when you do. I worry about your heart sometimes because I know that it has become fragile. Your soul has been drenched in rain storms and I can see that you’re so tired of searching for a safe place. I will offer you my friendship and my embrace until the sun comes out from behind the clouds. I love you, my dear. I’m so sorry that your patience is wearing thin, and I’m sorry that the world has been so unkind.
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what an interesting choice of frame for these scenes, both of them in which Xena (and the audience) is doubting Gabrielle: placing her against a lighter background while Xena stands in the shadows, so we’re led to believe she is still good ol’ Gabby, while also being reminded of Xena’s dark side and, consequently, somewhat influenced to discredit her suspicions… nice try.

1. i fell in love with you before i even realized i did

2. i once dreamt of kissing you, and it almost felt real

3. you made me cry a lot… and you still do

4. i don’t know what pains me more: the fact that you cannot love me back or you love me but only as a friend

5. even if you keep telling me that i matter to you because i’m your friend and you care about me, i still have doubts

6. the scars you caused me when you left are still bleeding

7. your eyes are my favorite shade of brown

8. your smile hurts me the way the sun hurts my eyes, but i’d still stare at the beauty of it

9. i will never regret falling in love with you

10. i love seeing you happy, but i hate how you could be happy even without me

11. sometimes i wish i was him, because i know that there will always be a part of you that’s always going to be his

12. i honestly feel worthless when you ignore me

13. i feel like i’m not good enough, because no matter what i do, you would never love me the way i love you

14. i dedicate coldplay’s ‘yellow’ and 'ink’ to you

15. i actually made a playlist of songs that say the words i’m afraid to tell you for you, and it saddens me that you’ll never get to hear it

16. it amazes me how just the thought of you could hold my demons back

17. you are my painful happiness and my beautiful sadness

18. you’re the first girl i cried over

19. i’m mad at him, but not because i love you and you love him. i’m mad at him because i love you, you love him, and he doesn’t love you

20. darling you hurt me so bad, and the pain you caused me almost killed me, but i would do it all over again even if it means getting hurt all over again

—  20 things i’ll never tell you (via lost-with-alaskayoung)

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