11 year old daughter

Take Your Gatekeeping and Shove It.

So, this past weekend, I took my 11-year-old daughter to SuperCon to meet her favorite actor (and favorite Doctor), Peter Capaldi.

She wore a little blue TARDIS-decorated dress and some Doctor Who pins, and she nearly cried with joy when Capaldi greeted her for the photo op. He was a consummate gentleman and such a sweet and enthusiastic person.

An hour or so after the wonderful photo op experience, she and I were sitting at a table in the food court area.

A burly, older man plopped down nearby.  He looked at my little girl’s outfit, smiled, and said, “Do you even KNOW anything about Doctor Who?”

WTF, dude?

I was too stunned for a second to even respond, so he started right in with the ‘quizzing.’

“Who are the Doctor’s biggest enemies, and what planet does he come from?” this stranger asked.

Now I had moved past shocked and right into indignant/angry/protective mode.

“I don’t want her to be quizzed on something she loves, because I don’t want her thinking she has to prove ANYthing in order to be a fan,“ I told him.

Looking at my daughter, I said “You don’t owe strangers explanations or information, ok?“  She said OK and looked relieved.

Still he pressed on, patronizing grin and all: “Oh, I just want to be sure parents are raising their kids right.” Then he turned to my daughter again and asked “Who was the first Doctor, then?”

I cut him off right there. “No. I don’t want her quizzed. At all.”

Dude blinked in disbelief, sighed, and left about a minute later.

“Thanks,” my daughter said. “He was making me feel awkward.”

I held her hand and looked into her eyes. “Some men think they can have power over you by making you prove yourself. You never have to do it. They’re just insecure and pitiful, so they want to make you feel like it, too.  It’s not only about fan stuff, and it’s not always just men, but be careful not to fall into that trap, ok?”

That crap isn’t harmless fun. It sets up a pattern of approval-seeking, self-justification, self-doubt, and fear of exclusion that is very dangerous for children (particularly girls).

Fuck that.

TL;DR:  Do NOT come at me, my little girl, or anyone in my vicinity with your condescending, gatekeeping bullshit.

The next time, I won’t make the mistake of even TRYING to be polite.

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The Killers of Netflix’s Mindhunter & Their Real Life Counterparts

Co-Ed Killer Edmund Kemper

Standing at an enormous 6′9″, Ed Kemper was responsible for ten murders between 1964 and 1973. Kemper was the first serial killer interviewed by Agent Ford in Mindhunter and remains alive in prison at the California Medical Facility aged 73. The real life inspiration for Agent Ford, FBI profiler John Douglas described Kemper as: “among the brightest prison inmates”. This is reinforced by Kemper’s high IQ of 145.

Richard Speck

Richard Speck was a mass murderer who killed 8 female students on one night in 1966. Speck was a married father himself, but was by all accounts an alcoholic and abusive husband. Speck spent the remainder of his life in prison after his crimes, dying of a heart attack the night before his 50th birthday in 1991. FBI profiler John Douglas described his meeting Speck: “As he saw us approaching his jail cell, he went crazy, he went nuts like an animal”.

Lust Killer Jerry Brudos

Jerome Henry Brudos was a serial killer responsible for the murder of at least four women between 1968 and 1969 in Oregon. Like Speck, Brudos was a married father. Brudos also had an intense obsession with women’s feet and shoes. Jerry Brudos died of liver cancer aged 67 in 2006. Having served over 37 years in prison, he was the longest incarcerated inmate in the Oregon penal system.

BTK Killer Dennis Rader

Although only teased in Mindhunter, Dennis Rader is one of America’s most notorious serial killers. As shown in Mindhunter, Rader worked for the ADT security company in Wichita, Kansas. He was also responsible for the murder of ten people between 1974 and 1991. A majority of his murder victims were female, amongst them being the entire Otero family. Rader broke into the home of the Oteros in January 1974 before systematically torturing and murdering Joseph and Julie Otero as well as their 11 year old son and 9 year old daughter. Rader remains alive in the Kansas El Dorado Correctional Facility aged 72.

I’ve posted about Mindhunter before but not in such detail, I was rewatching it and thought this would be an interesting post to make. It’s a really great series and I’m looking forward to season two a great deal.

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Barbara Opel enmeshed herself in her children’s lives to an extremely unhealthy degree. 13-year-old Heather Opel was encouraged to date from a young age and when valentines day rolled around, Barbara hosted a party and supplied the guests with beer and alcohol. Barbara and Heather’s father had long divorced and she kept him from the children. They also had another 11-year-old son together while Barbara had a 7-year-old daughter from another relationship.

Barbara and her children were taken under the wing of terminal cancer patient, 64-year-old Jerry Heiman. Jerry hired Barbara to care for his 89-year-old mother. In order to steal $40,000 from Jerry which he received from the sale of a house, Barbara decided she wanted him dead. She turned to 17-year-old Jeffrey Grote, Heather’s boyfriend. Initially, he refused to kill Jerry but when Barbara promised to buy him a car and pay his friends to help, he changed his mind.

Barbara soon assembled a group of teenagers who agreed to kill Jerry, including her own daughter. On the 13th of April, 2001, Jeffrey, Heather, 14-year-old Kyle Boston, Kyle’s 13-year-old cousin, and 14-year-old Marriam Oliver, hid in Jerry’s house waiting for him to come home. Once he entered, the teenagers beat him with baseball bats and stabbed him to death. Afterwards, Barbara forced her two youngest children to mop up his blood. His body as discovered in a shallow grave ten miles away.

Barbara was sentenced to life imprisonment. Heather was sentenced to 22 years in prison. Jeffrey was sentenced to 50 years in prison. Kyle was sentenced to 18 years. His unnamed cousin was tried as a juvenile and released when he turned 21. Marriam was sentenced to 22 years.

Gerhard Richter, Betty, 1988
Saint Louis Art Museum, Saint Louis
Gerhard Richter based this painting on a 1978 photograph he took of his daughter Betty when she was 11 years old. The girl’s position is partially posed, but also spontaneous as she turns away from the viewer. Richter combines the softness of her hair with the precise rendering of her flowered jacket in a work that blurs the distinctions between painting and photography. The formal elegance and psychological ambiguity evident here make Betty one of Richter’s most captivating works.

okay, let’s just derail for a quick second.  I have a full meta I’m working on, but I need to rant.

Sansa Stark is 11 years old during AGOT, and Arya is 9 years old. Ned Stark brought his daughters into an ADVANCED political climate, a LION’S DEN, and his eldest daughter (WHO IS 11 YEARS OLD, NOT A TEENAGER, BARELY A PRETEEN) is betrothed to the crown prince of the 7 kingdoms.  Upon the political climate worsening and danger slowly bubbling up (especially concerning his daughter who is betrothed to the crown prince of the 7 kingdoms), Ned does have a very adult heart to heart with his younger daughter, Arya Stark.  Ned does not tell her every detail of what is happening, but he tells her he needs her to trust him and tries to make her see reason and understanding.  

Does Ned Stark have the same conversation with his eldest daughter, Sansa? No.  He does not have that conversation.  He leaves parenting of his eldest daughter to the household Septa, and he does not sit down to connect with Sansa (which I’ll get into when I post next week).  

he does. not. try. to. parent. Sansa.

he doesn’t have the same discussion with Sansa. He doesn’t try.  

If he had sat down with Sansa and explained to her that he needed her to trust him and that it was for her safety instead of telling Arya that she can go to her dancing lesson and that Sansa can’t see Joffrey ever again Sansa may have never gone to Cersei, never been pushed that far.  Ned Stark was a shitty parent to Sansa in King’s Landing and it helped to seal his own fate.

the nytimes published an article today titled “gulag historian ordered to undergo psychiatric testing in russia”, which sounds like the government is locking him up for exposing gulag history, but in this full length article, they only spend two of the sentences on the fact that he’s being charged for taking naked photographs of his 11-year-old adoptive daughter and it has nothing to do with gulags or him being a historian

Arranged Love Pt.11 | Jungkook

Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6 | Part 7 | Part 8 | Part 9 | Part 10 | Part 11 | Part 12 | Part 13 | Part 14 | Part 14.5 | Part 15 | Part 16 | Part 17 | Part 18 | Part 19 | Epilogue

Summary: Whatever happened to true love? To fairytale romance? Where was that magical spark, those lingering kisses, the butterflies in your stomach, the fireworks in your heart? Where was the romance and the honesty in a forced love? And, above all else, how did you and Jungkook even find yourself being forced into an arranged marriage simply for publicity?

Word Count: 3,329

Genre: Fluff/angst

A/N: I feel like this chapter wasn’t as good but I wanted to get it out!! Please be prepared for part 12 tho mwahahah ;) some of you might finally get your wish fulfilled 

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7th year Hufflepuffs

You just know that the Hufflepuff 7th years “adopt” a new 1st year (from any house) and protect them the whole year, because that child is not just some 11 year old witch or wizard, oh no- that child is the son/daughter of the graduating Hufflepuff year.

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* 7th year and Hufflepuff prefect, Gabriel Truman sits down with the rest of Hufflepuff for dinner one October evening.

* Abby Bones, one of his closest friends, is in the seat next to him practically praying to the slice of cake she was devouring.

* Gabriel, who is used to this behavior, notices a first year boy sitting at Gryffindor table. He is a little tall for his age and has dark brown hair, in his hands is a Remembrall.

* Gabriel smiles a little when he sees the wonder in the eyes of the kid who clearly has no idea what he’s forgotten.

* Then Gabriel’s happiness turns to confusion as a young Slytherin boy takes it from him and starts to mess with the kid Gabe is already so fond of.

* That’s when he (and the rest of the Hufflepuff 7th years) decided that Neville Longbottom would be their 1st year.

* Just before Christmas rolls around Neville revives a letter that says “you’re absolutely stellar Nev, and Hufflepuff is rooting for you!” -G+Co.

* Neville is of course more than surprised when he sees this but the Fat Friar later informs him about this Hufflepuff tradition and Neville is ecstatic!

* This time he was the special one and people were looking after him. It was all he could do to keep himself from telling all his new dorm mates.

* Not that is wasn’t super obvious, Hufflepuff had a blast watching over Neville. There were always at least two Hufflepuffs near Neville at anytime and every time Draco Malfoy tried to make fun of Neville Abby would just stare him down waving her wand in the air suggestively.

* Soon enough not only was Neville safe from harm he had friends, real friends. Like Ginny and Luna or Dean, Seamus, and Ron. He could even say he was friends with Harry Potter. The Harry Potter!

* Exam time was coming up for 1st years and some of his favorite times included studying for herbology with his favorite 7th years.

* One time Harry and Ron were sneaking out of the common room in the middle of the night and Neville tried to stop them. He stood up to his friends, by himself. He knew he would we okay with out his friends looking after him.

* Once they graduated things were different for Neville, but good different. He was a new Neville, a better Neville and it was thanks to their help.

* Being the loving Hufflepuffs they are many of them would still write Neville and he would reply as soon as humanly possible.

* By 6th year Neville barley had time to write to anyone. With DA and Voldemort’s return Neville’s life was different again, bad different.

* He wanted nothing more than to see his old Hufflepuff friends but now he could barley be with his friends that were in the same year as he was.

* By 7th year almost all of his friends were gone Dean, Ron, Hermione, Harry, Luna… the list goes on, but he knew he had to support the cause, fight the fight, so that good could win. And he could get revenge on Bellatrix Lestrange.

* He ended up leading Dumbledores Army that year and sent out letters to all his old friends that a war was rising and he needed help.

* He was nervous about the letters, what if they never got them, or had just ignored them; forgotten about Neville. Or worse, what if they weren’t even- no he couldn’t think that way, he had to stay confident.

* It was the battle of Hogwarts Neville was in the room of requirement standing on a chair in front of almost 60 Hogwarts students. They were ready.

* Suddenly a fourth year Gryffindor came running into the room, panting and yelling something about a bunch of adult witches and wizards all there to see Neville Longbottom.

* The room immediately broke into whispers and arguments about what to do. Neville had to keep his cool, he knew it was probably some ministry goons sent by Lucius Malfoy, to try and put a stop to D.A. But Neville made it very clear he would not let anyone stop them.

* They all cheered and yelled while Neville walked through the crowd to go see who it was.

* Nine Men and Women were all standing together talking in rushed whispers. Neville was confused, who were these people? He was too far away he couldn’t tell. He quickly sped up and that’s when he noticed.

* In their hands they weren’t clutching their wands, like most were, (because you never know when you may be attacked.) they were holding each other.

* He had only ever seen that kind of trust three times before. The first, in a picture of his parents, during the first war against Voldemort. Another time was between Harry, Ron, Hermione and the rest of the DA during 5th year. The other time was the unspoken trust every Hufflepuff had for one another. These were no death eaters.

* As soon as he realized his fast walk became a run and he yelled “Truman!”

* One tall wizard with black hair and round glasses turned to see Neville’s dirt covered, smiling face. Nevilles stopped in his tracks a few feet in front of them all.

* “No…” Gabriel whispered but a smile began to find its way onto his face and he looked at Neville. “Neville? Little Neville Longbottom.” Almost unable to believe that this tall strong confident man was the same little insecure kid they knew all those a years ago.

* Neville smiled and gave a sheepish “yeah” not sure what to do

* Then as if they could read his mind all of them went as quickly as they could to hug Neville and get a look at how much he had grown after 7 years.

* “Oh my god Neville!” Abby managed to say between laughs of happiness. “If we had known you were going to turn out to be this good looking we would chosen some other first year!” She joked and Neville laughed.

* “I couldn’t be here with out you” he said and one of them, Elise Hart, punched his shoulder playfully “Come off it!”

* “No really.” He said emotional but serious. “I wouldn’t be who I am today without the love and support you all showed me that first year.”

* “Neville” Gabriel started to say and another one, Josh Larnam, put a hand on Gabes shoulder. “It was our pleasure.”

* Neville grinned and then said “Well, are you guys gonna fight or not?”

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(This sorta turned into like a little au but its real cute so I’ll go with it)

I keep thinking of Tom MacArthur, the Republican congressman from New Jersey. Some years ago he lost his 11-year-old daughter to cancer, the worst thing a human being can experience. In January he said that because of this, because he saw the million-dollar medical bill, he could never vote to take someone else’s insurance away. Then after the first AHCA died because it wasn’t sadistic enough for the Freedom Caucus, it was resurrected a month later, and Tom MacArthur wrote the amendment that made it palatable to the Freedom Caucus this time. He’s the reason it got a second chance, and what empowered the senate to make their own version. MacArthur is worth tens of millions, he’s one of the richest men in congress, he has no use for a lobbyist’s money, and the tax cuts he stands to gain are a sliver of his overall wealth. Congress has never been a place known for upstanding citizens, but we’re dealing with a level of evil that normal people are having a hard time wrapping their heads around.

Favorite Bits of KOF Lore
  •  Yuri limping (and swimming) across Mexico to an offshore island to fireball some roided up man in the dick 
  • Feared criminal Geese Howard was almost murdered by a literal 9 year old, who also happened to be his half brother, then had to be saved from him by his father, who he had come to kill in the first place
  • Iori lives in what looks like some guy’s boiler room.
  • Takuma, unable to deal with his dead wife feels, fucks off to America, leaving his 11 year old son and 6 year old daughter to fend for themselves.
  • Despite Kyo being given endless shit for being a highschool dropout, neither Terry, Billy, Ryo, Yuri, or King have even likely reached highschool, let alone ever been to school in the first place.

Add more I’m probably forgetting something

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26-year-old David Lee Gavitt and his wife, Angela, lived in Ionia, Michigan, with their two daughters, 3-year-old Katrina and 11-month-old Tracy. On the night of 9 March, 1985, David and Angela retreated for bed after watching television. David had lit some candles as they watched television and forgot to blow them out when they went to the bedroom. This would be an accident he would live to regret for the rest of his life. A couple of hours after the young couple went to bed, they were awoken by their dog scratching at the bedroom door. When David opened it to see what he wanted, he was aghast to see that the living room was up in flames. As Angela rushed to awaken the girls, David smashed open a back window so that the family could escape. Once the window was smashed, David attempted to reach the girls but by now, the fire was raging. He was unable to force his way to their bedroom. As he called out to Angela, he heard no reply.

Neighbours who see the the flames called the fire department while David kept attempting to re-enter the house. Unfortunately, it was much too late for Angela, Katrina and Tracy. As if losing his wife and children wasn’t enough, investigators announced that they believed that the fire was started intentionally and David was the main suspect. Following his discharge from the hospital, he was charged with their murders. Investigators at the trial had contended that the fire was started with a flammable liquid due to the fact that there was so-called “pour patterns” on the floor, indicating something had been poured. Despite the fact that several witnesses saw David relentlessly attempt to rescue his family combined with the fact that there was no motivation, he was found guilty and sentenced to life in prison without parole in 1986.

It wouldn’t be until 2010 that the case got a second look. After learning about the inconsistencies within the case, the Michigan Innocence Clinic at the University of Michigan Law School decided they would re-investigate. Several experts were called in to examine the evidence found within the home. They discovered that a flashover had occurred, as opposed to a liquid being used to ignite the fire. A flashover is a rare phenomenon in which a fire explodes and completely takes over a room, engulfing it in fire almost immediately.

In June of 2012, David’s charges were dismissed and he as released from prison. He later filed a lawsuit seeking compensation for his wrongful conviction. This lawsuit was dismissed.

Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn Rendezvous After Her Jingle Ball Performance

Taylor Swift turned Friday into a date night after meeting up with her boyfriend Joe Alwyn after she closed Z100’s iHeartRadio Jingle Ball concert.

The two were photographed walking together and holding hands outside and also sitting inside an SUV after the show, which also featured performances from the likes of the singer’s BFF Ed Sheeran and Demi Lovato. There was also a surprise appearance from Katie Holmes and 11-year-old daughter Suri Cruise, who introduced Swift.

While walking with Alwyn amid the chilly weather, the singer covered up in a knee-length plaid jacket.

Alwyn had attended the concert and also joined Swift at a backstage pre-Jingle Ball private party, which was also attended by Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds, People reported. Swift is good friends with the married couple.

E! News had learned in May that the pop star and Alwyn, a British actor, were dating. Many fans think she references their relationship in song lyrics on her new album Reputation.

The two were last spotted together a few months ago. They have never attended a celebrity event together. Swift had largely kept out of the spotlight over the past year before making her music comeback this past summer.

Taylor has been spending a lot of time overseas with Alwyn, mainly in his native U.K., and is very protective of him, E! News has learned exclusively.

In September, he accompanied her to her friend Abigail’s wedding in Martha’s Vineyard, where she served as a bridesmaid, and also attended a pre-wedding bash the singer threw for her pal in Nashville.

“He’s really nice. Really, really friendly, really good dude,” Sheeran said about Alwyn on the British radio show Capital Breakfast in October.

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run sweetheart run|| old man logan

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I’M BACCCKKKKKKK!!!!!!!

So, I’m hoping to finish the requests that I’ve been sent and then maybe post the Mark Sloan oneshot that I came up with last night! But please, considering I’m one of the few blogs that strictly does Old Man Logan, my requests are open for him and Young!Charles Xavier. If you haven’t seen yours yet, PLEASE inform me! They get lost very easily, especially if they’re on Anon!

Requested by Anon: You’ve been on the run from the government since the beginning of mutant extinction, which somehow puts you in the paths of none other then the Wolverine and his 11 year old daughter. Because of his cautiousness and lack of trust in people, Logan immediately assumes that you’ve come as a trap to get to him and Laura, but you prove him wrong. How? You may or may not have your own set of his adamantium claws.

Song lyrics come from Run Boy Run 

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Ok so let me tell you about my daughter.

She is 11 years old, has never seen Wayne’s World (parenting fail, I know).

This kid sends me a gif of Wayne every time something is 👍

Cracks me up every time.

And now, she hit me with a dad joke ™

I don’t know what I’m going to do with this kid. 😂 😂 😂

Olivia*, 5, Bay Area, California. Transgender girl.

Olivia’s* mom-

From the age of two we saw enough feminine traits that we joked, our child may be gay.

Our older child came out as transgender, when Olivia was four.  She (Olivia) immediately said she was transgender too. Diane Ehrensaft, a children’s gender specialist, in the area, suggested that she was not content being the same gender as her brother she wanted to change like her brother had changed. Therefore, we allowed her to pick and choose what she wanted. For instance, she chose to be Shimmer from Shimmer and Shine, a kids show about genies on Nick Jr, for Halloween.  She remains consistent, insistent, and  persisted for over 11 months, when she demanded to socially transition.

Our five year old daughter told us that she wanted to choose her “forever name” (a quote right out of the book I am Jazz), and she wanted to grow her hair very, very long, wear girl sparkly dresses, and pick her name from “the list.” She asked for she/her pronouns.  She said she wanted to go to school the next day as herself, so we should call the teachers, and let them know.

I think our daughter is elated to be expressing herself as a trans girl.  I have no idea if this how she will always feel, but she claims that’s the case. She can’t wait for her hair to grow, and enter kindergarten as a long haired girl.  Our five year old girl is interested in making potions, painting, high heels, makeup, fashion, maps, trains, pushing her brother’s buttons (and ours), climbing, dancing, bouncing, talking, and baking.

5.  Have people you know been supportive?

It’s been a challenge, because everyone quickly assumes she just is mimicking her brother.  He has received a lot of attention, acclaim, and praise for being so brave and asking to transition.

It’s easy to assume that a five year old, that still has imaginary thinking, could be playing out what she has seen as an option. Switching your name, clothes, pronouns, and gender are not typical scenarios that siblings witness.

People really try to remember the name and pronouns and apologize when they make a mistake.  She boldly calls people on it, and corrects them.

6.  What challenges have you, or your child, faced with respect to being transgender?

I’ve felt the difference in my daughter transitioning to my son, vs. my son transitioning to my daughter.  I noticed how much more uncomfortable it is to have a transgender daughter.  I know that is because of our society, but I felt that in myself and then was angry I felt such emotions.

Our daughter is so smart.  She is an observer and learner.  She is a strong willed precocious and determined.  She wants to be herself and also feel safe and loved.  Our daughter is super sensitive, and very picky and particular. She is a force to be reckoned with, and she is truly spectacular.  She is silly, witty, sharp, and a monkey. Being transgender is simply one aspect of her, and definitely not the most interesting.

10-What would help someone better understand what it means to be transgender?

Go out and meet a transgender person.  That isn’t what is extraordinary about that person, it’s just one aspect.

Photo by Annie Tritt  *name changed at the familiy’s request. 

Headcanon: Betty and Jughead, along with their 11 year old son and 6 year old daughter, dress up as Ghostbusters to go trick-or-treating.


Bonus: The whole week prior Halloween night Jughead keeps randomly shouting around the house “Who you gonna call?” with Betty always replying “Ghostbusters!” in a fake spooky voice, all the while their kids are rolling their eyes at the two dorks they call their parents.