Understanding that white people are treated differently just beause we’re white isn’t the same as being racist. Recognising that my society is racist… isn’t racist.
I’m white. I’m also a poor, disabled, queer woman. I face oppression for being poor and a woman and disabled and queer, but none of the oppression I face is because I’m white.
The people in charge are white. The people who have the money, political power, and weapons to make other people do what they want are white. I personally don’t have money, political power, or weapons, but the people who do tend to be nicer to me than to poor, disabled, queer women who aren’t white. They give me opportunities that they won’t give people of colour. That’s where privilege comes in.
If you actually wanted to learn about this, you wouldn’t have sent this kind of ask. But to the people seeing this who do want to learn, do a little googling. Some research on white privilege can help you understand how people who aren’t white are treated differently.
Being in a privileged group means it isn’t easy to tell that we’re getting special treatment. We’re told from day one that everybody’s treated the same, and unless we go looking for the truth it’s easy to miss.