If Darth Vader hadn’t killed all the Jedi, there’s NO WAY Luke would have become a Jedi Master. Not for lack of talent, and definitely not because of the Dark Side, but dude, Luke Skywalker trying to comply with the “no emotional connections” policy?
Do you ever go to your fridge because you’re hungry, but once you open it you just stare inside and want none of it? You open your pantry but still nothing appeals to you. Maybe someone even comes and suggests something, and even though you don’t know what you want, you still know that everything they said isn’t right. So you just stand around confused and hungry for no reason.
That’s what it’s like to be an asexual with a sex drive.