06 2013

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Meet Holly Maniatty, the Wu-Tang Clan’s Sign Language Interpreter
When Killer Mike took the stage last week at the Bonnaroo music festival, he spotted amid the crowd a white woman rapping along to his lyrics, shaking ...

“You know when you’re watching church on Sunday morning [on television] and that little lady is in the left corner of the screen signing? And you really wish you could just say something to get her to be like, ‘Woah, there is a sign for “motherf****r” ’?”

magajiva  asked:

Can you prove non binary people don't exist? With facts not just your opinion

*cracks knuckles* Alrighty here we go.

So, to start off with, I can’t definitively prove anything. I can’t prove with 100% accuracy the existence or non-existence of non-binary people or even binary transsexuals for that matter. But the difference is that we have plenty scientific research evidence for one, and not the other. 

We have studies upon studies showing differences in brain structures between the sexes. And thats not even getting transsexuals involved. Men and women have observable differences in the way their brains are structured, as well as having differences in the amounts and location in the brain of grey and white matter.

Here are some links to get you started:

http://mobile.the-scientist.com/article/44096/sex-differences-in-the-brain

http://dana.org/News/Details.aspx?id=43520#_edn1

https://www.pennmedicine.org/news/news-releases/2013/december/brain-connectivity-study-revea

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/girl-brain-boy-brain/

https://www.theguardian.com/science/neurophilosophy/2013/oct/06/male-brain-versus-female-brain

The brain, of course, begins development while the fetus is still living inside the mothers womb, and during pregnancy, the fetus is presented with sex hormones to help it develop the way it needs to. If the fetus receives male sex hormones, it develops male brain patterns and structures. If no male sex hormones are received, the brain defaults to female. 

Now, how does this apply to transsexuals and non-binary people?

The current data out on the matter of transsexuals is that we have the brain sex that is opposite to the sex of our body, likely caused by either the release of sex hormones when not appropriate (female fetus receiving testosterone in the womb), or the non-release of sex hormones when needed (male fetus not recieving testosterone in the womb). This difference in brain sex to body sex most likely causes the brain confusion and distress, as the brain is not equipped to deal with the sexed parts of the opposite sex. This confusion and distress results in what we call sex or gender dysphoria (AKA, the discomfort/disconnect/distress that one experiences towards the sex of their body.)

The reason why I do not believe in non-binary genders is because (with our current knowledge on the subject) it is virtually impossible to have a ‘non-binary’ brain. 

Tumblr user myragewillendworlds has made numerous excellent posts explaining why a non-binary brain could not exist, so I’ll leave a few here for you to peruse.

http://myragewillendworlds.tumblr.com/post/26153676338/why-there-almost-certainly-is-no-non-binary-brain

http://myragewillendworlds.tumblr.com/post/51667990214/the-possibility-of-agender-bigender-and-somewhere

http://myragewillendworlds.tumblr.com/post/158981691389/sources-first-known-use-of-transgender

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Now, I don’t know what your exact views on what gender is are, so I’ll include a few extra things to debunk any arguments early.

If you are someone who thinks gender is whatever you identify yourself as, or that to be transgender, you just have to identify as such, then think about this.

I am technically a transsexual man. I was born with and still have a female body, but I experience a disconnect and a discomfort with my sex, and so I have chosen to undergo transition as a means to relieve myself of my sex dysphoria. Despite this, I do not identify as transsexual or transgender or trans or anything like that. When ever possible, I try to forget that I am a transsexual, and I only ever say that I am in situations where I feel it appropriate, which is rarely. I never call myself trans, and I don’t consider myself trans. If anything, I identify as a cis man. 

So with that said, does that make me not trans? Since I do not identify as trans, does that make me not trans, despite being a transsexual?

If you are someone who thinks that gender is a social construct, then think about this.

If gender is a social construct, then how do we have transgender people? By saying gender is a social construct (i.e. Gender is fake and so you can be any gender you want, not just male and female) then you are implying that you can simply chose to be trans, which is a horrible mindset that we are trying to work against.

Now, you may be mistaking gender for gender roles. Gender roles, while some have a basis in biology, are largely a social construct, and are ‘fake’. I am all for people being gender non-conforming, but you don’t need to call yourself ‘non-binary’ just because you are a girl who likes wearing ‘mens’ clothing, or a guy who like wearing ‘women’ clothing.

If you are someone who thinks “non-binary people exist because they say they are non-binary”, then think about this.

If I say I am a dragon, does that mean dragons now exist?

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That is all I can explain for now, though I have many more thoughts about closely related topics that I may explain if the need arises. 

I will also ask you a question in turn, and add that I think it is silly to ask “prove something does not exist.” YOU should be trying to prove that something does exist, not trying to prove how it does not. Thats like me saying “prove to me that God does not exist.” or “prove to me that dragons do not exist.” 

Can you prove non-binary people do exist? With facts, not just your opinion.

Jang Su Won 101: Jang-Hub

While all the other members had been friends with at least one of each even before they came together as jekki, Suwon was the only one who had a formal audition and was a ‘stranger’. And he often says he became a member just so that jekki can have one more member than H.O.T.

But ironically, Suwon was the ONLY one who kept in touch with all the members for 16 years, and the one who wanted a reunion the most.

1. Suwon and Jiwon

I almost forgot, my dongsaeng Jang Suwon finally gets discharged in two days and comes back as a singerㅋㅋ Jekki fans rise~~~ (Sorry) Good night^^*

-10/18/2011, Jiwon’s twitter

Jang Suwon discharged… Good job Suwon, I’m proud of you

-10/18/2011, Jiwon’s twitter

2. Suwon and Sunghoon

I’m just seeing my friend… Why do people have so much to say about it

-09/06/2013, Suwon’s twitter

Is everyone doing well?ㅎ Tomorrow, our Sunghoon-ie’s new song is coming out.! Everyone please leave everything behind and listen to it tomorrow at 12.! You’ll do it without me telling you to, anyways. This is an order!!ㅋㅋ Thank you, and I beg youㅎ

- 04/14/2014, Suwon’s twitter

3. Suwon and Jaeduck aka J-Walk (one post will not be enough to cover the history of these two)

Jaeduck: To be honest, we still don’t know why Jekki disbanded. We need to do it again someday. But even if Jekki can’t get back together, I’m never going to separate from Suwon. It was Suwon who helped me get back up after Jekki disbanded.

Suwon: When we debuted as J-Walk, people said things like “What can the two of you do? Things are different now”. So we worked even harder so that we won’t disappoint our fans. Maybe that’s why we’ve gotten comments about how our music is more mature than jekki’s. One day, Jekki will get back together. But not now. We have to work hard and improve ourselves before that day comes.

-2002, J-Walk Interview

People have been saying he should use this as a chance to become a solo artist Jang Suwon. Jang Suwon laughed and dismissed this saying ‘No because Jaeduck hyung will desert’. “I’ve never been apart from Jaeduck hyung. Even when we couldn’t do anything for 3 years because of issues with our company, he was there with me. Members of Clon and Can are around 10 years older than us but both groups are still together. Sending Jaeduck hyung to military, I thought I want us to be like them. I’ll just remain as a J-Walk member.”

-2008, Suwon’s Interview

4. Suwon and Jaejin

Ay~ Drunkard do you still live in alcohol barrel? Come down to Gangnam! Call me when you do~ Also I’m adding you on Cyworld~ Your nose is still big^^

-10/20/2004, Jaejin’s wall on Cyworld

5. Suwon and Jiyong

Suwon: Do you want me to call him right now? We’re still in touch, and I just saw him recently. And actually, not too long ago, Jiyong’s name appeared #1 on trending search. So I texted him ‘Why is your wedding such a big deal’, and he said he was surprised too. From his perspective, he wasn’t trying to tell people about it so it must’ve been a little overwhelming. But we think it’s a good thing. People still remember him, and care about him.

-12/05/2013, J-Walk Interview

6. Suwon and the fans

^Suwon meeting his fans in 2015 at a restaurant; this is honestly so precious and made me realize how close he is to his fans. For a while, Suwon kept two phones so that his fans could text him. He used to sing at old fans’ weddings too. 

Sometimes it really amazes me how smooth he is in terms of relationships. He seems to have a really solid understanding of each member, and knows how to compliment them and make them feel better. He’s so good at making fun of them, but also knows the perfect timing to stop. People call him a robot, but deep in his heart, he knows us fans think of him as a superstar and he prides in that. Humble, but confident. 

Let’s all appreciate Suwon. His self-esteem, his smoothness, his loyalty, his singing, his dancing, and of course, his face.

ace community and aro community masterpost

Asexual Spectrum


How to know you are ace

http://thereisnocloset.blogspot.com/2009/01/recognizing-lack-of-sexual-attraction.html

http://www.whatisasexuality.com/am-i-ace/

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/possible-signs-of-asexuality-part-1-about-you/

https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2014/01/12/the-theory-of-dormant-sexuality/

Quizzes (accuracy varies/ is questionable):

http://www.buzzfeed.com/awesomer/lets-talk-about-sex#.pinWQLz6Z

http://www.gotoquiz.com/are_you_an_asexual

http://livingdemisexually.tumblr.com/post/80469432528


Can I still be asexual/asexual spectrum if…?

http://asexualeducation.tumblr.com/asexualif

http://www.whatisasexuality.com/outreach/even-if/  

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/an-asexuals-guide-to-arousal/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/19/asexual-relationships_n_3362206.html

http://demisexuality.org/articles/am-i-demisexual-if/

http://www.asexuality.org/home/?q=general.html

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/things-that-are-not-asexuality/


Asexual spectrum:

multiple identities

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/tag/ace-spectrum/

http://acetrackie.tumblr.com/post/119819116266/glossary-for-some-of-the-terms-describing-the

http://lettersfromthearoandace.tumblr.com/post/123018118972/bdsmpetplay-in-honor-of-us-pride-month-heres#notes

http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/108404-asexual-types/

http://epochryphal.tumblr.com/post/91322352917/greyaness-subsets

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/under-the-ace-umbrella/

http://www.demigray.org/

http://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/70136820083/when-i-see-people-making-snide-comments-about

http://hunterinabrowncoat.tumblr.com/post/99582276771/on-autochorissexualism-akiosexuality-and

demisexual

http://www.mtv.com/news/2354643/demisexual-awareness-letter/

http://demisexuality.org/articles/what-is-demisexuality/

http://demisexuality.org/articles/myths-about-demisexuals/

http://www.gurl.com/2015/01/13/what-is-demisexuality-advice-helpful-tips/

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2013/01/24/visualizing-demisexuality/

https://bitchmedia.org/post/an-outsiders-perspective-on-sex-and-morality-in-hollywood

Gray asexual/grey asexual/graysexual/greysexual

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Gray-A_/_Grey-A

http://grey-is-my-favourite-colour.tumblr.com/post/131627235610/happy-asexual-awareness-week-there-are-more-links

https://bitchmedia.org/article/what-is-graysexual

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2012/08/08/many-ways-to-be-between/

Other spectrum orientations (specific to one orientation)

http://asexualadvice.tumblr.com/post/122750406347/sorry-if-this-sounds-stupid-but-im-confused-and

http://effaced-ace.tumblr.com/post/97823158562/apothisexual

http://cupiosexual-cupioromantic.tumblr.com/post/89558528670/cupiosexual-is-a-subset-of-asexual-it-is-used-to

https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2015/10/18/quoiro-info-draft/


The asexual experience/ what it’s like to be asexual or ace spectrum (examples)

https://alifeunexamined.wordpress.com/2012/05/19/doubt/

http://jo-alifeunexamined.tumblr.com/post/133509704851/a-masterlist-of-writing-on-asexuality

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v_avcbuZDQE

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/an-ace-at-work/

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2014/12/13/some-reflections-on-working-on-asexuality-in-academia-as-an-asexual-person/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/without-prejudice/201508/attitudes-toward-asexuals-ata-prejudice-scale

https://aceinlace.wordpress.com/2014/12/22/touch-aversion-and-asexuality/

http://www.asexuality.org/home/?q=node/22

http://www.cracked.com/personal-experiences-1518-6-weird-ways-world-looks-different-when-youre-asexual.html

http://swankivy.tumblr.com/post/93432635035/but-without-sex-humans-would-die-out

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2015/09/29/living-as-a-sex-favourable-asexual/

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2015/03/03/why-you-should-care/

https://luvtheheaven.wordpress.com/2014/05/01/carnival-of-aces-april-2014-round-up-of-everything-submitted/

http://i-d.vice.com/en_us/article/confessions-of-a-demisexual


relationships (for sex repulsed/ non-libidoist asexuals)

http://asexualawarenessweek.com/docs/PRIDE-Asexual-Relationships.pdf

http://www.matthewsplace.com/voice/asexual-love-story-relationships-ace/

http://www.asexuality.org/home/?q=relationship.html

http://ysabetwordsmith.livejournal.com/1968018.html

relationships (not sexrepulsed/ libidoist asexuals)

http://neutrois.me/2011/03/29/an-asexualsexual-relationship/


Varying attitudes toward sex:

http://queenieofaces.tumblr.com/post/88378391768/what-does-sex-repulsed-mean-because-i-want

http://effaced-ace.tumblr.com/post/97823158562/apothisexual

http://cupiosexual-cupioromantic.tumblr.com/post/89558528670/cupiosexual-is-a-subset-of-asexual-it-is-used-to

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/an-asexuals-guide-to-having-sex/

http://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/77525320414/oh-and-while-were-talking-about-sex-repulsed


Asexuality and race/ethnicity/location:

http://www.latina.com/lifestyle/our-issues/how-latina-myths-affect-asexual-latinas

http://tristifere.tumblr.com/post/131768313234/international-aces-visibility-linkspam

http://tristifere.tumblr.com/post/131882038364/international-aces-visibility-linkspam-2

http://queerascat.tumblr.com/post/131701352451/asexual-poc-links-masterpost

https://medium.com/@tamarlly/asexuality-and-black-feminism-21cc1e3db573#.30ofdncqg

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1A7qvP4qvu0njLrMjl8tD68hqOiFZC9c10Wt6uXXBscE/edit

https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2015/10/22/an-asexual-whiteness/

http://elainexe.tumblr.com/post/131715915683/asexuality-and-raceclass-privilege


Religion and asexuality:

https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2014/09/12/religion-and-asexuality-overview/

http://in-thoughts-not-breaths.tumblr.com/post/101949237778/on-aceness-and-judaism

http://ace-muslim.tumblr.com/post/123560285666/potentially-asexual-women-in-early-muslim-history

http://ace-muslim.tumblr.com/post/127883253981/building-an-asexual-muslim-community

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/moniqueocampowrites/2015/04/22/women-of-christ-wednesday-cordelia/

https://heterogen.wordpress.com/2014/10/26/my-experience-with-asexuality-marriage-and-christian-religion/


Asexuality and Mental Health

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/social-anxiety-and-asexuality/

https://lordlycypress.wordpress.com/2015/09/26/i-looked-around-and-noticed-i-was-alone/   (asexuality and autism)

http://prismaticentanglements.com/2015/09/23/asexuality-hypothyroidism-and-ptsd/

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2015/10/11/dealing-with-acephobia-from-therapists-part-2/

http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/asexual-erasure-mental-health/


Asexuality and Age:

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/how-old-do-you-have-to-be-to-know-youre-asexual/

http://swankivy.tumblr.com/post/131568104060/young-aces-coming-out

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/people-arent-born-sexually-attracted-to-others-so-when-is-too-young/

http://homepage.univie.ac.at/Michael.Berger/lit/McClintock.pdf  (study on the average age people begin feeling sexual attreaction)


Asexuality and Gender:

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2015/03/12/navigating-traditional-gender-roles-as-an-ace-guy/

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/on-the-existence-of-asexual-men/

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/category/ask-an-ace-guy/

http://www.whatisasexuality.com/am-i-ace/man/

http://www.whatisasexuality.com/am-i-ace/woman/

https://robinenby.wordpress.com/2015/02/02/nonbinary-people-and-asexuality-roundup/


Asexuality and romantic identity:

http://www.afterellen.com/people/427229-asexual-lesbians-connection-doesnt-sexual?utm_source=sc-twitter&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=post

http://dyemelikeasunset.tumblr.com/post/131967373250/ive-noticed-this-uncomfortable-trend-that-people


Asexual Community


culture

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/a-carnival-of-aces-masterpost/

https://kinkyasexuals.wordpress.com/2015/05/04/april-2015-carnival-of-aces-masterpost-an-asexual-culture/

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2013/11/14/what-it-means-to-be-ace-building-community-on-shared-experience/

http://bitalks.tumblr.com/post/102179836463/masterpost-topic6-bisexuality-asexuality

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Jz_DEDBkyEYwQAo4-CV8M4CyMbbQuPZZVopL5pyXGQs/viewform?c=0  (Ace Community Census 2015)

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2013/05/12/its-complicated-let-me-draw-you-this-graph-asexuality-and-reductionism/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a4rdRQtsiTQ&feature=youtu.be  (hour long documentery, some of the definitions have changed)

http://www.amazon.com/What-You-See-Creative-Aces/dp/0692545069

https://alifeunexamined.wordpress.com/2012/03/31/sex-or-society-the-pressure-to-be-attractive-an-experiment/


history

https://nextstepcake.wordpress.com/2015/08/07/carnival-of-aces-july-2015-wrap-up-asexual-history/

http://ace-muslim.tumblr.com/post/123560285666/potentially-asexual-women-in-early-muslim-history

https://acinghistory.wordpress.com/2015/03/15/asexual-history-whats-the-point/

https://acinghistory.wordpress.com/2015/08/01/list-of-historical-asexual-communities/  (list of historic asexual online communities)

https://youtu.be/ocrG-51Tqjs  ( History of the Asexual Flag)

http://gaietygirl.tumblr.com/post/127478772581/about-asexuality-in-history-and-some-other-stuff

http://lettersfromthearoandace.tumblr.com/post/122899093837/gayelectro-im-significant-autismserenity  (spinster movement)

https://acinghistory.wordpress.com/2015/03/20/what-is-asexual-history-part-one-the-21st-century/

https://acinghistory.wordpress.com/2015/03/24/what-is-asexual-history-part-two-the-19th-and-20th-century-2/

https://pianycist.wordpress.com/2013/05/08/the-development-of-gray-asexuality-and-demisexuality-as-identity-terms/


resources and projects

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1grW1OcCv_Pd3_e8LHLxK8tlyHwteIPiN6hda8J1ik1M/edit?usp=sharing  (Asexuality Academic Publications Masterlist)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Al39jqMeb5M  (Portraits Collaboration Project)

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1K5sI15t4ExYuDwgwEUF6PuvrOWIeGFriYjjmVrs_rFU/edit#gid=1331356886  (ace vendors list)

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/18NRBD7L1uqjF7-Skk_fhlgFg1vxWDN1BVRCSYZcfTus/viewform?c=0&w=1   ( ace vendor submission form)

http://asexualsurvivors.org/

http://www.whatisasexuality.com/outreach/even-if/

http://www.theasexualityblog.com/ace-stories.html

http://www.matthewsplace.com/asexuality  (Matthewplace series on asexuality)

http://samshair.co.vu/post/90573410282/asexual-friendly-colleges

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1L__4FvDWogayQFYllkmzkat0KRL4aF_qaQlnYrq_Szs/edit  (a different resource list like this one)

http://theasexualityblog.tumblr.com/post/114761486786/ace-dating-sites

http://fuckyeahasexual.tumblr.com/post/130836476974/dating-while-asexual

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2015/05/16/some-different-perspectives-on-asexual-experience-the-asexual-lives-project/

http://www.asexualexplorations.net/home/about.html

(promotes academic study of asexuality and has a bibliography of academic studies as well as hosted articles)


Guides:

For non Aces

http://starchythoughts.tumblr.com/post/131564585009

https://alifeunexamined.wordpress.com/2015/03/19/being-an-ally-to-asexual-people-a-guide/

http://goodvibesblog.com/how-to-be-an-asexual-ally-part-1/

http://hoydenabouttown.com/2012/02/28/being-an-asexual-ally/

http://acesandallies.org/docs/PamphletForParents3.pdf

http://www.whatisasexuality.com/educators/guide/

http://www.autostraddle.com/you-need-help-how-to-best-be-there-for-your-newly-out-asexual-friend-302754/

http://www.asexualityarchive.com/a-parents-guide-to-asexuality/

For Aces

https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2015/11/14/is-this-abuse-a-guide-for-aces/

http://queenieofaces.tumblr.com/post/133531359833/ace-survivors-as-rhetorical-devices-part-4

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2013/07/19/so-you-want-to-talk-to-the-media-some-tips-and-other-things-to-think-about/

http://redbeardace.tumblr.com/post/131668960250/i-suppose-my-main-question-is-how-did-you-become  (tips on being an ace activist)

General

https://readvitality.com/how-to-write-an-asexual-character/

http://onlyfragments.com/2015/03/20/1561/  (writing an ace character)

http://writingwithcolor.tumblr.com/post/118799404887/asexuality-and-gender-identities-round-up  (writing an ace character, includes racial/ethnic intersection)

https://cinderace.wordpress.com/2015/03/31/writing-an-asexual-character/


Representation:

http://takemehomefromnarnia.tumblr.com/post/131810906863/todays-action-borderlands-creator-mikey-neumann

https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2013/07/19/confirmed-asexual-characters-in-fiction/

http://aceadmiral.tumblr.com/post/33231078523/asexy-books-i-know-about

http://www.themarysue.com/borderlands-and-asexual-representation/

http://asexual-literature.tumblr.com/

http://aroacelibrary.tumblr.com/

http://time.com/2889469/asexual-orientation/

http://asexualsanonymous.tumblr.com/post/50442571512/can-you-reccomend-some-comics-books-movies

http://norah-liath.dreamwidth.org/8824.html

https://theminusroots.wordpress.com/2015/03/22/on-alien-representation/

http://www.queerromancemonth.com/sam-burke/

http://www.queerromancemonth.com/victoria-zagar/

http://theasexualityblog.tumblr.com/post/133121776622/ace-spectrum-youtube-link-spam



Aromantic Spectrum


How to know youre aro

http://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/69145328274/you-might-be-aromantic-if

http://aaceclub.tumblr.com/aromanticism

http://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/68276192089/handy-words-for-people-questioning-if-theyre


can I still be aro if…?

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/113927556712/this-is-a-remake-of-another-version-i-made-but

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/109520933722/hi-there-so-i-am-very-very-new-to-this-whole-ace

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/116140354702/how-young-is-too-young-to-explore-ones-romantic

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/111678670207/hey-i-recently-mentioned-to-my-mum-that-i-was

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/115577927067/im-pretty-sure-im-aromantic-but-im-only-13-am


Aromantic spectrum experiences

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/115842920732/im-nearing-30-and-gray-ace-gray-aro-with-more

http://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/73252994700/stigma-against-aromantic-allosexual-people

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/113065704172/i-want-to-talk-about-something-for-a-second

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/116088170857/do-you-have-any-advice-on-what-to-do-in-a

http://www.buzzfeed.com/mcrosswell/5-myths-about-aromanticism-tysc#.ewqaLBoR0

https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2015/11/03/water-is-wet-everybody-dies-and-romantic-people-suck-at-friendship/

https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2013/02/23/an-aromantic-primer/

http://wherethecherryblossomsdance.tumblr.com/post/131234545861/october-carnival-of-aces-submission

amatonormativity

http://queerascat.tumblr.com/post/113255439601/im-trying-to-educate-myself-on-the-topic-of

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/116231068302/hey-i-was-wondering-if-you-had-somelong-life

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/112349453147/hey-i-was-just-wondering-how-aromantic-people-can

http://rotten-zucchinis.tumblr.com/post/120216720205/notes-from-the-intro-of-rotten-zucchinis-2

http://queerascat.tumblr.com/post/106540153686/the-unicorn-haiz-hello-kids-its-time-to

https://alifeunexamined.wordpress.com/2012/05/22/experiences-of-loving/

http://jo-alifeunexamined.tumblr.com/post/133509704851/a-masterlist-of-writing-on-asexuality   (a lot about asexuality but there is also a lot of intersection with aromanticism)


Aromantic Spectrum

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/109786914157/are-more-words-like-quioro-where-there-are-people

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/115592519642/does-it-count-as-gray-aromantic-if-i-feel-romantic

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/112360617297/aeoliana-grey-is-my-favourite-colour-its-okay

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/108452982112/post-rubor-aromantic

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/glossary

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/104463164552/autochoris-is-a-bit-of-a-mouthful

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/108495221367/blueberryoverlord-alright-so-a-few-days-ago-an

http://aromantic.wikia.com/wiki/Lithromantic

http://queerascat.tumblr.com/post/108256013766/idemromantic#notes  and http://fancyblogurl.tumblr.com/post/108268772991


History/culture

http://perksofbeingaro.tumblr.com/post/119859944725/well-thats-the-end-of-the-poll-by-collating

https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2015/06/21/the-first-aromantic-census/

http://aroadvice.tumblr.com/post/124204027486/why-are-there-two-aro-flags-like-the-green-and

http://queerascat.tumblr.com/post/113028340901/demiromantic-and-gray-aromantic-flags-after

http://queerascat.tumblr.com/post/75901412397/gray-asexuality-anagnori-cameronwhimsy


community resources/projects/guides

http://aromeetup.tumblr.com/

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/116390302587/image-description-the-arospec-colors-green

http://aromanticpositive.tumblr.com/post/118750379220/things-you-can-do-to-contribute-to-the-arospec

http://arocrona.tumblr.com/post/110995946625/hey-guys-i-decided-to-make-an-aromantic-version


non-amatonormative relationships (mainly QPR, soft romo, and aromate- there are others though)

http://shades-of-grayro.tumblr.com/post/123247635320/the-qprsoft-romo-guide-for-defining-the

https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2015/10/17/to-all-the-romantics-who-ridicule-queerplatonic-a-rant/

https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2015/11/16/queerplatonic-friendships-that-arent-partnerships/

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/112337842667/im-sorry-if-this-has-been-asked-but-i-didnt-see

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/111396184747/whats-a-soft-romo-relationship

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/111715537967/what-is-a-qpp

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/110365503122/hey-im-still-trying-to-find-out-where-i-am-on

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/108376611012/caeghost-aromate-aye-ro-mate-n-a-platonic

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/112703541832/hello-so-does-aromate-and-queerquasiplatonic

http://rotten-zucchinis.tumblr.com/post/118893889250/qp-relationships-are-not-romance-light-and

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/107954467087/prospitans-peach-fuzz-when-qps-pretend-to-be

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/116227652597/im-confused-about-my-orientation-atm-im-not-sure

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/115069786367/what-does-queer-have-to-do-with-the-term-queer

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/120928377767/can-ppl-in-qpps-have-sex-or-does-that-invalidate

http://rotten-zucchinis.tumblr.com/post/111722727754/non-romantic-relationships-arent-immune-to


representation

http://psyche2332.tumblr.com/post/9624849484/aromantic-media-representation

http://aroacelibrary.tumblr.com/

http://live.huffingtonpost.com/r/segment/aromantics-on-sexual-orientation-and-sexual-desire/542487dc78c90a9d670005b4



Both communities/ general


History

https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2015/09/20/aroace-word-origins-ref/


Allies

http://starchythoughts.tumblr.com/post/131635943359  (benefits to learning about asexuality and aromanticism for somebody who isn’t ace or aro )


AAA (aces aros and agender peoples) spectrum(s) map

https://www.google.com/maps/d/edit?mid=zk–zvgsZnTw.kSegHeUoaPhE&usp=sharing

(note this will likely not open on a mobile device)


Representation

http://house-of-ace.tumblr.com/post/96599044603/asexual-andor-aromantic-books

http://asexual-literature.tumblr.com/post/129469208535/asexual-characters-in-webcomics-edited-92015


some glossary terms

http://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/67669933207/words-and-concepts-used-in-asexual-communities

http://queerascat.tumblr.com/post/89070641885/hyaenahart-okay-so-the-aro-ace-spectrum-really#notes

http://asexualeducation.tumblr.com/attraction

https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/identity-attraction-relationship-terms/

http://acetrackie.tumblr.com/post/119819116266/glossary-for-some-of-the-terms-describing-the

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/glossary

other types of love

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/111706929857/what-types-of-love-are-there-like-im-aromantic


Attraction

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/109396670502/desires-for-relations-based-on-types-of-attraction

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/120795568512/hi-so-i-have-no-idea-how-to-classify-my-romantic

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/108129306357/for-a-long-time-i-thought-i-was-aromanticasexual

http://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/75191097412/maps-of-attraction-spectrums-apparently


Sexual attraction:

What is sexual attraction?

http://demisexuality.org/articles/frequently-asked-questions/

http://asexualadvice.tumblr.com/faq#2

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/107954898002/it-pleases-me-greatly-that-there-is-a-term-for-a

The difference between Sexual attraction and Sexual desire

http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/69810-what-is-sexual-attraction/

https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2013/12/13/differentiating-sexual-attraction-and-sexual-desire/

primary versus secondary sexual attraction and primary versus secondary desire

http://demigrace.forumotion.com/t60-am-i-even-demisexual-i-m-not-sure-if-i-actually-understand-this-anymore#298


Romantic attraction:

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/111700543027/i-have-a-question-what-is-romantic-love-i-might

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/113258527102/odannygirl7-arospecawarenessweek

http://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/66296081892/romantic-attraction-the-beetle-in-the-box

http://audaciousace.blogspot.com/2011/11/carnival-of-aces-december-attraction.html

http://audaciousace.blogspot.com/2011/03/r-word.html


sensual attraction

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/120229178072/what-are-specific-things-that-fall-under-sensual

http://asexualeducation.tumblr.com/post/16000907424/sensual-attraction


aesthetic attraction

http://lost-in-hammerspace.tumblr.com/post/97818938711/this-has-been-a-psa-about-aesthetic-attraction-by

https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2014/03/22/aesthetic-attraction/


Differentiating between different types of attraction

(general )https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2013/09/29/differentiating-types-of-attraction/   

(romantic and sexual) http://www.7cupsoftea.com/qa-lgbtq-17/whats-the-difference-between-romantic-attraction-and-sexual-attraction-653/

(platonic and romantic) http://asexualadvice.tumblr.com/post/112155244624/so-i-think-ive-got-the-whole-sexuality-thing


Attraction =/= action or behavior

http://arospecawarenessweek.tumblr.com/post/112348254497/a-previous-anon-thanks-for-the-comic-but-ok

If it does, lucky me. She’s [McBride] awesome. She’s my favorite actress on the show. I mean, I like them all, but I’ve gotten to work a lot with her and know her vibe. If it happens, it happens. I want it to be awkward when it happens. I want it to be really awkward. I want her to make the first move. […] I don’t think he’s figured out women. What does a relationship look like and how does that work? He never really grew up with a woman in the house, so it’s sort of like foreign creatures to him. […] Maybe he got together with a couple of locals at one point or something. But I don’t think he was ever in any sort of serious relationship. So if it happens, great. If it doesn’t, great. I like the fact that we’re two damaged people and we sort of gravitate to each other. I like that. If it happens, right on.
— 

Norman Reedus, Entertainment Weekly [online] (06/Mar/2013)

We asked the man who plays Daryl, Norman Reedus, if romance could be blooming in the couple’s future.

Every Dan and Phil video in the London Apartment in order

I made a list of every single Dan and Phil video that they have uploaded since they first moved into their, (now old), London apartment. I have left out any YouTube Red videos but have included videos from all 6 channels, (danisnotonfire, AmazingPhil, danisnotinteresting, LessAmazingPhil, DanandPhilGAMES and DanandPhilCRAFTS).

If you think the order is wrong or any of the links are incorrect please let me know and I will try to correct it.

(I spent WAY too much time on this but oh well)

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