I mentioned this yesterday on Twitter, but wanted to say something here as well…
I love the Colin O’Donoghue fandom. The people who are invested in Colin as an actor and as a person, separate from any character or ship. The people who are happy to just see him happy and proud to see him getting recognition.
Such a chill and supportive group simply here to enjoy and appreciate our favorite Irish nerd. It never feels like work, or a competition, with this fandom. And when some drama pops up, it always circles back to spreading positivity and love with and for and to Colin. And I love that.
Colin is such a chill, kind, genuinely unproblematic guy and, for the most part, those out there supporting him as an individual fall into that same category.
Shout out, Colin fandom, for being epic and awesome.
(And shout out to @rollyjogerjones and @captainodonoghue for their similar threads on Twitter!!)
Dream Daddy was fun but I wish two things were different:
Fewer dead spouses
More Dads who started their families with other men
From what I experienced in-game, Mat and Robert have dead female partners, and I’m assuming Damien’s spouse is dead but I wasn’t able to find out for sure. Given how he talks about understanding Lucien acting out because of some big event, I’m assuming it’s the death of a parent. I could be very wrong, I’d love to be wrong.
Instead of dead spouses, it would’ve been cool to see more happily divorced, or making-it-work divorced, or co-parenting, or multiple-household, or re-marriage parenting situations - just something with fewer/no dead spouses (esp women given the prevalence of the fridged wife trope) involved.
The only dad I saw who started a family with another man was Hugo. It’d be great to see the ratio of mlm dads who start families with other men, increased. More men who start families and raise kids with men would’ve been fantastic. I didn’t get any info on Damien or Brian’s past relationship, so maybe they both have previous male partners? It’d be awesome if they did.
In this world, it is so easy to be rude and greedy and short. Those are the easiest things to be. We don’t have to be mindful to be those things. They are inherent wants, selfish actions that need little to no push to do or be.
Kindness, generosity, and patience-those take time. Those are learned and they have to be actively practiced. It is a conscious decision to think before you speak and decide, “No, there is enough cruelty in the world, I don’t need to contribute to that.” Be kind until you can’t be kind any more. Give when you are able to.
There will always be a majority who aren’t kind. It’s not about expecting praise or acknowledgement. It’s choosing to combat life’s cruelty in small actions. There will always be suffering in this world and there will always be greed and selfishness and loss. Those things are part of what it means to be alive. As long as we live, we know those things and we are born into them. It’s not to say that life is a bad thing. It’s beautiful. However, all it takes is a small kindness to combat the cruelty of life.
Be the good in the world. Make the conscious decision to be kind. Think before you speak and consider your actions before you make them.
do you ever wonder how your blog appears to other people? like, am I someone that’s constantly on everyone’s dashes? am I that person that people don’t know very well, but they reblog often? am I that person that people don’t remember following, but they’re still around anyway? WHO AM I
Here’s the thing for me. About those scenes with Merle and “John.”
At the start, I couldn’t help but feel a little annoyed that Clint wasn’t asking different questions. Travis clearly had the same thoughts I did–tactically, Merle was playing it poorly. He gave more information than he needed and asked vague questions that didn’t yield practical intel on how to fight the Hunger.
If it had been Taako, he’d have asked clever questions and been focused on getting info out of the Hunger, on besting it. If it had been Magnus, he would have straight up asked, “how do we kill you” and likely learned at least something from that. But this wasn’t Taako’s or Magnus’s role to play.
Merle was approaching parley the way it was meant to be approached. Not as a warrior looking for a way to kill the Hunger, but as a diplomat trying to understand it. He approached it with an open mind. To the point where he was eventually able to ask “are you my friend?”
He asked that of this nightmare entity, this thing that’s caused so much death and suffering–that’s killed him dozens of times. Maybe he’s just that able to open his heart. Or maybe despite the religious ideals he tries to project as a cleric, he’s someone who–whether the person in question is a human, or a god, or a sinister consuming force—just wants people to like him.
Whatever the reason, he was able to look at the Hunger and try to reason with it. To talk to it earnestly about the value of life, and hope.
It didn’t listen. And when it didn’t listen, I actually believe Merle was disappointed. That for a moment he had hoped the Hunger could be better. Instead, he told the Hunger off, and said he didn’t want to see him anymore.
And the Hunger is sad. For the first time in who even can guess how long, the Hunger feels sorrow, and regret. Because for a moment he had a friend, and then he lost that friend. Because of his own actions.
Merle didn’t learn how to kill the Hunger, he didn’t learn any information that could help them slow it down or get to the Light of Creation faster. But what he did hurt it more than any weapon ever could.