Eiffel has accidentally called Minkowski mom more than once. He thinks everyone forgot about it, but it became a running joke. When talking to Minkowski, Lovelace likes to refer to Eiffel as ‘your kid’ or 'the boy’.
Lovelace: Where’s your son got to?
Minkowski: Will you please stop calling him that? He’s not my freaking child. I’m only three years older.
Lovelace: Well, technically. But has Eiffel ever actually behaved like a 33 year-old?
Hera: No, never.
Minkowski: Just because he’s a child doesn’t mean he has to be my child though. Why aren’t you or Hera part of this messed-up family metaphor?
Lovelace: Okay then, I’ll be… the cool mysterious aunt. What about you Hera?
01. the man - the killers // 02. busy earnin’ - jungle // 03. hustler - zayde wølf // 04.the payoff - royal deluxe // 05.everybody loves me - onerepublic // 06.i get it my way - paul otten // 07.smooth sailing - queens of the stoneage // 08.the devil you know - x ambassadors // 09. king - zayde wølf // 10. 99 problems - hugo
Whether it’s the opening scene in the latest Game Of Thrones episode, or Arya killing Walder Frey and Meryn Trant, any scene that features Arya Stark killing a ‘bad guy’ will garner much discussion. Whilst I don’t intend for this to be a show meta, I’ll also mention the books and hopefully give more insight about how trauma works in relation to killing.
Killing someone, let alone a group of people- will be traumatic. Especially if you are doing it out of ‘vengeance’ (meaning that you are acting because of a trauma- Arya’s traumatized by the Red Wedding, and later on she engages in a traumatic activity, killing people.) A moment in A Storm Of Swords, Arya kills The Tickler. There’s no triumphant music in the background. Just Arya stabbing The Tickler.
The Tickler backed away. Arya could smell his fear. The shortsword in his hand suddenly seemed almost a toy against the long blade the Hound was holding, and he wasn’t armored either. He moved swiftly, light on his feet, never taking his eyes off Sandor Clegane. It was the easiest thing in the world for Arya to step up behind him and stab him. “Is there gold hidden in the village?” she shouted as she drove the blade up through his back. “Is there silver? Gems?” She stabbed twice more. “Is there food? Where is Lord Beric?” She was on top of him by then, still stabbing. “Where did he go? How many men were with him? How many knights? How many bowmen? How many, how many, how many, how many, how many, how many? Is there gold in the village?” Her hands were red and sticky when Sandor dragged her off him. “Enough,” was all he said. He was bleeding like a butchered pig himself, and dragging one leg when he walked.
(ASOS, Chapter 74)
She had to be stopped by Sandor. When I think of this moment- I think of just how traumatized Arya has been by Harrenhal. I also think about how The Tickler was evil and doesn’t deserve my sympathies. But taking a human life- even if they deserve it (which is a discussion for another time) will leave a trauma. Killing is traumatic. Arya is certainly feeling trauma from this.
Any experience with death, torture, dehumanisation, abuse is traumatizing. It impacts on you. And I think it’s impacted on Arya, she is traumatized. At the end of the day, I’d rather a traumatized Arya (ASOIAF Arya) than a Lady Stoneheart / Show! Arya mashup. My problem with how Arya is written and fandom reception of her is that its just so unsatisfying. You’ve got people who will acclaim Arya- and by all means, if you think she’s a badass, fine. Yet it’s possible to be a ~badass~ and have trauma. What makes Arya a badass is her resillience, her kindness and caring nature, her strength, her nature to stand up for people and her quick wit. I think advocating for justice is badass but it can also be traumatizing- because usually, those advocating for justice have been through traumatic experiences.
But what if the person you are killing deserves it? What if you are making the world a better place by getting rid of them?
That’s what soldiers in war throughout history has faced. And you can’t treat PTSD by saying ‘oh my god you were such a badass slaying those evil people!’ My point: all this discussion about how badass Arya is, doesn’t change the fact that she’s someone who is already traumatized and is about to enter more situations that feel traumatic. I wish we could actually discuss the mental health of Arya Stark without it being screamed down my throat that she’s a ‘badass’. Badasses can have mental illness, everyone.
Morality? Is it right to kill your abuser? It is right to kill a murderer? That may justify the morality of the act, but it doesn’t take away from the trauma of the act. If a character can coldly kill someone without much reflection or reaction- that is truely frightening and scary (think Joffrey coolly giving the order to execute Ned). I’m not angry for Game Of Thrones giving as a shot of Arya smiling- what I’m angry about is them framing this opening scene as something we should actively encourage.
If Arya is put into situations where all she can do is kill and fight…. then frankly, that’s depressing. She should be put in situations where she has choices, surrounded by people who love and validate her. Her ‘list’ is worrying not because Arya’s morality is in danger, but her safety would be.
Arya is a badass who is traumatized. Those two terms aren’t mutually exclusive. It seems whenever someone talks about Arya & Trauma- people will either minimize it or mention that she’s a badass. If people talk about Arya & Badass Heroics, people will say that she can’t be a hero or even a good person because she’s so traumatized. Such binaries do not do Arya any favours as a character.