So I’ve had a really rough past couple of days, and it inspired me to make this post on the basics of how to care for yourself when you’re feeling really down and maybe not able to do much. Some of the things on this list are more involved than others, so it’s best to start with the simplest task if you’re feeling really down. Do what you can.
Get yourself a glass of water and drink the whole thing.
Eat something. Eat whatever you’re craving. If all you can eat today is chocolate ice cream, then eat that chocolate ice cream.
Make your bed.
Clean your room. Just pick up a few things off of the floor if that’s all you can do.
Take a shower. If that means just standing in your shower and letting some warm water hit you for a minute because that’s all you’re capable of, then that’s okay. If doing the full shabang is what’s going to make you feel better, then take all the time you need.
Brush your teeth.
At the very least, take your makeup off. If you don’t wear makeup, pat your face with a warm (or cool, whichever makes you feel better) cloth. You’re probably going to feel worse when you wake up tomorrow breaking out because you didn’t wash your face.
If you wake up breaking out from the stress, remember that everyone breaks out sometimes. It’s fine.
Cry for as long as you need to. Scream into a pillow.
Get up and walk around. Walk around the mall, walk around your neighborhood, just walk up and down your stairs if that’s all you can do. My mom suffered from depression after she found out she had cancer, and she swore by walking up and down the stairs.
If you’ve been holed up in your room for more than two or three days, try going out. Sometimes getting dressed and going somewhere can really help you to feel better, and if you end up really not enjoying it, you can always go home.
Make a meal for yourself. Actually cook something nice. If all you can do is make a little bit of rice, that’s fine. But if you feel up to it, making yourself something nice can really calm you down.
Organize something. Your desk, your makeup, your closet. Organize it however you want.
Listen to your favorite music. The 1975′s newest album has saved me these past couple of days.
Feel free to add anything that helps you or anything that I forgot. We’re all here to help each other.
This idea of immersion is a bit subjective. What exactly immersive means? Describing a place exactly how it is? Giving your readers the general feeling of that environment? Or a combination of aesthetics and narrative?
In one thing I’m sure… immersive worlds are fictional places we would love to visit in real life. And, maybe, this is the answer: Real life.
Immersive worlds are amazing, because they look so real and functioning that one could easily live there, work, eat, sleep, make friends, have a family there. One could live and die in that fictional world.
Can you achieve that level of immersion? Yes, of course. Here are three important characteristics of immersive worlds:
Realistic worlds have systems, like government, economy, justice, diplomacy, military, police force, rules, religion, culture, society, education, healthcare, energy, water and food supply, public transportation, housing, technology, media… Even if you are creating an anarchic city or a post apocalyptic survivor bunker, systems still need to exist (not necessarily good or fair).
Create a routine for your characters within this fictional world. They must eat, they must take a shower, they must work, they must learn. Routine is natural for everyone, we all live in routines. If readers can recognize the routine of characters, a natural empathy will pull them into the story. It’s also important to give your characters a place of their own, a place to sleep, a place to work, a place for shopping and a place for fun.
Create a sensory experience. Explore the five senses. Let the reader see, smell, touch, hear, and taste. Describe your environment using the five senses. This will pull your reader right into the scene, not as a far away spectator, but as a living part of that world. Let us see the colors, and feel the wind, and hear the birds, and taste the food, and smell the protagonist’s perfume.
Try applying these three characteristics to your fictional world.
My favorite is to literally just write “I don’t know what I’m doing” over and over again until something sparks.
Explore some AUs with your characters. I recently started doing this with my characters and it has been a ton of fun. I threw them in a school setting and got a few thousand words out of it (and they never went to class.)
Another fun thing in the same vein as AUs is to take a scene you’re having trouble with and write it multiple times to see what different outcomes you like the best. (I am going to be doing this soon on what happens if one of my main characters dies vs. if he lives)
Take your main characters, one by one, and just write one-off scenes where all you do is kill them.
If you have characters interested in each other romantically, or ones that are in a relationship, explore their very first kiss.
Take a break from your writing to go do something else fun (go to the park, go to a free museum in your area, watch a movie, start a new project, scribble on paper using different colored writing utensils)
Remember that even if you write one sentence, or half a sentence, it’s still writing. You wrote today, good job. One word is still better than no words. You did it congratulations! *throws confetti*
I hope this helps, Muffin. Writer’s block is the worst. Best of luck, and remember that I believe in you.
People get really freaked out as beginner witches, or witches entering a new area of study when it comes to the research part of the craft.
There is so much information, so much of it is contradictory, and it can be really difficult to find exactly what you’re looking for, so on top of that you’ve got to worry about writing down your findings in your BOS when you might find out later the information has changed or was incorrect???
Make a site index! Open a word document, pages document, etc, and copy and paste sites with a short description of what they are about. This way you have an easy reference guid that can change and be rearranged as you see fit, and you get way less “grimoire guilt” for not writing it down even tho you’re not sure about the research yet.
Do not underestimate the power of practicing your target language often. I learnt French as a young kid (before I was right), but stopped using it almost entirely in highschool, despite going to a french school haha, and as a result I have an accent now that I never had.
Please, please, please, practice, even if you’re at an advanced level. You can always forget a language.
Drag is about being resourceful even when you don’t have a lot. I would suggest they either learn how to sew, or find a person who does who likes them. Figure out what you need. If you don’t know what’s going on, girl, you got to figure it out. Know your craft and know the behind-the-scenes!
A shiny coat is the sign of good health in your equine partner. Here are my top 5 basic, easy and cost effective tips and tricks to help get that extra shine.
1. Good feed - it’s important that your horse gets good nutrition in order to get a shiny coat. This doesn’t have to be expensive or complicated. Generally, horses will thrive off good quality hay alone.
2. Oil - if you’re feeding, it’s worth adding a squirting or 2 of oil into your horse’s feed. Oil is a god send and is cheap and easy to get from your local supermarket. It adds extra calories to help maintain weight in the cooler months and it also has added fat for that extra shiny coat. Its best if you an get an oil with omegas in it. Rice bran oil is the best, but it can be quite expensive in australia. I find that sunflower oil is excellent too, otherwise corn oil/vegetable oil is fine.
3. Rugging - keep your horse rugged in a breathable fabric (such as cotton or wool etc). This will keep the coat clean, flat/sleek in appearance and will eliminate any sun bleaching that happens in the hotter months (as someone who mainly owns black horses, I know how gross and yellow their coats can go in the summer if not protected!!)
4. Grooming - grooming your horse every day is so so good for them. It promotes blood circulation, it’s a massage to help work out any tension and it promotes the natural oils in your horse’s coat to come out and give your horse that added shine.
5. Coat sprays - I would avoid using show sheens from your local tack store too regularly as it can cause a greasy build up on the coat. However, it’s worth mentioning that fractionated/liquid coconut oil is non greasy and a diluted mix is ideal to spray on your horse each time you groom them.
I’d encourage others to reblog this post to help our our fellow equestrian community and please feel free to add any other tips and tricks for a shiny coat.