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anonymous asked:

Really quick: do you have any ideas for how a male writer (me) could describe a female character's breasts without being gross or offensive? I'm writing for a team of witches, and four of the five are flat, but one is very well-endowed thanks to magic alteration of her body (she's kind of a nympho). How can I convey that part of her to the audience without it sounding all pervy and weird?

As usual, I am no expert in either writing nor the portrayal of women in fiction, so take all of this with a HUGE grain of salt. 

Okay, so in general I find it hard to describe that kind of feature without veering into perv zone. Especially in the “she has big breasts and she likes sex” vibe because that’s an old stereotype that can be extremely demeaning and dismissive. So for starters, I would advise you to make sure there is more to your character than “nympho with big breasts” before going ahead, otherwise it will not work. (Also, describing your character as a nympho is already kind of objectifying/shaming, so you may want to rework that part first)

(Also, having a whole plot point around big breasts is pretty iffy in general, so you may want to reconsider before going ahead)

The two main elements that give of perv vibes are 1) A sense of voyeurism and 2) Objectifying, so here are a few things to avoid for sure:

1) Avoid lingering on the first go. If you think of your descriptions are the protagonists/readers eye, it becomes much easier to direct them to the important part. Consequently, if you spend a whole paragraph on “wow, big breasts!” and “she’s so skinny, but has such big breasts!!!!” “BREASTS!!!!!!!!” it will be pervy for sure.

2) Don’t keep coming back to them. Don’t specify that each outfit reveals her “generous cleavage”. Don’t have her “large breast bounce” when she stumbles. Don’t have every single new character comment on her cleavage. 

3)Have her be the “large breasted one”. She is a person, there is more than that to her.

Then, the main issue will be bringing that up in a way that feels organic. There are many ways for them to do it, but the important thing is that the central issue cannot be about “wow, them breasts!!!!! *µ*”. 

How men react to her in ways she doesn’t want, how she asserts her self-agency, how her body works for her/is an asset to manipulate. Someone tries to shame her, how does she react? Some man makes unwanted advances on the premise that she uses appearance magic so she must automatically “be up for it”, what happens?

The point being: if she used that spell, she did it for herself. It is a choice she made, and one that is interesting to explore. (Think of breasts implants, and how controversial they can be today). Your character and her appearance are not sex objects, and it’s important that you never loose sight of that.